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I have this friend, where shes really nice to me one minute and mean to me the next. When she's with her other friends she acts like she doesn't know me or says mean things to me and treats me like I'm her enemy and stuff. When she's alone shes nice and we jhang out and stuff and shes fine. She gets pissed off easily and if you do 1 thing that could make her a tad bit mad, she starts a fight. We had plans to go to movies and then my mom said at the last second I couldn't go, and she got really mad because she said she was so exited and stuff and I said I'm really sorry theres nothing I can do about it and I explained to her why I can't go and shes like fine I'm not going to be your friend anymore. Then a day later she forgets about it and acts like I'm her best friend. But if her other friend comes over, she has to rub it in my face and be like "I'm with Olivia" or whatever friend she has over. And I'll say ohkay thats nice and she'll be like ew your ugly don't talk to me and I don't like to fight so I just ignore all her mean IMs. But as soon as her friend is gone, she treats me normal again. Maybe shes insecure or only likes being with 1 friend at a time but shes got like split personalities. I try to talk to her about it and she says "I don't know what you're talking about you gotta be kidding me." She won't admit she can be a bitch sometimes. Don't get me wrong she's a really nice friend and she will stick up for you no matter what even if its to her other friends. She doesnt ditch me or stuff its just she can be a big bitch sometimes and its only to me and she gets REALLY mad when I'm with my other friends. So maybe she only wants to spend time with me and thats why when shes not with me shes a bitch? I need to know why she acts like this? Help me please. What can I do so are friendship can stay strong?
Okay, your friend obviously does have some problem.
Dont let her treat you like that.
Tell her. Instead of her getting angry at you, YOU get angry at her. Let her know how it feels, talk to her, TELL HER, that she CANNOT act like that around you. Tell her she is acting like an imature little kid. When things dont work out, she should just accpet it, and let it go. Explain that to her.
I've said this before to many people,
communication is the key.
Talk to her about it.
Get your feelings out about how she treats you, youknow?
ok so i have a lot of discharge, and i have not had my period yet.well the discharge is ruining all my underwear. i live with my dad cause my mom passed away.if u tell me to get pads or something like that, tell me how to deal with telling my dad or how to get them.
thx a ton!
Well they have things called light days, which are sorta like pads. But not exactly, they arent near as thick, but they line your underwear, and its usually enough for when your ending your period, or for discharge.
And if your not comfortable telling your dad, (I wouldnt be either, even though he most likely knows its normal.) Just go with some friends and grocery shop, and you can casually buy pads, but sooner or later, you might have to tell your dad, once you do get your period. Just ask him if he can get some pads when he goes shopping.. haha, OR ask him for money. I know its awkward, or find someone else thats close to you, like an aunt, or an older sister? Or a close friend for help with stuff like this.
i hate my self because i have hairy arms.. i never wear t-shirts even if it is 90degrees because i just hate it.. i hate my body .. what do i do ????????
Everyone has hairy arms,
dont worry about it.
Some hardly have any hair,
and some have a lot.
I highly suggest NOT shaving it though,
because it will grow back stiff,
and prickly, sort like when you shave your legs.
But mainly learn to accept your body,
and that everyone is different,
nobody is perfect,
and we all have flaws and things we dont like about ourselfs. But if we think of things like that, we can be happier.
i need healthy snacks that dont involve the oven my pearents are on a diet and i love to cook but its hard to cook what i want cuz they cant eat it i love snacks and they do to some can include the oven but not many pls and pls answer i need lots of help=]
Healthy Snacks:
Well celery and peanutbutter, that is so good.
Banana Split Salad
http://parentingteens.about.com/cs/recipesforkids/l/blkidscookt115.htm
Healthy Snack Recipes #2:
Tasty Biscuits
Rolled oats - 6 tbsps
Whole wheat flour - 1 1/2 cups
1/2 cup all purpose flour
1/2 cup brown sugar
Baking powder - 1 tsp
Salt - 1 teaspoon
Low fat butter - 5 to 6 tbsps
Milk - 1/2 cup
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Grease 2 baking sheets.
Grind the rolled oats in a blender down to medium-coarse.
Combine the ground oats, whole wheat flour, all purpose flour, brown sugar, baking powder, and salt. Mix well. Add in the butter, and make sure its mixed in well. Best done in a food processor or electric mixer.
