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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

Guys, I have this friend, that's a guy, and me and him have possibly talked about dating, but we never have. All of the girls that he dated in the past were nice, sweet, and perfect. I think the only reason he used to like me was because I was shy & nice around him, and he said I was "perfect." So, him: he's pretty bad. He's tried drugs, he's made out with a billion girls, he's drank alcohol not too long ago, he's tried smoking. My question: Do bad guys like good girls? I don't know how to act around him, should I be wild/funny/kind of bad... or should I be nice and sweet?

I'm not a guy, but I do know you should always be yourself. Don't let some one mislabel you as being perfect, because no one is perfect. Don't go out with someone because they like that you act shy and nice- they need to like you for who you really are.

People experiment with things they shouldn't. That doesn't make them bad people. You say he has tried drugs and smoking- I presume you mean he tried them but decided against it (good for him!). Though alcohol is not good to be drinking a lot of, I wouldn't say that it makes him a bad person to drink. (Though he shouldn't if he is under age- alcohol and teens is not a good combo.)

As for wondering if bad guys like good girls, that is only a label you are putting on each other. If you like each other that's all that matters.

Besides, there is an old saying that I think rings true a lot: "Opposites attract."

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Ok so i love to fight, i love the excitement and when i fight i get intense, i get into this zone where i dont really care what happens to me I just want to hurt the other person, infact i start to enjoy the pain , so when i play hockey i can't transfer that intensity into my game, i have trouble getting syced to hit people and to get really pumped is there anyway to get that intensity, that adreniline into my game?

How do you get into this zone outside of hockey? Use that as a visualization technique while you play. It may help if you don't fight outside of hockey. Build up that aggression and save it for the rink. It just might improve your game.

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ok i know im supposed to love her since she's my "bff" but latlely... ahhh! i just want her out of my life. she gets on my nerves!! i've been frustrated with her for a while now.. even hated her on and off, but since she's in my class, and we've been our own little group since sixth grade, and it would just be weird if i started haniging out with other people (it simply wouldnt work) im stuck with her! and ive accepted it. juist two more years of highschool and then i wont have to talk to her again. but now ive got ONE problem, she won't leave, always stays too lon, and talks like no tomorrow! My dad has a strict rule "no friends after 10 o clock" and at 9:15 i said "you better go no, because of my dads rule" and she said "ok" but then on her way to the door she started talking and just wouldnt stop" and i interrupted her and said "its 10" and she was like "oh yeah" but then started talking again! so i gigured if i just stay quiet, dont say a word, shell gave to stop talking and leave-- BUT SHE DIDNT! She just went from one topic to the other and WOULD NOT STOP. gooshhh. i mean she wasn't out the door until 12:37 (yes i looked at the clock!) and even then, her last words were 2call me sometime if you feel like talking" AHHHHHHH hlp me!

Well, if she is your bff, then you should be able to talk to her about this, and she should listen to you and respect your feelings on the subject. Maybe you can work it out so you don't have to feel so badly towards her.

Next time she comes over and wants to keep talking, give your parents a heads up about it. Have one of them step in and say "sorry, but it's getting late and time for you to go." They can stand there until she leaves so she understands that they mean business about the house rules. Then at the same time, they can send you to your room or something until she leaves, giving her no chance to start back up with the yaking.

As for thinking you are stuck with her, you are sadly mistaken. You aren't bound by law to be her friend. If she is going to be disrespectful to you after you tell her about your feelings, then she isn't a very good friend to begin with.

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my brother hasnt talked to anyone in the family sice last september, and whenever he does speak.. its something rude like "f*ck off b*tch" and ive tried everything from bing overly nice to him, trying to talk to him to being strict about it and telling him he has to behave. i give up! icant do this! but i need to do SOMETHING because its ruining my life! i come late to school every morning because i need the computer and he refuses to leave.. i ask him sooo nicely and tell him i need it for school but he doesnt even answer.. he just sits there ignoring me. the only time he ever speaks is whe i yell at him,.. and even then he just curses at me. Im a 16 year old female, and he's a 14 year old male... i know he's a teenager but this is too much!

what do i do??

Ahhh, how our brothers can be such jerks...

Is there some known reason as to why he is so rude to his family? If not, maybe you can try to find out. It seems he may have some sort of issues. If you know the problem, maybe you can try to help him.

Don't be strict with him, and don't be overly nice. It isn't working so it is pointless and a waste of your energy to continue on those paths.

Try talking to him. Tell him that you are worried that something is bothering him and you want to try to help him sort it out. Assure him that he can trust you, you are his sister and closest relative. If he doesn't want to talk about it, don't press the issue. Assure him that your door is always open to him if he needs to talk about something.

