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ok so im dating my best friend she asked me out yesterday and ok well its nothing serious and its not public. im middle school most people are not ok with gay people yet so yea. the thing is i only said yes to her because well every guy shes ever liked has rejected her and i kinda felt bad. i dunno if she really likes me. she said she doesnt and that she just wants to make sure she is bi by dating a girl. okay but ive never had a girlfriend or boyfriend before and this is all new to me. somehow it doesnt feel right and i dont wanna end up hurting her. its the last thing i wanna do. maybe she does like me but is just covering it up so i dont wanna break up with her. ugh and well i just got over a guy friend - my other best friend- and he and i flirt around a lot, so she might get jealous? i dunno please someone anything works. im just so confused at this point. ahhh thanks. (link)

You should tell her that you enjoy being close friends with her but think if you continue to go out both of you will get hurt. Tell her it's nothing personal but you don't feel a romantic attraction and would not want to lead her on or hurt her and your friendship.

She should understand that. If you kept dating her that would be wrong if there's no romantic or emotional attachment. She would end up building love, an attachment etc. and then when the truth came out would be crushed. Tell her how you feel and end the relationship but stay friends.


So I have almost been going out with my boyfriend for one month and he seriously cares about me but in person he hugs me but it doesnt mean anything like its a friend hug.. and this other guy likes me and he is really sweet and i've heard he is a really good boyfriend.. i dont think i like my boyfriend anymore which is bad.. and my best friends are going out with his best friends so i will basically get torn out of the group and i still want to be his friend.. what should i do?!? (link)


Your best-friends will almost always include you in what they are doing or their group no matter who you are or are not dating. There's no reason at all to stay with someone in a relationship you feel is no longer going in the right direction.

You need to be honest with him and yourself and tell him that you feel as though you would be better friends to eachother than lovers and tell him why.

He may be upset at first but he should understand and start to see for himself that what you have is more of a close friendship than romantic sparks.

After that give it about a week and talk to the other boy you like about trying hanging out more, a few group dates and see what happens from there.

Don't be quick to jump right into a new relationship the minute you break up with the other guy. It will make you look bad and this other guy doesn't want to be viewed as your rebound person.

Ask this person to go on group dates, hang out more etc. and build your friendship and maybe just maybe become more. That's your best bet by taking this slow and stady to make sure he's right for you. It's evident the other person you are with currently isn't your right romantic match.


does anyone no of any good chat room I could join preferably one where the people are obsessed with film although any will do lol
please help it is much appreciated
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If you like film Rotten Tomatoes (rottentomatoes.com) has several forums that are always buzzing that you can register for. Just have a poke around that site.

That's the best place I can recommend to you about film where people talk about it and are obsessed. If you go on Myspace and hit the tab to search under film you'll find tons of indie filmmakers, critics, fans etc that have created public groups you can join and discuss film.

Several actual review Web sites have their own forums as well. Ain't it Cool News which is one of the foremost film sites on the web (aintitcoolnews.com) has a chatroom on their site and I think forums too.

If you get onto Google and punch in film review sites you can poke around some of the well-known ones and quirkier ones to find forums and chatrooms. I hope what I've given you here starts you on that journey of discovery.


this weekend my parents and i are getting me a laptop..a MACBOOK to be specific..and i REALLY want one...im also paying for most of it..you know parents teach me responsibilties and wut not...so im reall excited..and during the summer i wanna use it because when i go away i wont be able to have my computer..and laptops are always good. so i cant wait.

then today my frend said to wait till fall becasue there cuming out with a new one with a beter program.. and i new this but im too anxious...i mean i had to wait since christmas and it even took ym parents and me a while to figure out wut KKIND to get..mac or PC and i made my choice...but now im scared....i WANT IT so badly..and all my frends say theres works just fine without any new programs and i dnt really care..but i dnt know wut to do? (link)


ADDITIONAL INFO YOU ASKED FOR: If you buy the Black Mac Book that is the most expensive with Apple Care before taxes it's 1,876 if you buy just their basic Mac Book it's 1,548 before tax.

Don't buy Microsoft Windows. It adds $500 to the price and is not worth it nor needed. You can create create MS Word Documents, read attachments and all of that with the operating system it comes with which is far better and easier to use.

