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Hi! At this point, I'm just checking back when asked a question. When my life gets less hectic, I'll start browsing to find questions to answer. But please ask; I will answer within 24 hours.advice
How do I get the cysts to pop, so I can rebuild my health , so I can a have a child before it is to late. I have been trying for 13 years to have a child.I had a tubal pregnency when I was 17. I had a miscariage in early trimester jan. 2004. I am a 30 yr Am. Indian,5'5" tall,around 200 lbs. Please can someone help me before I lose my window of opertunity to have total happiness.
The cysts will not "pop", however they do sometimes go away by themselves. They do not _always_ prevent pregnancy.
If you are not comfortable going to western medical doctors for fertility treatments, try to find a local health care provider. There are herbs that can used to increase fertility, but I am not knowledgeable enough nor familiar enough with you to recommend any.
I wish you the best of luck in getting pregnant.
i have been bleeding now for over a month.
I also bleed a little when i have sex?
but the blood dosent look like normal period blood it is a lot darker.Could i be pregnant?
thanx i would like some advice please.. from sam
I've also had a problem with periods that don't stop. It can be caused by a hormonal imbalance, polycystic ovaries, or the wrong birth control pills (leading to hormonal imbalance).
Go to a doctor - preferably a gynecologist. S/he will ask you some questions and help you determine what the best course of action is. S/he *will* do something to stop the bleeding. It does need to stop, or you will eventually get weak and need to go into the hospital. Don't wait that long.
Most likely, you will get put on birth control pills. Don't worry, it will be ok, but you do need to see a doctor. If you can't afford a doctor, call Planned Parenthood.
I have a webpage question. I want to put my livejournal into my webpage with an iframe like before, but now I want it to be specifically positioned. Like, first I want it to be 164 pixels from the left and have the actual iframe be 400(wide)by 331(high). My question is... how do I do this, or can I, even?
The iframe tag itself contains the properties width and height (in pixels or percentage of screen).
I suggest specifying the height and width in the iframe tag itself and enclosing it in a div. Then use CSS to position the div 164 px from the left.
if that doesn't work, drop me a line and we can play with it a bit.
is it normal to have a small dick wen it is not a boner?
Yes. the penis gets much bigger when it becomes aroused (turns into a "boner").
can u get pregnant without a boy's penis going into ur vagina.
Yes, you can. The stuff that gets you pregnant is in is the liquid that comes out of the penis when he is "turned on".
whats a vibrator?
Technically, a vibrator is anything that moves very quickly in place - many back-rub devices are vibrators - the type that shake and jiggle and sometimes make your hand feel tingly / sleepy when you hold them too long.
Many times people use the word to describe a bunch of different types of "sex toys" that have that same "vibrating" motion.
A complete manual on the description and use of such toys is neither appropriate nor short enough for this forum, but if you have other questions, please feel free to ask.
ok well im a female and im really curious about sex but i wont until im married so in order to pleasure myslf i have to finger myself but im not sure how to i mean i know im supposed to like put my finger in my hole but i dont get pleasure by diong that so what should i do and how should i finger myslf well how do i finger myself?
well, for starters, think about things that turn you on. Touch your stomach, and your breasts, and your thighs first. If it helps, pretend it's your dream husband touching you. :) Lightly rub around your vulva, especially near or on the clitoris (post again if you have trouble finding it). By the time you go to put your finger into your vagina (the hole) it should be wet, and your finger should slide in easily. Make sure you have clean hands when you start, and keep your fingernails trimmed and clean so you don't scratch yourself.
Take your time, explore your body. Most women find it easier to orgasm from clitoral stimulation (rubbing the clitoris) than from vaginal stimulation (rubbing inside the hole). Do what feels good. If it doesn't feel good, especially if it hurts, don't do it. :) You'll know if you hurt yourself, but I think the worst you can do is give yourself a scratch. I've masturbated with and without long nails for over a decade and I've never hurt myself.
