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Okay so he booked a flight to Australia to be with me for 5 weeks, but to get to the airport(In L.A), he had to drive from Kansas. On google maps it says it should take 1 day, 14 hours...but it took him a little over 2 days...I trusted him then. he arrived back in L.A after his trip to me and he had to drive back to Detroit from L.A, the next day. Before he left his phone was cut off due to him not paying his phone bill while being over here in Australia so the last call i got from him was when he JUST arrived at L.A Airport on Thursday morning 3 am(my time)(it was about 9 am wednesday his time) so as of now, it's been 4 days since I heard from him...And google maps said it should take the same time to drive from L.A to detroit(As it said for KS to L.A, which is 34 hours) and I highly doubt his rests would be THAT long.

His friend told me if she were to drive from L.A to Detroit(Since she lives in L.A), it would take her about a week due to traffic, stopping to eat, stopping to rest, fill up gas, etc) but I know my boyfriend and he knows how paranoid I get when I don't hear from him for a certain amount of time so he'd find some way to contact me even for a minute to let me know and it upsets me that he didn't get on a computer SOMEWHERE to let me know his phone was cut off, instead i had to find out from his friend which by then he had already left for his road trip back. I'm freaking out. I want to trust him and his friend when she said he'll call me as soon as possible but I can't help but think he dropped in to see one of his ex's, since to drive from L.A to each of their places is the same driving time(a little over a day)

I can't help it. When he was here, we had some issues and we broke up a few times, but before he left, he assured me everything between us was okay and that he can't wait to get me over there so we can be together. we sorted out our problems a few days before he left, like really fixed everything and he seemed really happy with me again but I don't know if he meant it or not and I'm having massive headaches and I can't sleep because i keep thinking he should be back home by now!! It shouldn't take 4 days to drive somewhere that should take only 1 day and a half, excluding the rest, eat, etc but none of them should take long enough that his trip is going for almost a week :(

and also, my 15 yr old brother just told me he's going to move to another state to live with his friend because he can't stand it in this state with mum(it's a long complicated story) and I have no one to talk to about it and I feel like the 2 main people in my life are leaving me behind and i feel helpless to do anything about it since i can't even get in touch with my boyfriend(my brother and him are close). It's just too hard for me to do it alone :(

If you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him. If you bring it up with him though, don't expect him to be calm about it. He'll probably become upset and go back by saying that you don't trust him and he can't do anything. If you still don't trust him, you should reconsider your relationship.

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is it possible to sell using pay pal if you have items that are made to order? I would rather not have inventory. How would i set that up on my website? Thank you.

Speak with a representative at Paypal. They can walk you through it.

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Hi, I am 14 years of age and all my friends have had their period and even my younger sister, 12 years old has had her period. I LOVE kids and what to have some when I get married. If I don't get my period, will I still be able to have kids? What age does the chances of having your period stop?

Yes. You might just need some help getting it started. My cousin turned 16 and still didn't have a period. She went to the doctor and they gave her medication and then she got it. Enjoy not having it.

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I left my homeland with our son to come to be with him in this new country. He promised me we would work together to make us work and build but it just got worse after 1 1/2year after asking him arent we moving forward he said half wants to be with the family the other half wants to be single. From there is got worse. We had an open relationship which did not involve sleeping with people but everything else. It made it worse then we cut it off and tried to focus on us but he got worse, putting me down about how i looked that no one would ever want me this carried on for 1 1/2. We tried counselling and i sought help then he finally snapped and said I'll marry you I'll do this and that but i was damaged and told him to do simple things to prove his love which he did not do, it was all talk and because i saw no action i pushed him away and we had closure. days later he sleeps with a girl and now they are seeing eachother i felt like a total dick cos after finding out I'm asking for him back. its been a hard relationship never 50/50 all i wanted was his time and love but now everything i love about him he's giving to this girl. its been 3 months we've slept together a few times as its not official with them.

We have two kids together and I us more than ever to work. Was it wrong for me to not give him the chance to finally prove himself? Its' been 10 years almost. I gave him everything and left my home for him and we are in a country surrounded by no real family of my own but his.

Do I keep trying? Do I give up? He still has feelings for me and our family but this new girl he really likes and even told her he wants to marry her. they are not even official. I cant help but ask if he wants to be serious with her. He told me we were the most importnat thing in his life but he just talked about what he wanted to do, didnt do it! I just took it that he wouldnt change if I took him back I asked for simple things from him.

I didnt expect him to move on so soon

What do I do? I feel lost.

If he's telling you or her that he wants to marry her, that's your opportunity to leave.

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I am fifteen, a sophomore in high school. So I have been dating a guy for about two months now. We are perfect for each other: amazing chemistry, a lot in common, etc. I really feel like I love him. I have known him for a long time, since August.

We have kissed several times and he loves to cuddle and hold me. He wants to go to second base but I say no when he asks, only because I am not ready. I mean, I want to, but I am still shy and a little battered from my past relationship because it was constant physical love that pushed me to the edge. He is helping me get through my insecurites. I want to make him happy and pleasure him by letting him feel me up. But he understands if I am not ready.

Truthfully I have mixed feelings. I feel like if I do, all the romance and love will fade away. But then I feel like if I don't, he'll get bored with me in time. What do I do?

If you're not ready you aren't ready. The fact that you wrote this question shows that you aren't. You don't want to do it and then you guys break up or something. You should talk it out with him.