What you need to get installed is called the IWORK program it comes with a program called Pages which serves as your Word Processor.

ORIGINAL ADVICE BELOW.




I think your friend is talking about Apple's new Leopard operating system. It's quite a ways off and was expected for June and then delayed by Apple if it's out by Chistmas I would be surprised.

Having said that go and buy your Mac Book now and don't worry about it. You won't regret it and it's a good time to get one because they've just increased the processor speed on all of their Mac Book Models. Regardless a Mac Book is the fastest and best laptop you can get and there's no viruses, pop-ups etc.

I own an IMAC and will never go back to Windows. What you ought to do before you go out and by your Mac Book is call 1-800-MY-APPLE and tell them what your friend said about a new operating system (Leopard I believe) and ask if you can upgrade to it later on. I'm sure you can.

Even without the new system that is coming current Mac Books and Imacs kick the heck out of anything you could buy. No I don't work for Apple, but I'm a proud owner of their computers.

The other thing you will want to do is buy from Apple their Apple Care 3 Year Warrenty and Protection plan. They'll fix anything for you and there will be times when you need 24/7 tech support while learning your Mac Book and OS X.

Check out Apple.com because they have actual stores in malls these days where you can actually sit down and experiment with Apple products before you buy them and ask important questions.

They don't get a commission at all (the sales-people) so they're brutally honest about what you need and don't need. Check Apple.com to see if there is a store in your area where they can answer all your questions about a new operating system or program.

The other thing I stress is do not buy your Apple Mac Book from Best Buy etc because their sales-people know zilch and will sell you an old model or a refurbished one banking on you not knowing your shit about Apple products.

If you call the 1-800-MY-APPLE number they'll build your laptop to your specifications (you can even order online) and load all the programs you want and give you the Apple Care plan with it. It's your safest way to buy your Mac Book in my humble opinion.

So, I say go for it as there has to be a way you can upgrade your operating system as well as memory. Talk to them at that phone number first and then make a decision on purchase.

Let me know ( hit my inbox) what you think of it when you get it because I can help you out with learning stuff on it.


I'm 18, have had 2 serious boyfriends (1 is my current) and have had sex only with these 2 guys. The things is, I enjoy sex very much. I initiate it everytime with my boyfriend, and afterwards it makes ME feel easy and not a challenge. I can't help getting horny and I've been called a 'nympho' numerous times. How can I fix this? I don't want to give it up easily! (link)

If you weren't enjoying sex at all you would have a problem. This however, is normal, natural, healthy and perfect fine. You're supposed to enjoy sex and get pleasure from it. As far as initiating it that's fine too.

You just have a high sex-drive here and that's all. There's no need to give up sex or feel embarassed or guilty that you enjoy it that much. You aren't having sex with random people to take care of your urges so you are okay.

It may help to get it under control if you resorted to masturbation more often. This will decrease your sexual urges and constant desire to have sex with your partner.

It's a great way to take care of those urges, tension, desires etc. without having sex with someone else. If you start self-pleasuring as an alternative when you get thoughts about sex you'll find yourself needing it less with your partner.

As far as being called a "nympho" you certainly aren't one. Just laugh that off. No need to give up on sex but you'll be able to want and have it less if you handle sexual tension differently.

You're fine though and a normal adult female. like i said, if you hated sex rather than enjoyed it you would have a problem but this really isn't one because you have a way of dealing with it.


Not too long ago, I got really, really, really piss ass drunk. I don't remember what ahppened but I got alcohol poisoning. The next morning, my entire body went numb and I started shaking and I couldn't eat or drink water or else i would puke. I'm fine now though. Anyways, my point is that I drank way too much and I havne't drank since then, till now

Now, I just had a beer and I have a headache and my face feels like it's about to come off. I'm not drunk though. however, 1 beer isn't anything for me, i couldn't even get tipy off of one beer when i was 12. I was wondering why I would feel like this now and whether my previous experience from a few weeks ago had anything to do with what i'm feeling now. (link)


The best thing to do would be to never drink alcohol again. The alcohol poisioning you had has done permanent damage as the last person pointed out and right now your body has zero tolerance for the stuff be it one beer or more.

