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PARTY WOW
ok wow. today i went to this party. all these people were like drinking and smoking. i felt so bad! i almost felt like crying. this was my first *drunk party* or whatever you call them. i didn't get drunk or smoked or anything. but, i feel so bad. all these people doing all these things. the cops came and arrested this kid because he was above the alchohol level or w/e. i just fee so weird and so dissapointed about this. it's not that i'm a nerd. it's just that i see it on tv and stuff, but i didn't expect this from some people. we all go to private schools. i'm not saying that people that don't go to private schools drink and stuff. but, i mean, that we all live pretty sheltered lives, you know? we go out and stuff, but we go to small schools and i just don't see why they would do this. i just want advice from anyone that maybe has gone through this sort of thing and maybe to give say something uplifting relating to this
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Oh, do I know how you feel. From when I was about 16, all of my friends were going out and getting drunk and smoking cannabis on weekends and....well...I just didn't want to. Everyone would tell me their drunken stories and for a while, I felt so left out. It wasn't that I wanted to drink or do drugs as such, I just wanted to feel what they all felt or seemed to feel.
That all changed one night when a friend was meant to sleep over one night. She went to a party first and didn't turn up til 1am and she was stoned up to the eyeballs and drunk. It was NOT attractive. From that moment, I knew I never wanted to do it but....it was a huge shock. We all went to what is known in the UK as a Grammar School. Not quite private as such but you have to pass tests to get in. Anyways, it was a shock to realise that everyone did these things that in my eyes were just wrong!
You know what though? You don't have to be part of that scene if you don't want to be. Everyone says they are fun but what's fun about doing stupid and illegal things, and waking up the next morning feeling like you got hit with a truck and not being able to remember what you did and with who the night before? Personally, I'd rather go catch a movie with some of my real friends or go bowling or something and although that way of life may be tempting, I did a lot better in school than some of the other girls who did that stuff because I had a clear head when I needed it.
Don't worry, it is a shock but some people will do things like this. It's part of life. Don't be a part of anything you don't want to be and don't do anything you don't want to just because other people do. Do what you want for yourself and not for anyone else because let me tell you something. The mistakes other people make will drag you down if you let them. Or you can find people who will help you make the best of yourself.
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hmm i dont remember my first party. or my last hahaha. wow this probably isnt going to help but whether you like it or not these kinds of parties happen all the time and theeres alotta people out there who go to them and get drunk and smoke, i'm one of them and i go to a private school so it doesnt make that much of a difference. you'll get over it eventually and then you may go to more parties...and then start having more fun....and eventually you may end up like me and party hard =].
drink responibly!
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Well, drinking is everywhere. When I first figured out people were drinking, I was sad too. And the first person I found out that did it was my SISTER. But, you have to realize that kids drank way before now. Its not a new thing. And theyre going to continue to drink, so you need to get used to it. Im NOT saying you should do it because I dont even think its right. But if you go to a party you should expect it. Dont worry, you just got freaked out seeing it the first time. Thats normal..just most kids never say anything about it because its "not cool". Its good that you did though! and its good you dont like drinking. Youre smart! :] anyway theres no 2 ways around alcohol, lots of smart kids drink and dumb ones too. They probably dont even want to - theyre just doing it because its "cool". So if you feel like you really cant stand being around it, then you have to give up stuff that is fun or you need to find a group of people who DONT. There must be some people who dont in your school. And if you still want to BE at the party, you dont have to drink. Sometimes, people just get beer and hold it. They dont drink it.
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i know exactly what you are going through. i go to a private school where it seems that everybody is so sheltered. then as soon as the weekend comes there are all these "drunk parties" that people go to. when i entered high school i expected all of this, but not that my friends were going to do it. im a sophmore now and it is still going on. the only thing i can really tell you is to stay strong and to not give into peer pressure. i've watched how much drinking and smoking pot (and other things) have ruined my friends lives in just one year. i'm glad you didn't do anything bad at that last party. you were very mature =]. if you ever need any advice on anything you can IM me at barsano09. =] hope i helped.
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I haven't gone to many of these type of parties, but I know I will be around them once I start college. I like partying, but I'm not a big drinker. I do have a lot of friends who constantly feel the neeed to drink, I don't really get it. I rather not drink at parties because well...who knows what can happen. Truth is, it's going to happen a lot. If you can't tolerate that sort of social situation, you should steer clear of it, or at least make sure to have a couple sober friends with you at a party so you don't feel out of place.
Hope this helps ya some.
-Teacup
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