If and when he does talk to you about it, treat it as strictly confidential. Don't tell others what he says to you in confidence, or you will break his trust in you. (That is, unless he tells you about something that is harmful to himself or others.)

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do you have aim then i can tell the whoel story aboutt the boy

No, I don't. I do have Yahoo messenger. You can post it here, drop a line into my email or send me an IM, if you so choose. My yahoo is blrks05@yahoo.com

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i saw this product on tv where its a light you put in your mouth and it whitens your teeth (my teeth aren't yellow or anything and i brush and floss every day) but i was wondering if that thing worked. Because i tried all teh whiteners out there (crest, oral b, simply white, etc. And i think i want to try the light you put in your mouth for like a couple minutes or seconds or somehting and your teeth are whiter ( i don't have enough enamel on my teeth to mix baking soda and water, do that type of stuff etc.) but can anyone tell me what that teeth whitener light is called and if it works if anyone has ever tried it...thanks

I would strongly advise that if you don't have enough enamel on your teeth to use baking soda, you need to go to the dentist for a professional opinion.

Whiteners damage the enamel on your teeth as it is, to try do do anymore whitening at home could ruin the appearance of your teeth.

It may cost more to go to the dentist for teeth whitening, but it costs through the nose to have your damaged teeth repaired.

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i dont think that he is...

Don't think that he is what?

I presume this is regards to another question? I'm not sure which one because it seems I answer endless amounts of them- that's my goal: to try to help a lot of people.

Get back to me with the details. :D

Please don't give me a rating on this question since I answered nothing. :D

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Do guys usually say yes if u ask them to a dance? Please give me advices so ican feel comfortable about asking this guy to a dance :] Im just scared that he wants to go with someone else.

I don't know if they would usually say yes. Seems more like a 50/50 shot. So the odds are half in your favor, and that isn't bad odds.

If he wants to go with someone else, he will go with that person. If he doesn't have some one else in mind, he may very well say yes.

Keep in mind, the worst he can say is no. I know, rejection seems to be the end of the world, but it really isn't- I promise. Also, you don't want to spend the rest of your days thinking "what if I would have just..."

Ask the guy! :D

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recently I had two pimples on my armpits! Is that normal? because I heard of pimple on your front chest and on your back but never on your armpits! and it really hurts.

So far as I'm aware, you can get pimples any where you have skin pores, and skin pores cover your entire body from head to toe. Some places are less likely than others to develop pimples.

Try using a different kind of deodorant. The kind you are using now could contain oils and other pore clogging agents.

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Well some boy admitted to me online that he did the nod thing to me and he said i turned my head the other way ... i constantly stare at him also he said that his girlfriend was a bitch and she gets on his nerves i also asked why the other day online he wanted nothing to do with me he said idk. i asked why he is still with the gf and he said that he loves her and its only sometimes.do you think he likes me? he also stares at me

In my honest opinion, he may like you, but think about his girlfriend's position. He's giving you the nod and talking to you, etc, etc. If he took you as his girlfriend, there is a high chance that you will be in her shoes when the next "sweet thing" comes along. Then you will be the bitch girlfriend he only loves sometimes.

Is he really worth it?

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yesterday i went and got my belly button pierced. my piercer said to move the ring all the way around everyonce in a while but when i got online and looked up aftercare one website said not to because it will interfear with the healing process.. whats the right thing to do and what other things should i do to help it heal. it still kinda hurts and when i use these wipes to clean it that they gave me i feel like passing out. any advice on how to help it heal fast?

thanks

If you went to a clean, sterile establishment where the people are professional and know what they are doing, you should trust what they tell you. Sites online tend to be contradicting.

As for the cleaning procedures, I can't answer that because I have never had my belly button pierced. It seems to be different cleaning for different piercings.

And yah, it's going to hurt for a while. You just poked a hole through your skin and filled it with a foreign object. It will get better, I promise. Nipple piercings hurt worse, trust me.

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Hello

This is for UK mobile users, thanks.

I'm on Orange Pay as you go, and I've been trying to text my boyfriend who is on 02 for the last 6 hours, and i keep getting the error message "message not sent, try again later"

I can text other people fine, and other people can text him.

Has anyone else experienced this (especially in the last few hours i.e. since 2am saturday 20 january)?

Any ideas what I can do?

Thanks!!

I'm from the US, but I'm going to try to answer your question.

If you aren't having any troubles texting others, it is highly probable that it is his phone with the problem. Have you tried to call him to see if the call goes through?

He may need to call his phone company's customer service to work out any kinks. You may want to do the same. You may be on a pre-pay plan, but you are still paying for a service that is giving you trouble.