Your body right now is saying "Ugh, Stop, I cannot take it anymore." It's exactly like having an ulcer and being unable to handle certain types of food or grease. That is the situation you have here. Your body cannot take it for now at least.

Whether this is a permanent situation remains to be seen but if I were you I wouldn't pick up a drink again because getting that drunk and having done that since age 12 will catch up with you.

If your face feels like it's going to come off remember that before you have a drink of anything again because I think your situation will get far nastier and worse if you continue. Maybe this is a form of a wake up call.

If your body went numb in the past, you couldn't eat anything and could only vomit plus this time your face feels like falling off you have to quit. This shit can kill you actually if it's the lifestyle and choices you continue on making.

Your body has staged a revolution here you have to get things under control and stay away from alcohol as yes 1 beer can make you feel exactly like you do now. Your body is intolerant to alcohol now. It could be temporary but I doubt it.


i recently gave my guy a hand job. afterwards and during it he kept asking how i liked the size. honestly its just average size and i told him it was fine and that i liked it, blah blah blah. i really dont care how big it is, thats not a big deal to me but he wont stop asking about it. how can i help him feel comfortable about being just average and by average i mean about 7inches which is good for us being only 15 almost 16, if i really cared what size it was and if i was that shallow then i wouldn't be doing things with him. (link)


Actually he's better than average and you can tell him that because the average is 5 1/2 inches erect and about 3.5 (or a little higher but not by much) flaccid. So, if you tell him that fact maybe he'll feel better.

The problem is he probably thinks he has to be a certain size and impress you and all that junk. Tell him that he doesn't have to worry and that his penis size is the last thing that attracts you to him and makes you love him. Tell him even if it was teeny tiny you would still love him.

It's him and not his appendage you love and care about. Look at the last line in your actual question "If I really cared what size it was and if i was that shallow then i wouldn't be doing things with him." That's bang on the exact same words you have to tell him.

Also, for him and guys in general just tell him that you feel just as self-concious as he does about your own anatomy and him seeing it. Tell him you feel the same way but you love eachother and all of that doesn't matter a damn.

Once you talk to him he should be fine but you ought to add "Please forget about this and don't mention it again as it's a non-issue and the last thing I'm concerned with." You might even add that all you care about is whether he's enjoying himself or not and if you're doing things correctly. That's even more exact.


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me and my bf have had sex more then once already! but i can't bring myself to giving him a blow job! even though i really want too! someone please help me boost my confidence! what are some pointers? how do i know when it's the right time to do it? please GIVE ME ANY ADVICE YOU CAN! thanks soooo much! (link)


If you feel you cannot bring yourself to do it just yet don't--at least for now. What you should do is talk to your boyfriend about doing it in the not so distance future, your fears and hang-ups about it and ask him about what he expects and wants.

Let him know you've never done it before and what scares you and or even grosses you out about it. Once you start talking about it and building your comfort level up it will be a lot easier to attempt for the first time.

Just make sure he communicates things to you before, during, after. He has a penis and you as a female do not so he's the expert on what to do and what he likes. If you talk to him and he guides you slowly and is patient with you your confidence will increase so that you know what you're doing for subsequent times.

I really cannot tell you when the right time to do this is. It's something you just know inside yourself that you're ready and comfortable about doing. Trust me, you'll know.

For now though my best advice is to talk to him about adding this to the list of things you want to do together but need to talk about extensively so you're totally comfortable.

Also know this, you wear the pants in the relationship whereas he doesn't. If you don't want to do this than don't. It's not something you owe to him as a girlfriend or have to do if you don't want to.

The reason you say you really want to do it and then say you aren't confident or sure is because it's something you want to do and try out but you're just not there yet with your comfort zone. Talk to him and build up your confidence that way and then attempt it when you both feel good about doing it.


okay. so im 15. nd my boyfriend wants us to go farther than what we have.. and so do i. but i know like your gonna orgasm and stuff. but i dont know if i'll sound stupid. what do i sayy like when im about to have an orgasm? yeah i know i sound dumb. but i just want to be aware. oh and what are some "techniques" i guess to giving head. does anyone have any suggestions. i'm an only child soo i kinda need advice with this stuff from someone other than my mom. cause i think we could all agree that would be awkward. thanks guys. (link)


We cannot give out those kind of tips and anyone doing so can get banned permanently. I wanted to point that out first incase anyone was going to do that in a reply. It's an automatic permanent banishment if you do. That's okay, you didn't know.

