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Q: 16/f

okay so i lost my virginity yesterday but it didnt hurt. i just felt pressure and when i got fingered there was more pressure than before. my friends told me that when they lost their virginity that it hurt but i dont get why it didnt hurt me. any suggestions?

This could be one of many things

girls have something that is called a hymen (commonly known as a cherry)you could have accidently broke your hymen (popped your cherry) before by inserting a tampon or something like that. Or you hymen still might not have broken because it might be really think. Ususally when your cherry is popped that is one of the most painful parts of sex. Either that or you have a high tolerance for pain and your friends don't. Also the fear of the pain of having sex could have sunk into your head and you thought it was gonna be much worse than it actually is.

hope this helped

Q: I really want braces because I need them. My parents say I'm not mature enough though. I dont see how I'm not. I mean, they trust me for hours at a time by myself everyday. They even leave me responsible for my nephews when they come over. Plus, I'm 15 turning 16 in like a few days. And they make plenty if money for me to get them. We own like a 110,000 dollar house. Sometimes they claim that all our money is being spent on that but that's a bunch of bull. If my dad wasn't an alcoholic and spent all the money on booze. How do I handel this situation?

Wow i got my braces on when i was 12 and off when i was 15 maybe to show them you are responsable you can earn an allowance by working around the house and stuff and get a job and ask them if you raise half of the money for braces if they will pay for the other half...

i hope this helps/works

Q: i'm not sure if this goes under this category , but i saw this stuff in a magazine ( seventeen i think ) it's called "Model in a bottle". it said it was like hairspray for your face and it helps keep your makeup on. well i was wondering where i can get it?

thanx in advance
&heart's; kayla

I simply did a google search on it and i got this
http://www.modelinabottle.com/
who'da thunk it?? lol..

here are some other places you can get it so you can find the cheapest one

http://www.tiffanysbeauty.com/moinbomaupse.html
http://www.beautybuzz.com/Artiste/index.asp?ArticleID=323
http://www.misikko.com/model-in-a-bottle.html

haha when i was searching for it i found a spray called model in a bottle that you spray under your tounge to get rid of hunger pains... way to help anorexics never eat.

hope this helps

Q: When you break your hymen, does a lot of blood come out? Because I think I broke mine, but there wasn't that much blood, so I'm not sure. thanks

it changes with different people

some people bleed a lot some a little

some hymens are thick and take more to strech it open and some are thin and just riding a bike or putting a tampon in can break it

Q: I need a new dresser so my mom showed me a really cool site with lots of inexpensive furniture. She said that if I want a new dresser, I'd have to sell some of my old stuff on the same site. Here's the dilemma: I found a couch and a chair on this site that are $150 for both! They're made out of denim, and that's the theme for my room. I have about $120 so my mom would only have to lend me $30 and pick it up for me (it's only 20-30 minutes away). She said no and that I need to focus on the dresser. What should I do? Someone else will buy them soon.

Well lets see here the point was to get a dresser right? right. And I am assuming you have to buy the dresser yourself?? So i think you should get some money by babysitting, selling stuff, laying back on shopping ( i know thats a tough one) and then you can earn enough money to buy whichever one you want without borrowing money... and that way its all of your money going to whatever you want to buy. If your mom is buying you the dresser just keep earning money and then you can have both =]

hope this helps

Q: Does anyone know a website where you can find out how many calories and carbs are in foods?

I don't know of any websites but I am possitive there are nutrition books that tell you everything about foods...

Here is a little fun fact for you...
When eating celery you don't gain any calories you actually lose them from all the chewing you have to do.

hope this helps

Q:
i've been fingered and i've used a vibrator ... as far as i know my cherry is throughly popped ... so i won't bleed when i have sex for the first time, right ? & will it hurt ? thanks!

