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hola. well you see i take accutane and people who took that were getting depressed (psh like 2 ppl) and the company didnt want to get sued so they put in the booklet "may cause depression" but yeah i feel so depressed and i have for a long time. emphasize the long. I dont sleep, and there are times when i dont eat. im really anxious and EVERYTHING makes me nervous. like standing in line at a store and paying.. cuz i wont b able to put my money away fast enough and i'll hold up the line or i'll get my money out to slow or something like that. its pretty ridiculous as you can see. ANYWHO i dont want to tell my mom how i feel bcuz sometimes im ok, (like sometimes at skool), i dont want her to send me to a psychiatrist, i dont want her to go crazy and be like are you thinking about killing urself?!?!? all the time... She's done that b4.. but the main reason is that i dont want her to try to link it to accutane.. bcuz my skin is lookin ok! ** is anyone else taking anti-depressants or have some of my same problem? what do you take and how does it affect you?
thanks- srry so long
Sweetheart, you don't need a psychiatrist to put you on a good antidepressant. Your regular doctor can do this just fine. Just tell your mother you aren't feeling well and see if she'll take you to your general practitioner. Tell him EXACTLY what's happening and what you are taking. I have taken Prozac, Effexor, and am currently on Lexapro. They are all what's called Seratonin re-uptake inhibitors. All that means is that the chemical Seratonin in you brain (it effects mood, body temp, and several other things) needs help to stay in your system long enough to work properly. Heredity and certain drugs can cause a reduction in Seratinon production, also things like nutrasweetened products and a few other foods I can't remember right now. Eating turkey and pasta can help up the production, and avoiding diet colas. If a change in diet doesn't help enough, I would suggest Effexor personally. I intend to switch back to it as soon as I can afford to go back to the doctor. There are many options for medication and you may have to try more than one to find what's right for you. I left Prozac because it was causing fridgity in my marriage. Other than that it worked fine. I switched from Effexor because if you miss a dose you revert to your old symptoms very quickly. Lexapro doesn't work too well for me and has an annoying side-effect (constipation). Discuss everything with your doctor and read up on some of the other medications available to you. A note on suicide and Prozac, this is not medically proven, just my own experience and opinion. When someone is severely depressed they loose the energy to do anything including commit suicide. Everything just seems like too much effort. Once the medication starts working, there is more energy. The bad part of this is that is takes months for Prozac's full effect to kick in. During this period I know I had more thoughts of death, and I can only assume that someone with less support than I had could be very tempted to end everything during this time. It sound like you are mildly depresed and just need a little help. Don't worry too much about that particular side-effect. Good luck!
i have a mini dachshund he is 2 yrs old,he was born with what appeared to be a scratch on his eyeball,as he grew so did the scratch,it now take up half his eye and it has a foggy color to it,and what we believed that was a scratch looks as if it was actually hair,there are a few pieces of hair growing ,it is embedded inti his eye.is this possible?
Yes, it is possible. You may want to see if your vet can remove it. Your dog will likely lose his sight in that eye either way, but that is not a big deal in a dog this young. He will be able to compensate quickly to the loss, and he may not be able to see out of it now. Good luck, and take the poor dear to a vet. This condition can't feel good.
ok.. i have like.. the worlds worst father.. he has no pics of me or my 2 siblings in his house.. he gave my PS2 to my step brother.. he bought me a 50$ present for chrissy and thats it.. he didnt want me to get my car lisence, and he said the job that took me half a year to get is unsecure and crap (22$ and hour -making all things plastic in cars(holdens for you in aus)) what should i do about this? atm i see him about once every six months...
