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what kind of facial cleansing product do you think a person with minimal zits that wont go away, and oily skin should use to clear it up before school starts? please helpp i give 5's no matter what!!! (link)
wow perfect Question! my best friend is the QUEEN of face wash. I've seen her do it and for the best things is TOOTH PASTE..no joke it works the best.


okay heres my story..what should i do?

i have this best friend named Jerra..and last friday we went bowling and met these guys n hooked up with them! and then she promised me that night that me n her would go again this friday with the same group of guys..and that it would be JUST us..no one else! just me n her..and then the guys! well she went to camp for a week and came back today and called me and was like "well i met these girls at camp and they became some of my best friends and they are gonna come with us tonite bowling!" i was soo FURIOUS! i started crying and everything cause i worked so hard to earn the money so i could go bowling tonite..but now my plans are ruined! and i told her that if those girls she met where there that she would ditch me and she was like "i wouldn't ditch you completely" but here's another thing..i like this guy named charlie..and me n him were suppose to hook up tonite and makeout maybe..well guess what..she's bringing his EX girlfriend! and then she told his ex g/f that i liked him and was gonna makeout with him! some best friend huh?! well i don't know what to do! PLEASE HELP ME AS SOON AS POSSIBLE BECAUSE THIS WHOLE THING IS HAPPENING TONITE! I'LL RATE YOU A 5! thanks!

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Ok! Your friend is a little backstabbing brat i say loose her completely! Tonight GO! Dont hold yourself back. Hang out with Charlie and just totally be yourself. Just because they are there shouldnt stop you from doing ANYTHING! Take this as a chance to let your best friend know that you dont need her help at all! Talk to Charlie yourself dont Have ANYONE do anything for you. Also just because his EX girlfriends there doesnt mean ANYTHING.. i mean they broke up for a reason right?. and im sure hes gunna be just like you.. mad cause hes got his EX girlfriend there, when hes suposed to ask you out. GOOd lUCk sWeEtiE!
-aMaNdA


OKay i really like this guy .. i mean like i love him n he loves me..! I just got out of this whole real love relationship n i truely loved him but i got hurt a bunch of times within that relatinship so he dumped me! Then this guy i like was going out with my best friend so my best friend dumped him n went out with my ex i was talking bout.. so now i like her ex! [[i know its confusing but try to help]] but see i dont wanna go out with him n hurt her like she hurt me.. but i like him alot! WHAT DO I DO! I RATE HIGH! (link)
ok well talk to your friend. Let her know you like him and maybe she wouldnt mind. If she does then dont do it. Just because she did it doesnt give you a good enough reason to do it back. -aMaNdA


I am a 13 year old white girl (almost 14). I am intrested in this black kid. some of my friends are ok with it but one of my best friends think i shouldnt like him because he is black. he is one of the nicest and sweetest people i know. i just dont understand why she cant see him for an amazing person and not just him being black. What can i do to get through to her? (link)
Well even though shes your best friend, its not her love life its yours. If you like him then you should go for him. If shes your TRUE best friend she will understand and accept it.
-aMaNdA


In the 3rd grade i used to always hand out wit this boy and i liked him to death. he liked me 2 this might sound childish but plz listen, he moved nad i did see him again until a few weeks ago.And i walked past him and he said hi gloria (my mom) and to me he said..."uhhhhhhh what is ur name"!! I was sooooooo mad! what the heck is goin in? (link)
That was very rude of him. If he remembers your moms name, then how could he forget yours. I'm sure he was just trying to be funny, and didnt realize you would take it very seriously. If you see him around again, ask him what the "uhh what is your name" thing all about. -aMANdA


i have seen my friends boyfriend with other girls kissing on them and i told my friend right away but she doesnt believe me, she said that i am jealous ... also she is supposed to have sex with him and i dont want her getting hurt .. is there anyway i could get her to believe me? (link)
Well try again to tell her. Invite her over and just hang out. Break it to her easy but be serious. Dont act like your kidding. Then maybe she will believe you. If that doesnt work then confront her boyfriend. Tell him everything you saw and make him tell her. -aMaNdA


all my friends have got got boyfriends and i havent (im 14 and female), i havent even been with someone, n im scared that they will call me frigid, my mates boyfriend keeps saying 2 me that his mate will go out with me but ive neva met him n i dont wanna go out wit him either.

has any1 got any advice for me??? (link)
all you gotta do is be open and honest and be yourself.


