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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice

Do guys like find it a turn off when there is hair down there. My boyfriend wants to finger me but i don't want him to think its gross or something. any advice helps.
14/f

Talk to your boyfriend and see what he likes.

Because, even if most guys like something, your boyfriend might like something different.

Being in a relationship requires communication. So do it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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What does the quote,

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer mean ?

Like, if you're in a situation where there's something to be won or gained, then a lot of people use that quote.

It means that you are good with your friends, but you try to pretend to be friends with your enemies so that you can get closer to gaining that thing or winning the situation.

If that makes sense.

--Jack
(17/m)

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where can i watch episodes from season 1 to the latest season for free. i don't want to watch them on megavideo. it stops too much.

and does anyone know when the new season starts?

thanks!

surfthechannel.com Should have every episode.
hulu.com Might have some.

And, as others have told you, September 14th is when it starts.

--Jack
(17/m)

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13/m
ok so im 13 and since sometime last yeaer i have had pubes but its getting really bushy i reckon and i want to trim it but not really shave it all off i dont really want to talk to anyone i know about it cause it would be pretty weird...yea
so would it be normal or ok if i was to trim the pubes with scissors
thanks
ps i know its weird

Perfectly normal. It's your body, so do what you wish with it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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i'm writing a novella about an arranged marriage long story short. the two are learning about each other each day they spend together - and i'm thinking of using the title "Dazzle Me" - as in like, win me over, etc. would you read this if you saw this title on a book?

Yeah, probably.

I know they say "Don't judge a book by a cover," but the truth is, we all do.

If the title isn't appealing, people might not pick it up.

Yours is pretty good, because it inspires curiosity.

--Jack
(17/m)

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it's been 25 days since the first day of my last period,and i havent started it this month, i've been nausius, extra tired, my breats seem swollen, and im wondering maybe if it's time to take a pregnancy test?

If you haven't had sex, you can't be pregnant.

Relax, it's only been 25 days since your last period. 28 days is the "regular", but girls at your age are hardly regular.

If you stress about getting your period, it will come even later.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I like 4 guys..A LOT! One guy is really athletic, good looking, nice, and we have soo much in common. Also, his sibling said he had a crush on me. The other guy is nice, not that good looking, but funny and fun to b around. The third guy I havent seen for a long time but he's funny, athletic, hot, and we share the same hobbies. The fourth guy lives in a totally different place and sometimes he writes letters to me. He said that I'm pretty, he's really hot, atheltic, kind, nice, and sweet. I like them all...WHICH ONE SHOULD I CHOOSE?! or should I just let them all go and pick someone else?

Matt's answer is probably the best advice I've ever seen.

However...


3. If you haven't seen him in a long time, it's probably best if you don't go after him.

4. Long distance relationships are tough to keep up, unless you're willing to put in a lot of work.


I guess it comes down to 1 and 2. You have to decide who you see yourself with in a relationship. Don't base it off of looks.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive?

Oh boy, I've gone through what you're going through. It seemed that in middle school and part of high school, I was made fun of CONSTANTLY. Like, it never stopped, and it was always happening. My family, my friends, my "enemies", and even random people I barely knew.

Here's what I did: pray. Pray your heart out. God is listening, and He loves you. I know it's hard to believe sometimes, but He does. If He didn't love you, do you think you would even be alive? I know you feel like He's torturing you by keeping you around, but the truth is that we all face struggles in our lives, because that's just part of life. It doesn't mean God hates your or loves you any less.

I wish I knew a passage from the Bible to give you to read that would help you, but I'm drawing a blank.

God bless you. You're in my prayers.

--Jack
(17/m)

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ok. well i have this bf and he is like the type who will keep asking for sex but he seems pleased if i don't talk about it that much. So I am wondering is he having sex with other woman or does he respect my desicion and doesn't do anything with other girls???

P.S. Every night we hang up the phone, when we don't get into a fight which we barely do, he tells me he loves me...

If you think he's cheating, then ask him.

None of us are going to know because of the minimal information you just gave us, and even if you told us everything, there's no way we'd know for sure.