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Why doe's my whole body ache's. from working out. I have joint pain. It's been more then a month now and my whole body still ache's?

It's probably because your body is adapting to working out. Make sure you are working out in the proper form. If it still bothers you, see a doctor.

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How can I tell when a guy really likes me?

Every guy is different. But in general he will pay more attention to you then other girls.

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hi i applied for a job at autozone and they interviewed me and called me a week later and told me they picked me for the job. i did this tax info stuff online went and met with the asst. manager to give me id and all that stuff and its been about 4 days since then and i havnt heard from them about starting? why is it taking so long? when will i start? is this normal?

Sometimes. Usually they won't waste time making you go through that stuff if they weren't going to hire you. Things get busy and things come up. Call them back and just inquire if you completed everything you needed to and if they're still considering you for the job.

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So, my period ended last weekend. I'm sexually active with my boyfriend, and we noticed that even after a few days off my period, there was still some on the condom we used. I thought it was no big deal, you know, the organ will cleanse itself out when it does.

I also have a slight UTI from I believe the latex of the condom -- it's not a big deal or anything, I've dealt with UTIs before but I'm not sure if this has to do with some ... clots of blood, I think is the right way to describe, in my underwear. They're small and brownish & has happened a couple times this week. I've never had this before, should I be concerned?

16/f

It could just be from your period, sexual intercourse, or both. Don't worry about it too much. If you keep getting it, then see a Gynecologist.

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One of my friends at school keeps enbaressing me by telling people i have not been out with anyone and to make matters worst she keeps asking boys I do not even like out for me now and I just do not want to go out with anyone at the momment how do i get her to shut up without breaking friends

Why would you want to be her friend if she does that? There's nicer girls out there to be friends with.

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can you get pregnent if you get fingered and your boyfriend has sperm on his finger???

Not likely. It needs momentum to get up high enough to swim.

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Please, notice I did NOT say removal. I was wondering if anyone had any experience with tattoo removal creams such as Wrecking Balm, but not necessarily that one. I would like to know if it would work.

I have a mostly red tattoo with a black outline, I'm looking to get it faded so I can get it covered up. I understand it will not go away completely.

Also, I was wondering if the TCA removal actually worked for anyone. I realize that it takes more than once to achieve any results, but I was wondering if anyone has tried & gotten results.

Thank you for you time.
Gina

Stop in at a local tattoo shop. There should be able to tell you about a few options.

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18/f
hi, i've been on birth control for over a year now. i switched kinds of birth control maybe 3 or 4 months ago and now i usually get my period on my first sugar pill (saturday-yesterday). well it didn't come yesterday and i took 2 of my pills this month late (in the morning instead of at night because i forgot). i usually have sex with a condom and if i don't use one he pulls out anyways (i know this isn't reliable but i'm on birth control also so the chances of me getting pregant are very low) i'm just worried about the 2 pills i took late. i'm only a day late but i'm just worried anyways because the past few months i've gotten my period on saturday morning on the first sugar pill and i did take 2 pills in the pack late. anyone know the chances that i'm pregnant? thanks

You should discuss this with a Gynecologist or someone at Planned Parenthood. If you take it right, you shouldn't have any problems.

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I am 13 years old and i cant get contacts in. I wore glasses until 7th grade when i started noticing my appearence. Aau basketball is coming up and i need to get them in soon! But i cant! Help!Does anyone have any suggestions? Or an easy way i could get them in?

It takes time. Go back to your eye doctor and see if they can give you any advice. There's also YouTube videos that can show you how to do this. Try that before you go to the doctor.

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As of right now i have AT&T but i'm switching to verizon. I saw a commercial that if you have AT&T you can purchase the iPhone for 49.99. I was wondering if i can buy it now and then when i switch to verizon still keep the phone and just switch plans. Can you do that? Thanks!

They don't use the same service. These two companies are battling for customers. Verizon wouldn't want you to use an AT&T phone when you can buy one of theirs. The AT&T version of the iphone is way better anyway so you might want to consider staying.

The reason why the iphone is so popular is because you can be on the phone and use data or internet at the same time. You can't do that with the Verizon network.

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This guy in school told one of my friends that he had a crush on me but apparently he didnt tell her to have her tell me because I only found out because she told one of my other friends and she accidently burted it out to me. So now I know and I want to know if he really likes me because he doesn't act like he does. Like when I try to talk to him he doesnt say much and he doesnt really do things that hint at him liking me. I like him and i really want him to do something to prove that he really does like me and not have to go on what my friend said. What should I do? How will I know if he does like me and is just being shy about it or if he really doesnt like me? 15/f

You should just ask him. Guys like girls who are upfront with them.

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i had sex a week ago, im on the pill but also antibiotics.i had sex on a friday night, forgot to take my pill so i took it saterday morning, then saterday night forgot to take it again and sunday morning we had sex again, then sunday afternoon i took my pill from saterday. and sunday night i took sundays pill. we didnt use protection but he did pull out. i just found out that antibiotics counteract my birth control. im recently having a hint brown discharge. is this from my birth control, or am i pregnant? and can i find out now or is it too soon?

Antibiotics can make birth control not work. It's too soon to find out. You have to wait until at least 5 days before your missed period. Even then it could be too soon to tell. If you miss your period, buy a pregnancy test. Some women don't test positive until a week after their missed period though. Stress causes a delayed period too so try not to stress about pregnancy. There are options if you are pregnant.

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