This is a man to ignore. I agree, he sucks. You only see him every 6 months or so. Tell your mother you'd like to discontinue visitation that his influence is disturbing and not welcome. There are only two reason I can think of that would explain his behavior, one that he wants to control you from a distance, but I think it is most likely that he is punishing you to hurt your mother. This may just be a problem between the two of them and you need to find a means of forcing a confrontation between them to be sure. If your mother is not willing to talk to him about this you may be better off to suspend your affections, though I know he's your father and that dispite everything I'm sure you love him. You can't allow him to control you in anyway. every 6 months does not give him a right to make choices FOR you. That is your mom's job since she is the custodial parent (so I assume since you don't live with him.) If any of this sounds right think about my suggestions, family counceling would be a great thing, but I don't forsee him agreeing to something like that. He is just too distant. I hope he wakes up and realizes how badly he is hurting you, but men are notoriously selfish when they seek to control something or someone. Good Luck, Sweetheart. I hope things get better.
I found out yesterday that a good friend of mine was killed at a party. Someone had slipped ecstasy in her drink and then she was brutally raped while she was passed out. I feel like this is all my fault. The reason being is because I always went to parties with her and I would always tell her "Beck, don't drink at parties". She'd always yell at me and tell me that I acted like her mother. But I knew I was right, I don't trust the drinks that people hand out at parties. The guy that raped her was my ex-boyfriend. I still feel like this was all my fault because, had I been there, he wouldn't have done anything to her because he's afraid of me. I'm sure by now you're all probably thinking "This is a load of bull" but believe it. This actually happens to people. She was my best friend. I knew I should have gone with her to that party. I'm completely miserable right now. She was my best friend. I always figured that nothing like that could ever hit so close to home. I'd always see stories like this on the news and I'd think to myself "How could they be so stupid?" Or, "That would never happen where I live." But it has. I don't know how to handle this. My ex boyfriend was arrested and my friends family is waiting to go to court but in the time being, I don't know how to handle myself. I don't even have the courage to go to her funeral tomorrow. I need help getting through this. Please help me... Thank you for those who take this seriously. I would really also like a non-sarcastic answer because this is a touchy subject for me. Thank you.
I apologize for the length.
First off, BIG HUG! Sweetheart this is not your fault. I know all the "oh no it's not your fault" platitudes that people will tell you don't mean anything to your heart, but there was no way for you to protect your friend from harm. Reasons this is your fault: You were not at the party, fine. You felt that you could have prevented her death if you had been there, fine. These points are undoubtedly true, but as much as you love and want to protect someone there is NO WAY HUMANLY POSSIBLE to be there for someone through every event in their life. If you'd been at this party, there would have been another one. Or maybe not even a party. Bad things happen, bad people exist. Those of us who care do what we can, but we aren't God. Until something of this magnitude occurs you really can't predict it. That's why so many people don't believe something like this can happen. We don't want to see the monsters around us.
For yourself you must go to her funeral tomorrow. You will never forgive yourself if you don't. Find some counciling too. You have what's known as survivor's guilt and you will need to work through this over a long period of time. Please go to the funeral. You really need the closure of the ceremony and to be close to her family. I offer you love and support through your sorrow. I wish there was more I could give.
the other day, my boyfriend came over and we were sitting on the couch. then we started kissing. he slipped his tounge into my mouth and i did the same. (we were kissing for like 10-15 seconds) is that considered just french kissing or making out?
That's pretty much just a kiss. Making out involves roaming hands and kissing and would hopefully last much longer.
I invited a friend to rent a room in my house for around half the cost normally charged. I did this because she is planning to travel and was considering moving back to the small town where she's from (a step backwards), to save money and because her existing flatmate was never home,basically I did it as a favour for a friend.
Through the grapevine i hear another friend of hers wants her to move to her house for double the rent. Apparently my friend answered that she couldnt as she was trapped at my house.
I'd like to handle this situation with maturity as i dont quite know who to believe, this other friend is pregnant and has stopped contacting me and Im told she is putting me down at any chance she gets, although Im at a loss to know what Im supposed to have done to make her feel this way.
You may respond with "who needs friends like these" and you may be right, but I try to see past pettiness to the good in people.
