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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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my boyfriend found out i cheated on him. he broke up with me. i miss him alot. i dont know what to do. i regret it and everything. i was just wondering if anyone as been in this situation and got their boyfriend back some how. please help me please

Honestly, take this from someone who did the same thing. I cheated on my boyfriend two years ago. We broke up 2 weeks after he found out. Since then, I have been trying to get him back with various failed attempts. Your best bet is to take the mistakes you made & change yourself for the better. You can't make him love you again, but you should probably stop talking to him for a little while. Give him some time to himself. While doing so, change yourself because cheating isn't a good quality, and then possibly become his friend and gain his trust back.

I wouldn't expect much though. It sucks to be cheated on.

ok, i was supposed to get my period the day my boyfriend and i had sex. He didnt use a condom. and kinda cam right as he pulled out. i dont think any got IN me but i know it was on me. could i be pregnant?

There's a chance.

Penis + Vagina - Condom + Pulling Out + Cumming = Chance of Pregnancy.

If you miss your period, get tested.

kk. im going out with a girl who is nice but im beginiing to lose interest in her. and theres another girl who i loved before and every since i went out with the girl my feelings for the other one have just become stronger

so do i let the relationship dye down so she dumps me, or do i tell her the truth

You tell her the truth. If you don't like your girlfriend anymore, tell her the truth. Tell her you like someone else & that you don't feel the same thing you did when you first got into the relationship. Tell her it's better to be friends & that it's how you'd like to stay. Just friends.

ok this is a weird question. what do giraffes eat? do they eat fruit or vegetables? and are they usually mean or peaceful?

This question made me laugh when I seen it. My friend is scared of giraffes.

Haha, but I'm pretty sure they're peaceful animals. If you don't fuck with them, they won't bother you. But, as far as I know, they eat leaves.

has anyone ever finished reading the entire dictionary cover to cover? can i do it

I haven't, but it's possible.

i see people with these baby-pink looking gameboy thingies but i dunno what they are exactly. they could be texting on some kind of phone. it looks like a rectangular piece connected to another rectangular piece? uh

I think you're thinking of the Pink Nintendo DS. It's just a hand held video game system.

You can get it at any game store.

i love music that makes you dance but i dont want rap.
i like bands like rediscover and family force 5.
can someone name more bands like that?

but its like good music.
i don't really like playradioplay!

Panic! At The Disco.
Hellogoodbye.
The Medic Droid.
Mayday Parade.
Cute Is What We Aim For.
Jack's Mannequin.

any good ideas for a quote to put on my myspace headline?

I use www.wittyprofiles.com for all of my quotes whether it be for my MySpace, or my away messages on AIM.

I once had my headline as the Vitamin Water Slogan thing. It was "the inside is natural. the outside is plastic." I thought it was funny, so that's what I used.

i just turned 17 a few days ago. i got a ticket for going 75 in a 55, and me and my parents have to go to court. could i loose my licence? i live in rhode island and this is my first ticket, if that helps.

thanks!

There is a chance, but I doubt they will. They'll probably make you pay a fine, and if they don't, they could make you do community service. I doubt they'll do anything major. Just tell the truth & accept what they give you.

what are the bad sides to weed? dangers?

ok well saturday night my mom was really really REALLY drunk coming home with her friend. i know this because my friend was watching the car pull in and noticed they were both drunk. they ended up leaving while drinking so i called my mom and told her to get her a** back! welll her and her friend went upstairs and were at it. they both were loud and um yeah so now i havn't talked to my mom since saturday night. what should i dooo?! it's so awkward !

First off, let me say this; Your mother is a grown woman & can do as she pleases. If she wants to have sex with her friend & get drunk, then she can.

The only thing you need to be mad at your mother for is driving that way. Talk to her about her drinking habits & make her vow to you that she won't drink & drive.

Other than that, let her have sex if she wants. Everyone does it, so you can't get mad at her for satisfying her needs.

So i'm 17/f and I have a friend with benefits who's 20/m. He and I are almost like best friends, and we've had sex 3 times. He's also the one I lost my virginity to. But he's usually the one to ask for sex. The problem is, I need it SOON, and I'm not about to go sleeping around with someone else. I'm a little nervous that if I flat out tell him I want to fool around with him, that I'll creep him out or make him think i'm too clingy, which isn't the case.
So how do I tell him I want to have sex without just saying it?? Thnx!

If he usually asks you for it, I'm pretty sure he won't mind if you turn the tables around it.

The best & only way to say it is just coming out with it. He'll probably get the point better that way since guys can be a little slow & you need to be super blunt about things with them.

my fam has cingular. I get 1500 or soemthing loke that txt messages a month but i want the IPHONE how much is that a month?? I want internet acess and txt messaging and then be able to call ppl obvi. KAY THANKS SO MUCH!

You would need to talk to someone at the store about that. They know the phone possibly inside & out, so they could actually help you more than we could.

Try the Cingular store. All I know about the Iphone is that it's very expensive. If you've got the money for it, then it won't be a big deal to you, but it could make you lose your money & quick.

is it true that if you're asian that means that u have a small penis?

Nope. It's just a silly stereotype.