I REALLY like this guy named kyle and he goes to my school. and he likes me too! and ive only talked to him for a week but i have gotten to know him REALLY well and have have LOTS in-common, and im still waiting to get to know him more but if i really like him and he really likes me should i tell him that i love him even if were not going out?? please help because i want to tell him but i dont know if it is to early or not!
(im 14) (link)
no dont tell him you love him. you to only talk. maybe if you were together for along time that would be diffrent. You've only talked to him for a week anyway.. thats kind of rushing it dont you think?


you see, i am a female brunette and i have hair on my legs/arms. I would like to lighten my hair so it is less visible because i don't like to wax/shave because hair grows back even darker/thicker. So what products can i use to lighten my hair? Are there any home remedies so I wont have to go to the store? (link)
um.. well if i were you i'd shave it.. ya it grows back but thats why you just shave it again!


my mother is like so evil!!!!!!! Whenevr we r down town in cleveland and we drive past some colored people she locks the doors but she doesnt do that when wer by whites. she is so races. i cant stand her. it hurts me a lot to know that she has a problem with black people. and she yelled at me the other day for wanting a punkish/gothic style and shes like"you do not come from a family of punks or gths so your sticking to aero and other prepy stores" how do i deal with her. sometimes i feel like running away from home. help me!!!! (link)
well for sure running away isnt the answer. You do however live in her house under her rules and your just gunna have to except them. Try talking to her about it, tell her exactly how you feel and how much its bugging you. Maybe then she will understand and loosin up a bit. However you cant change her perspective of how she deals with things. thats her way of being.


ok, i dont know exactly how to get a reputaion of sum kind in 6th grade. I have a popular friend that i dont usualy hang out with. should i start hanging out with her in order to get kool. or not? (link)
well your in 6th grade so i wouldnt worry about having a reputation yet.. live your life be happy for you are and stick with the people you normally hang out with.


is your eye doctor supposed to tell you which contact solution to use or can you use whatever you want?? (link)
usually they will tell you what they think you should use but you yourself can get what ever brand/kind you want. Although im not sure but diffrent brands of contacts might require certain kinds of solution.


i started my period a few months ago...and my mom gave me pads....i want tampons soo i can go swimming etc....soo i decided to ask her...i cant get the guts up to ask her...how should i ask her? (link)
when shes in a good mood or something ..just ask her and be like "mom what do you think of me wearing tampons so i can go swimming?"


Me and my boyfriend seem happy with each other. Like he always talks about us being together forever and is always making future plans. I like that bc that is that the kind of realationship that i want, but he lives about 40 min. away from me and the seeing him thing isnt really a problem (i dont want to see someone everyday, i get kind of annoyed by that) so that isnt the issue. I am just worried about him doing stuff behind my back... like he checks out other girls INFRONT of me and talks about them near me too. He says wow their hot and stares them down.. stuff like that. So that kinda scares me. I talk to him about this, but he says that he isnt gonna ever do this to me and that he likes me too much to go for any other girl. Should i belive him? (link)
yes you should. every guy is gunnna check out girls, although i would be a bit worried to. Especially if hes talking to them. But as far as him saying their hot, it just lets you know hes comfortable with you being around and that its kinda letting you know that other girls are hot but hes with you! (get it?) hope so lol good luck.


Ok, I know that this is a really dumb question, but I'm gonna ask anyways.