Just let it go for now. Your other friend is pregnant and is going through ALL kinds of madness in her body and head. You may not have done anything to her at all. My mother and my godmother had a split that lasted almost 22 years over a comment my mother made about my GMother's newborn son. Something about how big his ears are I think. MY mother meant it that it was an endearing trait, but my godmother didn't talk to her for 22 years. All hormones and misunderstanding. (Although he does have big cute ears.) As to the friend renting your room, she could have said what your other friend reported, but people often say things in a way someone else wants to hear it. If you have a concern discuss it with her, but try not to take too much stock in what others overhear. Things can be taken all out of context. Good Luck!
there is this boy in my class who came here in the middle of the year. and now he thinks he owns it. its really annoying!! he thinks he is cute and always brags. but he wears the same pants for like three days straight. its kinda nasty. he smells funny too. but the thing is. he makes fun of everyone, but he doesn't really have any room to talk. what should we do.
confused classmates. ( 9th graders )
OK, he is begging for attention. This is a sure sign that he is extrememly insecure and doesn't expect anyone to like him to begin with. To make things easier he's making sure that no one does while also ensuring that he at least has noteriety. I'm not sure you can make him quit. You could ignore him, but that could just make him worse. Guys like this usually end up into drugs and worse, but some can prove to be really nice, smart and fun to hang around if you treat them well. I've always gotten along great with people like this. I just treat them like they aren't doing anything weird, although I have been known to tell them when they're being gross. Acceptance tends to calm them down because it's not what they're expecting. As to the lack of clothing change and smelling funny, that can be anything from part of his act to serious problems at home. Ignore it. It will either improve or not. The boy has problems and there is no easy answer, but I've told you what I do with people like that. So far in my 31 years it's been the best means of dealing with most everyone. I have many fond memories of my freaky friends from jr and high school. They certainly made my life more interesting. Luck!
i hurt my wrist playing volleyball about a month ago. my dad told me it was sprained and it would stop hurting in about a week or so. but my wrist has been hurting for a month. i can't do pushups or lift anything without it hurting. what do u think i've done to it? i rate high!
This is neglect. It sounds to me like a hairline fracture. It can't heal on it's own the way you are over working it. You need to get to a doctor for an x-ray. A doctor will be able to properly slint or cast or sling the injury and give you a list of activities you should and should not do to help promote healing. I have been in a simialr situation. I hurt my toe when I was young and it hurt all the time, but my parents wouldn't take me to the doctor. They said there was nothing the doctor could do for it. Now at age 31 I have since had it x-rayed by my podietrist because the toe is permenantly blue-black and I have terrible pain from athoritis in it. He said that my toe had been dislocated and never properly alligned. That NOW there is nothing he can do to help me, but a set and splint when the injury happened would have healed it completely with little to no athoritis. Some days I have trouble wearing shoes due to the ache. My parents felt terrible when I told them. This is satisfying, but not a solution to my current pain. 23 years ago is when my current pain could have been remedied. If your parents won't take you find a free clinc or something. You need to go. Good Luck!
MY DOG is 12 years old and is suffering from arthritist.and last year he started to eat charcoal and vomiting it out.Do u think this is normal?does your dog do this?
Eating charcoal is not normal. When an animal even a human starts craving weird things it usually means that new food has a substance in it that they need. Try giving your dog a canine multi-vitamin. They have various formulas and you can even get a suggestion from your vet which ones would be best for your dog. All older dogs have special needs and should be watched closely for odd behavior. A lot of times this will be the only way you an catch an illness in time to save their lives. Younger dogs are stronger and missing a few signs can usually be overcome. But I think your dog just needs some extra vitamins. Good Luck!
