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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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okay well i'm 14/f and i babysit for my neighbors who have two girls who are 4 & 2. now thats its summer and i don't have school, i've been babysitting A LOT. it feels like they are overworking me! i'm always so stressed out when i have to go there. the girls can not share togother and then it ends up with the youngest girl crying. and when she crys she SCREAMS! i can't stand it. i'm always babysitting for hours and they are always late when they come home. they also aren't very considerate about me missing meals. like they will have me work from 4-7 and that is like right in the middle of when i would eat dinner, and all they have at their house is junk food. like over the weekend i was babysitting from 9:30 - 3:30. also i'm always worrying that the dad will get mad at me if one of the kids falls asleep. i mean they pay me good ( 8 dollars and hour ), and the kids love me, but i always stress out about going over there.
i don't want to stop babysitting for them, because that would also leave them without a babysitter. but i need ways to help me not stress out as much about babysitting. like this week they only told me that they will need me to babysit thursday from 5-6, but then today i saw the mom and she said that their oldest daughter who is 16 will be going on vacation this whole week and that they will need me to babysit tuesday, thursday, and friday from 9-1! omg and i'm already stressing out about it! HELP!!
Two year olds do not typically interact and share with other kids. They do what is called parallel play, meaning they may sit beside another child and play..but will not completely join in and play in a constructive manner. Four year olds on the other hand like to roll play, and are sometimes a bit bossy. So really, part of the challenge is the age of the kids. What I would do is get the kids on some kind of schedule, and especially the two year old should be taking an afternoon nap. Check out some books at the library on child development, and when you understand what they should be doing for their age..it will make your job eaiser.
You may have to come up with individual activities to occupy the kids which will keep them busy and limit the screaming.
Tell the parents you are studying child development (part of that will be nutrition) ask if you can plan meals on the days you need to cook for the kids. Write up a menu and give it to the parents ahead of time, maybe they can buy some of those items that you plan to use as a nutritious meal. These things don't have to be expensive, or difficult to make. Maybe you can even bring your own lunch and eat after you feed the kids. Of course they might want your food, but if you bring them a special treat..that will help.
14/f. This I guess could either go under families or friends. Sorry this is sort of long. This whole thing started in like, second grade when my friends would snatch my snack and food and stuff right out of my hands. I was too nice and it really made me sad, but I just didn't say anything. I was always being joked around with. My friends would call me fat just as a joke(even though I wasn't, I was JUST as 'fat' as they were). All of this bothered me and I didn't really show it until last school year. To prevent anyone from taking my stuff, I would scratch them or slap them when they perpously try to steel my food. I didn't TRY to scratch them and stuff, it was sort of just an automatic reaction. For example, the other day at the movie theatre my friend dumped the remainder of the popcorn in my hair so I slapped her. I still feel that most of the time they deserve it, but I have heard people think I am a bitch lately. I don't let people walk all over me like they used to. If they tell me to do something, I say no, just because I feel like I am being walked over. If they would have asked I would have said yes though. I think this is me unvolentarily preventing being walked over like in second grade. I really want to change because one of my drama-starting friends (same one in the popcorn incident) says that a lot of people think I am being a bitch lately. Please help me change... I don't want to be fake because I usually agree with the actions I take when a friend does something rude and uncalled for. Please help me change!! I don't care about that one friend liking me or not because I REALLY dont like her, but I don't want other friends to dislike me. I RATE!!!
I'm not so sure if you are the one who needs to change. It sounds like you are just fed up with their childish crap! The "dramatic" friends are getting a rise out of you, and that's what they are trying to acheive. They are addicted to drama, and are trying to pull you in!
While this will be the most difficult thing of all, when they do something mean or childish to you, act like you just don't care. If you need something to say.. you could always say "Come on, I thought you were smarter than that" and then walk away. There's no written rule that says we have to be nice to people when they are being mean
to us. Come at them in subtle ways that will have them wondering "what the hell just happened"? They will expect you to act like you always have, and when you don't fall for their antics, they may just stop doing whatever it is that annoys you. Not letting people walk on you is a good thing, but solving problems with a "slap" no matter how much they deserve it, is not a good thing.
