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F/Bi/20
I like my best friend for 8 years. I told her i like her 4 months ago. she said i am fine with it but i dont feel the same way.
i try to move on, i went to a party and i meet this guy we played pool but after the party nothing happen. i told her that and she got jealous. one month later i ask her why she got jealous she kept on changing the subect. but she told me she was being over protactive. i even ask her if she likes me more than a friend. she shook her head no. but what i dont get is that we went to the movies together (as friends) and she started to lean her head on my arm. does that mean anything?
what should i do? (link)
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It's very confusing to say the least. It would appear to me that she's not bi-sexual and simply not interested or correct me if she is just not interested or in to destroying (potentially in the end) an 8 year friendship.
It's unsual for someone of the same sex to rest their head on your shoulder though if it's not meant to be taken as a sign of love/affection.
Does this mean she's interested? Maybe but I doubt it. I would ask her what was meant by it and about her true feelings. Tell her she's confusing you with what could be taken as mixed signals there.
I would tend to believe her that she's not interested in you after she told you as much before.
Why the jealousy? Maybe she finds it hard to meet guys and doesn't like hearing about how you met someone wonderful Maybe she was being as she said protective of you as she doesn't want you to get hurt.
You need to talk to her again and tell her you're really confused by things said/done lately especially the head on the shoulder thing and see what the reality of it is. Until you confront her (nicely does it) and get the answers there you'll be forever wondering.
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there's this movie called "the blair witch project" and i have it and i watched it, but i don't understand it.
was it real? what happened to that guy that was missing, did they find him dead when that guy was staring in the corner and she was screaming?
Also, is there a blair witch project 2?
thanks! (link)
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There was a pretty laughable sequel to Blair Witch Project that came out in 2000 called Book of Shadows: Blair Witch 2. Don't waste your time or money on it. It's terrible.
The first film was marketed to look as though it were real from the billboard to the trailers and it worked even though it's a complete work of fiction.
That's what got people into the theatres and renting it. i can't remember the ending or a lot about the characters etc. as I haven't seen it in years. Try watching it over again. I think you'll get that it's done in a faux documentary style.
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i think i may be bipolar. im happy one minute, sad the next, ticked off the next, and then fine the next minute. i saw this commercial, where u can get a packet online, and it will teach you how to treat it and everything. now, should i get that packet, and do whatever it says, or should i get professional help from a doctor?
thanks
-shelby 13/f (link)
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Don't bother with the packet as neither something you get from TV or the Internet will diagnose or help with bipolar disorder. How would I know that? I've lived with the illness for five years now and know this beast inside and out.
Yes, bipolar individuals have mood swings and experience elation and then anger or depression without warning. However, those same symptoms are normal in teens especially girls during adolescence. For you, this may be all it is.
If you are experience extreme highs, lows, depression, anger, sadness and racing thoughts or inability to rest or sleep that's signs of bipolar. If you are having signs of dangerous or delusional thoughts or seeing things that's part of it too.
For now keep a diary of what's going on with your moods and share that with your parents. Bring it up to your teachers, counselors and family doctor.
Right now though there's not much you're telling us that would lead me to think you were in need of help from a mental health profession and or are bipolar. Granted you or anyone else could turn out to be bipolar in the end but the info here does not suggest that you are in that situation.
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I'm a writer...An amateur one, anyway.
I'm a sophomore. Well, at my school, there's a creative writing class. I'm part of it. I just wanted to join to get an easier class (because I can write.)
Now, they like my stories. And they're pressuring me to join clubs and contests and write more and more.
I'm not ready for that. I don't want this kind of pressure. I get enough craploads of homework from other classes and now this?
The thing is..they're all so close, the other creative writing students (in the clubs and all) and I'm more of a reserved individual. I don't want to take part. I'll do the school work, sure. But I only write for myself at any other time. The clubs/contests are volunatry. You don't have to take part. But they pressure me. And I don't want it at all.
Am I completely wrong to think this way? (link)
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Your teacher knows you have a talent that needs to be cultivated and not squandered. They probably know by now that you are an introvert. These people want you to come out of your shell and share your gift.
They're pressuring you because they know you've "got it" and shouldn't keep your talents hidden. You have no idea obviously how good you are nor that many people cannot write and dream of having your gift.
You're fearful of falling on your ass around these other students and your instructor. This is why you tell yourself you can only write for yourself and not others.