Add in 1/3 cup of the milk and mix well. Add enough milk so that the ingredients form a dough that just holds together.
Divide the dough into 3 or 4 portions and roll out one portion at a time to about 1/4 inch thick. Then cut out round sections about 3 inch wide.
Transfer the cut rounds to the baking sheets, and poke some holes into the rounds.
Bake the biscuits for about 10 to 12 minutes until they're golden brown.
Smoothies
Blended fruit drinks - also known as 'Smoothies' - have, in the last few years, become a popular 'trendy' lunchtime alternative to beer and pub grub. Here is a basic recipe:
Ingredients
4 tablespoons low-far bio yoghurt.
Some fruit-juice (apple is good).
Some fresh ginger (optional).
Some soft fruit (bananas, mangos, kiwis, papayas, cucumbers, that sort of thing).
Eating Raw Vegitables..
Green Beans,
Cucumbers,
Radishs,
Peppers,
they are tons of ways to prepare those,
try googling recipes.
Lately, all i think about is excersizing. Even after i have just exercized all i want to do is start excersizing again. and whenever i eat something i always feel guilty. im not anorexic because i eat normal but it just i want to get in shape so bad i think its hurting me. is there something wrong with me???
I'm not going to diagnose you,
because its way too complicated.
And I have no degree to do so.
Sometimes when we want something really bad, its always on our mind you know?
But I think you need to constantly remind yourself that if you dont eat you will have a problem. Be happy about eating, and if your exercising, you are being healthy and living a healthy life style. Its not healthy to feel guilty about eating though. Just remember that, and if it worsens, talk to someone.
A school counsular, a parent, a close friend.
Keep an eye out for yourself.
i've been friends with this for like 3 years and we've always been close because we saw each other pretty much every day. now we're both in different classes and we never see each other i just feel like i wanna cry because i just miss her and all that we've been through together and i really just don't wanna lose her as my best friend. has anyone else been in this situation? if you have can you tell me about it. and how can i get my friend back. thank you soo much.
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I hope you are able to see this soon,
but I mean its never good when people make excuses for things you know? Like when people apologize and then make an excuse it totally takes the sincerity out of what she was trying to say. I mean the main thing is, people change, and theres really not a lot you can do about it. I thinks she is just moving on with her life you know? And sadly it might not include you, but dont let her problems become yours, or vise versa. Atleast you've talked to her about it, and she knows a little of how you feel.
But I mean, you cant change people, or the way they think. So dont rely on her for everything.. I'm sorry this is happening for you. :[
Well I hate to say this, but sometimes things like this happen. But you can always meet new people. Dont hesitate to, because you cant be stuck to your best friend forever. You need to try to make new ones too. Its important in order to grow. But dont worry just talk to your friend about it, but dont be selfish. I mean if she doesnt seem like she cares, you need to confront her about it. In my opinion, in situatoins I've been in, its just been friends not accepting that I'm not just theres and that I have other friends. You know? But get together with your bff, and tell her how you feel.
Communication is the key.
heyy im not a geek but im not popular at the middle school im at now, because i'm shy and because of the people i hang out with. im iin 8th grade right now, so i want to make a fresh start for highschool next year. andi want to be popular, and i want to be the leader of the group, or the queen b or whatever. but if thats impossible, then i at least just want to be like the 2nd most popular or just in the popular group. any tips??
Hey honestly,
you know everyone wants to be liked and accepted,
but popularity isnt everything.
Did you know that the most popular of people, they are the most insecure, which is why they tease and bring others down, to make themselves feel better. NOT all popular people are this way, but most are known to be arrogant and rude.
Dont strive for that, just strive to be well liked by everyone. Treat EVERYONE with respect, .. like you would like to be treated.
Be friends with everyone, and befriend people who need friends. Highschool is about meeting new people. Even though there are a ton of cliche things in movies about what highschool
thats not what its all about.
You cant be ashamed of the people you hang out with, because thats what you call your friends.
Join clubs, be on sports team, debate, student council..
etc.
Get involved.
Hey...does anyone know of Bible verses about "Only God can satisfy the human heart" kinda stuff? It would be really helpful if you could direct me in the right direction!
xox.