Okay so I have a boyfriend of almost 11 monthes now. Problem is his mom and I do not get along exspecially after last night!
So I seen she IMed me while I was with my boyfriend ((her son)). She said hey or w/e so I IMed her back sayin hey an I had a question so I asked her why did she let his ex gf stay the night knowing I don't like her. She told me that since chad was at work she thought it was fine plus her house is open to any one she care's about or w/e. So I got all upset you know cause' that make's me mad an basically told her you know that it's not right an supposively his mom already told him that one of his ex's misses him right? SO why would his mom tell him this if she knew he has a gf, an like that make's me wonder what the hell did she tell the girl after she said that, an it's seems kinda obvious she doesn't like me an she is tryin to get chad to go mess with other girl's or somethin ya know.
Okay now after all this me askin her about the girl stayin the night I told her how I felt an shit an then she tells me like I supposively hungout with my ex bf? Im like wtf I didn't hangout with my ex bf. And then she like went an looked at my ex bf's myspace an seen shit I posted to him in the past like cause we were tryin to make this girl jealous an his mom went on a rampage about it all telling me she would tell my bf an shit so I was like w/e go ahead do what you do.
Now like really, I honestly don't know what to do about her like he can't move out because like his mom will make him pay insurance an since he is gonna start going back to school he wouldn't be able to afford it.
So what should I do in my situation if he asks me to come hangout with his family, do I talk to everyone in cept her.
And am I in the wrong for being upset of his EX gf being there ya know. And like I know I could of handled stuff little better but I asked her a question an she was all a bitch about it an then brought up somethin that I told my ex in the PAST an shit.
Like Honestly she isnt my mother so she has no right snoopin in my buisness. PLUS if chad thought anything dont you think he would of went online an snooped himself, plus it was something said in the fucking past.
I thinks he has no life but w/e am I in the wrong, what should I do like no idea im goin crazay. Thankx you whoever takes the time out to read this!!
I can understand why you are upset, but reading between the lines, I'd say you are angry because you are jealous. If you completely trust your BF, then you have nothing to worry about. It doesn't sound like he had anything to do with this. If you plan on having a long term relationship, I'd say it would be best to try and make ammends with his Mother. It's not fair to put him in the middle of you and her. It doesn't matter who is wrong or who is right, it's more important to get along.
Ok so heres the deal. I've heard that you can't get pregnant from anal sex...while obviously...but I've never done it before and like it seems kind of gross...I mean, a certain body part going into the place where...poop comes out of?
I just don't get it. Is there something that I'm missing?
Surprise! You can get pregnant from anal sex. If the semen leaks out of the rectum, which it will..it is very close to the vaginal area. Sperm can still travel up the vagina and find thier way to an egg! You do not have to have vaginal penetration to become pregnant.
Yes, it sounds gross. I only think some people say that they like it (for whatever reason). I doubt you'd be missing much if you never tried it at all. After all, that is not what our bodies were designed to do!
I have two former friends who (in my opinion) seriously abuse their cat. "Tammy" will grab the cat by the back legs and spin it around, set it on the floor and flip it in circles, chase it around the house, pull it by its tail when it tries to get away, etc. She's 21, so she's not a kid at all. With her boyfriend, they will put the cat in a pillowcase a breathe lungfulls of marijuana smoke in on it. When they have parties, they will "pass the cat." Everyone in at the party will take the joint and the bagged cat, and on every exhale breathe their smoke into the cat's bag. This will go on for an hour or two before they free the cat. This is just what they do in front of other people.
I can only see where I have there options here, each with problems.
1) Call the police.
2) Break into their house and steal the cat.
3) Do nothing.
I don't want to call the police, because I smoke weed and so do a lot of my friends. Used to, if you got caught in my town you just went to jail. Now you reduce your sentence with every fellow pot head you turn in, all the way up to having no arrest record if you turn in enough people.
I don't want to break in just because...well...it's wrong, I guess. And I really want to do something to help the cat. I've already tried talking to them about it, and it doesn't help.
I would really appreciate any other suggestions, or help picking which option is right. Thanks!
