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REALLY i NEED ADViCE!!
Okay so I have a boyfriend of almost 11 monthes now. Problem is his mom and I do not get along exspecially after last night!
So I seen she IMed me while I was with my boyfriend ((her son)). She said hey or w/e so I IMed her back sayin hey an I had a question so I asked her why did she let his ex gf stay the night knowing I don't like her. She told me that since chad was at work she thought it was fine plus her house is open to any one she care's about or w/e. So I got all upset you know cause' that make's me mad an basically told her you know that it's not right an supposively his mom already told him that one of his ex's misses him right? SO why would his mom tell him this if she knew he has a gf, an like that make's me wonder what the hell did she tell the girl after she said that, an it's seems kinda obvious she doesn't like me an she is tryin to get chad to go mess with other girl's or somethin ya know.
Okay now after all this me askin her about the girl stayin the night I told her how I felt an shit an then she tells me like I supposively hungout with my ex bf? Im like wtf I didn't hangout with my ex bf. And then she like went an looked at my ex bf's myspace an seen shit I posted to him in the past like cause we were tryin to make this girl jealous an his mom went on a rampage about it all telling me she would tell my bf an shit so I was like w/e go ahead do what you do.
Now like really, I honestly don't know what to do about her like he can't move out because like his mom will make him pay insurance an since he is gonna start going back to school he wouldn't be able to afford it.
So what should I do in my situation if he asks me to come hangout with his family, do I talk to everyone in cept her.
And am I in the wrong for being upset of his EX gf being there ya know. And like I know I could of handled stuff little better but I asked her a question an she was all a bitch about it an then brought up somethin that I told my ex in the PAST an shit.
Like Honestly she isnt my mother so she has no right snoopin in my buisness. PLUS if chad thought anything dont you think he would of went online an snooped himself, plus it was something said in the fucking past.
I thinks he has no life but w/e am I in the wrong, what should I do like no idea im goin crazay. Thankx you whoever takes the time out to read this!!
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WOW you have a sititation. if chad asks you to hang with his family go, and don't not talk to his ma cuz that will only make things worse between you too. what you need to do before he asks you to hang with his family is to go to his house while he is at work, but make sure he is aware of what is going on between you and his ma, and tell him that you are going to talk to her. and do just that. go to her house when he is at work and just talk ask her in a nice, sweet way (i know that is going to be very hard when you are on your last nerve but you have to do it otherwise it will not work) say things like i really like your son, and i don't see why we have to dislike eachother as much as we do. i would like to get along with you, and i would like to know what is it about me that you don't like so much. and see what she says. wing it. if she says something that is not right to you, dont' blow your top, just take it and keep talking, tell her what you don't like about her, and what she is doing and how you feel about it it should go ok. and you should have a better relationship over time, don't rush it tho. i would like to know how this one goes so if you could give me some feed back i would appricatie it thanks, and good luck.
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Ok from an adult perspective and someone who is a mom, How old is this women?? She is acting like a teenager. I think that if she ever IM's you again just ignore her and block her from your msn/aim now. As for family get togethers I would be polite but thats it. If she get rude or starts on you simply walk away, this is hard I know but it makes you look like the better person and more mature one.
As for her inviting his ex over I would simply trust your boyfriend and let it go, it is obvious that she is trying to goad you into a fight, in hopes that you and her son will break up by not taking the bait once again you will show her that you are the better person and also your boyfriend will know that trust and love him.
Its unfortunate that she is so immature but keep in mind that hatred only breeds hatred and she will get whats coming to her. Be the action not the reaction people will admire you for it and you will eliminate the drama.
Hope this helps
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WOW..PHSYCO! SHE SOUNDS WONDERFUll, i'M REllE SORRYY BUT i HOPE EVERYTHiNG WORKS OUT AND OH YEAHH i THiNKK YOU SHOUlD TEll YOUR BOYFRiEND SO HE CAN TAlK TO HiS MOM.