I don't think it should hurt unless your vibrator is thin and it didn't take much to strech your hymen (pop your cherry) but if it is a thinner one then it will hurt a little since the penis is bigger and your vagina isn't used to being streched that much.

hope this helps

Q: 13/f

okay well for a long time now (about 4-5 months) i have been telling my parents and my grandmother that i need like a counselor or something i used to have one before and my mom made me stop going because she didnt like the idea that someone was telling her she was wrong for some things. so what do i do if my parents wont help me and my grandmother wont either?
-thanks-

I Guess you could always say how you are feeling suicidal and you need a counciler to help you get through it. Idk that could always backfire on you by them putting you into a mental institution... sooo once school starts don't be afraid to stop by your guidance counciler... they have always helped me with my problems and they are so understanding.

hope this helps!!!

if you ever need someone to talk to my screen name for aim is OH FAKE A SMiLE

Q: ok well i was talking to my friend on aim last night and well first i was like are you mad at me shes like no i was like oh ok then shes like why and i said well you haven't taalked to me in almost 3 weeks then shes like oh well i was at my dads and i know she wasn't at her dads that long but anyways i was like ok at shes like were you mad at me and so i told her wh6y i was mad and stufff and i'm mad cuz her and her boyfriend i know hang out almost everyday and talk on the phone half the day and i get to see or hang out with her maybe every 2 weeks so her boyfriend hates me because they broke up awhile ago but their back together and her thinks i broke them up so he won't hang out with me. she basically told me that since he hates me and i hate him back because he hates me she won't be my friend anymore i am being unreasonable tht i want to spend maybe once a week or at least talk to her once a week with her??Should i try to be her friend??
thanks in advance.sorry this is long.
i just don't want to spend my birthday all sad over her.

Happy birthday in advance!!!
Okay well i think you should talk to her tell her that you don't want to lose her as a friend because of her boyfriends... and remind her that boyfriends don't always last forever but you will always be there for her...you should also try and plan a day of the week where its just girls night, you two could go shopping, rent movies, and spend the night over each others house... alter it each week.

Hope this helps!!!! and happy birthday

if you have any questions or stuff you want to talk about feel free to IM me on AIM my screen name is
OH FAKE A SMiLE

Q: ok well a couple of days ago i put on perfectly clean underwear and at the end of the day it looked like i had gotten my period. i havent gotten my period yet so i thought i was starting to get it. so the next day i didnt think i got it, so i put new perfectly clean underwear and it did the same thing. like it had little redish brownish stains on it. so then the next day i still didnt put a pad on and i put perfectly clean underwear and nothing showed up on it or whatever. is this normal? like it was for 2 days that i got those little stains on my underwear now it stopped. is this a sign that im getting my period soon? does it usually do this?

thanks im advance.

p.s.-sorry it was so long

Yep this is perfectly normal... the first time i got it and a few months after i only got it for 3 days at a time and then like 2 weeks later i got it again... its normal to have irregular and short periods at first but after a year or so they should regulate (come every 28 days according to the date of your last period) and be about 5-7 days long...

hope this helps...welcome to being a woman!

Q: ok well my boyfriend and i have been going out for allmost 4 weeks and i dont get to see him that much cuz i met him at this camp but he calls me everyday. the last time he called was tuesday and i have tried calling him but he hasnt answered. well yesterday i was tlaking to a friend online (he is friends with my boyfriend) and he said that they were tlkaing and he mentioned that he wanted to break up. well they talked last week on monday and i talked to him on the fone after that conversation. I dont know what to do...i tried calling im like everyday every minute but i dont know if hes really not there or avoiding the calls and if and wen i do et a hold of him...what should i say? please help...thanx

to see if he is avoiding you you should dial his number like this
*67 and then the number that way it blocks your number and that way if he answers you know he is avoiding you and then you should break up with him before he breaks up with you...