Well, this is an innocent domesticated animal who is totally dependent upon it's owners to live a humane life. This is a cut and dry case of animal abuse. Anyone who knows about this and doesn't do something to help the cat is guilty too, in my opinion anyway.
It's great that you are reaching out and asking for advice, I can see you really want to help. Anything you attempt to do to save this cat is morally right.
If you have talked to them about this, they will suspect you turned them in if any legal action is taken. They will probably retaliate, so first of all be prepared for that.
I recommend that you stop smoking pot and get rid of anything connected with drugs---paraphenila etc. Take the home drug tests if you want...but in 30 days you should be clean. That way, if they do turn on you, nothing can happen to you. It's a sacrafice I know, but I don't think you can just sit back and allow an innocent cat to be abused for the sake of your own pleasure. If the cat dies from THC poisoning, I doubt you could live with that.
Once you are clean, go to the police and call the local humane society or SPCA. Most areas will allow anonymous tips as part of the crime stoppers program. If you give enough details this may enable the police to get a search warrant. They can also test the cat's hair for THC. No matter if the cat's owners get in trouble, I am positive the cat will be taken away and placed up for adoption.
This sounds extreme, I know, but that innocent little cat doesn't have a voice and can't do anything about his situation.
Search for Crime Stoppers in your City or County for more info.
I read this really sad thing on this site
http://www.funnyjunk.com/pages/how_could_you.htm
and it keeps makin me think about my puppy and i cry...and I just kind of need help getting over it...I know its weird but I cry a lot over silly things like this and on almost every movie that I watch....
Oh yes, each time I read this I cry too. I have been aware of that little poem for a long time. What it prompted me to do however, is to volunteer at the humane society. I sometimes cry for the dogs there, but I realize I am helping them too... Perhaps you could try something like that?
Okay, this isn't the easiest thing for me to ask but it's pretty much anonamous, so here it goes. I'm completely unhappy with my privates. It's a point of severe lack of confidence for me and i have no clue what i can do about it. I am most hesitant about being intimate with anyone because of the way i look down there. It grosses *me* out. And it often hurts to masturbate because of the little, erm, flappers. I think they're called labia? They are all messy looking, and messy feeling as well. I don't feel like this is normal at such a young age.
Well I'm not sure what, if anything, i can do about this. Does fixing this problem absolutely require plastic surgery, or is there anything else i can do? Please help me! I am at a complete loss as for what i can do about this, and i think i mentioned already it takes *such* a toll on my confidence!
Sorry for the length of this, and I appreciate anyone who helps me out, greatly.
Also i apologize if this is the wrong category, but it seemed to fit better here than elsewhere.
When females get aroused the labia will swell, so it won't look so "flappy". Also as you mature the appearance may change. There really isn't a so called normal appearance for the the external genital area. There's many variations from woman to woman.
Plastic surgery would be an extreme fix that may only create more complications.
There may be some aversion in your past that has caused you to feel this way. Such as your parents attitude about the natural body--or attitude towards sex.
Work on building your confidence in other ways, focus on a talent or skill that you are good at and concentrate at getting better. Overall, the right partner isn't going to care what your labia looks like. But if you are fixated and repulsed, and lack self esteem...he may care about that.
Im a guy,17,and i'm only 5'6.So do you guys have any idea what age guys stop growing?And what do I take to help my growing? calcium? protien? what type of food should I eat and what exercises should I do?
Most guys continue to grow until about age 20. A balanced diet is the most important. So you need fruits, veggies, meat and dairy.
My 21 year old son is the tallest in our family. He's 6'4" and grew a couple of more inches since age 18.
I contribute this to all the milk that he drank as a child and a teenager. I think it's the growth hormones that they feed to the cows!
Here's a tool to predict how tall you will be.
http://www.webmd.com/content/tools/1/calc_kid_height.htm
Alright this may say pretty gross but oh well..When I poop it hurts on the left side(on a scale to 1 to 5 its a bout a 3) and when i get done i wipe and its bloody, Do I have anything wrong? I don't try to push it out or anythin i just let it rip.. lol
You didn't say where it hurts (left side of your rectum)? If the blood is bright red, it's either coming from your rectum or lower colon. Perhaps at one time you were constipated and suffered a tear, or it could be hemorrhoids. The only way to really know is to see a Dr. Since this could range from something very minor to something serious you certainly shouldn't wait.
i am 16 years old, im 5'2 and i look like im still 10 years old. i am started my period when i was 12 so i am not completly messed up but i about 90 pounds and have 32 AA boobs. yeah there not even called boobs just a chest. so i dont think that i have alot of growing left to do? because i started my period 4 years ago, am i going to keep growing? are my boobs going to get bigger?