Even if someone gave you tips it wouldn't help you at all. What one guy likes versus what your boyfriend likes are too seperate things when it comes to oral sex or sex in general.

What you need to do is talk to him about it and ask him what he likes and what he wants you to do and have him guide you while you are doing this for the first time.

Let him know you have never done this before. Communicating back and forth is key for learning how to do this successfully so both parties feel satisfied.

When it comes to intercourse please make sure you have a method of birth-control first and condoms as well. When you are having or about to climax you don't have to say anything really, moan etc. Some women are silent. Just relax, enjoy the experience and no matter what you end up saying it's fine.

what you might want to do before climaxing is tell your partner and praise him for what he is doing and guide him further telling him what you want/like. That should work for you. If you want to moan, say something, be silent, scream etc. it's all fine as it's a natural reaction and something I'm sure he can handle.


15/f my boyfriend 15/m fingered me yesterday but it didnt feel that good and i could tell he had no idea what he was doing..and we talked about it but how can i like show him how to do it without completely embarrassing both of us? (link)



The one thing you could do to avoid showing him how you take care of business on your own and feeling weird and icky about it is to pick up a book at the library or bookstore on human anatomy or sexuality designed for your age group and not adults.

He can see an illustration much like they had in Sex-Ed classes of female genitals (vulva, clitoris etc) full frontal. Then you can both look at this book and you can tell him using a diagram how you or women in general derive pleasure from fingering.

There's an awesome site for teens and their parents that is designed by professional Sex-Educators and staffed by them that has an article both of you ought to read before going further about female anatomy. They also have one on males http://scarleteen.com/body/female_anatomy.html

On the flipside, It's not all that embarassing when you think about it if you did show him. He's already seen your genitals, touched them and is not phased by that and tried to give this act a go without any guidance from you. You understand your genitals in a way he never can because he's a male.

Naturally if he goes poking around with no knowledge or guidance he's going to fail continually at this.

If it's about him seeing you touch them and showing him what to do it's no different than the previous attempt that he made at stimulating you except you're the one stimulating the same exact area yourself but doing it properly or how it suits you.

This is something he cannot figure out on his own because most 15/m have never seen real female genitals before and some think they have to be as rough with them as they are with their own when it comes to pleasuring women.

I mean, you can talk about it with him and obviously have no qualms about doing that or him doing this to you so showing him quickly what you want and guiding him along is no different although I would say stick with an anatomy book or fact-sheet.


It shouldn't be embarrassing because as partners you're both going to eventually see eachother's bits and pieces and have to learn how to do things with eachother. This might help you build that trust quicker than again a book with a diagram is by far the best idea.



how long do you have to give a guy a handjob before he cums or orgasms? i've given my boyfriend a handjob before, but it doesn't last very long because i don't really know how to do it. (link)


Like any guy he might just be self-concious, tense, nervous etc etc. if this is his first time ever or more importantly first time with you. In his head he's probably thinking I must do this, must climax etc. etc. or she'll think something's wrong with me or that she's inadequate.

The other thing is that guys don't always cum from masturbation (which this is)or for that matter fast and easily all the time. He could have been enjoying it and the message playing in his head about what he must do etc. got to him.

This is either something psychological going on with him and fears getting the better of him or you aren't stimulating him in a way he's used to and gets the most pleasure from.

If that's the problem it's his fault not yours. He needs to communicate with you about what he likes, whether to be rough or not etc etc. After all, he's the one with the penis you aren't.

How is a girl expected to know how to do this if she never has before? You need to tell him that you have never done this to a guy before him and need direction or it's not going to work.

You have to get him to show you what he likes and what to do or at least communicate to you as you attempt this what he likes and doesn't. Don't feel bad here as it's really his fault that things didn't work or lasted long enough.

Unless he communicates and guides you he has no business complaining or you have no business or reason to feel bad about it or yourself as you did the best you knew how to without him being clear on anything he wanted or him saying "Stop, that's wrong you ned to do X, Y or Z."