These people want to challenge that and are there for you. C'mon take a risk. Join their club and if you turn out hating it leave after giving it a go.
Tell your teacher how you feel about your writing and your confidence and that you only do it for yourself and not others to read. See what he/she says Entering a contest is fine as it's an experience and you could win.
But, if you don't want to try the club out and the contests then nobody is stopping you. Just tell them you aren't in to that right now and have too much on your plate. Reasonable people will understand.
However, I think your real problem is fear of being unable to impress people or be a great writer or get anything out of this. you have a gift, they sat up an noticed so don't waste it. The stuff you write just for yourself is so good it's caught their attention and wanting more. Don't give up on it.
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im not sure if this is the right category, but anyhoo...
i really want to be a on a disney channel show or something. i know they all film in CA, and im in NY, so does anyone know of some audition sites that are free. or where would i get a good acting agent?
i really have no clue where to start.
my mom sed that if i am really serious, we could move to CA, but not if im going to be like in the background. i know i have to work my way up and all.
anyway, please be detailed (link)
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A principal agent that represents 5-10 actors and works to get you cast in theatre/film/TV roles will not take you on at this point due to a lack of professional credits.
Therefore, it will be quite awhile before you land a lead on a Disney show. You should however, be doing as many plays as you can in community theatre and working on your improv, acting and dance skills if so inclined.
Right now the only agent you could get is a background talent agent. Go through SAG (Screen Actor's Guild of America) or ACTRA for a list of reputable background agents and don't sign with anyone not on that list.
They will put you in crowd scenes in movies and TV shows filming in your town/city or a larger city nearest ypou. You can actually make a decent living doing it.
Do not turn to the Internet looking for legitimate work. Casting directors and reputable Hollywood people and agents never use the Internet to cast anything period. If you see people claiming to be able to do that or put your photo on the Internet run for the hills as it's a classic scam. They just want your money.
This brings me to my next point do not pay for photos, lessons of any kind or to be represented by someone as that too is a scam.
Reputable agents do not take money to represent you with the only exception being background talent agencies and kids/teen agencies because kids and their parents tend to flake out when they see it's a lot of work.
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16/f. Whenever I sing, I have two problems. Sometimes my throat will tighten up (I don't want it to and I don't know it's going to) right before I want to go up a few steps and my voice will go down instead for part of that note. Then everything's back to normal. This happens quite often, pretty much every day that I sing, and It's a little embarassing.
Also, When I Try to hit a high G or A (which is pretty much the highest that I can sing right now) my voice will crack, switching between notes just above and just below the note that I want to sing. How can I fix this?
Is there any food that I can eat that will help a clogged throat, like If I drank milk and I want to sing? Thanks! (link)
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Odds are you aren't drinking enough water or slugging it back when you perform or rehearse. It keeps your throat lubricated so that you don't go hoarse.
As far as being unable to hit certain notes properly understand that everyone has a range they can hit easily and those they cannot. You can try and correct all of this by hiring a voice teacher.
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I'm apart of an Interact club at school and we are required to do two community service projects per semester (I think that's how it goes). As seniors we are required to do more than the underclassmen. My friends and I (about 4 of us) want to volunteer at a retirement home or a hospital to help sick children or something along those lines. Who would we have to contact to do something like that? Would be allowed to volunteer at a place like that? We want to spend time with people and play games with them or listen to them talk, just be there and "hang out" with them. What if we were to do something such as cleaning a strip of the highway? How would we go about doing that? Would there be specific dates in which we could do it or could be do it on our own time? We have to have a "supervisor" type person sign off saying we actually performed community service so I guess there would be someone that we would have to contact... Any ideas on what we should do and who we should contact. The club advisor said there wasn't any set amount of hours as long as there are two community service projects. Thanks in advance! (link)
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It doesn't matter where you reside in this case. When it comes to retirement homes or hospitals give them a call and ask for the name of their volunteer coordinator.
They'll have someone with that title or something similar who will be able to place you in a volunteer role and talk to your school's supervisor and help evaluate your performance later on.
When it comes to roads or highways you need or your supervisor at school needs to call the municipality the section of road is in or a state/ provincial representative (see the blue pages in the phone book) in charge of transportation or something along those lines.
More or less, look them up in the book and make contact. That's how you'll get picked to volunterr doing what you would like to do rather than something picked for you by another.
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I am interested in gaining experience in the field of Journalism, preferably magazine writing. I am having the hardest time finding internships or jobs related to this field... I live in the Los Angeles area and am willing to work pretty much anywhere in LA county.
