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i find myself always in the wrong, adn my finace never hears me out and makes me feel so horrible, i dontfeel like mysefl and if i cry its wrong
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It sounds to me like you've been emotionally battered. I would postpone or cancel the wedding and talk to a councilor (alone) who will help you sort things out.
What your describing needs more help than I can give you in an advice post. Please get professional help soon.
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it is not wrong to cry. ever. If you fiance isn't listening to you, you guys need to have a long long talk when you feel calmer.
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leave him! hes not worth your time...it sounds like hes treating you like shit. you dont deserve that.
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Alright. Point one - this guy is being a complete asshole to you. As my friend once put it, however, "no man is worth a woman's tears, and the right man won't make her cry."
This seems to apply very well to your situation. Now, because it's your fiance, I know it must be hard to think about breaking up. If you agreed to marry him, he must have done something right, correct? No one can always be wrong. It's not logically possible. Since I see he never hears you out, I assume you have tried talking to him. Have you tried telling him "you need to listen to me right now." Just be agressive. If you have tried that, I seriously think you should call off the wedding. If he makes you feel as horrible as I think he does, he doesn't deserve you. Think about it, really. This sounds like an emotionally abusive relationship, and those are more harmful than physically abusive. Think about calling it off, honey. No one should treat you like that. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent." At least, I think she said that. Try to talk it out. If it doesn't work, kill it, as hard as it may be. Good luck. I hope everything works out. =)
-Siren
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WARNING: This guy is a control freak! Nobody should tell you how you're allowed to feel, and nobody can ALWAYS be wrong. That kind of thinking is WRONG and is just his way of manipulating you. If he doesn't appreciate you, get away from him, and give yourself time to think.(And him too)If he doesn't come around and see the light to what a special person you are, then that's his loss. You can do better on your own. And when you're ready, the right person for you will come along. Now that you know the signs of a control freak, you'll make better choices next time. Perhaps, if he's willing, counseling may save this relationship. If not, MOVE ON!
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1)grammar and spelling again (why cant anyone get it right??)
2)what is a finace?
now to the actual advice:
1)if youve got such a problem with him, give him the ax. boot him out. your way or the highway. If you two cant get along, get out of the relationship.
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If you think he's making you feel horrible now, just wait until after the honeymoon's over.
There have to have been some good times with this man, or else you would never have become engage. But even if the good times you share together are very good, do you really want to be on an emotional roller coaster the rest of your life? Do you really want to spend the rest of your life sitting on your feelings, afraid to say what's on your mind, and feeling as though you're walking on eggshells? That doesn't sound like love to me. If your fiance goes so far as to try to control you or constantly correct you, this is a warning sign of spousal abuse.
You should probably reconsider your decision to marry this person. Postpone the wedding. Until he learns basic listening and communication skills, and until he realizes the bad effects his behavior is having on you, he won't make any attempt to treat you differently from the way he's treating you now. If he refuses to go to a counselor, or if he says that he isn't the one with the problem, you will have two choices: accept that you will be feeling like this for the duration of your marriage, or give the man his ring back and tell him to find someone who better suits his requirements.
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Well to me it feels like you two shouldnt get married because a}He has no respect for you
b}He dosent care and c}He treats you like a slve,so what I would say is dump his butt and find someone that cares for him,dont worry,dont cry,I care for you
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