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He still has feelings for me and our family but this new girl he really likes and wants to marry...
I left my homeland with our son to come to be with him in this new country. He promised me we would work together to make us work and build but it just got worse after 1 1/2year after asking him arent we moving forward he said half wants to be with the family the other half wants to be single. From there is got worse. We had an open relationship which did not involve sleeping with people but everything else. It made it worse then we cut it off and tried to focus on us but he got worse, putting me down about how i looked that no one would ever want me this carried on for 1 1/2. We tried counselling and i sought help then he finally snapped and said I'll marry you I'll do this and that but i was damaged and told him to do simple things to prove his love which he did not do, it was all talk and because i saw no action i pushed him away and we had closure. days later he sleeps with a girl and now they are seeing eachother i felt like a total dick cos after finding out I'm asking for him back. its been a hard relationship never 50/50 all i wanted was his time and love but now everything i love about him he's giving to this girl. its been 3 months we've slept together a few times as its not official with them.
We have two kids together and I us more than ever to work. Was it wrong for me to not give him the chance to finally prove himself? Its' been 10 years almost. I gave him everything and left my home for him and we are in a country surrounded by no real family of my own but his.
Do I keep trying? Do I give up? He still has feelings for me and our family but this new girl he really likes and even told her he wants to marry her. they are not even official. I cant help but ask if he wants to be serious with her. He told me we were the most importnat thing in his life but he just talked about what he wanted to do, didnt do it! I just took it that he wouldnt change if I took him back I asked for simple things from him.
I didnt expect him to move on so soon
What do I do? I feel lost.
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oh honey.. just give up on him.
i had a migrane reading that story.. only god knows how you can possibly feel right now.
life is about being happy and fulfilling your dreams.
is this your idea of being happy?? are you achieving your dreams by being with this guy? is this guy making you happy?? if the answer is no, you REALLY need to move on.
he's only making your life worse.. why bother put yourself through that situation? don't you WANT to be happy?
i know its hard but you really should consider moving on from him. if he's thinking this way right now (about marrying another woman) who knows how he will be thinking in a few years from now.. in my opinion, if you hang on to him right now, things will just keep getting worse and your life will be miserable.
also 1 big piece of advice i have for you is this. If you do decide to leave him.. you will find out the honest truth about everything. If the honest truth is that he loves you, he will run after you and follow you so he can be with you. But if the honest truth is that he loves the other woman.. then he wont try to run after you.
either way.. life is a giant risk. life is all about taking risks. if i were you, i'd take this risk to find out the truth, rather than waiting and hiding in fear.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
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If he's telling you or her that he wants to marry her, that's your opportunity to leave.
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