I always look at the bad side of things. So basically that makes me sad or worried all the time. How can I become more optimistic and see the good side of things? =]
Try to look at life with a different perspective. Try not to judge things too quickly as "negative." I am kind of like you, and the best way to get over it is to try to stay happy. Do you think this might be a sign of depression? It sounds very much like it to me. So you might want to talk to a parent about seeing a therapist.
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okay so me and my bf were going out and we wanted 2 kiss me but im like ew gros (it was 6th grade at the time) and so then we broke up but then we got bak 2gether (bcz of major flirting on both our parts) and so hes like i had dreamz of us kissing blah blah blah so im like fine meet me in the stairs il make ur dream cum tru. so i madeout w/ him w/e. but heres the thing. im only in 7th grade! is that so extremely horiable? and every1 found out (bcz 1 of my friends cant keep her mouth shut!) and every1 thinks im a slut. HELP ME!!!
Dont let people think youre a slut, and if theyre going to think it, dont listen to them! Youre NOT a slut. First of all, making out with your BOYFRIEND isnt that bad. Its not like he's some random guy or youre having sex with him! I think the whole situation you described was cute, not slutty. People are going to be jealous, maybe a little shocked? Oh and also, HE was the one who suggested you kiss. He made a move and you went for it.
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Okay, basically you know that this is a guy trouble. but it's not that I have a cursh on him but rather I miss him..he was like my online brother/bff. I know pretty sad. long version short: he was my only support through my really though times. I mean I was on the verge of commiting suicide and when I talked to him it was like everything was going perfectly well because he listened, understood, and cared about my issues without me scaring him off.
That sounds bombastic and overdramatic but it's not. The problem is that I haven't been able to talk with him for half a year now. I want to talk to him but he's never online since he goes to a culinary school. I was thinking of writing to him (don't talk about safety issues. we've written to each other couple of tiems before) but i don't know. Is there anyone I can talk to about this matter who is sensitive to other peoples feelings..?
Yeah, Id definitely write him if you want :] Im sorry you miss him. I have online friends too and I talk to them about my problems, too. But, understand he seems busy now and its probably better you have somewhere else to go. Just so you know theres hundreds of columists on this site who will help you when you need it. Ive gotten a lot of help from this site and Ive given it to. My inbox is always open if you want/need to talk :]
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help im 10 and my bf wants to have sex with me!
i dont want to but he does he says we're ready
weve been going out for a year and he says its times
hes 11
HELP
Youre NOT ready at 10 and 11. First of all, your body is not ready. Have you even started menstruating at 10? Be honest with him and tell him youre not ready. He's only 11 so hes not going to be mature about your decision. If he isnt, thats too much pressure, Id dump him.
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Is there a website i can get free porn videos?
89.com. Click on daily videos.
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Hey, I'm a 14/f. I'm about 5'10-5'11 and i weigh 170 lbs. I would like to lose 25 pounds any time before the summer, and get flatter abs. I've been a little overweight all my life, everyone said it's just baby fat and it'll go away sooner or later and i just need it to gooo away already. my cousin lost 50 lbs in 6 months and she's been kinda gaining a few lbs back again and then losing them again -- how can i avoid this? i excersize A LOT, but i eat a lot too. please help! i'm very determined to lose weight, but usually my determination is to lose weight to look good and get the guy i like, but the thing is i get over guys quickly and begin eating again. is there another thing i can set my mind on and lock it? like should i keep telling myself how good i'll look in the summer in every bikini? please help!
I would motivate yourself with HEALTH, not look. Just think if you lose weight, you will be very healthy and lean and you will feel so much better! Dont do it for guys, do it for you. And if it really motivates you to do it for guys, dont do it for guys you like. Do it for all the guys you'll see this summer at the beach! :]
Okay, heres how to lose weight in a healthy way:
Cut out all of the sugary and fatty foods in your diet. Basically all the junk food. I did this and that alone, helped me tremendously! I lost about 3 pounds in a few days, along with excercise. You said you excercise a lot, but you eat a lot too. Well, its best to balance it out. Eating too much is not good and excercising too much is not good. So, try to find a plan that works for you! Try eating a lot of fruits and vegetables of course. And eat 6 small meals a day, instead of 3. Also, for excercise for abs:
THE BICYCLE:
1. Lie face up on the floor and lace your fingers behind your head.
2. Bring the knees in towards the chest and lift the shoulder blades off the ground without pulling on the neck.
3. Straight the left leg out to about a 45-degree angle while simultaneously turning the upper body to the right, bringing the left elbow towards the right knee.
