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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

Let me start by saying u rock at adviceeee

but its easier to give then takee.

I go to a school where it is kind of a big deal to date a freshman. He is so cool but u have to undertsnad its just so utterly random to be like 'HEY!!!'
all the senor girls no i luvv him. i even have a nick name for himmm. andeveryone knows him by that name i made up. and wenever anyone sees him they tell mee. im such a hopless romantic

Thank you. I try, that's what I'm here for. You must be referring to advice as to being easier to give than take. It depends on weather it's good advice or not. I'm not always right, you know. I just speak honestly.

I'm not sure what you are asking here, but I'm going to assume you asked me a couple questions already?

Listen, it's like this: Those people who make a big deal out of your age don't matter. It is their opinion- everyone has one. Don't let what other people think dictate what you do in this life. Once you get on that train it's hard to get off.

Obviously you've made some sort of statement. Everyone knows him by a nickname YOU made up. That says something.

If you really like this guy and want to get to know him better, you have to try to find a way to talk to him without being random. I know sometimes that's hard to do, but I imagine you can find a loop hole to make it work.

Do a little research on him. Try to find out what his interests are so you have something to ask him about or talk to him about.
For example: Does he play sports? Ask him how he likes doing that. Ask him if he plans to play that sport in college. You know, stuff like that. It makes a good ice breaker.

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Hi,
I am 14 years old and im female. Im in 9th grade. Im popular. But not the most popular. I have a lot of friends and everyone loves me. My self esteem is at a really low rate though. I do not define myself as 'pretty'. I hav brown eyes, dirty blonde hair, tanishh skin and a cute nose. When i was younger i was gorgeous now, im not. Or at least i dont feel as if i am. I feel as if my nose is getting bigger and closer to my eyes and that i just feel and look gross! At times i look great and feel great but i wanna always feel and look liek that. I wanna be pretty!
Help?Advice?Anything?

You need to change the way you look at yourself. Those who tend to notice all of their flaws tend to feel worse and worse about themselves. Don't focus on things like your nose. Focus on what's good about you.

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U just answered my question, i dont no how to reply to it on my questioin thigny so im writting back thorugh this lol,

i cant just start talking to him,
hes a SENIOR!!!! and i have spoken to him b4 like for a sec and it wud be to random to talk tom him, but i really like him. i know im screwed !

Don't be intimidated by his grade level. There are many seniors who date freshman. It's not that big of an age difference.
You are only as screwed as you allow yourself to be.

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I have a huge crush on a senior, and i am but a freshman. I am popularishh and cutee, Hes popular single and no one in his grade lieks him as more then a friend. It is to random and dareing to randomly start talking to him, what should i do?

p.s i think he knows i like him. =0

Talk to him. He knows you like him, so if he isn't interested he'll let you know.

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So I like this guy and he likes me too. But he has a new years resolution to not date anyone in the year 2007. So I either wait the year or forget about him. And I dont want to forget about him. Should I make him forget the resolution or should I wait?

Well, it's kind of rude to make some one break a resolution. That is asking him to break a promise to himself.
If you really like him, you will respect his resolution and wait on him. Otherwise, move on.

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what are some basic fashion do-s and don't-s?

thanks in advance!!

Basic, huh?

DON'T go naked. Definite fashion don't.

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How do you START a fight to END a friendship?

I've written many questions about one of my "best friends" on here, and i've come to a conclusion (please don't try to talk me out of it.. i think this is the wisest thing to do) i need our friendship to end, and the only way to end it is by having a HUGE fight.

Only problem is, she would NEVER pick a fight with me, no matter what i do wrong, so she needs to do something wrong that i could "not forgive" her for.. you know? but its not like i can GET HER to do something wrong, is there? and if so, what?

i know it's supid, but seriously.. my question is.. how can i pick a fight with my best friend that could end with me saying "shut up, you annoy the hell out of me..bye" or something along those lines???

I'm glad you realize it's stupid, because it is. Do you really think that picking a fight with her is going to make you the better person? Sorry, the answer to that is no. It would be so much easier to just tell her what you want to say to her, to shut up, she annoys you, you don't want to be friends.

Why stoop to such low, low levels? That is just too sad.

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I helped this girl friend get into the institution I'm working for. She was a big hit as an academic coordinator, but success went into her head. She's spreading rumors about the owner ( who is a well respected family man) having fantasies about her. She is so full of herself that all the guys in the office thinks she's an easy lay. She's also bragging that back in college, all the guys I wanted to date likes her instead of me?!? I am a teacher and I worked hard to earn the respect of my colleagues and my students, but I'm tired of being linked to her promiscuity's. Is there a way I can get out of this monster I created?

