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fingering
15/f my boyfriend 15/m fingered me yesterday but it didnt feel that good and i could tell he had no idea what he was doing..and we talked about it but how can i like show him how to do it without completely embarrassing both of us?
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The one thing you could do to avoid showing him how you take care of business on your own and feeling weird and icky about it is to pick up a book at the library or bookstore on human anatomy or sexuality designed for your age group and not adults.
He can see an illustration much like they had in Sex-Ed classes of female genitals (vulva, clitoris etc) full frontal. Then you can both look at this book and you can tell him using a diagram how you or women in general derive pleasure from fingering.
There's an awesome site for teens and their parents that is designed by professional Sex-Educators and staffed by them that has an article both of you ought to read before going further about female anatomy. They also have one on males [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
On the flipside, It's not all that embarassing when you think about it if you did show him. He's already seen your genitals, touched them and is not phased by that and tried to give this act a go without any guidance from you. You understand your genitals in a way he never can because he's a male.
Naturally if he goes poking around with no knowledge or guidance he's going to fail continually at this.
If it's about him seeing you touch them and showing him what to do it's no different than the previous attempt that he made at stimulating you except you're the one stimulating the same exact area yourself but doing it properly or how it suits you.
This is something he cannot figure out on his own because most 15/m have never seen real female genitals before and some think they have to be as rough with them as they are with their own when it comes to pleasuring women.
I mean, you can talk about it with him and obviously have no qualms about doing that or him doing this to you so showing him quickly what you want and guiding him along is no different although I would say stick with an anatomy book or fact-sheet.
It shouldn't be embarrassing because as partners you're both going to eventually see eachother's bits and pieces and have to learn how to do things with eachother. This might help you build that trust quicker than again a book with a diagram is by far the best idea.
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ohkay, so this might sound wierd but,why don`t you try to finger yourself and have him watch, so he can study you. maybe lead his hand a little bit and control it. he will get the hang of it. hopefully :/
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