Communication: one of the most important things in a relationship. That means, TALK TO HIM.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hi my name is Alexandra. I am 15 years old. And I started my period at the age of 12. When I was in 6th grade. And I've been have them normal but February 2009 I had my period and I didn't had my period until now May 14,2009. I touched myself...BUT NOT inside of my vagina. Will I get pregnant for doing that? I hope not... I don't want to be pregnant at the age of 15! I am too young! My parents would kill me! well just let me know if I am pregnant or not by doing that kind of stuff...by the way... remember, I DIDN'T TOUCH THE INSIDE OF MY VAGINA....ONLY THE OUTSIDE OF MY VAGINA!.

Unfortunately, they just did a study, and masturbation causes pregnancy now. Sorry, but you're pregnant.

Ok, so I'm kidding. Unless you had sex, you aren't pregnant.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I just had sex wit someone who just came on her period,I had a condom but what are my chances of getting a STI or HIV/AIDS. I also pulled out when I ejaculated while the condom was still on.

Your chances are slim if you used the condom right.

But if you pulled out quickly, you may have ripped the condom or something.

But, if you checked, and it wasn't ripped, then the chances are super slim.

--Jack
(17/m)

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okay. i have this really kute boyfriend but we have been through our ^s & downs and he thinks we need tew go fast and im not comfortable with it wat should i do?

Talk to him about it. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

If he forces you to do anything you say no to, that's rape.

--Jack
(17/m)

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what is the things in your throat?

The tonsils? Uvula?

If you're talking about the "dangling thing", it's the Uvula.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I just got the HP mini Notebook today and I can't figure out how to use the webcam.
Help?

If it's anything like my HP laptop...

Go to the start menu.

Type in "YouCam".

That should be the program. It's pretty self-explanatory from there.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hi. I am a sixteen year old girl and a junior in highschool, and I have kidney disease. All of the guys that I like that ask me out, dump me as soon as they find out that I can't do some of the stuff that they can. Also, I have two brothers in Iraq and an ill mother. Whenever a guy finds out any of this he'll avoid me. It makes me mad, but am I being stupid? Is it too much for a guy to handle? The only thing that would directly effect our relationship is that I can't do anything really vigorous. I'm not a sad depressed person either. I'm normal and very happy. Am I being unreasonable to ask for a guy to like me? I would really appreciate your input.

The guys you're dating are jerks.

Wait until you're in college, and I'm sure you'll find someone who is mature and won't break up with you because of something you can't control. That is SO lame.

I would never do that, and it pains me to hear that some people do. =/

My prayers are with you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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What are good sex positions?

No one should be giving you this explicit advice.

only search advicenators.com
is the best we can do for you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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how many people love their life no matter what happen or happened in your life??i do even through my ups & down im happy to still be living =)

I'm ecstatic to be alive, each and every day.

Why?

Because each day is a gift from God. It's an opportunity to start over and start off with a clean slate and try to make yourself better.

A lot of bad things have happened to me, but probably not as bad as most people, but I've made a promise to myself that I will never hate my life, because there's too much good in it to waste being upset.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey guys, im sure you have all heard of the new movie coming out, District 9. Well I heard that there was a secret district or something that is owned by the government, and they do really secret testing there and anyone that tries to get in is shot on the spot. I forget the name of the district. Does anyone know what Im talking about? Any info? thanks

The only place I know if is Area 51. But no one really knows what's going on inside.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Okay so I had a physical and my doctor asked me if I have had sex and I said no.
But I actually have with two different guys(I'm a girl btw) is it really bad that I lied to her about this?
If I had said yes what would she have done?

It was a bad idea to lie. They could have given you really good advice on how to stay safe and whatnot.

Next time, don't lie.


--Jack
(17/m)

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Hi, I'm an 18 year old female and I have had 6 sexual partners, two of which i dated for over a year each time. I have never bled while having sex .. does that mean my cherry has never been popped?

No. Like the person below said, it could have popped when you were younger. Like if you fell of your bike or you rode a horse or something.

--Jack
(17/m)

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