Any ideas?? Websites, search engines, job searches, etc.. Thanks!! (link)
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Usually in each community especially in a small town there's a local paper that comes each week with fliers. Those papers need freelance writers and volunteers. You can usually find a writing gig there and an editor who needs page designers and or photos done.
That's what I did. You should also Google for news agencies that employ teens and college students up to the age of 24 to do writing. Some of them are attached to AP, Reuters, CP or large newspapers plus have their own e-zines.
You should check out www.ypress.org as it's amazing and they have won accolades for covering elections etc etc. If they don't have room for you they'll steer you in the right direction.
Another bureau to get your stuff published in is Young People's Press www.ypp.net They have 7 e-zines and used to do sections in The Toronto Star and Halifax papers. no, you don't need to be a Canuck or Torontonian to write for them.
Another site to check out is teenink.com It's a popular Web site and actual magazine written for teens by teens with the help of professional editors.
Another idea is to call your local community access station and tell them you're entering the field of journalism and need experience as a volunteer. They could get you researching, learning how to use equipment and reporting as part of their volunteer programs provided you are 18.
A lot of jobs are unadvertised in this field. If you want to work somewhere or be an intern call the editor at the publication or the news director or producer of a show in your area and ask if they'll meet wth you or agree take you on as an intern/volunteer.
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me and my boyfriend don't really talk on the phone? we've only been dating for a little little bit and we text a lot and talk on aim too, and i actually have hung out with him, unlike any of the other people i've gone out with [which i don't really count anyways] i don't know everyone else always like talks on the phone. is that bad/weird or whatever?
14/f/freshman (link)
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If you see someone all day and hang out with them it's natural not to want to talk on the phone. There's not much more you haven't said online or in an IM or text message to even discuss.
Some people are just uncomfortable or better than others when it comes to talking on the phone. You've found ways to communicate, hang out and make plans that work better for you. Just tell him that you really love him but find talking on the phone hard. He'll understand and won't take it personal.
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my boyfriend and I have had sex twice. I was a virgin when we met but he wasn't, so he's more experienced than me. When we have sex he always slips out and then goes back in and then slips out again and sofourth. We've tried him on top, me on top, and doggy style but I don't know how to do any of those well. Is there any ways I can become better at sex? b/c to be honest i have no idea what i'm doing really.
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You're being far too hard on yourself here. Nobody can expect you to be an ace at anything sexual or anything else for that matter if you have never done it before.
I think your partner knows this and if he isn't talking you through it or going slowly tell him to start. don't rush things either and be sure to tell him and vice-versa what feels uncomfortable or difficult to do when it comes to positioning.
As far as his penis slipping out of your vagina it's common and not the end of the world. He probably thinks nothing of it but it's a sign he's going at this too fast and expecting you to know how to react.
The best thing you can do is buy a book about sex that explains positions, what to expect, how to become more comfortable with it etc etc. Dr. Ruth has written Sex For Dummies and it's a wonderful book for teens and adults and contains medical diagrams but no real pictures.
Wikipedia also has an extensive all text link and medical drawings article on sexual positions. There were some good results on search engines that discribed what to do and how to become better at certain positions but the sites made the bad decision to use pictures which we cannot link to.
If you use the Internet and visit a bookstore and explore their section on sexuality you'll find more than you need that will help you and your partner. Read the material together and you should be fine. It's a learning experience and practice makes perfect.
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15/m
is it weird to never have had a wet dream before?
ive had sex dreams, i just never y'know.
and yes, i have hit puberty, about 4 years ago hah so dont suggest that
like do some guys never have them? (link)
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Wet dreams usually only occur in males who don't masturbate frequently. Semen gets built up in the testicles (so I've read) and needs to be released.
This can also happen when a male has sexual thoughts or dreams during sleep. If you masturbate quite regularly this would explain your reasons more often than not for never having one. It's normal more so these days to never have one than have oe which is also normal.
In females they can also have sexual dreams and release vaginal lubrication but not ejaculate like a male.
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well, i might be bisexual. i had a girl friend that i really liked but then i broke up with her because she wouldnt let me so things to her like finger her. but im not really attracted to anyother girls. am i bisexual or wat? i like guys but i love seeing naked chiks. so idk.. pls help & also should i come out? how do i tell my mom???! (link)
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At your age it's a bit premature to know if you are bi-sexual, gay etc. or not. You might just be curious about what it's like to be with another girl and want to experiment.