Q: Does anyone know where i can go to a website and put in my height weight and age so i can find out if i am overweight?

http://www.topendsports.com/nutrition/bmi-imperial.htm

the answer will come out in a number here is how you find out what you are

underweight less than 20

healthy range 20-25

overweight 25-30

obese more than 30

Q: i have a friend who has scary dreams..really scary dreams and he told me about one that one of his close family member got cut and the next day found a cut on her arm.hes really getting scared and doesnt want to tell anyone else about this ive told him to tell a parent but hes only told me.and i dont kno how to help him ive told him all i kno about telling somone who can help but he doesnt want to.
any ideas

My cousin had something like this happen... she had a dream that our grammie had something wrong with her heart or chest or something and then in the morning she went to go see her and she was fine but she still had a feeling something was wrong so my cousin put her hand on my grammies heart and prayed for her and the next day or two my grammie got a call from the doctor telling her that she needs to start taking medication for cist they found. Weird stuff happens like that... I'm not really sure what you can do to stop it. I've heard that if you eat food (mostly junkfoods) before you go to bed you tend to have scary dreams. But maybe it was just coincidence that she had a cut on her arm.

Q: Does anyone know of a workout i can do with fun excersizes like riding a bike ...but in a 2 hour time period..But i can do any swimming i hate it, thanks alot XOXOX

Here are some stuff I would like to do...
Pilates, Kickboxing, Taebow, yoga, taekwondo, karate, boxing, dance, gymnastics, running or jogging, riding a bike, try snowboarding (its so fun!!!!) try learning skateboarding, cheerleading, volleyball, softball, powderpuff football (football for girls) rollerblading, jumping on a trampoline (beds always work too lol), try pogo stick jumping its a lot of fun and it really works out your arms and legs.

hope these ideas help

Q: I am going to be a freshman as of aug. 24 and i really want to make a good impression on everybody.What would be a good outfit to wear on orientation and the first day? i wear mostly peppy clothes i guess rather pricey brands: like a&f ae juicy and hollister but i am going to a school that is very mixed so i dont want to look like a snaob or a slut.
Also what type of back back is best for HS right now i bought a northface backpack that is all black. would a messanger bag be good what is trendy?

Wow i remember freshman year just wear a cute outfit maybe like bermuda shorts and a tank with a half cut jacket... that way its simple and doesn't make you look snobby or slutty. although messanger bags are cute they are a pain in the ass! its hard to lug them around everywhere and they take up so much space... i suggest a bag like a tote

http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/sr=1-5/qid=1154109098/ref=sr_1_5/602-3305901-9991033?%5Fencoding=UTF8&asin=B000BSK3K8

that way its closer to you, cute, and doesn't bang into everything

Q: I have this friend he's a guy hes one of my best friends and everyone time he goes out with another girl i sorta get jelous i dont know why though...i just cant really figure out if i like him more then a friend

There is a possiblility that you like him but you could also be getting jealous because you feel like he doesn't have time for you or he has another girl to hang around instead of you...

hope this helps

Q: Does anyone know any good books where I can learn html, css, php, javascript, anp possibly more computer languages?

HTML for dumbies

Q: I'm 13/f and I was talking online with a friend, who he is 17. We have alot in common and stuff, so he asked me out. I was just wondering, what do you think is the maximum age difference? I really like this guy, and if he was my age, I would go out with him without question, but, is this age different ok?
Thanks in advance.

This could be turned into something like statgitory rape... There is a 4 year age difference and that is illegal... i just dont think that it is a good idea.

Q: I access email through yahoo.com but for some time now I have not been able to write other because my compose refuse to open. Please what can I do?

Thank you

Maybe you have a pop-up blocker or a fire wall next time you try and open the compose hold down the shift and cntrl button.

Q: Ive been told that you can still be preg. even if you get your period.. Im kinda scared because ive been feelin sick for a week now and i get dizzy and the only think i can think of is that i may be prego because on the 1st i had unprotected sex. but i got my period so is it possible to get your period n still be pregnant