Talk to him and have him guide you through this and it will be fine. Honesty is key and the other thing is if you cannot talk about this with him you aren't truly ready/comfortable to do it again with him/anybody yet.


ok so this kid realllyyyy likes me. i used to really like him too but i got over him. but now my best friend likes him . he thinks i like him and my best friend knows i don't. i know she likes him though. but she doesn't know i told him she likes him. she told me not to tell him but i was mad at her at the time so i did. does that consider me a bitch? should i tell him i don't like him? if so, how? (link)


It doesn't make you a bitch but it does make you a bit of a snitch here. I think you answered your own question but just wanted confirmation from us that the best thing to do is tell the guy you aren't interested in him.

Then, tell him I know a wonderful girl who would really like to date you and talk about your friend and the fact she's really shy. Leave things to him and see what happens. If she gets the guy in the process she's not going to care that you told.

However, if he now knows you don't like him and that she does and he doesn't want her and she finds out you told him you have a problem.

She's likely not going to trust you for awhile with secrets as it was up to her to tell him and not you. In that case tell her it slipped out when you were angry at her and you never ever meant for it to hurt her or cause her embarassment. That's about all you can do.

But, I would tell the guy considering he knows everything now you have no interest in him but he should go after her as she's nuts over him. That would be the best way to turn this situation around in your favor. She's not going to give a damn you told provided he goes after her based on your suggestion.


fun plances in toronto??? FUN ...im 17 girl (link)


There are lots of interesting places and things to do in Toronto, Canada. The Phantom of The Opera is playing until June 17th and the North American Premiere of We Will Rock You, is selling out every performance.

It's the hottest thing in Toronto right now and contains music by Queen. They will let 17-year-olds into Yuk Yuks in downtown Toronto which is a stand-up comedy club where Howie Mandell, Jim Carrey and others started.

Toronto is also home of The Second City which is where John Candy, Dan Aykroyd, Mike Meyers and anyone big from SNL started. They have a new show called Tip of The Melting Iceburg that's on now and people your age can get in.

Aside from The Rom, The Ontario Science Centre, Casa Loma, CN Tower, Niagara Falls and the usual tourist There's always Black Creek Pioneer Village, The Toronto Zoo.

If you want to scream your head off on dozens of roller-coasters and thrill rides head to Canada's Wonderland. They have all kinds of rides, go-karting, water park on their grounds. See www.canadaswonderland.com for info on them.

When are you coming to Toronto? Each year we host The Grand Prix of Toronto at the CNE grounds. It's an Indycar race on the streets of Toronto from July 6-8th www.grandprixtoronto.com

If you like baseball head to the Rogers Centre for a Toronto Blue Jays game. Also check out the concert calander for the Molson Amphitheatre and the Air Canada Centre as a lot of huge names come there during the summer and in the case of the ACC all year round.

Also check out The Docks Drive-in theatre and entertainment complex as they've got go-karts as well and other stuff for your age group as well as adults.

I hope this helps.


what is the movie about? i think its called the inconveniet (sp?)truth.... or something like that, and i wanted to kno what it is about. thx (link)

You got the title correct there. It's a documentary starring former U.S. Vice-president Al Gore as he gives a lecture about global warming. It won an Academy Award for Best Documentary Feature Film. It's well worth seeing.

For more info on it log on to Rottentomatoes.com and type An Inconvenient Truth int the search bar. You can do the same on Wikipedia.org too.


So, I met this amazing girl about 6 months ago and she's my very good friend now. Erm, she has a twin sister that I'm pretty good friends with but still not as good as a friend then her sister. Sooo I was wondering, at their birthday [Sweet 16], should I get only my really good friend a present or should I get her twin sister one too? I have never had twin friends so I don't know if I just get one of them one or both or if I get them totally different or similar things or a more "better" gift for my really good friends and a lesser one for her twin sister. AHHH what do I do with the presents?????? (link)


A lot of twins like to be seen as seperate individuals and might be offended if you bought one gift for the both of them. It could be a really awkward Kodak moment if you get my drift.

Instead, talk to their mother about what kind of gifts they would appreciate and if they're really excited about the prospect of someone buying them certain things as a present.

If you cannot talk to their mother than all you need to do is talk to each twin about their sibling's likes, dislikes, interests and what they think you should get their sister. That's the best way to buy a great gift for each of them.

