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My boyfriend and my best friend
Recently my best friend (I'll call her Kelly) hasn't been allowed to hang out with me and our group of friends much because her mom is really strict. My boyfriend, who, as of tomorrow, I will have been with for 2 months, is in this group and always has been. I feel like my boyfriend has a crush on Kelly though. Whenever I'm with my boyfriend he will usually have his arm around me or something but when Kelly is there he won't at all (we walked probably a good 3 miles all together going somewhere and he hardly touched me). He teases her a lot too. This guy James who we all recently became friends with (BECAUSE he likes Kelly) hangs around with us a lot now and still really likes Kelly too. I love Kelly but her overwhelming cuteness is so threatening I don't know what to do. I don't want to become one of the annoying girlfriends who is always like "OMG do you like her!?" so I would rather not go to my boyfriend to ask. But should I be so concerned? I feel really worried about it. I mean all of yesterday when Kelly was there I felt really unloved but as soon as she left my boyfriend was back to how he normally is with me. Maybe I'm exaggerating. Nobody else has said anything to me but I have thought about it for a good amount of time and it seems very possible.
Sorry for rambling. I just love this boy and all I want is him to love me (and only me) too.
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girl, i hear ya! haha. um, i've been going out with this boy who i REALLY like for like a week and a few days.. i'm 13 and so is he.. but, i've basically given up one of my bestfriends for him! but, he has a twin sister and one of my "bestfriends" went to their house this weekend. she has a boyfriend and all but, she's talking to two other boys, going out with another boy, makesout with another one, and she gets fingered by another one. but, last night she kept postin statuses abouit me and him and him and other girls. he normally texts me abunch.. but, today he's only texted me once.. and didn't reply after like 6 maybe 8 or 9 messages.. i know i should trust both of them, but for some reason i dont!
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OMG THIS IS SOO LIKE ME. Ok so ive been dating some boy for like 1 month and a half? and he and my bestfriend are bestfriends. And theres always this group too! And wenever my 2 bestfriends are around he does nothing but ignore me. When they leave hes all nice and everything. But i hate it that he gets mad at me when I ignore him. But,he doesnt want me to get mad at him when he does it. ive heard he likes my 2 friends. i dONT kNOE wat to do either idk if i shOuld ask him or just leave it alone. SO THIS IS WHAT IM GOING TO DO HOPEFULLY IT WILL HELP YOU OUT. IM NOT GONNA ASK HIM ON A TEXT,AIM,OR PHONE. IMMA ASK IN PERSON IF HE HAS FEELINGS FOR THEM CAUSE I WANT TO SEE HIS REACTION. IM GONNA SAY THESE EXACT WORDS "LOOK,ARE YOU HAVING FEELINGS FOR CHELSEA AND CRISTINA? CAUSE,IF YOU DO YOUR SHOWING IT ALOT ND UR HURTING ME" hopefully i culd help a little bit :]
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i hear you! ive been in that exact situation and it drove me crazy just like its doing to you. but let me tell you its ok to be annoying about this becuase you know what, i once just told myself everything was fine and then i found out from my friend that my boyfriend actually called her two times and told her that he loved her! you dont want to act oblivious to everything because that makes it easier for him to get through to your friend by hanging with you. so there is a chance that hes just staying with you to get closer to your friend. seriously this brings me back to so many alike memories and i realized it about the same time you did and i was skeptical but never did anything about it. well guess what happened, they started going out and he broke my heart especially because i loved him. but this isnt about me. all im saying is that you dont want to turn out like my situation. so gain up your courage and tell him what you feel. He might just vent to you about HE really feels and you guys can resolve your issue if he really DOES have feelings for your friend.
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I think that you should talk to your boyfriend when you see him tonight. Tell him how you're feeling, what you've been thinking & what's been going on. He may not even realize that he's doing this, so talking to him could be a HUGE wake up call.
Tell him that you don't feel loved when she's around, and that if he has feelings for her then he should let you know right now. Yeah, it'll hurt if he does, but at least you'll know the truth & you won't be led on anymore.
So talk to him about it, then talk to her about it. They both need to hear this, so either talk to them seperately or together. It's all up to you, but I hope you straighten things out with this.
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with talking to your boyfriend. Confront him because if your thinking it and you were not with anyother girl than your girl instints are probably right. Talk to kelly to. I know this is cheesy but conversation is like the key to sucess haha. Really once you've got your feeling out in the open it gives you another perspective that can maybe solve the problem and put your mind at ease. You are soo right though. OMG do you like her immediatly is a red flag for a guy so try something less blunt. Let him know that you want to have a talk. Get him to make eye contact or know that you has his full attention and then say I love you very much so I just want to know. Do you have feelings for kelly and make it clear that nothing really bad is going to happen if he tells the truth. He got with you not your bestfriend so the chances of him breaking up with you if it turns out that he likes kelly is very small. In the case that he does think about the pro's. If he is in love with another girl and he prefers her over you then there is no point in being in a relationship where your companion does not truly think the world of you. If he likes kelly just for her cuteness then he's swallow and will probably never commit to you if he tells you he does have feelings for her. On the other side it could be absolutely nothing and kelly could totally reassure you that she would never go behind your back with him. =) Sorry I know its a ridculously long answer but sometimes you got to explain as clearly as possible. Hope I helped =) Tell me how it goes or if there's is a problem in this answer thank you!
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