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ok so i have a black friend scotti. and another couple friends sara,savannah, joanna,abby,sterling ,and tesia: for the main people... scotti started this thing all of a sudden where she was quiet about it but then i heard she was talking behind my back about me. i confronted her online asking why she was mad at me. she said she was mad at me for being a cunt, whore, slutbaged hoeface bitch. i dont get it after we hang out visit my sailboat huge house she like hates me all of a sudden!??? she wants to beat me up and she has gotten many of my so-called friends to hate me too now. and im not a whore not even close. ok i do flirt but i only have like 20 guys after me rite now. shes is trying to take all the friends i have and its makin me rele mad. ive cried twice today from it and everyone saw me and i cant trust any1 who talks to her. im not sure what to do but if some1 tries to take your friends away from you what should you do?

Well, sounds as though her problem could be that she is so green with envy that it makes her personality ugly.

I'd wager that the attention you get from the guys is a part of it, but that can't be helped.

You say she came to visit you and saw your sailboat and your huge house- which I automatically presume your family has a plentiful income. She, surely presumes the same.

It's sad, really, because she is jealous of you because of your parent's possessions. You don't own a sailboat, or a big house- they do. You just live there.

It's sad that she has become so nasty about it.

You can try to talk to her about it and try to get down to what is really bothering her about you. You can try to salvage your friendship with her, though if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't bother.

Reason being: If she were a real friend, she wouldn't be acting this way. She wouldn't treat you like this. She wouldn't make it a goal in life to turn your "friends" against you.

Learning experience? Now you know who your real friends are. Real friends will stick by you at this time, not turn to her side. And if they go along with her, they aren't your friends to begin with, nor are they worth your effort.

It's sad to me, that so many girls will allow themselves to be used as floor mats by those they want to call friend. Don't be one of those girls. Don't let people wipe their feet on you.

Stand tall and keep in mind you are not above them, but you are above their actions. You refuse to take such abuse from some silly high school girl because she was once your friend. If she and her new followers no longer want to be friends with you, that is their own too bad. Their loss, not yours. It's hard to think this way, but well worth the effort.

Don't let her know you are sad and crying. That just shows her how much she is getting to you. That's her objective in this. Keep your head high and realize that you don't need friends like that anyway. That goes for her, and any other former friend who follows her lead.

I heard something in my youth that made quite an impression on me. I will pass it on to you.

"It is better to have one true friend than a hundred fake friends."

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There is this Boy Called Tom*
WE started walking down from school together as he lives up the road. we really got to know each other and talked on msn everynight . one night he asked me to come up the street with him , i did and everything went ok... untill we met people from our school he is a year older than me so the boys were all older. being boys they stated saying stuff etc The day after Tom told a friend that we went up the street , his friend started this rumour about us and Tom started not talking to me as if he did someone would say something. the only problem is i really like Tom and cant stop thinking about him ! I told him i didnt like him though to stop all the rumours now he doesnt like me ! he is kind of a "freak" to all of my friends so telling them is a no do .



Please help !! i know this sounds stupid and its a long message but i do need help ! any will do !!

You need to talk to this guy. Go to his house, he lives up the road from you.

Start trying to talk to him again on MSN every night.

You need to tell him how you feel. You should talk about such things in person. Find out why he acted the way he did when his friends started saying things about you guys hanging out.

What your friends label him, and what his friends label you should have no bearing on how you feel about each other.

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okay so my firend had unprotected sex for the 1st time im trying to help her find a way to get the EC pill but we dont know how...she is freaking out and like refuses to tell her mom im just trying to keep her calm and everything so my question is how long should we wait to see if theres any sign of pregnancy? where i live you have to be 18 and older in order to get the pill over the counter but shes 16 and yeah idk aha any suggestions????? help asap!! thank you =]

Well, for me to give you suggestions as to how to get something you have to be 18 to purchase at age 16, I would be breaking the law.

The only choice she has for emergency contraception is to tell her mother. However, I don't advise this ever being used as a birth control method. (It was originally intended for women of childbearing age who have been raped or sexually assaulted.) Her mother can help her make a choice that is best for her.

If she doesn't want to tell her mom, she can go to your county's health department (assuming you live in the US) and talk to them about what her options are. It costs nothing.

As for signs of pregnancy here is a link:

http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy_signs.htm

I would suggest if she becomes 2 weeks late for her period to get a test. This can also be done at the health department at no cost.