These may not be exactly what your looking for,
but they can definitly help point you in the right direction sweetheart. :]
19"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Matthew 6:19-21 NIV
Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
Psalms 119:105
Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord and has made the Lord his hope and confidence.
- Jeremiah 17:7
In the Lord, put your trust.
- Psalms 11:1
The Lord will guide you always, he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land. You will be like a spring whose water never fail.
-Isaiah 58:11
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
- 1 Corinthians 4-6
I hope that helps.
Even the simplest of verses,
hold the biggest meanings.
My girl sais that I am the one making her happy. She is gone for 3 weeks now (28 August today)and I will see her again in the middle of Septmember.She always sents messages on the phone yet she never calls and most of the times she wont pick it up when I call cause she sais she is shy of her mom when she is around. In three weeks she never called not even once. What do you think my future is?
I think your future is not good.
Communication is the KEY! in a good healthy relationship, and if you guys cant communicate, you arent goign nto get anywhere.
Talk to her about your relationship, and how you think its important you talk more if you want it to last.
My dog is about 9 years old and a male. He pees on the carpet and tile about once or twice a week. Most of the time its when we are at home. He is nutered and all of that and we already took him to a vet to check for a bladder infection.
Well the question is, is he potty trained?
He does seem old enough to know better.
But if you never taught him to go outside, that could be a reason..
Just keep close watch on him, and when it seems hes antsy or just pacing, take him outside.
im 15 hes 17 were both really shy but im the kinda shy that doesnt get noticed alot but hes popular, my friends think we could be a cute couple but everytime we hang out we never talk, how can i start talking him so that maybe i have a chance with him
Welllll,
hello :]
In my opinion,
dont be shy.
I know right, way easier said than done.
But once you start talking,
it gets so much easier.
Ask him about his day,
what kind of music he likes,
about his family,
its good to have someone you like
talk about themselves, it makes them feel good.
So ask him about him, and dont talk alot about you unless he asks:]
And that should lead to some connection or something you guys might have in common.
I was going out with this guy and then i told him i just wanted to b friends for a little while and give it a break .. well then like the next day i talked to him and he said he was goin out with my step sister.. what should i do???because it really makes me mad she done that and i dont think she really likes him she just dont like me very well and she wants too make me mad
Theres really nothing much you can do.
I know I would be so irate about that,
but if she doesnt like him that much, and maybe is just using him, let him figure it out on his own. You can warn him, and then let the rest unfold..
Sit tight.
When my boyfriend comes to hang out with me at my house I never know what to wear. Sense I still do live with my parents I know i cant dress over the top or they might suspect something. Any ideas how i can look sexii but cute and clean at the same time?
I suggest jeans or khakis
or skirts.
With cute form fitted shirts :]
oh man, oh man, oh man.. how did i let this happen? I'm in love! And it's not a good thing. He is the last person I should be falling in love with! He is soooo in love with his ex girlfriend (they dated for five years and he can see a future with her.. and he's only 17!) not only.. he lives on the other side of the planet! i only see him once a year (im seeing him this christmas.. i think) this is bad. I think about him ALL THE TIME. And I'm not over reacting, every little thing makes me think of him! EVERYTHING! Like I can be watching TV, and a song he likes comes on (which makes me think of him) so I change the channel.. and there's a commercial about peanutbutter, which makes me think of him because i saw him eating a peanut butter sandwich once! ITS A COMMERCIAL ABOUT PEANUTBUTTER FOR CRYING OUT LOUD! I don't understand how this happened, I mean ive always known i found him attractive and funny.. i guess ive always had more or less of a crush on him, but now its serious..its all i think about. wherever i am. I mean im turning down fun stuff, like going to the movies, or playing basketball with the hottest guy at school, because id rather lay in my bed and think about him, does that sound weird? im freakin obsessed! and i dont even know how he feels about me.. well, thats a lie.. i know he kind of likes me, but he said he wants his ex back. he's so amazing! everytime i hear the words incredible, romantic, wonderful.. etc, i think of him! just because of a word! EVERY song i hear is not related to him. I've seriously found a way to make EVERYTHING in my life about this boy (i kid you not, EVERYTHING!) its like my whole life revolves around him, what should i do? please help me!
thaank youu!
