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When you go into a tanning booth is there anything you can use ( like sunscreen ) that protects you but still lets you get tanned ?
Thanx in advance!

Of course! they sell all kinds of lotions there! ask the tanning person which would be best for ur skin type! it helps u achieve ur color faster and protects ur skin! usually where i go they dont let u bring outside tanning lotions and oils so... just ask the worker! they'll help ya out for sure!
xOxO, aLeX

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Should i ask out a girl everyone hates in school?

yeA! why not? who cares what other people think? if they actually care then there stupid! aNd... maybe once u ask her out and she says yeah... and u bring her 2 a party or soemthing... people will now realize that maybe shes not sO baD! sOOO goOO 4 iT! (and let me know how it goEs!) :) GOOD LUCK!
xOxO, aLeX

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ok im 15 years old, and im bout 5'3 i weigh 100 pounds even, and im a size 0. but sumhow i always think im fat! my friends r like "your not fat, stop saying that" i mean yea im not the most self-confident person.. but i dont see why my weight bothers me so much. i dont have like rolls or ne thing. but im constantly talking about how i want to lose weight. yet i know im not fat... but at the same time i convince myself i am. i think it has to do with my x boyfriend, b/c he called me fat as a joke once, but since then.. ive been really concious about it. i dont know wut to do. or how i can stop being so obsessive about my weight and just my personality towards it in general....ne suggestions? thankx


L0v3 - brittany

awwww.... i am the EXACT same way! and u know what... no matter how anorexic looking u are... (not like i'm saying u are LoL) every girl thinks that they are fat. my friend who is 5'5 and 95 pounds always complains how fat she is! i mean lokk at people like mary-kate olsen and paula abdul.. both of them have had eating disorders and both thin as it was! and ur ex should know... never 2 joke about a girls weight! Ok... so ur a 0... thats a size away from little girls! ur tiny! believe me. but i toatlly know how u feel. dont let one freakish guy ruin ur self confidence. sounds like u got the bod... flaunt it! and u dont want 2 be sickly skinny.... guys are beginning 2 like curvier girls. so i Hope that u dont thnik ur fat and that i helped ya!
xOxO, aLeX

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What's a good rate to charge for babysitting a 1 and 3 yr old?

since its younger kids and they are harder 2 deal for... then i would charge at least around $8... but most of the time i get anywhere from 5-12!
xOxO, aLeX

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What should you do if you keep on babysitting and they always say they will pay you but never do, and you are too nervous to ask them to pay you?

thats sooo bad! i hate when people do that! once i was babysitting these 2 kids for the whole day and i got $4! i think the parents forgot 2 give me a couple twenty's or somethin... so i called themm... it was soo hard... but worth it! cuz they felt sooo super bad and gave me $60! maybe write them a letter! its not fair that u have 2 do all that work and not get ne thing in return (and believe me... u know how hard babysitting is!) say that they must have forgotten to pay you or somehting so u would apprectiate it if maybe they did pay u! if they dont... cross them off ur babysitting list... its not fair that u babysit and dont get paid! maybe they simply forgot... but if ur 2 nervous... write a letter!
hope i helped! good luck!
xOxO, aLeX

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do u people think its weird if ur a girl and tell a gurl u luv dem like when they are about 2 get offline? cuz my friend online who is lez said dat 2 me and i said it bak cuz i have known her 4 a while and she is like 1 of my best friends. is there sumthin wrong with that?cuz now that i think about it it kinda seems weird i juss said it witout thinkin.
much luv people!!
holla

naaawwww...its not weird! u have 2 have love for ur friends! whenever i give my girl friends cards, notes etc... i always write love ya! cause i do! my friends r sooo important and do so much 4 me... so i love them! not in a sexual way... just that there so awesome... if shes a Lez though... thats another story... explain 2 her u love her as a friend... cuz shes so sweet! xOxO, aLeX

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Are any of you vegetarians? If you are, what are your reasons for becoming one?

Yes.. i am... i have been a vegetarian since i was 4 years old and its for the dumbest reason! u r seriously gonna laugh! Ok: so when i was 4 years old... my unlces and my dad were all going deer hunting. on there last day we went there and we saw the bloody deer hanging there. and i heard that deer was made of meat.... so from that day on i havent even taken a bite of meat... and i have a weird fear of deer! i know weird story huh? and it keeps me thin! i'm not a vegan though! cuz i love cookies and waffles 2 much! LoL
xOxO, aLeX