None of this would make you gay or bisexual. You also like guys so you could be completely hetereosexual. I wouldn't worry about coming out yet as it sounds too soon.
You need to see that you're consistently over long period of time attracted just to guys or just to girls or both. Trust me, you'll know as there won't be any denying it.
No matter what your mom will always love you for who you are. Parent's aren't lying when it comes to telling them tthings you ought not keep in. They'll find out about it in the end anyways.
Tell your mom that while you don't think you are gay or bi-sexual that you are curious about other girls and have tried to experiement but like guys too. Let her know ou are confused and get her support now.
Yes, this will catch her off guard and she may not be happy at first but she's there to get you through tough situations like this one. If you think you could be bi-sexual you really need an ally in your corner to help you digest what this means.
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I really feel like I'm going crazy. Two years ago when I was 12 everything was great. I had great friends and boyfriends or guys that liked me. Now, I'm really upset because I've lost my friends and guys don't like me. Anyways i'm really sad and I have a problem that's making me lose my freaking mind. seriously it is. Okay so I like this guy a lot. He doesn't like me anymore. But his friend likes me alot. I don't like his friend. Anyways the dude I like says im verry annoying and sometimes he's just plain mean to me. I don't know why either. I'm losing my mind thinking of all the reasons to why he hates me. I really like him though. A lot! More than what I've ever liked anyone. I'm just sick of not having guys that like me. I'm not ugly or fat. does anyone have any advice? thanks in advance.... (link)
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Why would you be in love with someone who isn't lovable? This person doesn't have any of the qualities you should be attracted to. He sounds like a jerk who just likes to hear himself talk and get a rise out of you because he can.
He knows you are easy to pick on because you have a crush on him. Believe me he knows that. Because you are the type of person not to stand up to him he can easily attack you.
You need to become thick-skinned and let this stuff fall off of you like water does on a duck. It's B.S. and has no power to hurt you unless you let it. Ignore him as in the grande scheme of things you aren't fit for eachother.
Don't obsess about him not liking you as it's his problem and not yours. He is the one who misses out on friendship or more not you.
You may not like his friend now but he sure does like you. I think it would be wise to get to know him. He sounds like a winner. Try one date. It won't kill you. At the very least befriend him as he might be the one who can set this jerk straight so you don't have to.
Guys do like you! Duh! You have one now that does. Start noticing people around you that you may click with or haven't talked to before. They might like you but you may not be picking up on it. The right person will come along when you stop worrying and obsessing. That kind of thing repells people.
I think you should go on a date with the guy who likes you as he may become more attractive to you later on. You need friends and boyfriend's like him. At least he won't treat you like crap.
As for the other guy tell him "I don't know why I used to like you. You are a total creep who has no regard for anyone's feelings but your own. Get a life and get a clue!"
Leave him something to think about and he'll see you cannot be victimized by his comments. He will move on and may in fact apologize and respect you.
You're not "losing it" and your life isn't screwed permanently now that you are 14. Don't adopt that line of thinking as it will make you miserable. Embrace each day and damn it all have fun and forget any nonsense out of his or anyone's mouth.
Develop mental armor like a turtle and withdraw into your shell thinking only good about who you are and sooner or later you won't give a damn about any nonsense stemming from other's mouths. Consider the source and whether ot not they feel inferior to you. Perhaps that's it.
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i'm gonna start off by saying i'm NOT a whore
me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 9 months and he's fingered me once and we makeout alot thats about it ;; i kinda would like some more "exitement" and i give him handjobs all the time and was even thinking of giving him head (even tho i have NOO IDEA WHAT TO DO!) and maybe even sex.. i've given him alot of time and i dont wanna like push him but do you think i should say something to him.. if so what?
btw he's one year younger then me
do you think that has much of an affect on it?
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It would seem that you are sexually frustrated and he's just not thinking about any of this. Either that or he's not ready. I think you should talk to him about "experimenting" and trying certain things and see if he's receptive.
If he's not ready for other sexual acts yet respect that. Talk to him about what he thinks and is feeling about this kind of thing. Tell him that he's in the driver's seat now and has to let you know what the next step is.
Worst comes to worst you'll be stuck doing the same old routine or taking care of your hormones safely and by yourself when nothing else is satisfying.