I would file a complaint against her to your authority. She has no business spreading rumors about you or anyone else at work. She needs to realize one way or another that when she is in a professional environment, she needs to act like it.
I'm sure that if the owner knew of her rumors about him, she wouldn't have a job very long. That's just the breaks of the game when you can't learn to keep your mouth shut.

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Someone told him i liked him and so i had a friend go ask him if he likes me and he said he hates me. I still like him and the girl who told him is my friend. What do i do?


13/f

Get over him and move on. You can't make him like you.

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Lately i think one of my wisdom teeth is growing in. The gum around it is killing me for about a week and it feels kind o like they'res a rift or the gum is splitting open or something.

idk it just really hurts!

Use Orajel on the gums to help with the pain. The gum IS splitting open, it has to in order to allow the tooth to push through. (Thank God we don't remember teething as babies- it is painful.)

It would probably be a good idea to have a dental exam to make sure it has enough room to grow in. A lot of people don't have enough room back there, so they could start forcing against your molars and pushing your teeth forward in order to make room.

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I'm 15 yr old male. I had a best friend for about a year now. We got into an argument yesterday and he wont talk to me anymore. I tried talking to him, saying sorry, everything. Its only been 1 day though. He got mad because He thought one of my other friends knew more about me than what he does. And no because he knows the most about me. Today at lunch he wouldnt talk to me.. I'd do anything to get my best friend back
please help me ={

Give him time to cool off. If he is your best friend, he will start talking to you again. He's just mad right now, and obviously feeling hurt. Let him have a few days to collect his thoughts and then try to talk to him.

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this kid, who i used to be best friends with, but then this thing happened & so i figured he hated me [because he blocked me for one] so i didnt talk to him anymore. [but i kinda turned him down, to like him.. is that maybe why...] anyways, i switched schools & now go to his school. & people told me he was excited i was coming. & i was like .. oh great, he'll probably pick on me.. so then anyways, when i get there, about 7 or 8 people asked me if i knew him, if they remember that i dated him, if i was still his girlfriend, & what i thought about him.

when i saw him, all of his friends were like "no way!" & staring at me. & stuff. i didnt really get what that meant..

what was happening therE?

Seems as though he told his friends at school that you dated him and were his girlfriend. Otherwise, why the questions asking if you remembered dating him and if you were still his girlfriend? Kind of odd, considering you turned him down.

Guess his lie caught up to him when you came to his school, didn't it?

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Was Kurt a happy guy,or was he sad?This is something that's always bothered me,because I've heard that he was generally a fairly happy (or at least average)person,but I've also heard that he was upset with his life and felt very isolated (which would make sense because of his lyrics,his upbringing,and the crowd that he was trying to reach).I know that no one could really know for sure,but what do you think?

Had to have had some serious depression issues to kill himself and leave behind a baby girl to be raised by an alcoholic, drug addicted, crazy woman who really doubtfully has any business raising children. (Sorry Courtney Love fans, but we all know what kind of person she is.)

I love Nirvana music and was very sad to hear of his death back when I was in highschool, but even then I knew how selfish of an act that was, thinking on his daughter's behalf.

As for being fairly happy, I would say that was possibly an induced feeling brought on by addictions? If he was fairly happy, he would still be here being a father to his child.

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I'm really close to one of my teachers and she was recently married, as a gift to her I wanted to make her a DVD type of thing from pictures from her wedding. What I plan on doing with those pictures was making a slide show type of thing with their wedding song (Bless the Broken Road - Rascal Flatts) playing in the background. I know it can be done because my cousin used to do that every Christmas using family pictures, it's kind of hard to explain, but I'm sure someone will know what I'm talking about. I already told me teacher I was going to do it, she's making a CD of pictures she doesn't mind me using. (I wasn't at the wedding at I needed the pictures, this was the only way to get them). So I can't really go back on it, and I can't ask my cousin because she's out of state and I have zero way of contacting her (I've already tried). So I figured I'd ask anyone here if they knew how to do it.

If not then I'm probably going to resort to something lame like how people make picture slideshows for their myspace, but I'll just find a way to use music with it.

But I'd really like someone to let me know how to make something like that. I don't care if all it does is show the pictures with music on the background saved to a CD that you can only use in the computer. I would prefer to make it a DVD of the pictures and music (so her and her husband and family can all watch it). As far as I know they don't have a home computer, then again, I don't know if they have a DVD player, but I know that her mother does. Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone knew how to do that and could give me instructions (or a site) on how to do something along those lines.

Or if anyone has any better ideas on how I can do something using those pictures and their wedding song (and other cute love songs).

Thanks in advance.

Sorry about the category, it was the closest I saw that somehow went with the topic of my question.

No need to rate me. Just regurgitating information others have already told you.