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Ok, I am 44 yrs. old and my husband is 47, we have been married about 6 months, and are professonal decent people. My problem is my husband is not interested in making love to me, when we first married, we had a decent sex life,. then no more for the past several months. If I bring it up he gets mad. Says hes just tired,or could be his antidepressants he takes, etc.. But he has time to be internet addicted, and reads a lot, anything to keep from being with me. I had caught him on the net several times talking to men, over a year ago, but he had a excuse for that, he was "just messing" with the gay guys for a laugh. Now I wonder. Ive tried talking to him but about this, but he dosent want to discuss it. So what do I do? I love my husband dearly but what do I do, Lonely

lOnLeY~
talk to your husband about your suspicions. could be that he isnt lying. but why would he mess with gay guys just for a laugh? tell him how you feel and why you feel that way and i'm sure he'll understand. alot of gay guys "use" women as a cover up that they are not gay so that may be the case. orrr maybe hes just getting old and his desire for sex is decreasing... (viagra any1?) u said that hes on the internet alot... do what my older sister's friend did when she suspected her bf was gay.. i know that this may be considered "snooopy" but she went on his computer and saw what he was actually doing on the internet. i probably wanst alot of help.... but i hope i helped ya a little bit! good luck! xOxO, aLeX

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should I be proud of what i am?

oFFFF course! never pretned 2 be something ur not... if ur gay... thats awesome! who cares what anyone else says! gAy guys are the coolest people ever!!!! and whatever anyone says 2 u... they can shut the fuck up! so be proud and stand up 4 what u believe in! chances are... ur 100 times cooler then the straight guys anyways! haha
xOxO, aLeX

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I'm not the type of person who belives in going out and looking for a date. I belive you should become friends first then see if you can take it futher. I just recently feel for a close friend, and she turned me down. For some reason im taking this one really hard. What can i do to get over this and move on? 18 m

awww...i 'll go out on a date with ya! lol ummm maybe ur friend didnt want 2 loose ur friendship since ur close friends. dating good friends is always hard cuz after the break-up u 2 may never go back 2 normal. u can do alot of things.... but i would suggest finding some1 new... haha seriously it will take ur mind off her instantly. hope i helped ya! and uR oK! xOxO, aLeX

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OKay i just got home from skool and my friends are with me one of them lives right up the street before me!! so he wasn't dropped off i was the first one dropped off! then i found out that my other friend is going ova 2 his house! should i be mad about this? what should i do? i feel left out and unwanted and it's kinda of a stab in the back!! What do you think?

hEy hUn! i totally know how u feel! in 7th grade i had 2 best friends and i would get sooo envious when just those 2 would hang out! its nothing 2 worry about though. i'm sure they still love ya! maybe there doin a project together or soemthin.... u may feel unwanted at first and thats totally normal... you've probably gone 2 other friends houses 2 without all the other guys. if this keeps happening though... talk 2 ur friend and tell him u feel left oUt! hope i helped!
xOxO, aLeX

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Ok! Well I have to go to the doctor tuesday with my mom to get birth control. Im just really stressing out about the papsmear. I shave down there and Im not sure whether or not I want my mom in the room when they do that. They also have to ask you if your sexually active and I really dont want my mom knowing all that either! Any info, advice, etc.?

heY! well thats totally fine... just dont have ur mom come in the room with u and she will never know... trust me i did it. even if ur under 18 like me ur mom still dosent have 2 know because ur dr. had 2 keep all info private! hope i helped ya out! good luck hUn!
xOxO, aLeX

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whenever i see a really hot guy i think about us making out or having sex. i know it sounds really weird but is there something wrong with me?

LoL... not a thing wrong with u... because who dosent want 2 have sex with a hot guy? dont worry... lots of girls feel this way and def. lots of guys 2... its just ur hormones! xOxO, aLeX

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i dont exactly have a question...but i just need someone to talk to and just for anyone to give me advice...i am a Freshman..im 14 im in a relationship. and i've been stressing alot of skool lately!!...its just that im failing 2 of my classes rite now!. its just that my 2 teachers give out TOO much assignments and its just stressing me bcause i dont do it! my sister says i need to learn how 2 manage my time! and i told her its not bkuz of cheerleading...(because im always @ praktice or @ a game) and well i just dont know! somebody help!!

HeY hUn! well i can definatley help u.... just name how... no but i totally know what u mean. i'm a junior.. i have reeeally hard classes (junior year is ur most important 2!) i'm in soccer and i lifeguard 3 times a week and babysit alot 2... and i'm not exaclty a sratight a student.... so my schedule is always packed! i get only 5-6 hours of sleep a night! all teens are always busy and on the go... so i just think ur super stressed. u need a day like i had 2day... sit around, do nothing! ahhhh i love that feeling. do u have a study hall? try 2 get as much homework as done as possible... go in early 4 help in the failing classes and instead of going home and watching trl... sTudY! yea... well i didnt really undersatnd the question since u said u really dont have 1....but if u need some1 2 talk 2 i'm always here 4 ya! cuz we can totally relate 2 eachother! im me... alglitz03 or email me sPaRkLeBaBe9@hotmail.com and i will talk/listen 2 ya! hope aLL goes well! xOxO, aLeX