Sooner or later he'll gain confidence when it comes to sexuality and exploring. He cannot be coaxed though. You never mentioned your age or his but maybe he's not mentally mature enough or ready for handling any of this.
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i'm looking for my g-spot. i know its on the front wall fo the vagina where the texture is different, how can i make sure i find it and then stimulate it so i can get a lot of pleasure, if you don't know, how about just making yourself feel really good by fingering, i try it but i dont get a whole lot of pleasure from it. im 15, i dont have access to a dildo or a vibrator or anything, i do have a boyfriend and its not going as far as sex. (link)
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Please see Wikipedia's article with technical info and a medical diagram that shows where it is. From there you can pretty much try and figure it out. It's a type of orgasm that many women don't ever experience so if it doesn't seem to be something that will happen for you (at this stage of life) don't fret.
I noticed also that you or someone else asked this exact same question earlier. We don't give out how to info on sexual topics as it gets people permanently banned here. If You didn't get the answer you wanted before that's obviously why.
When it comes to fingering keep trying stuff on your own. You're the expert on your body and what feels good. What works for one girl won't necessarily do a thing for you. Everyone's different that way with their responses to certain stimulation.
Anyway, here's the Wikipedia link. If it doesn't answer your questions about the G-Spot not much else will. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-Spot
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15/f sophomore. I have an A in my English class, and I get good grades in things associated with it. Our teacher makes us go on a website, to help out with our reading. It's supposed to test our reading speed. I took the placement test and got an extremely low score. A 4.5 out of like 10. And the weird thing is that my speed is 240 words per minute. I just can't seem to understand at a fast pace. I'm a careful, slow reader. The way the test went was: There was a paragraph...a story...and you had to read it. After a certain amount of time, the lines would disappear and you would run out of time to read the whole thing. I can't understand what I read SO effing quickly...and now, I have a low reading score/level to base my other results with. This is so degrading. :( Do people have to read fast or something? Do you think it's fair?.. =( (link)
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It's not about speed. It's about accuracy and understanding fully what you read without stumbling or trouble. Taking your time is a good thing but if you are too slow or take a long time to read a paragraph or too it suggests there is a slight problem.
Tell your teacher how you feel with getting A's and this low score all the time. Let him/her know you're slow, careful and understand the material and do not see why you have to read something so fast. See what he/she says to do.
I wouldn't worry too much because your grades are showing that you understand the material and what you are reading in class.
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i am in special ed and i was wondering how come students can get scribe(written for them by a teacher) i dont get scribe but my friend does i just have a reading disibility but it feels unfair wat do i do (link)
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Actually, it is anything but unfair. The students that recieve this service are ones with auditory learning problems.
This means that they cannot process what they hear fast enough to write it down or make coherant notes.
The scribe types it up for them and takes notes in the classes for them so they can succeed in them.
Like the other poster said dyslexic students use this service because they often cannot read their own notes or take them down. There is no special or unfair treatment going on when you think about it. You aren't getting this kind of support because they've deemed you to be not in need.
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ok i need help. i like this guy and he likes me back. weve known each other since the summer and have hung out every weekend. now its been time that i want to have a relation ship and so dose he should i ask him out or let him do that?????? (link)
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Are you sure he would feel the same way about you? Be DEAD sure on that one. If so, you can approach him and say "It's pretty obvious we like eachother and have a connection. What would you like to do about it?"
The other thing you can do is take your relationship as friends up on more level. Try to include him in all your activiies with groups ie movies, bowling, parties and get one on one with him. See if he's open to your invites.
This way you can see if he's in to you and give him the opportunity to make the next move. If you are positive he likes you and you like him just gently say to him "This is so stupid I know we both like eachother but neither of us has done anything about it." "Could you help me on this as I'm just dying over here."
That will make him laugh and after that you should be fine. Normally you give him a chance to ask you out but when that doesn't seem to work GO FOR BROKE if he's worth it.