4. Switch sides, bringing the right elbow towards the left knee.
5. Continue alternating sides in a 'pedaling' motion for 12-16 reps.
CAPTAINS CHAIR
1. Stand on chair and grip handholds to stabilize your upper body.
2. Press your back against the pad and contract the abs to raise the legs and lift knees towards your chest.
3. Don't arch the back and remember to breathe smoothly.
4. Slowly lower back down and repeat for 12-16 reps.
THE PLANK
1. Lie face down on mat resting on the forearms, palms flat on the floor.
2. Push off the floor, raising up onto toes and resting on the elbows.
3. Keep your back flat, in a straight line from head to heels.
4. Tilt your pelvis and contract your abdominals to prevent your rear end from sticking up in the air.
5. Hold for 20 to 60 seconds, lower and repeat for 3-5 reps.
And to keep yourself from gaining the weight back, you have to maintain the diet and not binge. :]
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all my frineds make fun of me because my penis is too big, i am 14 and it is 9 inchies. Is i thought it was a good thing to have a penis. Is it?
Thats weird. They know your penis size? Anyway, everyones a different size. It should be you laughing at them, especially for caring so much. Theyre just jealous!
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okay a few questions.
let's say i'm going on a first date with either;
- a good friend that i've known since ever.
- a blind date
- or someone i know for not so long.
do i kiss on the first date?
I think you know if you should kiss someone if it feels right and you really LIKE the person, it doesnt depend on how long you've known them/why youre on the date. So, trust your instincts. :] If you really want an opinion about whats okay, I think the good friend is the only person to kiss in my opinion because you actually know them well.
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hey, starting in the afternoon today my boobs became very tender. they hurt so much. is it from my boobs growing? or what is it?
One of the most common times that breasts might feel sore is when they are beginning to develop. First you might notice a small button-like lump beneath the nipple area. The medical name for this is the breast bud, and it is often present in guys and girls. The breast bud may be a little tender and may cause you to worry but it's a normal part of puberty.
It is also common to have sore breasts around the beginning of a girl's period, or menstruation. A week or so before her period starts, the body begins producing lots of the female hormones estrogen and progesterone.
These hormones can cause feelings that together are called premenstrual syndrome, or PMS. Some girls have painful cramps in their stomachs, headaches, mood swings, or cravings for certain foods right before their periods begin. During this time the body may retain water, which can make a girl feel puffy and bloated. Rings and shoes may feel tight at this time.
Just as fingers and feet swell, so can breasts. All that fluid forces the breast tissues to expand, which stretches the nerves and makes breasts feel achy or tender.
Even greater amounts of breast swelling and tenderness can be one of the earliest signs of pregnancy. Be sure to talk to a parent or doctor right away if you might be pregnant.
Also, if you ever notice discharge from one or both breasts, call your doctor right away.
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wats cum? or wat does cumming mean?
From Urbandictionary.com.
"Cum has a few definitions... it can be a man's semen, a female's vaginal liquids, or, the act of orgasming. Cum is a warm, thick, whitish substance that tastes different depending on what you eat."
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who sang Every Rose Has Its Thorns?
Poison AND Guns N' Roses both sang it.
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I think hes feeling "down" or having second thoughts about us.I need to start a spark!!HELP!!plz if u have any advice comment!
THAKZ!!
Truthfully, theres nothing you can really do that will stop your boyfriend from having second thoughts..if he has already started to have them, they are hard to stop! But, to keep a "spark" alive try to be spontaneous! Be extra nice to him. Does he have a favorite date idea? Try taking him out where ever he wants to go & whatever HE wants to do. This will probably make him feel happier. Dress up and make it special. Look cute and act like its all new :] Thats the way to keep the spark going.
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For my bday and christmas, since they're only 25 days apart, my friend bought me a pair of noise cancelling earphones along with a gift reciept in case i didnt want them. The thing is i dont know what i'd use them for.. i mean i know the obvious is 'block out noises' but thats what my mp3 player is for. I dont want to give it back but at the same time i dont see a use for it.. plus i'd feel bad if my friend asked me how it was and i had returned it. Any reasons why i should or shouldnt keep it? i cant make up my mind.. please help!
