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who do i believe?
I invited a friend to rent a room in my house for around half the cost normally charged. I did this because she is planning to travel and was considering moving back to the small town where she's from (a step backwards), to save money and because her existing flatmate was never home,basically I did it as a favour for a friend.
Through the grapevine i hear another friend of hers wants her to move to her house for double the rent. Apparently my friend answered that she couldnt as she was trapped at my house.
I'd like to handle this situation with maturity as i dont quite know who to believe, this other friend is pregnant and has stopped contacting me and Im told she is putting me down at any chance she gets, although Im at a loss to know what Im supposed to have done to make her feel this way.
You may respond with "who needs friends like these" and you may be right, but I try to see past pettiness to the good in people.
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O.K, yeah! I say "who needs friends like these?" because if they're putting you down, they're not friends! They're bullies! Best of luck!!! Luv ya!!! XOXO
~~~Kayla~~~
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Just let it go for now. Your other friend is pregnant and is going through ALL kinds of madness in her body and head. You may not have done anything to her at all. My mother and my godmother had a split that lasted almost 22 years over a comment my mother made about my GMother's newborn son. Something about how big his ears are I think. MY mother meant it that it was an endearing trait, but my godmother didn't talk to her for 22 years. All hormones and misunderstanding. (Although he does have big cute ears.) As to the friend renting your room, she could have said what your other friend reported, but people often say things in a way someone else wants to hear it. If you have a concern discuss it with her, but try not to take too much stock in what others overhear. Things can be taken all out of context. Good Luck!
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I think that you should try and tlk with the other friend and see why she is saying crap about you. Maybe you did something that you didnt think was offensive, yet she did. You did a really kind thing by letting your other friend rent the room in your house, but maybe you should tell her what you did was a nice gesture and she shouldn't feel trapped at your home and if she wants to live somewhere else for double the price, then she should.
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Hi Sweetie,
<p> ...Words get mixed up along the way. IOr sometimes people express themselves more dramatgically in words then how they really feel. I'm sure if your current roomate DID say what she say in those exact words it may have been because the rent was too high in the other friend's house and she did not want to seem rude and say "no, your offert is a ripoff. I'll stay with my friend here who was nice enough to do me the favor of charging me half- price." That OR she feels she doesn't want to leave ypour house because the rent is good and stuff...
<p> I can only offer you my suggestions. If they do not help the only thing that will make you feel at ease (and you feeling at ease is the most important thing, actually you not feeling at ease is why you asked this question) will be to comfront her. Maybe you don't have to say "what the hell do you mean you are trapped in my house?!" Maybe you could start by asking "...have you gotten any offers to live somewhere?" OK, maybe not THAT exctly, but I hope you see my point. Good night, take care! ~Blessed Be...
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