I went out with this guy for about 5 months. We broke up for a while (about 6 months), and now we are back together.

While we were broken up, I hooked up with a friend's friend from out of town. My boyfriend doesn't know him, and there is an outside chance that they will one day meet, but I'm not all that worried about that.

For some reason which I can't explain even to myself, I feel as if I should tell my boyfriend. I don't feel guilty about the hookup, because, well, we were apart. I guess I just feel that he should know. But I don't want to mess anything up in between us.

So... to tell or not to tell... that is the question? (Sorry for the cliche, I couldn't resist.) (link)
i would say tell him. the biggest thing in a relationship is trust and the best thing to do is always to be open and honest about everything. You guys weren't together so it shouldnt matter that much to him.


Hi im a 16 year old girl and I have been dating this girl for 3 months now but we dont really talk, and i can tell my friends think i should break up with her, but i really like her and i want to go out with her but i want us to talk more what should i do? (link)
let her know how you feel. thats the best you can do is just be totally open and honest. Also dont even go by what your friends think. i mean yeah they are you friends and are suposed to know what to do..but if you care about her and wanna stay with her then their opinions arent gunna help, it makes it harder for you. GOOD lUCk!


Im 16 and My 16 year old Best friend is in love with my 16 year old ex boyfriend im pass the stage of you cant get with your best friends ex boyfriend, my problim is she really likes him she is like obsessed but he dont like her well he thought he might of but now he says he dont cuz she is inscure but they both ask me what they should do like he says should i just go out with her even thought i dont like her and she asks what can i do to get him to go out with me and then im left in the middle and my ex is also one of my best friends now so i dont really want to pick sides but i want them both to be happy i really am kinda sick of this situation help me please! (link)
well first off your ex shouldn't ask her out if he doesnt like her. thats just gunna make her all upset when she finds out, and then even more when she knows that you knew. if i were you i would just tell them both that you dont wanna be in it cause you dont wanna loose either friend. Also let them know they need to talk about it with eachother.. then see what happens.. good luck!


I have dark hair around my bellybutton and when I wear a two piece swimsuit, you can sorta see it, and it bothers me! I don't want to shave it! I dunno why I have hair THERE... any advice would be greatly appreciated! (link)
shave it! it will go right off and you wont even be able to tell you did it


ok. well i live here in a town called fresno. fresno is a town of really down to earth, cool people. most people aren't really wealthy, which means theres hardly any stuck up snobby people etc.

well.. now im moving to the town next to fresno, called clovis. and clovis is a really nice town. home to people living in MILLION dollar homes. a lot of wealthy people living in that town. so.. theres definetly gonna be snobby rich b**tches there.. and i dont mix well with those kinds of people. meaning, i dont like them lol.

i dont totally have anything aginst them tho, thats just not the type of people i like to hang with or be around..

so of coarse. im going to the school there called buchanan. so like.. im really worried that im not going to make friends because i dont care for rich snobbs which is mainly what the school is made of.

WHAT DO I DO??? how do i make friends..

love, manda (link)
wow i live in fresno. and im amanda! i go to Clovis West.. but um i think that you should give ANYONE a chance especially when you dont even know anyone there. Just because those girls have lots of money does not mean they are what you think they are. but Good Luck!

to make friends: be yourself! talk to people in your classes..etc.. dont wait for people to come talk to you. go to them and say something!


Ok. Im fat is there neway i can get skinner by tha time skool starts on Sep.7 and i need to work on my stomach area. (link)
SIT UPS! it works! trust me.. first what you do is the morning wake up get on the floor then do sit ups until your stomach hurts. make sure you count how many you do. For 3 more days do the same amount then the next 3 days double what you did before. i do mine every morning and night. Trust me! it will work.. it sounds like alot but it really isnt that bad. Also if you eat alot of junk food that doesnt help. Try eathing fruits and vegies instead of candy and ice cream. Good Luck!




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