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pessimism. [sp?]
I always look at the bad side of things. So basically that makes me sad or worried all the time. How can I become more optimistic and see the good side of things? =]
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-hang around cheery people
-listen to cheerful music
-think of what you got
-think of how it could be worse -to be greatful to what you got-
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♥ Flaggal
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i know this sounds kinda stupid! but i used to be just like you ...and then a lot of things happend to me this year...one of my best friends died, burned with other friend ....i have a new friend this year who was born with no fingers on one hand...another friend died he was ran over by a car...and i knew about this kid that goes to my campus that had an accident and has no legs and uses protesis :S... i got to do the social service this year and really makes me see the good side of the things cause there's a lot of people worst than what you think, you might think all the bad things happend to yoou but ever just for being able to be alive you should be thankful , and also you make your own destiny so you fix it up any way you want! the simple fact that you have a house its a lot consider your self priviledge
well you might think this doesnt help but when something like all that happen near to you you lear to see the good side..at least it help me in some way
hope you work on your pessimism :P take care hope i helpede
Diane
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Honestly, there's no "big secret" to becoming an optimist, nor does it happen overnight. Believe me, I used to be a complete pessimist, but I changed my attitude, and managed to become an optimist. It's not as simple as it sounds, but that's really what happened. I'll go into more detail about what I did to change.
Optimists and pessimists have everything in common. Both have similar lives, with good times and bad times. The only difference? Their attitudes. A pessimist, like you said, looks on the negative side of situations. An (healthy) optimist will see the negative, and accept it, while focusing on the positive. The reason I said "healthy" optimist is because there IS such a thing as being too positive. (For instance, thinking that you shouldn't lock your doors at night because you have so much faith in people that you think that no one would break into your house.)
Like I said, I'm a pessimist-turned-optimist, so I definitely know what you're feeling right now. First of all, have faith in yourself. You have every reason to believe that you can change your attitude and become an optimist. I have faith in you, and others do as well, so why not have faith in yourself?
That's the first step. You have to overcome your destructive thoughts. (The pessimistic thoughts; thinking that you can't achieve your goal.) A pessimist usually doesn't believe in herself. Well, you're not gonna be a pessimist anymore, so start believin'! =]
Now, you need to start using your newfound optimism in everyday life. This is actually more simple than you may think. Like I said before, there's no big secret to optimism.
Take a look in the mirror. Do you like what you see? You're probably thinking something negative, such as, "Wow, my nose is HUGE!" Well, stop it right now! Whenever you start thinking of something negative, stop. Look at the other features on your face. Think, "Wow, I have pretty eyes. I've never noticed that before." Now, I'm not saying that you should go out and start bragging, but you need to say these things to yourself, and be honest. More than likely, if you focus on the bad, you won't notice the good.
I'm not going to lie to you: No matter how optimistic and happy you may get, bad times are going to happen. It's like that in everybody's life. But, you're an optimist now, so you need to look at the bad times differently. Without the bad times, we couldn't appreciate the good times. Really, without the bad times, we wouldn't even know the difference! Think of them that way. Talk to someone you trust if you need to. Remember that all things do pass, and that bad times are usually followed by something great.
I know this is long, and I'm sorry. But I just thought you'd like to hear everything from someone whose been where you are now. I'm here, and I have faith in you!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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well whenver something bad happens like for example, you premenately stain your brand new $300 coat, or your best friend moves away, instead of crying about it for 284735897473 years, say "well atleast i'm not a starving kid in africa." or "atleast i have a house and family who loves me and good friends." stuff like that. just remember, if you think you have it bad then think about poor people, people with sicknesses and diseases, starving people, people with no family, people who are abused. just remember, life won't always go your way and if bad stuff happens, you will learn from those bad things.
happy kwanzaa
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Try to look at life with a different perspective. Try not to judge things too quickly as "negative." I am kind of like you, and the best way to get over it is to try to stay happy. Do you think this might be a sign of depression? It sounds very much like it to me. So you might want to talk to a parent about seeing a therapist.
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Well, in order to see the better side of things, you need to find out why you're always seeing the negative side first. For some people, they've only had negative things influence their lives. For example, I have a good friend who had been mentally tormented by his father as a child, he was always putting him down, literally making him FEEL negative. So, I don't want to say that you yourself necessarily FEEL negative, but if it be that you do feel that way, try to find why that is and embrace that part of your life with a more positive attitude. Most pessimists can usually find what's negative in their lives. So try to find what it is that makes you feel most negative and try to make the complete opposite of that situation. Once you can do that, the bad side of things just wont matter anymore. People don't change, but their attitudes do, give it a try, it's the best advice I have for you. Good luck, keep me posted. -Angel
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