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sex from love
Is it possable to seperate sex from love and feelings. I really love this guy alot he is my ex boyfriend and i want to have sex with him but i never have because he broke up with me. I want to have sex with him but im afraid that if i do i will only fall for him more and it will only hurt me more
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It is possible to seperate, yes. It can be difficult though, because people consider sex to be so many different things. Most girls consider it to be this very moving experience where you are sharing your love with your partner, while most guys usually consider it to be just a piece of ass and an easy way to get off or vice versa. If you love this guy, don't have sex with him. And yes, I am aware of how stupid that last sentence was. Now before you stop reading this advice completely, what I meant was don't have sex with him until you are sure of some things. Like, are you going to become attached and obsessed with him even more than you already are if you decide to do this? And is this going to put an even harder burden on you? If he doesn't consider it to be anything more than 'hooking up' are you going to get upset? In the end, two things can happen from having sex with him. One being that he decides he loves you, and wants you back. Or two, he has sex with you and leaves you, and that's the end of it. You never can really tell with guys, because their minds work so differently than ours. But honestly, in my opinion sex is something that two people who love each other very much engage in to show their love and affection for one another. And yes, my boyfriend feels the same way about me.
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Some people can separate the two yes, but if you love the guy in this case it's already impossible. You will experience more hurt if you put yourself through this. Most guys (notice I said most not all) will go for the sex and not be as concerned as the women about feelings. If you are considering this as a way to get him back, it's not worth the risk. You have to put yourself first. Sex will only complicate matters. Run, don't walk the other way!
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"I feel that sex is the most wonderful, loving, intimate thing that money can buy." - Emo Phillips
It is theoretically possible to consider sex separate from love and other emotions. Likewise, it is possible to shoot someone and not feel any sort of remorse or regret. But do you really want to be either of those kinds of people?
Having sex with a guy you've broken up with is a bad idea in a lot of ways. It probably won't get you back together. It's very likely to mess with your head and your heart, and possibly his as well. And consider the consequences should your birth control fail...
There is a way to describe the act of having sex with someone without consideration of love and affection - it's known as "using them". Don't be that kind of person!
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Yes it's possible..but I honestly don't think you should have sex with him because once you do you'll want to be with him & it will make you situation even worse.♥
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I wish there was a straight yes or no answer to this question but the truth is that there just isn't.
Personally, yes I think some people can separate sex from love and other such emotions but there are so many different factors involved that can affect the situation. How often you have sex with the guy, what he is like as a person, what you are like as a person and so on. For example, if you had a 'friends with benefits' situation with an attractive, funny and nice guy and had sex with him on a regular basis, it would probably be very difficult to keep yourself from feeling something for that guy.
Speaking absoloutely honestly here, I really don't think that having sex with the ex that dumped you is a good idea. For one thing, if he agreed to it, deep down you would always be wondering if he only agreed because he wanted the sex. It would also be very damaging to your self confidence, knowing that yes, you had sex with him, but he might still not want to have an actual relationship with you.
I don't want to be drawing the wrong conclusion so forgive me if I'm wrong but what I'm reading into this is that you really like this guy and you miss him. You want to have sex with him because you want to feel that same connection with him that you had when you are going out but because you're scared of getting hurt, you want to feel certain you can do it no-strings-attached, with no side effects to you.
I know how much it hurts to be apart from someone you care about but sleeping with him would not be the way to do it. You need to move on and try to get over him and it will be impossible for you to do that if you have sex with him because if you really do love him, there WILL be feelings, whether you want there to be or not and you will get hurt. Please, please, don't lower yourself to this. He broke up with you. Go out there and find someone who will care about you and respect you and make you happier than this guy ever did. It IS possible. Believe me, when you find him, you will be far happier and you will regret ever considering sleeping with your ex.
Don't worry, you will find love again. Just don't give up on it and don't give in to him.
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Its very possible to be able to seperate sex from love but not all people know how to do that.I think that since you already broke up with him and didnt get back that you shouldnt have sex with him because it will only lead you to liking him MORE and he might not even want to go back to you after you did it with him.Mostly guys know how to seperate between love and sex so make sure you get his emotionall side first or youll end up sleepin with him when he doesnt even like you
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