Is it possible to become pregnant through oral sex (female giving to male) ? I was wondering since if you ingest semen isn't it possible for it to work through your body?
Also, is it possible to become pregnant if a couple is merely kissing or say fooling around and the male ejaculates into the vaginal area? They are not naked, boxers and shorts on the male and underwear on the female.
This may seem silly but I really need to know since I am having a difficult time finding alternatives to sex since I feel I am not ready for that yet. Advice would be great!
the first two questions were answered but just to recap:
nope, one cannot get pregnant by swallowing semen. However, STD's can be contracted (and spread) via oral sex.
It's possible, but not all that likely, that you will get pregnant if your "fooling around" and the man ejaculates into his underwear. Just to be safe, have him change them shortly afterwards - and change your underwear too.
I don't think the questions are silly, and I think you're showing maturity by asking for alternatives to vaginal intercourse since you don't feel your ready for that.
There are lots of ways to "get off". I suggest using a condom for two reasons: it makes clean up easier, and when you are ready to have penetrating sex, your both already used to it. Use your imagination. A few starting points:
* manual sex: use your hands and fingers get the other person off.
* mutual masturbation: get yourself off in front of each other
* dry humping: keep your pants on, but rub your hips together until you get off
* I've been brought to orgasm by my partner sucking and rubbing my breasts
Be creative, I'm sure that you will find things that don't involve penetration that both of you find pleasurable.
ok so im 17 and i was wondering i have read that guys prefer the girls to swallow there cum after oral sex is this true or would they rather us to spit everytime i ask guys they say either way but i want to know seriously what they prefer i know it would be different for different guys but what would most of them seriously want
Having done both, I can't say that there was a noticeable difference in reaction. However, until you've done it a few times, make sure there is something nearby for you to spit into before he gets close, even if you intend to swallow. (a cup, large amounts of tissues, a towel, etc.) Guys differ in how forcefully it comes out and in the amount that comes out, so you might need to spit even if you intended to swallow, or even if you swallowed some of it.
One way around this dilemma is to use a condom - then it doesn't get in your mouth at all, and the condom comes off and goes in the trash. They come in flavors specifically for this purpose. :)
I haven't had a boy friend yet but I feel like I could just pick any boy and have sex with them but i'm afriad to ask to hook up with the guy.
I just REALLY REALLY REALLY!!!!!!!! need sex do you think i'm desperate HELP ME
masturbation. or get a sex toy like a dildo or vibrator and learn to use it.
because if you pick a random john off the street, you won't get any more out of it than you would have with the dildo.
i want to do it on prom night but what if my boyfriend forgets a condum i mean should i wait till he gets one or shouldi go make him buy one?
I agree with the people who have said that if you can't discuss it with him calmly, then your not ready to have sex. However, if your going to go through with it anyway, have more than one condom available. That first one could tear, or get dropped and lost in the nervous shuffle, or any number of things.
Make sure your educated about condom use - what it can and can't help with, how to use it properly, how to store it properly, etc.
ok, this is kinda embarassing, but i heard that the first time you have sex, it hurts (for a girl)
true...false?
First off, I'd like to commend you for your courage in asking even though you were embarrassed. It's important to ask questions - especially about sex.
I know you've gotten a few good answers with the crap, but just to try to even it out a little, I'm going to answer too. :)
Unfortunately, the answer to the question is that it's a big maybe. Most women I've discussed it with said that it did hurt a little.
From personal experience, I can tell you that it hurts a little when your not ready that particular time - even if you've had sex so many times you stopped counting.
My advice for any time penetration hurts (more than a quick twinge and when you don't want it to) is to stop and try something else for a while. You can always go back to trying penetration later.
Things that will help:
* having manual sex first (where one or more fingers has been inserted). The first half a dozen times I had sex, the guy did this first to "stretch me out" a little. It felt good, and it let my body adjust to having something inside my vagina, since I had never even used tampons.