Make sure the gifts are of equal value so neither feels short-changed or insignificant or valued more so than the other. If all else fails gift-cards to their favorite stores (ask each twin about what they like at the mall) will suffice.


ok im 13/ f and i have to write an essay about if i think bigfoot is real or not. this is what my essay says:

Many people say that bigfoot is just a myth; that people just dress up in gorilla suits and walk around in the woods. i personally think that bigfoot is real

for over 100 years, people have reported sightings of bigfoot some people have even found hair and footprints of the creature. people have taken many pictures and filmed videos of bigfoot. one of the most famous videos of bigfoot is called " The Patterson Footage".

The patterson footage is a very clear image of a female bigfoot walking in the woods. the footage was taken by roger patterson and bob gimlin in 1967.

The patterson footge has never been debunked as a hoax. no one has ever demonstrated how it was done. neither the original " costume" nor a matching costume has ever been presented by honest skeptics nor by various impostures who have claimed to have worn the costume.

Large amounts of money have been spent trying to make a matching costume. the best hollywood costume design talents have been brought to the task but none have ever succeesed. the british broadcasting corporation has spent the most money so far and they have failed miserabily.

Every attempt and failire to make a similar costume strenghthens the case for the authenticity of the patterson footage. comparing a man in a costume side-by-side with the patterson creature in motion help highlight the anatomical differences.

Many scientist have looked at the patterson footage over and over again. they have finally discovered that if you look closely at the footage,you can see breast on the bigfoot. many of the sigting that you hear of say that the bigfoot is male, so who would make this one female?

Even tough you may or may not think bigfoot is a real creature, i think that bigfoot is real.

so can you please tell me what you personally think of my essay cause i really need to make a good grade on this. sorry its long. Thanks!

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It needs a lot of work to be brutally honest with you. As it stands now your teacher is likely to assign a C or a D here. I do a lot of writing with some of it being professional so I offer the following advice.

You need a good lead sentence. In your lead you need to tell your readers right out of the gate your verdict that bigfoot is real and why you think so.

The second paragraph give your reader reasons that back up that theory and argue your point. Right now all you have is a ton of info you looked up with no attribution as to where you found it and saying "Many People think" or "People think" etc. needs to be cut out as how do you know what others or many are thinking and just who are these people?

Instead tell your reader that members of the public are divided on the issue of whether bigfoot is real or not. The skeptics think X and those who think bigfoot is real believe this because of X.

Back up your point and then present arguements for and against it and tie it all back to your lead sentence. You'll be fine. You have the info but just haven't structured it correctly nor have you attributed the facts to anyone and that's key.

Go give it another go as a revision will work if you follow the structure above and tell the reader where you got all the stats and attribute it to articles you read like so and so of the La Times wrote/says bigfoot is a myth because of X.





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my dad just bought me a phone like 3 months ago. the first time i got it i started to text. so since i have tmobile every text was 10 cent. so when the phone bill came i had texted 50 messages and tht was only 5.00 and my dad got so mad, he almost hit me. he said that i have to be responsible. so now 3 mmonths and i just found out that i texted 123 messages.thats 12.30 cents. i did so much texting becase recently i got my first boyfriend which my parents dont know about so we texted alot. and my dad doesnt want to put me a texting plan.he is going to be furuious i dont know what he will do to me i am scared. the next bill will come in about 14 days. how am i supposed to get $12.30. i dont work and my parents never give me allowence. well my mom gives me a dollar everyday i could just save up but then i wouldnt be able to eat. idont get free lunch at school.i am really scared. i dont know what to do. anmy ideas? comments. what should i do? how will i get the money? please help! thanks in advance
sincerly,
very scared (link)


You are lucky it is only $12.30 American or Canadian and not higher. I would talk to your mom if you can rather than you dad and tell her that you don't understand your cell-phone plan (which you obviously don't) and how much each feature such as voice-mail, retreiving messages and texting really costs.

Tell her that you have a bill for $12.30 and want to work it off in any way you can. Then hand her the cell-phone or in the case where you can only deal with dad do the same thing and tell them that you don't want the responsibility that it carries for a while.

Then, what I would do is get your father/mother info off the Cingular site about their plans and see if they'll let you switch. Also let them know about pay as you go accounts.