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i swim at the ymca alot. one day i thought it would be funny to play a prank. it was ona saturday and i was at the pool and alot of little kids where in the pool with there parents. when i went in the pool i had a baby ruth bar in my hand so that no one could see it. i was just wadling in the pool and when i swam past/walked the little kids i just let go of the baby ruth bar. the life guard saw it and ordered everyone out of the pool think it was a hazard to health (they thought it was just was just what i wanted them to think it was- a piece of shit). everyone was making a big deal about it. later that day they found out it was a baby ruth bar (when cleaning the pool that it). they said if the person who did it doesnt confess that they will close down the pool for the rest of the hot weather. i dont kno if they will but im not willing to take a chance because i love that pool so much. what should i do..no tell them, tell them , and if i do tell them what should i say? it was just a joke! HELP.

Yah, Caddy Shack is one of my favorites. You got the idea from that movie, I presume?

Big lesson learned here: What you see on TV and movies is sheer entertainment- not meant to be tried at home. Now you see why that is.

You should confess. Don't risk everyone else having to take the fall for your prank. So, you may get the boot from the pool for a while, but that is just something you get. Our actions have consequences.

Own up to what you did, you will be a better person for it. Let them know it was a joke and you didn't realize it would get so far out of hand or you wouldn't have done it. That would be the truth, now, wouldn't it?

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14/f my best guy friend asked me out today, but i said no because i really don't like him like that (he's like a brother to me), plus he dumped his girlfriend so that he could ask me out! so even if i did go out with him, how do i know that he won't do that to me if he sees another girl that he likes better. i really want him the remain my best guy friend because, like i said he's like my brother and i don't know what i'd do without him, so how do i keep our friendship alive when it is bound to be akward?

The best way to keep your friendship on the straights is to be honest with him. Tell him your true feelings about it.

I know from experience that dating your best guy friend is seldom a good idea. If you break up, the relationship isn't the same. Often times ends up in a loss of a good friendship.

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Why do your eyes get bloodshot when you smoke pot?

"Its irritating smoke dilates (enlarges) blood vessels. (It is not the smoke that dilates blood vessels, but the drug itself. This dilation of the blood vessels also causes the bloodshot eyes.) It also reddens the eyes and inflames the soft and delicate tissues of the nasal canal."

Piece from the article:

Debunking the myth: ‘It’s not a drug, it’s only pot’ By George Guevara

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i need some ways of making new friends and fast. i dont have many (i have a couple)- not because im wierd or anything, but i really cant hold a conversation, like theres an awkward pause. and im shy too. not ONLY that but i act diff. in school then i do when im with my good friends like outside of school. in school im shy and dont really say all that much. outside of school im like loud crazy and wild &funny. i need some help on ways to make new friends fast (ones that i can hang with outside of school and stuff) and ways to be myself in school so people will like me. my one friend follows me around like crazy and gets jelous when i talk to other people. im like her only friend. its anyoying and i kinda wanna pool away from her because its stopping me from meeting new people. I CANT BE JUST HER FRIEND. =]
thanksss.

Well, first and foremost, you should NEVER be afraid of being yourself. When you don't, you are merely wearing a mask of some one you aren't.

The only way you will gain the confidence to be yourself is to stop worrying about what other people think. There will always be people out there that don't like you, and that is their loss, not yours.

Try to gain that confidence and go to school with the thought in your head that you are going to be YOU today. You are going to show these people who you really are, and what you are about. And if they don't like it, that's their own too bad. If they don't like it, they aren't worth your time, anyway.

Honestly? People tend to like those who are crazy, wild, and funny. It is a fine personality to have.

As for your friend, she is going to have to come to terms with reality. You are in no way bound to have only one friend in this world, and neither is she. If she doesn't want to respect the fact that you want other friends, then she isn't a very good one herself.

You should talk to her about this problem, and see if you can salvage your friendship with her.

A real friend won't try to dictate what you do or who you hang out with. It just doesn't work that way.

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By John Clare


I am—yet what I am none cares or knows;
My friends forsake me like a memory lost:
I am the self-consumer of my woes—
They rise and vanish in oblivious host,
Like shadows in love’s frenzied stifled throes
And yet I am, and live—like vapours tossed


Into the nothingness of scorn and noise,
Into the living sea of waking dreams,
Where there is neither sense of life or joys,
But the vast shipwreck of my life’s esteems;
Even the dearest that I loved the best
Are strange—nay, rather, stranger than the rest.


I long for scenes where man hath never trod
A place where woman never smiled or wept
There to abide with my Creator, God,
And sleep as I in childhood sweetly slept,
Untroubling and untroubled where I lie
The grass below—above the vaulted sky.


so i'm going to do this spoken word, but i don't understand it fully. Helppp?

Sounds like he is unhappy, but desires to be happy, so he won't let his many life trials get him down.

I can't help you with that which you do not understand, since you didn't say what part is confusing to you.

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