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I don't know If I trust my boyfriend.
Okay so he booked a flight to Australia to be with me for 5 weeks, but to get to the airport(In L.A), he had to drive from Kansas. On google maps it says it should take 1 day, 14 hours...but it took him a little over 2 days...I trusted him then. he arrived back in L.A after his trip to me and he had to drive back to Detroit from L.A, the next day. Before he left his phone was cut off due to him not paying his phone bill while being over here in Australia so the last call i got from him was when he JUST arrived at L.A Airport on Thursday morning 3 am(my time)(it was about 9 am wednesday his time) so as of now, it's been 4 days since I heard from him...And google maps said it should take the same time to drive from L.A to detroit(As it said for KS to L.A, which is 34 hours) and I highly doubt his rests would be THAT long.
His friend told me if she were to drive from L.A to Detroit(Since she lives in L.A), it would take her about a week due to traffic, stopping to eat, stopping to rest, fill up gas, etc) but I know my boyfriend and he knows how paranoid I get when I don't hear from him for a certain amount of time so he'd find some way to contact me even for a minute to let me know and it upsets me that he didn't get on a computer SOMEWHERE to let me know his phone was cut off, instead i had to find out from his friend which by then he had already left for his road trip back. I'm freaking out. I want to trust him and his friend when she said he'll call me as soon as possible but I can't help but think he dropped in to see one of his ex's, since to drive from L.A to each of their places is the same driving time(a little over a day)
I can't help it. When he was here, we had some issues and we broke up a few times, but before he left, he assured me everything between us was okay and that he can't wait to get me over there so we can be together. we sorted out our problems a few days before he left, like really fixed everything and he seemed really happy with me again but I don't know if he meant it or not and I'm having massive headaches and I can't sleep because i keep thinking he should be back home by now!! It shouldn't take 4 days to drive somewhere that should take only 1 day and a half, excluding the rest, eat, etc but none of them should take long enough that his trip is going for almost a week :(
and also, my 15 yr old brother just told me he's going to move to another state to live with his friend because he can't stand it in this state with mum(it's a long complicated story) and I have no one to talk to about it and I feel like the 2 main people in my life are leaving me behind and i feel helpless to do anything about it since i can't even get in touch with my boyfriend(my brother and him are close). It's just too hard for me to do it alone :(
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If you don't trust him, then you probably should not pursue this relationship. If he IS doing the right thing, but you're accusing and wondering and questioning, that will, without a doubt, eventually drive him away or cause him to say 'well, I might as well find someone to fool around with since I'm being accused of it anyway.'
On the drive part it: Google maps says that it should take 1 day and 14 hours, but he's in trouble with you because it took 2 days?! Wow, that's a pretty tight leash. Many years ago I drove from Fort Ord, CA to home on the East coast and back again. I can tell you from experience, that in addition to gas, food, sleep and bathroom breaks, there is ALL KINDS of stuff that can come up. I sat for a couple hours in the red rock watching the sun go down, had to wait while a family picked up all kinds of stuff that flew out of the back of their pickup when the tailgate came down and slowed to a crawl to survive early morning black ice. I'm sure that my experiences were pretty mild / lucky too. There are accidents, weather, needing to stretch your legs, just being too tired to continue with a nap, etc.
I can also say from these cross-country drives that you get in "the zone." Hour after hour of endless driving, your mind wanders. I wondered, after the fact, how I made it home alive because a good part of the time my body was in the car, but my mind was already at home.
But, again, if you're paranoid about what he's doing and so on, I would say that the relationship is doomed...
Best of luck with this. I'm sure that this isn't an easy place for you to be in.
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If you don't trust him, you shouldn't be with him. If you bring it up with him though, don't expect him to be calm about it. He'll probably become upset and go back by saying that you don't trust him and he can't do anything. If you still don't trust him, you should reconsider your relationship.
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