I mean honestly pull yourself together child! haha your 15 he is seventeen, not really a big age difference, but if he is in love with his ex who he has been dating for 5 years, you really dont stand a chance, I dont mean to sound mean at all, I'm just not goign to sugar coat what I need to say. I know how you feel though, I was head over heels with this guy but then .. uh.. we got in a fight for a week, and every single time i did anything everything would remidn me of him, a song, a comercial, a certain food, everything. It drove me crazy. But I mean were not together anymore now, and I still love him, and things still remind me of him, but I realize i cant keep living in the past. Whats done is done, and in your case nothing ever happened, so try to move on, meet new people, accept the offers of others, have fun, try it.
Good luck sweety.
I curentally live with my boyfriend and his great family. Everything is great except I wonder one thing, he is 19 years old and anytime we go anywhere he mom calls to see where we are and when we are going to be home, he also cant go a day without talking to her, and can never stand up for himself when she says no. She also calls him habebe whichs means "my baby", and she says she dosent like it when he is out late. I understand she is worried but he is 19 years old and I thought at 19 they would be a man. Mabye I am wrong but I was thinking of marring this guy because he is the love of my life but I dont wanna marry someone who is attached to there mother and can never grow up and be a man. Mabye its just me But i would really love any advice anyone can give me! Thank yOU!!
Yes I think is mother is a little too over protective and clingy but it sounds like he doesnt mind. If he cant stand up for himself, I mean honestly where is that going ot get him?
I think you should talk to him about this situation and tell him how it has an effect on your relationship you know?
Ok, I'm female 17. I found out that one of my best guy friends liked me, and I told him I didn't want to mess up our friendship, and so I didn't want to go out with him. Well since he told me, our frienship has already been messed up.But yesterday, I was thinking that maybe we should go out. So I told him I would, but then I started thinking about all the bad things that can go wrong, and that I really don't like him as much as he likes me. I know everything I did was a mistake, but right now I just need some advice, anything really. Right now my head is spinning.
Hey the way I see it,
if the relationship is already weird now,
just try going out with him, what are you going to lose?
You never know, you might end up liking him more :]
well i'm going back to school in a week and none of my best friends are in my class what should i do just suffer or change my classes
Honestly.
Thats going to happen a lot,
use this as an oppertunity to make new friends.
You cant just live the rest of your life in a circle with the same people. You cant live or grow without meeting new people.
So try making new friends in your classes,
just watch, you'll meet a ton of new people and you'll enjoy it :]
Okay, so I have this issue. I tend to block out all negative emotions - or things I see as negative - and have developed a physical habit of stopping myself from crying.
I learned and believe that crying is a good emotional outlet...but it never has been for me. I wondered if it was because there was no one for me to cry to, and along those lines I realized something else.
The only person I'm comfortable crying to is my ex-boyfriend because he made me feel vulnerable, but it didn't scare me. He made me feel like I could cry and it would be okay.
I'm a control freak - I can't stand to feel like I'm not in control of my emotions - and that gets in the way.
I'm at a point now where I NEED to find an outlet because the ones I was using aren't working. The only thing I haven't tried is learning to let go and let myself cry.
I'm almost afraid to do it, though, because I feel like there's so much built up that it would hurt to release it all, and I don't think being alone would be a good idea for this.
However, as I said, the only person I feel comfortable crying to is my ex boyfriend...We're still on very good terms, but I don't know if I can ask him to help me...but I also NEED to find a way to stop blocking out my emotions. It's only hurting me in the long run.
Any advice?
I cry a lot, because I mean I get upset a lot, and sometimes I cant express it any other way. And sometimes the tears just come, if someone says something really hurtful, theyjust come. So if you start to feel like your goign to cry, let yourself. You'll feel better. I know it may be hard, but if your having trouble crying, hang on to that one sad emotion, and just let it out.
I write in a blog online and in a paper one in my bedroom. I write about my day, about how people piss me off, or about how I'm upset. That works, or writing poetry. Poems dont even have to rhyme, just get out your feeligns as best as possible. Or go to your ex boyfriend and tell him how you feel, and cry if you need to. :[
I hope things get better.
Sometimes I dont feel hungry at all but im losing weight fast I want to eat healthy and gain a little muscel...
what should I eat and do!
i want a flat tummy not like just a skinny gross one..
HELP!
If you want a "flat" tummy,
you have to EXERCISE and eat healthy,
you cant just do one.
It wont work.