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does toothpaste really work on pimples? what is the best thing to do to ur pimples, or what is the best product to use? please hellp!

yeeep... i promise it does... it might not work instantly... but it helps alot! the olsen twins even admitted 2 tryin it! xOxO, aLeX

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i need help, there's this guy i met online and he keeps stalking me and im getting scared. it all started out when he asked me to invite him to my webcam and im like sorry no bye, then hes like im gonna hack into ur computer, and hes sending me messages saying i know where u live, ill send ppl to ur house and thell rape u, well get it on tape and im starting to get scared. is that possible? could he have hacked into my computer from yahoo messenger? can someone help please

Omg! cReeepY!!!! that is just waaay 2 personal.... tell ur parents right away... if u think they might get mad 4 talking 2 random guys online its better then getting raped! they'll undersatnd... also notify the cops or tell the guy 2 leave u alone or you'll get the cops into this... block him 2! u dont want him talking 2 u ever again! he might be just saying this 2 scare u... but u dont wanna take ne chances.... oHHH and sometimes people who r super smart with computers can hack into it! sOO hope i helped ya! good luck! xOxO, aLeX

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How should you go about treating an addiction (I don't want to be specific so just say in general) Please help! I'll rate anyone who answers back. Thanks so much.

well it does depend on the type of addiction... so i could have helped u out more if u would have told me the addiction... but its all good... i respect that. ummm most addictions need professional help... its very unlikely 2 treat ur own addiction... so theres lots of help put there, thrapists, counslers, meetings... just look in the yellow/white pages or online in ur area. it depends where u live... but help is all over! u just have 2 find it! friends can be helpful 2 but probably not treatful just there 4 support. good luck! hope i helped! xOxO, aLeX

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well me and my boo have been together a year now..and all we do is kiss and makeout but i dont have a problem with that (savin myself 4 marriage)..i was juss wondering anyne have any fun kissin ideas..like if ur bf/gf kissed a certain way that was juss beyond a perfect kiss..i juss wanna spice up our relationship withoutleading to gettin into each others pants!

It is fun to slip in a bit of Pop Rocks into your mouth right before the kiss. When you French kiss there is definite chemistry...literally! also: when you are watching a movie, kiss the same way the actors have kissed. It makes the whole scene come to life!!
haha thats all i could think of for now and i totally respect ur marriage decision... i wish i could have been as smart as u! :)
xOxO, aLeX

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Hey, I was going to have a sleepover party for my friends on Halloween after we go trick-or-treating with each other. My one friend that I invited is allergic to dogs, cats, and guinea pigs -- which are all of the pets I have. She can't even go in my house because of it. I was considering sleeping out in a tent in the backyard, because it's really big, but it might be too cold by October 31st for that. I don't want to just uninvite her because that might screw up our friendship and that's pretty rude. :\ What should I do?

awwww.... thats 2 bad i totally know what u mean. u dont wanna uninvite her... but dont want her 2 ruin ur fun? i get it hun.... well where do u live? considering i live somewhere cold... it would probably be 2 cold for me and my friends... but tents r always fun! make every1 bring tooonns of blankets and dress winter warm because it always gets supper cold at night. and i know that this might be kinda a dumb idea.... but if it really is 2 cold... u could bring the tent into the garage and just move the cars... its what me and my buddy did in 7th grade. we were supposed 2 sleep outside but then a storm came so we put the tent in the garage... we stayed super warm because her mom brought out a heater and we had a little tv in there... because there were outlets nearby! have ur friend take some allergy meds just in case! aNd have fun! hope i helped!
xOxO, aLeX

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i jus moved to another skool and ive been there for like three weeks and everyone seems nice...but thats not the problem...all of my friends from my old skool seem to always seemed to b pissed at me!!it kinda seems like there happy that i moved! i tryed to talk to them and they all r sayin that ive changed big time scence i moved...i dont think i did!i really want to keep my friends but they seem to not wanna keep me ...HELP!!!
i rate good!

hey hun! well i'm thinking there probably just jealous/frusturated... they probably just miss u and think ur gonna replace all of them with friends from ur new school! so my advice 2 u is... make sure u keep those old friends... all girls can get super jealous and they probably just think that ur gonna start ignoring them... dont let that happen! and i think every1 chages somewhat when they move... because everywhere is different and they all talk about diff. things so maybe there just not used 2 hearing about the things u r now... so call them up and invite them over 4 an girls only slumber party. let them know that u care and they will never be replaced!
xOxO, aLeX

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