Breasts are mainly composed of fat, so since you are so petite at this time in your life, that's the reason they are so small. As we age, our metabolism gets slower, our activity level changes, some women have babies, and the distribution of fat changes. So it is likely that at some point you will aquire a more shapely figure. I wouldn't look for this to happen in your teens, but most likely mid to late 20s.
you know what stys are right? well i think i have them. they are like all over my eyes! i have like 3 on one side and 1 on the other and one or two are going away but theres still some you know? well i was wondering how do u get rid of them?
Styes can be caused by a staph infection and sometimes will not resolve completely without antibiotics. If you have used a warm wash cloth or eye drops you could be cross contaminating yourself..and therefore spreading the infection. The best bet is to make an appointment with your Dr to get the right kind of treatment. I wouldn't do anything else, but take tylenol or ibuprofen for the discomfort until you see a Dr.
The person that I am dreaming about is a guy that I dated off and on for about 2 years around the age of 15. I am now 33. The first dream that I can remember having about him was about two years later. It was very vivid like he needed help or something. I had a few of those. Then, he showed up at a party I was at. He said he would soon be moving and had hoped to see me before he did so. I felt like i had mentally connected with him. Over the years, I had several more boyfriends and would still dream about him from time to time. I am now married (have been for 5 years) and seem to be dreaming about him pretty frequently. I should stop here and say that I did see him again briefly about 5-6 years ago at a bar. I with my fiance, he with his. Needless to say, I was drunk as was he and I dont think I made a very good impression (wanting to hug him 3 times when I saw him, mentioning the dream, etc)Anyway, these current dreams, they are not sexual (he was not a good lover) but I always feel so warm and content and happy, protected, etc. when he is there in my dream. Why am I still dreaming about him after all this time? I was a teenager when we dated, I had other teenage boyfriends, its not like he was the only one. PLEASE HELP!
I have done the exact same things as you are describing.
I think it's because some people are always searching for something that they don't have now. Is there even the smallest thing that is lacking in your current relationship? If so, this is probably why you are feeling the way you do. Also the human mind is naturally curious and we think a lot about "what if"..or "if I only". You may have some regrets about ending the relationship with him. Of course we can't repeat the past, and undo anything, but in a fantasy world we can.
I really like this guy. I'm kind of bad at finding out if guys like me. So, like if he's sitting down next to his friend playing a game and I go sit down next to him, what are some reactions that would show he liked me?
It may be evident in his body language. He might try to touch you, like putting his knee against yours. If he is comfortable sitting next to you he might lean a little closer. His face may become red, his heart might beat faster, and his words may not come out right. He might touch his face a lot or causually scratch his arm or wring his hands. He will smile..and say nice things, or even tease you, which would be flirting.
Good luck! I hope he likes you too!
I heard sme feedback from my friends that although in porn girls like crazy 11 inch dicks, in real life the girls I talked to say that all they feel is pain when guys with 7 to 8 inch dicks have sex with them.They can't really feel pleasure but just a painful feeling and it also is harder for them to blow, and it's a disadvantage for the guy as well because he won't get to have his whole dick covered.
While some girls in my class said that guys with relatively small, maybe 4 to 5 inch dicks are good because they hit the g-spot which happens to be where the head of the dick goes to, so in other words, it's like a joystick.So which is it?I'm confused.
Yours is a common concern amoung young men. The question: Does size matter?
You will get multiple opinions on this topic. However, the nice girls will say "It's not the size, but how they use it" In otherwords it's about the whole sex act it's self. So really, in most cases, size does not matter.