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okay well, its long... but basic form is fast...
josh is my current boy, brandon is my x-boy.
in basic form: josh skrewed some girl while going out with me and i have him admitting it on recording but i havnt said anything to him yet, and brandons step dad wants to do everything he can to mess my life up and upset me and my family. and now that brandons coming back i dont know what to do... help please! please. brandons coming back into my life again in a week.
in long form:
josh and i have always had a thing but had never gone out. brandon and i had gone out, and we where going out untill brandon got locked up. at first it was okay, we sent eachother letters, but then we couldnt anymore. so i broke up with him. i loved brandon so much he ment everything to me. i thought he was the one, the one i was gunna marry. anyways, josh started making moves on me while brandon was locked up, somehow he wone me over even though i voued to stay with brandon. i started going out with josh and it was awesome. we have been going out since january. now brandon is getting out in about a week, im so skrewed because im still head over heals for him. he had my friend that got out on a pass from being locked up call me and tell me that brandons still in love with me. (and im still oviously in love with him)
but get this...
this person that called me also let me listen to a recording of my current boy, josh when he was drunk and he admitted skrewing my friend sara! and he said that he would do it again. i havnt said anything to him yet but oh my is he going to get hell. and my parents dont like him because hes not white (im white.) No matter what, i still love josh because i gave it up to him and that means that much more. its hard for me to believe he did another girl because hes always checking if im messing around with other guys.
and brandon, his dad called my parents and tried to skrew up my life by telling them terrible lies about me and saying that brandon didnt want anything to do with me although it isnt true. but my parents dont like brandon either because hes been locked up.
i dont know what to do. i loved brandon, he ment everything to me. when he got locked up i cried evey day for about 4 or 5 months. i cried all day long- just randomly durring school, durring cheer and when i got home. finally josh fixed that hole for me, i mean its not like he replaced brandon, he could never do that but, he helped me forget and keep living my life. i started being so happy with josh too! and now this. this is so messed up its rediculous.
i need to know what to do about brandon and josh. also i need to know what to do about sara.
i was thinking just to doubble check everything i should go up to sara in school and be like, i know you did my boyfirend sara, i thought we where friends. well you have about 5 minutes to tell me everything and say your sorry before i never want to talk to you again and lable you the whore who did my boyfriend... orr i was thinking about going to josh's mom and asking her what to do. even though shes my boys mom she would tell me straight up.
i am trying to tell you everything i can so i can get the best answer.
help please, please.
im so sorry this is long too. (link)
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Shit,
I apologize I never saw your question until now. I doubt my answer will do much for you now but I'll send it anyway. You took the time to write so here you go.
Based on the short version you wrote I say MOVE ON and FORGIVE but don't FORGET. Destroy the tape and forget about a confrontation. It's only going to make you sick. Tell him you know what he did and you wan to move on with/without him but he must stay faithful if it continues and you'll have his balls in a vice if he doesn't.
Let him know you don't mess around and he cannot mess with you. I believe once a cheater always a cheater. You cannot reform guys like him.
Stay clear of the ex-boyfriend and his father and make it clear you don't want to be in their life or them in yours. Just don't hang around them. Be civil at school but apart from that let him know you don't want him around. Nobody can fuck things up for you in your life unless you grant them the opportunity.
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I like this guy lets call him "Phil"(random name). I have a crush on him, he's at my new school. He plays guitar, is short, but cute, he luvs the same music i do(fob, mcr, p!atd, and to top it all off my locker is right next to his and we sit next to eachother for every class because of the seating chart. So today he sits next to me and my friend Tori for lunch. He says I remind him of his ex girlfriend. Now, from what I know from talking to him, he only has had one girlfriend and she and him were together 3 weeks ago, but he asked her to go to homecomeing with him, she said no and she brokeup with him. He was evidently head-over-heels for her.
FYI: I have a short attention span. So i just hear him say creepy and point at me. So i turned my head and said 'What's wrong with me being creepy?' He threw his hands up in surrender and said "You're not creepy at all! I said it's just creepy how much you are like my ex-girlfriend"
He's SO nice and cute! There's a Sady Hawkin's dance comin' up, so i was wondering what do u think he meant by that I'm like his ex, is that good or bad given the past.
I want him to know that I'm not some carbon clone of his ex if he does like me. How should I go about this.
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There's no harm in going to a dance together as friends. Anything else that happens will occur naturally. More or less invite him and go with the flow.
If he seems interested in you afterwards confront him with the ex-girlfriend thing. Tell him you know they just broke up 3 weeks ago and there's feelings there. Ask him to sort that stuff out and come back to you when he knows he wants to be with you.
Be honest and tell him point blank "I like you too but right now you're on the rebound. I need to know you want me because of who I am and not who I remind you of."
You don't want to be "the rebound" girlfriend who gets discarded easily. You have to be let him know that and let him figure it out. At least enjoy the dance with him as friends and don't get hung up on other junk. The future will unfold from that.
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