They are a lot of money, so if youre not going to use them, be honest with yourself and return them. She wont be offended. People buy gifts so that you will use them. Plus, thats the whole point she gave you a gift receipt. I say, take her up on the generous offer and use the gift receipt. Return the head phones and buy something you LOVE and will use a lot.
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When you go to the gynocologist, I know they ask you if you are sexually active, but do they ask you if you masturbate? Also, if you are a virgin, how can you masturbate so it wont hurt?
Be prepared to answer questions like:
"Are you sexually active, if so for how long? Was it protected sex?"
"Do any women in your family have breast cancer?"
"Have you had sex with anyone who you know has an STD?"
"When was your last period?"
"Have you had any vaginal discharge or spotting between periods?"
"Have you ever been pregnant?"
"Do you smoke, drink or take any drugs?"
They may ask about allergies or other kinds of cancer that may happen to some women and they might ask about your medical history. They may ask what kind of medications are you on? And so on and so forth.
It helps to ask your Mom about it or go with what you know. Answer honestly and to the best of your ability. Do not be ashamed! They don't ask so they can gossip about you. They ask because it will help them better understand your body and your needs. And that is important! Don't be afraid to answer, it is confidential.
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my little sister Dana is turning 13 early next month and we don't know how to celebrate it but we want it to be special. she'd do a sleepover but our mom won't allow it. she's thinking of a party but she dosen't know what theme to use. what do you guys suggest? please help. thanks in advanced.
Shopping spree.
Let her go out to dinner with friends alone.
Spa for the day.
Hire a makeup artist to come and do all of her and her friends makeup.
Themed party (Celebrity dress up, Dance party, etc.)
Iceskating.
Let her go get her hair/nails/makeup/facial done.
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I just recieved a giftcard from my friend from hollywoodtans. It's a giftcard for the 56HT tanning booth for 5 sessions. I already bought eye protective wear, but i'm confused about the lotion? Do i need to buy lotion when I'm going to tan there, if so, what do you suggest? Also, will they let me go 5 days straight. Like If i want to use up all my tanning sessions during christmas break? Thanks for the advice!
The lotion is probably best to buy AT THE TANNING SALON. They always have tons of products and to be honest, theyre the professionals. They know what you should be using. I dont think they will stop you from going 5 days straight, but thats very bad for you so please dont do it! You should go every 2 days if you really need to. Going to much is bad for your skin.
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ok so jsut got an ipod. and it put some of my songs from limewire on it. but not all. how do i add more songs from limewire?
Highlight the songs in your library on Limewire (either one at a time or all of it) and press Enqueue. (Thing with a green plus.) And your songs should come up in the box below called Mp3 playlist. Highlight them, and save them to your computer. Then open up Itunes and open the saved file. Make sure you put it somewhere you can find it and under a specific name!
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how do i know when my ipod is done charging? and can i jsut unplug it if i have to go?
You know its done charging when the light on the plug turns green. If its red, its not done. But if you really have to go, unplug it and turn it on. Then look at the battery sign in the top right hand corner of your ipod and check if its halfway full, etc.
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How can I learn more about fashion?
Magazines (especially Vogue or Elle) are amazing for learning about fashion. Also, go online and do research on the TOP designers right now. Chanel, Versace, etc. I watch the Style Channel (119) and it is very useful to learn fashion because often they have runway shows. ♥
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well i have a boyfriend who is two years older then me. I do really like him but it seems everytime where out he wants to finger me or be alone with me all the time and i think he wants to have sex. I know it probably sounds stupid buit i dont think im ready for that and i dont know how to tell him.Also i dont want him to finger me all the time but i don't know how to tel him that. what do i say?? please help me.
Just tell him. I have to be honest with you - older boys (especially 2 years older) are much more experienced than you. They have done all that stuff, but that doesnt mean you have to! Please dont do anything if youre not ready. I think its great youre actually thinking and not just doing stuff because he wants you to. If hes really pressuring you to, you should talk to him and tell him youre not ready. If he cant respect that, hes NOT worth it and you should dump him.
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