Hi i'm 15/f and me and my boyfriend are starting to have sex and are moving slow. I was wondering how to get birth control if you don't have a Plan Parent hood and you live in a small town wear everyone knows you. I want to make sure that everything is okay before trying again and I've done some research and I want to know if it is necsesary if I don't have sex really often maybe only once every couple of months or so? Thanks
Small towns are difficult when it comes to hiding things...I know all too well! Either use birth control or don't have sex..not even once in a while..not even once a year.
You will probably have to ask an older sibling or older friend to buy birth control for you. Buy the over the counter spermicide and condoms. Make sure you use both every time you have sex. Of course you have to consider that there is no birth control that is 100% effective.
Is it possable to seperate sex from love and feelings. I really love this guy alot he is my ex boyfriend and i want to have sex with him but i never have because he broke up with me. I want to have sex with him but im afraid that if i do i will only fall for him more and it will only hurt me more
Some people can separate the two yes, but if you love the guy in this case it's already impossible. You will experience more hurt if you put yourself through this. Most guys (notice I said most not all) will go for the sex and not be as concerned as the women about feelings. If you are considering this as a way to get him back, it's not worth the risk. You have to put yourself first. Sex will only complicate matters. Run, don't walk the other way!
i gave someone head and i recently got sick, fever sore throat and now i have swollen glands and gums and my tounge is sore and the top of my mouth too.. theres nothing involving head in that right, my mother told me its called fever blisters.
plus my boyfriend has never done anything with anyone else besides me , and i havent with annyone else , his family has no history ..
Well it's obvious that you have some type of infection, you need to go to the Dr. and you should tell the doc about the oral sex. This will give him/her the correct information so you can be diagnosed properly. Yes, you could have caught something from giving "head".
The BF's family history would have nothing to do with this. When we talk about family history we refer to genetic diseases...and of course there's no chance that your symptoms are caused by a genetic disease passed on by oral sex.
Unless you've been with your bf every moment of his life, it's impossible to be 100% sure that he has never done something with someone else.
okayy this guy i know wants to have sex with me. i don't care if we do or not ... but i'm just scared that i would get pregnant. like REALLY scared ... that's my biggest fear.
i'm a virgin & i don't care who i lose it to ... whether it's my husband or just some hot guy ... i'm not in a hurry to lose it but i would definately like to.
this guy is veryy experienced so i'm sure he knows what he's doing with the condom & everything but i don't know ... i think i'd feel safer with a guy i actually loved.
has anyone ever gotten pregnant from a condom breaking when you used it correctly?
Reading between the lines, it seems as if you are apprensive. You say you don't care, but I suspect that you do. Females can get pregnant and STDs even when a condom is used. It reduces the chances, but it is not full proof. Yes, women have became pregnant from a small microscopic tear in the condom, or when it has slipped off. Doesn't matter if he knows what he is doing or not, the risk is still there.
Being a virgin is a wonderful thing, and sex is a sacred act that should be saved for someone you are in love with. If this guy is "very" experienced he's probably a player and trying to talk you into something you don't want to do. The trouble is, that one moment of sex may lead to a lifetime of heartache. Do you really want to regret that one moment? I doubt it.
what do i do my dogs are attatched to human table food they won't touch dog food so i have to make them breakfast lunch and dinner. tell me how i can get them to eat dog food. please........ thank you
Look at it this way, you are killing your dogs with kindness.
First of all, no dog unless it is sick will starve it's self to death when dog food is available.
It doesn't sound like your dogs even have to work for the food. In the wild, they do. Take on the attitude for the dogs that nothing in life is free!
If your dogs will drink water, and refuse to eat for a few days because you took away the table food, nothing bad is going to happen to them. My suggestion is, instead of cooking them a meal take them for a walk (give them a little work to do) then when you get home, give them their dog food. If they don't eat it in 15 minutes, take it away and try again at the next meal time. If you allow them to freely feed on the food, and leave it in the bowl...it's not as important to them as if you give them some physical activity first.
This make take a few days, but eventually they will eat the dog food, I promise!
my dog pees on the carpet allot. no any good stain remover?
Use an enzyme based stain remover especially made for urine. You can buy this type at most pet stores. Housebreak the dog by using a kennel..save yourself from future headaches and smells!