Those phones that come with no contract and cards for specific amounts would be ideal for you because you'd always know what you could and couldn't do. Let them punish you as they see fit, apologize to your sister and let things die down.

Give them the Cingular info and see what they can do. The only problem here is that your sister, your father may be roped into a contract already so starting you on anything new might be hard unless it's pay as you go.

That kind of account will teach you how to be more responsible on a cell phone account so dad/sis can put you back on their's. More or less, ask for this kind of account as a form of probabtion.


Okay so today my bf fingered me for the 1st time and i wanna give him a handjob or blowjob but im really shy about that stuff. like i dont know how to start it, i mean i dont just wanna be like 'hey pull down your pants' lol but yea im not sure how to let him know i want to and get it started. Please help (link)

You should just be honest with him here. Tell him you really enjoyed what you did the other day and want to make sure you returned the favor.

Then, have him guide you and show you what he wants and likes. Let him know that this is new terrority for you and that you were shy and it took a lot of confidence even to ask him.

He'll understand and in the end will appreciate everything. Guys/girls know that there is always a first time for everyone at everything thing. As long as you communicate before, after, during you'll be fine.


Hi i'm a teenage girl who has given up on relationships and everything else in life.


Before i commit suicide i want to have a hookup with someone.


How do I go about getting a hookup with a guy who won't hurt me or abuse me?

thx (link)

You may not feel it or know it yet but there are tons of people who love you including your parents, siblings and yes even teachers and classmates.

Right now it feels like nobody loves you, the walls are caving in and you hate life. This is not your true thinking or thoughts. These dark thoughts you are having and contemplating suicide is because you have a psychiatric problem you need medical assistance for and fast.

I'm not a doctor but I know severe depression or mental illness for that matter when I see it. Being bipolar myself and having been in a hospital for help I have seen teens and adults with your exact outlook and depression or worse get treatment, get better and enjoy life.

You have so much more to give and to live for than you are ready to understand right now. What you need to do is talk to your family as hard as it may be and tell them what the dark thoughts and beliefs you are holding onto are tellig you about life/death.

They need to take you to an emergency room where a psychiatrist will diagnose your illness, start a treatment program for it, likely give you medication to feel better. You may be hospitalized for safety reasons at first but you'll return home. They need to see that you are better.

A stay in the hospital is no big deal--it's the safest place on earth for you right now. Write down all the thoughts you have been having about being unloved, unwanted and wanting to die and do not hide any of this as you must be honest.

It will save your life and once you get better you'll see how bloody lucky you are not to have killed yourself as death is permanent and problems no matter how monumental aren't.

There's a way around this and how to deal with your feelings and it's not death. Do me a favor and a favor for your ownself tell your family and proceed to your nearest emergency room now.

You need psychiatric help whether you like what I have to say or not as you're not well and aren't seeing that this is not normal and is medical in nature.

No boy/man or hookup is going to make you feel any better, any more loved, secure or less hurt and abused.

You need to get immediate medical attention and to tell doctors and your family exactly what is truly hurting you, the dark stuff you are thinking and let the doctors and your family work to get you better and feeling great about yourself and life.

Bottom line: Shut off the computer, tell your family what is happening and do not hide anything and go to an emergency room. If they won't take you or just don't get it call a friend that will as you need cheked out at a hospital.


Planning to have sex for the first time this weekend.
Im just a little nervous.
Mostly about what if the condom comes off or breaks and i end up getting pregnant.

Any advice or tips about Sex for the first time. (link)


My advice is to wait a couple of weeks more. You should get on a form of birthcontrol that works for you incase a condom breaks or slips. By getting on birthcontrol you have a safety net there.

If you're scared of that happening and getting pregnant wait a few weeks and allow a birthcontrol device to kick in that will protect you.

You should look into a new form of birthcontrol that you put in your vagina once a month that releases a chemical that prevents pregnancy called NuvaRing. It might be helpful to you.

As far as first time advice is make sure there's a condom, make sure you are properly lubricated (buy a bottle of an artifical one if needed) because if you're not you'll feel discomfort. Communicate with your partner about what you want and make sure he knows ouch, quit, it hurts etc. etc. means to stop immediately.




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