I made a DVD of my wedding photos just like you are wanting to do with my wedding songs on the windows movie maker. Works great and is very simple to do once you figure it out. (And it's not hard at all to figure out)

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My mom and Dad hate each other. My Dad is an ass and my mom always complain that I am just like him just because I agree with what he says. And it isn't because of any reason I just think that his ideas are smarter then hers. Like for example: i was doing my homework and i didn't know this answer so she said to just ask the teacher and he'll give me all the answers but my dad said I should look at the answers at the back of the book cuz then I'd try and see how i got the answers and then I'd get it. And then she told the whole family (aunts, everyone) that I like Dad more then her and now everyone hates me because I like my dad more then her and it's not even true! And she asked me to fix the remote but I said I didn't know how and I meant it and she yelled back, YOUR JUST LIKE YOUR FATHER! God! someone help me feel better because she's a bitch but I always cry and get depressed.

On your mother's behalf, the teacher can SHOW you how to get the right answers. Their job is to teach you. Looking up the answers in the back of the book isn't always the best way to learn something.

However, I think you need to have a serious heart to heart with your mom. She needs to understand that she is cutting you down and making you feel bad. Mothers should never be that way to their children, if you ask me. And deliberately making your family upset with you is not good at all.

You have to tell her how you feel and how she makes you feel. Let her know she makes you cry and get depressed. Let her know that these strange ideas she has that you like your dad more are foolish ones. Let her know that you feel she is out to turn your family against you.

If it doesn't change how she acts, at least you may feel a lot better knowing that you got it off of your chest and knowing she realizes how she makes you feel when she acts that way.

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i love getting high.Because i have alot of stress and depression but i dont tell people about it.So i get high to help me out.If i dont have pot i'll freak out an i'll act like im bipolor.What should i do?Should i just get help?Or should i get high anyways because pot doesnt really hurt me but just controll myself?????

If pot were legalized, it would be a controlled substance probably more so than alcohol. It would likely be something bought in a pharmacy with a prescription. No, it isn't good for you, and yes, it can hurt you. It is a depressant, and if you feel depressed, though it makes you feel good "right now" it will only make your depression worse in the long run.

I think you should get help. There are better ways to get your stress, depression, and emotions under control than using an ILLEGAL substance that could land you in jail.

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if you were bleeding internally in your head, how fast would it kill you, and what symptoms would you show?


http://www.brainandspine.org.uk/information/publications/brain_and_spine_booklets/head_injury_and_concussion/what_will_1.html

Doesn't answer all of your questions, but does tell you how serious such a situation is.

If you need more information, google internal head bleeding.

If this isn't a hypothetical question, I sure hope this person sought immediate medical treatment in the emergency room.

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Shelley (who is skinny) was talking to Audrey (a coworker). Audrey asked; Shelly when is your birthday; Shelley told Audrey when it was; Then Audrey said: Well here they are so stingy, all our company gets when we celebrate a birthday of a coworker is a cake; like we need cake; The topic was changed to something else. Every one (including Audrey) always tells Shelly that she is skinny. Later on that night Shelley asked her friends; Is Audrey implying anything and does she think I am fat; Shelleys friends said; No Audrey is not implying anything. She is just saying cake is not healthy; MY QUESTION: DO YOU AGREE WITH SHELLEYS FRIENDS?

As usual, I agree with the friends. As usual, Shelly worries too much over small things. And, also as usual, I wish that she would not worry so much because there is no need to. As usual, I wish she would just be happy with who she is and not fret and stew over other people's comments.

See, she didn't say it to mean anything towards Shelley's body weight. She didn't even say it to mean cake is not healthy either, per say. Women always tend to say things such as "like we need cake" considering women in general are obsessed with their weight.

She really just said it meaning that the employer is cheap about employee birthdays. Instead of, say, a bonus on their paycheck, they get a measly cake. "Like we really need cake [we need a bonus instead]"

Happy birthday to Shelly, whenever it is, and I hope it brings a new year filled with inner peace and no more needless worries.

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heyy umm i have just picked a new hairstyle and the picture shows dark brown under the blonde and im a natural blonde with straight hair and i wsa wondering what you guys think i should get the regualar blonde or the brown under the blonde well here is the hair style:
http://www.bestseatsusa.com/images/carrie2.jpg

Well, my personal opinion would be to do the brown under blonde, but I favor a darker brown than that. Gives it a little more distinction. I don't know what you look like to know if it would be just perfect for you, but I do know that her hair looks pretty good on her.

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" 2. You are too young to have sex if you aren't ready for the responsibility of raising a child. Having a baby is an end to normal life as you now know it. As a matter of fact, YOU WILL HAVE NO LIFE! Are you a teenager and think you're ready? Ha ha. You are way too funny. Take down my email. Ask me to tell you in full gruesome detail about raising a child. I will scare the wee right out of you with the reality of it. "

Tell me about raising a child, I'd like to know. I think I'm old enough to have sex, and fully take on the responsibility of a child if somehow I get pregnant.
So I'm just asking now, in case you can make me thing otherwise..?