* being very very turned on
* lubricant. if your as turned on as you can be, but your vagina is not literally dripping wet, get some astroglide or wet or some other form of lubricant designed for penetrating sex.
* a female superior position (where you are on top). This allows you to control the situation, which has two benefits. Psychologically, it helps you relax knowing that your in control and can stop or change things whenever you want. Physically, it lets you decide how fast and how far in the penis goes each time.
You may be a little sore the next day. That would happen to any muscles that got stretched out more than usual, and it's totally normal. It should not interfere with your usual activities unless your a gymnast or a horseback rider. Occasionally, women bleed a tiny bit too, but it shouldn't be enough to go through your underwear. If your worried about your panties, put on one of those tiny little pantiy-liners when you get get dressed afterwards.
If you've read about people having sex, you've probably seen them use words like "impaled", "plunged", or "banged". Don't pay any attention to that until you've got some experience. Go slow.
In fact, "Go Slow" is probably the best advice I can give you as far as having sex in general. Your never too old to be a virgin, and when you do decide it's time to have your first experience, make it something you'll smile back on for the rest of your life. Wait till you can set something up so that you can take as long as you need to get comfortable and turned on - allow several hours at the very least. All night is best. And don't have anything really important to do the next day - your not likely to be able to concentrate properly. ;) And if you set things up and your not ready at the last minute, don't do it. It's never too late to say no. It's even ok to stop if you've started to insert his penis and it just doesn't feel right. (although I do suggest helping him get off some other way - either orally or manually - but if your not comfortable, he can always go into the bathroom and take care of himself.)
But to get back to the question: it might hurt a little at first. but it should feel good at the same time - and the good feeling should come first and last much longer.
whats a blow job?
to clarify a few things said below:
* anyone can give a blow job. it's still a blow job if it's a man putting his mouth on another man's penis. It would still be a blow job if a man was somehow flexible enough to get his own penis in his mouth, too.
* many people enjoy giving oral sex. oral sex is when you put your mouth on another persons genitals (penis, vulva, anus). Most people enjoy receiving oral sex.
* you do not have to have cuts in your mouth or throat to get certain STDs from oral sex.
* I support condom use - they do come in some interesting flavors, although those are harder to find. Do not use a condom with spermicide or lubricant for oral sex.
* contrary to the name, a blow job does not always involve blowing on the penis, although creativity is good. ;) It almost always involves sucking and licking, however.
i find myself always in the wrong, adn my finace never hears me out and makes me feel so horrible, i dontfeel like mysefl and if i cry its wrong
It sounds to me like you've been emotionally battered. I would postpone or cancel the wedding and talk to a councilor (alone) who will help you sort things out.
What your describing needs more help than I can give you in an advice post. Please get professional help soon.
hey any of you people out there know how i can start an affair i am in my mid 30 so i am old enough my boyfriend is 50 we get along ok but no sex i gotta have it im going crazy from not having it dont no one worry i will use protection i dont want no diseases and no im not a slut either so dont no one say i am but if you must know i have an extremely high sex drive is all i just wanna find a willing participant if i can and all i wanna know is how i go about finding one if anyone knows thanks gave a good day
Talk to your partner. If he's not satisfying you sexually, maybe you two can work on it. If not, maybe an open relationship would work best. An open relationship is where you and your partner agree on when it is ok to have sexual interactions with other people.
I do not suggest having an affair. For a relationship to work, everyone needs to be honest - especially about sex.
long story: i was 16 when i got pregnant i couldnt tell parents cos they were very strict so i hid it for 7 months i was thinking about adopting him but when he was born i couldnt do it he was so lovely and my parents loved him too, when they asked me about the fether i said i didnt want him to know as he wasnt `the father figure`so i brought him up on my own for 6 years then i met someone else who i had 2 more children with he loves my son they get on well, but my son is 10 now and started asking questions like` whos my real father` ive said john but he looks baffled as if hes put 2 and 2 together cos he hasnt been with us 4 10 years, i just dont know what to say for the best, does he deserve the truth but i dont want him to have any relationship with his real father after all this time, help
I support the other people who have said that he needs to know who his real father is, but I wanted to add a reason.