Recently my best friend (I'll call her Kelly) hasn't been allowed to hang out with me and our group of friends much because her mom is really strict. My boyfriend, who, as of tomorrow, I will have been with for 2 months, is in this group and always has been. I feel like my boyfriend has a crush on Kelly though. Whenever I'm with my boyfriend he will usually have his arm around me or something but when Kelly is there he won't at all (we walked probably a good 3 miles all together going somewhere and he hardly touched me). He teases her a lot too. This guy James who we all recently became friends with (BECAUSE he likes Kelly) hangs around with us a lot now and still really likes Kelly too. I love Kelly but her overwhelming cuteness is so threatening I don't know what to do. I don't want to become one of the annoying girlfriends who is always like "OMG do you like her!?" so I would rather not go to my boyfriend to ask. But should I be so concerned? I feel really worried about it. I mean all of yesterday when Kelly was there I felt really unloved but as soon as she left my boyfriend was back to how he normally is with me. Maybe I'm exaggerating. Nobody else has said anything to me but I have thought about it for a good amount of time and it seems very possible.

Sorry for rambling. I just love this boy and all I want is him to love me (and only me) too.

I think that you should talk to your boyfriend when you see him tonight. Tell him how you're feeling, what you've been thinking & what's been going on. He may not even realize that he's doing this, so talking to him could be a HUGE wake up call.

Tell him that you don't feel loved when she's around, and that if he has feelings for her then he should let you know right now. Yeah, it'll hurt if he does, but at least you'll know the truth & you won't be led on anymore.

So talk to him about it, then talk to her about it. They both need to hear this, so either talk to them seperately or together. It's all up to you, but I hope you straighten things out with this.

what does it mean to 'pop your cherry'.
i know it has to deal with blood and private.

Popping your cherry means that you're losing your virginity. But there are many ways to pop your cherry. Masturbating, horseback riding [sports], or even wearing a tampon can pop your cherry.

so the other night i was coming home late from work. i was at a stop sign and looked out my window and i saw the weirdest thing. i saw fairies floating around dancing with dwarfs and the fairies had those little boots on with the curls at the end. i told everyone about it the next day and nobody believed me. shortly after i saw them again when i was coming home from this crazy party. so i told my parents about the fairies, a big mistake, and yesterday they made me go to the doctor. they told the doctor what i said in private and then he asked to talk to me alone. he told me i had gone way too far this time and he said the fairies and dwarfs were illusions i had created because i'm always smokin and trippin. sure, i do drugs but these fairies were real, i know they were. does anybody else ever see fairies dancing around with dwarfs late at night?

If you're tripping on drugs, it's obviously the drugs that do that to you.

If you don't want to see the fairies anymore, then I suggest you stop doing drugs, and definitely stop driving that way. You can kill someone. Two of my friends died because someone on multiple drugs got in a car & drove.

There were no fairies, you're just insane.

is it true that if you're asian that means that u have a small penis?

Nope. It's just a silly stereotype.

alot of my friends say im a scene girl but i dont know what exactly it means. i know its a stereotype and style.

they say its because i wear bows in my hair; skinny, tight jeans; and flats (shoes).
but doesnt it also have to deal with music?

i know theres indie.

but im confused.
i need a good, full explanation of scene.

When people ask me what scene is, my reply is always the same. "Scene is emo with colour!"

I think the "scene" nowadays has nothing to do with the music. They're just classifying you as that because of the clothes that you wear. If you happen to think you're not scene, kick your friends in the teeth & call it a day. You shouldn't need to listen to their bullshit [friends or not], so don't.

But all in all, scene is exactly what they described. They're like emo kids but they wear colour instead of black. They're mostly into neon colours & rainbows/skulls/lightning bolts. They wear bows in their hair & vans slipons, sometimes flat. Honestly though, if you're happy that way, ignore your friends.

hey,

recently me and my boyfriend had our nine month anniversary but we havent seen eachother in over a month becuase of summer and stuff, and we cant see eachother for another month..well i know i need to break up with him, he make me feel bad all the time, and my parents and friends think im in depression ...but i cant do that im not strong enough. he cheated on me, and then i cheated on him.. bad i know,, he never found out that i cheated on him but i found out he did, through his messages,,and im scared on his vacation he would cheat on me, he told me he loved me like really, but he lies to me constantly and does drugs just to get friends ( or says he does) just to act cool, and i told him my views on that subject becuase i dont want him to get hurt and he said he would change for me, but he hasnt.. well i can tell, but back to lying he lies about little things just to impress people or to make people feel bad for him, so i dont know him at all.. so i need help what do i do?
i think i love him,, or maybe im just loving the idea of love?? please help me xoxo

Honestly hun, you need to dump him. It's gonna be hard to do, and it might hurt him a bit, but honestly; it couldn't possibly hurt as much as all the times that he's hurt you.

Just do it. You have more than enough reasons to break up with him, and they're not dumb either. He's cheated on you, he lies to you, he does drugs & probably drinks as well, & you haven't even seen each other in a month & won't for a while. What's a relationship with no trust, & no honesty? There isn't one.

Break up with him. He's hurting you, and you don't deserve it, so end it before he does you over worse.

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