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friendship help
i have seen my friends boyfriend with other girls kissing on them and i told my friend right away but she doesnt believe me, she said that i am jealous ... also she is supposed to have sex with him and i dont want her getting hurt .. is there anyway i could get her to believe me?
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Take a picture of them two kissing *Evil laugh*. Pictures never lie right? =)
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tell her ur not jealous and u wouldnt make that up !! tell her hes a cheating liar and she can do WAY better!! if she doesnt believe you, thats her problem! let her find out on her own if she wont take a friends advice/help!
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let her see what he's doing...you need to set your girl strait...get someone else involved so you have a back up
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Well try again to tell her. Invite her over and just hang out. Break it to her easy but be serious. Dont act like your kidding. Then maybe she will believe you. If that doesnt work then confront her boyfriend. Tell him everything you saw and make him tell her. -aMaNdA<3*
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If she doesnt believe you i'd say she automatically isnt a good friend, but if you think she is, talk to her and say that she should trust you, if she doesnt screw her.
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Try confronting the boyfriend. If that doesn't work, just tell your friend you're worried about her safety and you don't want her to get hurt, and tell her she shouldn't sleep with him.
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Hello =) In my opinion, I think you should seriously talk to her and tell her that you would NEVER lie about it, and you are just telling her so she doesn't get hurt. If she still doesn't believe you, then she has got to learn it on her own. I hope I helped :) If you need anything, drop one in the inbox <3 Steph
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If she doesn't want to belive you, it's maybe because she knows the truth will hurt. You could maybe have her tag along where ever you go, and see if he's doing it then?
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Tell your friend that you're being completely honest with her and that you'd never make up a lie of that magnitude. Tell her that you don't want her getting hurt - and that she has to seriously ask her boyfriend if he is cheating on her and that she'll leave him if he is.
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Sorry to say, but if your friend doesn't want to believe you, there's nothing you can do. She might even know you're telling the truth, down deep inside, but be afraid to believe it.
The best thing to do is be careful HOW you tell her - do it in a private place, in a calm voice. Small touches will let her know you support her.
If she stays with the guy, has sex with him, and gets her heart broken, your job will be to hold her hand and help her rebuild her heart and life. It's incredibly hard to watch people make stupid mistakes, but if you can help lessen her pain, you're doing okay.
If your friendship is getting ruined by your offering what you know - like the fact that her boyfriend is cheating on her - it might be best to lay off. Do make sure you let her know you'll go with her to buy condoms or see a doctor for birth control.
She might be making a stupid mistake, but hopefully you can help her make it a non-life ruining one.
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A lotta girls are like that... i dont think u can say much to let her know u arent lying... shes gonna have to learn on ur own... eventually she will find out... when this happens shes gonna really need u... u need to be there for her & not have a " i told u so attitude "
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have her fallwo u to see him tell her that its true and your her best friend and u wouldnt lie u love her to much to lie bout somehting like that or nething else and that u dont want her getting hurt no guys worth it NO GUY
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As much as it sucks - you can force a person to hear you, but you can't force them to accept what you are saying.
Its pretty serious and there is a chance your friend will get hurt, in fact - I'm sure she will. You can only really do one thing - tell her again and again and again. Tell her that as your friend, you wouldn't do anything to hurt her. Let her know that you aren't jealous and even if she doesn't believe you, at least ask someone else. Get her a second opinion. If she still refuses to listen, then there is little you can do and you might just have to let her make her own decision. It probably won't be the right decision, but it'll be her decision, and thus, she will suffer the consequences of her decision.
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have your friend confront him! he will probably freak and not know what to do! has anyone else been with you when youve seen this? if so have them back you up too, and most importantly...tell her how you feel about him and that you dont want her gettin hurt.
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Take a pictuRe of it. If that's not possible, get as many of youR fRiends as you can witness this. If she STILL doesn't believe you, just lay off. She'll find out eventually, then peRhaps she'll think twice about not tRusting you in the futuRe. Best wishes! Hope I helped!!
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Take a camera in your purse everywhere you go, and when u see him kissin wit girls TAKE a picture! and show it to her! tell her you are being serious about this and you dont want her getting hurt.. shes probably just in denial =/ i would too if you told me! but just seriously take a few pictures!
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Hmm these situations are always tough. You've been put in an awkward position but I think you did the right thing, especially if she is planning on having sex with him. I say confront her again and tell her that it has nothin to do with you being jealous, you just don't want to see her get hurt. Has anyone else seen him kissing other girls? because people tend to believe things if more than 1 person tells them so. If she still wont believe you well, then, I don't know what to do. If she ends up getting hurt then atleast you know you tried to help her.
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