I'm 15/f in highschool and I know this girl who is pregnant. This isn't about wether its right or wrong, but, she's 15 also, and in my grade. I've known her since 4th grade(just about). She just found out she was pregnant, and I'm on good terms with her and everything, but were not best friends. Y'know? I was thinking I should go up to her and tell her that if she needs anything, I'd be there for her. Should I? Would it be inappropiate? -Sarah
No, it wouldn't be inappropriate as long as you truely mean it. I'm sure she needs all the friendship and support she can find right now. Just make sure in your heart that you're willing to follow through with the promise if you make it. Again, it is not wrong as long as you really want to help her. Big Hug!
Hi again,
You earlier replied to my question on my weird period. I don't think the heavy flow has anything to do with illness, as I know its not that heavy compared to what some people must have, but when I was four I had some trouble that was treated. Could it have come back somehow or be related to anovulation? Please PLEASE reply- I'm really worried about this.
Zoinatrobe.
Take a deep breath and relax. Don't worry until you need to. Heavy flow can be perfectly natural, sweetheart. Every woman is different. Also it would not be caused by illness. It is a CONDITION which is different because it's not caused by an outside source and that only occurs during a period of time. Why I mentioned it is because my mother had severe periods like this and they were not normal, but the only treatment she could have used, birth control pills to regulate the hormones,(also the treatment for anovulation by the way)did not work for her. The pills made her so sick that she was unable to take them. This should not worry you since that was YEARS ago. The pill has come a long way since then. What concerns me is that you have such pain with your period (the pain by itself can also be perfectly normal) along with the length of the course and the time lapse between. I don't know if your problem from childhood could be causing some of this. You may have scar tissue that is preventing your body from following its proper cycle. I am not an expert, I just have some experience with afew similiar problems. What I DO know is that the best thing for you to do to ease your mind and get some relief is to go to a good gynocologist. A note on anovulation, it would not be the cause of the pain. It is a condition where your body cannot properly read the change in hormone levels that is supposed to release your egg and start your cycle. This leads to high levels of estrogen in your system and can cause you to be excessively moody and eventually can lead to uteren/cervical cancer if left untreated. (Like having PMS ALL the time.) It also means your body doesn't know when you should stop your period either. Women with anovulation can have severely heavy flows for weeks or light flows requiring no more than a panty liner, but that last for months. It depends on the level of hormones in her body. Also a woman with anovulation has a major problem if she wants to get pregnant. With her body unable to release her eggs she may never become fertile. Again, breathe deep and know none of the major issues like cancer and sterility happen overnight. It would take years of neglecting these conditions to develop these secondary problems. While not fun, going to the gyno is the only way you'll get an accurate picture of what's happening to you. My gyno is my primary doctor. He is wonderful, patient and most of the first appointment is spent discussing your issues before you have an exam. I know I can tell this man anything, because he KNOWS what fears I have and it is his job to discuss these uncomfortable female problems. It is a relief sometimes just to talk to him about the down there issues that you wouldn't even tell your mom. Also you can get a female doc, but I've been to both and the men were far more gentle and understanding of my fears. The female docs were just, I don't know mechanical about the whole process. They didn't seem to care how uncomfortable the process can be. The male doc I use lets me know what he's doing and though totally professional and fast, it seems more as though he makes an effort to be gentle. I have never been hurt by the male docs, I have by the women. This is a personal choice, but I thought I should mention it. You need to go if only because since you have your period it's time. That you have some serious concerns it is imperitive that you find a good doctor and let them examine you. Things are usually not as bad as you may think, and the two conditions I have discussed both can be treated with medication. Good luck, sweetheart. Feel free to leave me another question and I'd like to know how you're doing when you find out if anything IS wrong. Big Hug and stay calm. You'll be fine, I'm sure.
My period is really weird- it comes every 2 to 3 months, lasts for ages (around 10 days), is excruciatingly painful and has a VERY heavy flow. Is there something wrong with me? Please help,
Zoinatrobe.