It may come to pass that your son needs to know the medical histories of both his biological parents. He at least needs to have the full name of the man so he can do that research. The lives of grandchildren or great-grandchildren may some day depend on this.
Also, you can make the distinction between biological father and "real" father. John is his "real" father because he's the one who loves and takes care of him. The man who is his biological father contributed genetics, but is not his "real" father because there is no relationship between them.
No matter how you decide to tell him, I advise telling him soon. Teenage years are hard enough - let him get used to this before they hit.
I'm 13 and I found a dildo in my moms dresser a couple of months ago, since then I've fingered myself every day. Is that normal?
Many people - especially teenagers, masturbate every day. It's normal. Masturbation isn't excessive unless it's interfering with the other things you need to do (like cutting class to go masturbate in the school bathroom) or if you are causing harm to your body (masturbating so much that wearing your underwear hurts because it pushes up against parts that have been rubbed raw).
I have Question
lately I have had alot* of wet dreams even though I try not. but what im REALLY worried about is it normal to get like a burning sensation because its like I wake up all sweaty and i feel a burning sensation.can u have a orgasm just by dreaming?
there is NO way im talking to my mother or anyone else for that matter. im only posting this because no one knows who i am.
anyways thanx
it would help me ALOT if you would answer this.
all wet
I'm female, and I know females can have orgasms by dreaming, so I'm guessing males can too. :)
That being said, a burning sensation can be a sign of many things - including non-sexual things like bladder infections.
Talk to a doctor - you don't have to tell him about the wet dreams - just say sometimes you wake up in the morning and there's a burning sensation in your penis. He will probably ask you if your hard when you wake up - answer him honestly.
You can ask your mother to leave the room if she normally accompanies you to the doctor. I'm sure the doctor will support your right to privacy, especially if you have a male doctor and you tell him quietly that you have a question about your penis that you don't want to ask in front of your mother.
I like to have sex with my dog, is that normal?
What your doing is called bestiality, and your not the only person in the world who does this.
However, it is considered one of the very very grey areas as far as sex goes. It is difficult to determine if the dog is consenting because human communication and dog communication are so different.
If you are *sure* that your dog is consenting (does the dog have the ability to go away at any point? does to dog initiate sex on occasion? does the dog appear to sulk or be afraid of you afterwards?) and not being injured (make sure the dog sees a vet regularly), I personally don't have a problem with it. However, bestiality is illegal in most places, so you will want to consider that.
I went to this party and I'm 15 and I drank but I only had one beer and than I woke up the next morning in my bed. After that for the next couple of weeks I got sick daily, I started to get worried and had my friend buy a pregnancy test for me and it turned out that I was pregnant. I don't know how that's possible because I'm a virgin. But I can't remember what happened that night at the party. I don't know what to tell my parents.
~Pregnant?~
Find someway to get to a doctor. Planned Parenthood can probably help you, if not, I'm sure they know who can. A doctor can find out for sure if your pregnant and/or if you are sick.
Tell your parents the truth. That you are asking "what" to tell your parents and not "if" to tell your parents lets me know that you know your parents love you and that you can talk them. Which is good. They will very likely be upset - but it's not so much that they are angry with you as that they are horrified that this has happened to their baby.
Despite their reactions, I want to let you know that it's not the end of the world. Once you go to a doctor and know where you stand as far as pregnancy and diseases go, you can gather information and make informed choices. Please post again if you have more questions.
Also, it *is* possible to get pregnant without having sex. It's less likely, but if there was semen (cum) near your vagina, it's possible for sperm to have entered. Not very likely, but it has happened before.