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he's so self concious
i recently gave my guy a hand job. afterwards and during it he kept asking how i liked the size. honestly its just average size and i told him it was fine and that i liked it, blah blah blah. i really dont care how big it is, thats not a big deal to me but he wont stop asking about it. how can i help him feel comfortable about being just average and by average i mean about 7inches which is good for us being only 15 almost 16, if i really cared what size it was and if i was that shallow then i wouldn't be doing things with him.
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tell him that u like avrege size. it is way easier to give a hand job to avrage than HUGE>
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Say "It's HUGE I love it!!!!!"
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Actually he's better than average and you can tell him that because the average is 5 1/2 inches erect and about 3.5 (or a little higher but not by much) flaccid. So, if you tell him that fact maybe he'll feel better.
The problem is he probably thinks he has to be a certain size and impress you and all that junk. Tell him that he doesn't have to worry and that his penis size is the last thing that attracts you to him and makes you love him. Tell him even if it was teeny tiny you would still love him.
It's him and not his appendage you love and care about. Look at the last line in your actual question "If I really cared what size it was and if i was that shallow then i wouldn't be doing things with him." That's bang on the exact same words you have to tell him.
Also, for him and guys in general just tell him that you feel just as self-concious as he does about your own anatomy and him seeing it. Tell him you feel the same way but you love eachother and all of that doesn't matter a damn.
Once you talk to him he should be fine but you ought to add "Please forget about this and don't mention it again as it's a non-issue and the last thing I'm concerned with." You might even add that all you care about is whether he's enjoying himself or not and if you're doing things correctly. That's even more exact.
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yeah my boyfriend does that too. if he asks again tell him hes 'perfect'... that always works. =]
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Hey-
Well if you've already sat down and talked to him about all of this and how you really feel that it doesn't matter a lot to you- then everything should be fine. If he doesn't understand- there isn't much you can do about his self-consciousness.
--Jack
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