You REALLY need to see a gynocolgist for this. Don't be frightened, but what you have described can be a serious problem that will need medication. The every 2-3 month cycle and long flow sounds like anovulation to me, but the heavy flow could also indicate something called endometriosis. Anovulation is a factor in uterene cancer. Endometriosis is painful and usually gets worse with age. There are also many other things that effect a woman's cycle, but these are the two yours most closely resembles that I have experience with. Whatever, it is not normal and should be checked ASAP by a professional. Good Luck!
Okay I am 40 weeks pregnant. I was due xmas day. I still have not given birth! What could be taking so long? I am becoming so miserable, uncomfortable and irritated, not to mention impatient. Please if someone has any suggestions please help!
This is what obstetricians are for. Go to one.
My friend cuts herself. And it really scares me she talks about killing herself sometimes. Like she thinks no one would miss her. Sometimes I wanna kill myself too but I realize how many people would miss me. But she doesn't seem to realize that. She doesn't cut herself often like she only did once but I am just scared it might become a habit. What should I do? And its not that serious enough to tell anybody yet and she would get really mad if I told anyone. I don't plan on doing anything until it gets worse like i see marks on her arms. What should I do to keep her happy and keep her not thinking about killing herself? I'm so scared right now please help me! I rate High and leave comments too!
Tell NOW! Do not wait until she is stuck in a pattern of self abuse. That you know anything about this should be warning enough. She could go straight from one cut to suicide. This is not something to fuck around with. Get your friend the help she needs now before it is too late to help her.
What do i do when your talking to your friend online and shes kool then shes tells you this."okay, well jason is 16, and i dont like him. and he always forces me to fuck with him, when i dont want to. so im basically being raped everyday beacause we have sex everyday but sometimes i do want to, but if i dont he will get mad and start to hit me to force me i dont know wat to do, he is in the kitchen right now so i wanted to hurry up and tell u befor he came back because he is stayig over here for a few days." Then i say the best thing is the cops.Then she says "Jason told me if i called the police on him hed kill me" She asked me for help now im asking you .... Please help me
I need more information for this one. How old is your friend, does she live with parents, guardians or fosters? How come the guy is allowed to stay at her house for a few days? These are important to know to give an accurate answer. If the guy is some kind of relation or is trusted in the household it puts her in an extremely dangerous and cop scary position. There are other things that can be done, but the truth is the best meaning advise could get her killed if it's not well-informed. Expecially in a situation like this. I wish I could just give you a blanket answer, but this guy is seriously unbalanced. Your friend has a right to be afraid. Also, since she does sometimes want the attention she is feeling like this situation is her fault and may lie to the police if you report it. Please update your question.
there is this guy who likes me ALOT, and i can tell he does whenever we're together, but then whenever we get around other people (only gurls) he kind starts flirting with them too. he doesnt flirt with them as much as he does with me at all, but still its the fact that he does flirt that makes me not like him as much.. is he just tryin to use me? or is he tryin to be nice to other people and just doesnt realize he's flirting?
Don't worry about casual flirting. It doesn't mean anything accept that he likes people, girls. This is a healthy and good thing. Be aware that he shows you the most attention and that you are the person he wants to spend time with. Some people just flirt. It's natural and fun and makes a person enjoyable to be around. Don't let your insecurities push him from you. If a person of any gender enjoys flirting it is not possible to change that. I married a flirt. He'd been a flirt all his life and I loved him for it. It was as much a part of him as breathing. There are more important factors to be suspicious of than flirting when choosing a boyfriend. Luck and Love!
I have chlostrophobia and my parents don't really know. Is this something i should ask my doctor about or is it just something normal?
Plz help. I keep having moments where i can't breath.
You are having anxiety attackes. Talk to your parents and your doctor. This is a normal response to dangerous situations, but not to everyday life. You need to have the problem treated before it gets worse. It WILL without treatment. Luck!