Amazingly enough, you are the first person to ever ask me such a question. Want some details, do ya? Ok. This will be a long one. Hope you like to read.

Please note that from how you asked, I am going to completely assume you are a teenager. I may be wrong, but I highly doubt it. Otherwise, you wouldn't have said you "think" you are old enough.

First off, lets talk about money. Do you like money? Kids cost a lot of money before they are even born, and more after. Say bye bye to your folding money! Let me give you a break down...

Before birth: Well, we need some furniture for our nursery. Check out walmart.com. That's where I got these prices, and that is one of the cheapest places to get such things.
Bassinets run around $90. Fun considering you only use them for 4-6 months. We don't want baby sharing our bed, do we? That way increases the chances of SIDS. Cribs cost around $100. Dresser $100, Wooden rocker $35, Crib bedding set $35, Bassinet sheets around $10.

So, with buying the cheapest priced furniture and bedding (no personal style what so ever), we have so far a total of $370.

Now, we have to be prepared with clothes at $12- $14 per set. Nice considering they outgrow them in a heartbeat. You get, say, 10 outfits for baby. That's $120 at $12 per outfit. Got to have some diapers on hand. At least $10 for one small pack of newborn diapers. Look at at least $15 for a diaper bag. Can't forget the car seat! Another $50 out the window. Another $50 for a pack-n-play. Those are a blessing. Got to have one of those.

Our total is now up to $615 and our baby isn't even born yet. Let's move to something else that costs before baby is born.

If you have no health insurance, vaginal birth costs around $2500. That is if all goes smoothly. C-sections cost more. They will want you to have sonograms periodically, and that isn't included in the cost. At least $150 each, and you would have at least 2.

You will need a car to get you back and forth to your many, many OB appointments- at least $5000 for a decent used clunker. Said auto needs tags and insurance. For a teenager, at least $1000 per year.

Now we are up to a total of $9415. Boy, this bill keeps racking higher and higher. Still, no baby born. I'm going to quit keeping track of prices now. You are getting the point, aren't you?

Gas isn't cheap, at $2.00+ per gallon. You need a home of your own. Rent is not cheap by a long stretch. You need to furnish your home, pay for water, gas, electric, sewer, trash, better have a phone in case of emergency. You have to eat, so must have groceries. Got to have something to eat on, so must have pots, pans, dishes and silverware.

This all takes a good job, or a couple of decent jobs to pay for. Remember now, you say you think you are old enough to be FULLY responsible- that means you do it on your own. Mommy and Daddy don't pay for these things, you do. Mommy and Daddy don't care for this child, you do. Mommy and Daddy don't provide a roof over it's head, you do.

And don't forget this- if you are a teenager, there is a high possibility of you being a SINGLE PARENT. Do you really expect a 16 year old BOY to step up and be a father? You may just be on your own, girl.

Lets also not forget, how are you going to finish high school, with having jobs to FULLY SUPPORT a child? What are your thoughts on going to college? Got to FIND time to get your GED first, then hope that sometime in the next 10 years you will be able to have time and afford going to night school at a local community college. Bye bye University!

Because, lets face it- any woman with a baby is a busy one. You got to feed a newborn every 4 hours around the clock. It doesn't care if you are tired. It doesn't care if you haven't had a bath in a week. It doesn't care if you haven't had time to eat today. It's hungry now and isn't capable of feeding itself. Remember: this is all YOUR JOB if you are ready to FULLY take on RESPONSIBILITY of raising a child.

And my, oh my, when the baby is sick or teething- guess you can sleep sometime next week... Got to get up bright and early to go to work,you know. Can't miss a day's pay, and sure can't risk losing that job.

By the way, daycare runs around $150 per child, per week, even if they don't go all week long. Have to pay to keep that slot open. It's hard to find good daycare for newborns.

Oh, and guess what? No more time for friends. No going out and partying. No going out to goof around. Hey, you have to grow up REAL FAST, and your friends WON'T grow up with you. They don't have to be a responsible adult, but you sure do. Won't it be SO much fun to watch them live out their youth while you have to become a woman and be a parent? No time for you to have a good time. You have a baby who depends on you.

Gee, all of this and only a newborn baby as of yet. Do I need to go on? Have you heard enough?
Are you sure you are prepared to fully take on the responsibility of raising a child? Can you do all of this on your own, or would you have to stick your parents with the hard stuff? Can you say that you would be able to fully care for a child and give up all of the things in your life without having resentment towards an innocent baby who doesn't ask to be here?

That's up to you to decide.

I like your question. I think it's a very good one. Shows me that you must think about the consequences of your actions before you act. I just hope I gave you something real to think about.

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