:D
-ASHllYN♥
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It probably wouldn't be a good idea but then his mom might invite the ex girlfriend over,it'll seem like you don't want to be around the whole family,just at least say hi to his mom so you won't look bad in front of the family, you don't have to talk to her either,and she should say she's sorry for butting in.Tell your boyfriend to tell his mom that he doesn't want his ex coming over anymore to his house, no matter what the excuse she has,and especially that he has a girlfriend who deserves some respect.
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I would dump this guy... if you are plannin on marrying this guy than you will be miserable for the rest of your life, once you marry him you marry his mom... if you aren't planning on gettin married and you are just messing around and passing time... than find sum1 who has a sane mom to mess around with.
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I can understand why you are upset, but reading between the lines, I'd say you are angry because you are jealous. If you completely trust your BF, then you have nothing to worry about. It doesn't sound like he had anything to do with this. If you plan on having a long term relationship, I'd say it would be best to try and make ammends with his Mother. It's not fair to put him in the middle of you and her. It doesn't matter who is wrong or who is right, it's more important to get along.
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Hokkay. so yah your in a load of crap, but to tell you the truth, you sort of put yourself in it. I'm sorry, but i've NEVER heard soemone be that disrespectful to an adult. I am almost positive this whole situation wouldve been different if you would have controlled your mouth.
for 1. how do you know the relationship between cha'ds mom and katie. they could be close. dont freak out until you lknow the whole story.
watch your mouth on here. no one wants to listen to that.
ps. dont rate me or send any feedback. i dont want anything from you... and just so you know, yah i mayhave been rude or straightforward... but look at how you acted.
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I really want to help, but don't get upset if I get people mixed up. One minute you're talking about your boyfriend and then suddenly the name Chad appears. I'm guessing that Chad is your boyfriend's name? Hopefully that's right.
I'm not sure why his mom is acting a little childish for a mother, but I think you're acting pretty childish too. Instead of asking her why she let an ex-girlfriend spend the night, why couldn't that problem been brought up to your boyfriend? It is his ex-girlfriend, right?
And if he really has no say or control in whoever stays over, then that's when you should try dealing with it because it's obvious by now that his mom isn't going to consider the obvious and not have some ex stay over. Which I do agree is very immature and wrong of her. You have every right in the book to be mad, depressed, or upset about this.
If you really want to make things not so disgusting between you and his mom, then don't instant message her with problems you have anymore. If something needs to be discussed with her, then sit and talk with her in person and have your boyfriend with you. What I think mostly needs done is for you to talk to your boyfriend about what's going on between you and his mom so that he could try helping you out.
He needs to talk to his mom too about the Ex-girlfriend staying over there. If he starts bringing up the crappy excuses of why she had to spend the night or something, you just need to say that he would have a problem if an Ex-boyfriend were staying over. I don't know if your relationship with your boyfriend is serious or not, but if it is, then you can't really just forget about his mom because he still lives with her.
The best that you can do around his mom is to smile at her when you see her, say hi and move on. Don't give dirty looks or any of that or it'll make things worse and you'll look immature.
-TheTeenGirl
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OK WOW. you can't really do anything about it. it's her house and you can't tell her who can be over. personally i think you are overeacting. you should trust your bf enough that he wont do anything with his ex. yeah, his mom is being a bitch and whatnot. what i would do is be really nice to her... yeah, make her eat her own shit. be the mature one and put it behind you. i'm not saying take crap from her but just don't fight about it... you cannot win so tough it out until she either warms up to you or is out of your life. <3
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yes, wow...this was quite a lot to read, but I'll try my best to help.
I just got to say I think that both you and his mom are responsible for creating a lot of drama. Life is so much better without it.
I don't think you have any right to demand things from her. You have a relationship with her son, not her. If it bothered you, you should have consulted your boyfriend to begin with. You claim she is trying to get him to do things with other girls, and I cannot stress this enough, but if he likes you and cares about you...no other girl can make him forget about you.
As for family outings, when you are faced with that situation...be nice to his mom as well. Sometimes in life, you have to be...hmm a little fake, I guess you could say...but it's for a good reason--you want to maintain a civil relationship. I think you should not worry too much about her. Try to get along with her, and if she doesn't reciprocate...don't worry karma will get her...it always does.
Much luck love.
-Teacup
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