I cut. But not like most people. My arms aren't coverd nor my legs. I have scars on my thighs, ankles and wrist. I've recently taken to cuttin my shoulder. my parents know and found them. They know check every so often for blood or anything. they took all my pointy objects away but i still have a knife. they wont let me get cousling or anything because they think its bad for teens to go on meds. i cant go to my schoo counsler because-well if you knew him you wouldnt. Anyways, there are peole with bigger problems then me that need the help. my life is perfect. I have horses. i ride. i get w/e i want. Im spoiled. my parents r nice n everything unlike my friends who r abused/assulted. yet i always feel so depressed. like i cant pull myself out. i constantly cry and hide most of my feeling until i can hide to cut. i dont partically like people knowing but people find out n i dont like being known as a cutter. i get straight a's n im the good kid. least u use to be. now im this depressed, mean, cutter lil freshmen. this isnt who i wanna be. help. oh right..14 female.
My dear, your parents are in denial. You are begging for help, but they are too self-centered to let go of their own predudices about "seeking counceling" to give you what you need. I started Prozac in 11th grade and it saved my life. If I had started sooner, 7th grade when my depression started to show, some seriously bad things could have been avoided. I have a great life, loving family and pets. Yeah, I had some problems you don't, but the worst of my depression was caused by an inherited chemical imbalance. Not my everyday issues. Another part of my depression was the guilt of needing help when I had so much that others didn't. I felt like such a loser that I couldn't get myself back on track that I hid my condition as best I could until my mother found me sitting in the kitchen floor crying one night. I couldn't give her a reason, but my mom knew. She'd struggled with it herself and knew how to find help for me. I never cut, but cutting is an addiction like drinking and drugs and cigs. You'll do anything to try and find relief from the emptyness growing inside you. I'd like you to show this to your parents. I'm 31 and I understand that I would have been dead by 17 had my mother not discovered what I'd been trying to hide from her. You need help and you are asking for it. Your parents are being irresponcible and unintentionally cruel by keeping you from getting that help. I offer you my understanding and support. I wish I could just slap your parent's upside the head for their stupidity. Big Hug! GoodLuck!
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Ok so i really dont understand this, im really nice and funny and everything like serioussly. Its not fair that all of these snobby girls have guys like drooling over them. I dont think im pretty and you'll probably say that i am and blah but how do i get guys to like me? I mean, i talk to guys like all the time and its just stupid that they dont see how much of a nice person i am...
Boys are stupid, especially at the age you're in. They are nothing but raging hormones and peer pressure. They like you fine, but you are not the prize they are looking for. One of the greatest and worst things about being plain but a wonderful person is that it truely takes a young man, not some boy to see your worth. The boys around you have not matured enough to know what matters in a relationship. They would rather have you as a friend and date some chick the other boys are panting after. For most a relationship is the last thing on their minds. Pure sex drive and not looking like they are attracted to someone besides the cool girls are the goals of most boys your age. I hate to tell you, but it is the rare boy who matures enough to give a girl the proper respect and caring she needs until about 2nd year college. Before that most of them are a waste of time and effort. Good Luck!
I really need some help. For the past almost 6 years of my life, i have been looking at porno. I am addicted. It is literally ruining my life. It takes time away from my hobbies, my family, and my relationship with God. Can someone please advise me on how to stop this addiction? Please dont ban this question either. I truely need help
As with any addiction, you need help to overcome your desires. Seek a therapist who specializes in sex related problems. You will be more comfortable knowing that you can tell someone about your problem and have the support of someone who TRUELY understands the pain of your addiction. Sexually based issues like porn addiction are very common, but so many people are too embarrassed by them to admit to the problem. I'm heartened that you have taken this first step in the healing process. (God, I sound so trite, but I'm being honest.) Your addiction will need professional assistance to overcome. There is no Niccorett for porn addiction. Don't feel ashamed that you need this help. Don't back away from reaching farther than the computer for your solution. And ignore the jerks who don't have enough compassion to realize how much courage even posting this question on an anonymous website took. Big hug, you're in my prayers!