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does this mean something
F/Bi/20
I like my best friend for 8 years. I told her i like her 4 months ago. she said i am fine with it but i dont feel the same way.
i try to move on, i went to a party and i meet this guy we played pool but after the party nothing happen. i told her that and she got jealous. one month later i ask her why she got jealous she kept on changing the subect. but she told me she was being over protactive. i even ask her if she likes me more than a friend. she shook her head no. but what i dont get is that we went to the movies together (as friends) and she started to lean her head on my arm. does that mean anything?
what should i do?
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wow....
Thats definitely tough to decifer.
In one way, you have to consider and remember that you two are best friends. And also the amount of time that you two have been this way. I take it that you've been at least friends for eight years. And witht that, you also have to remember that with time frienship becomes more profound and one gets more and more closer witht the other. I know that when i'm with my friends we maybe hanging around and i may lean my head on her shoulder for a bit just because or because its just one of those moments that its more funny playful thing, and it can be done because you do feel comfortable enough with that person to do such things.
Also, there can as a matter of fact be jealousy between friends because of a third person.... Trust me, i've been there with my best friend. I started telling her about this guy i had hung out with and kinda liked, and she went crazy both protective and just jealous. She said that she didn't want to lose me. That i was her nessa...
Now, i'm going to tell you too that i am bisexual too. My friend, she definitely wasn't. and we just didn't like each other that way.
So it is possible that its just a frienship thing.
But... all in all, there's also the possibility that she may be experiencing a bit of curiosity about it... you know?
I'm really sorry i can't tell you its this or this clearly, but it just is definitely way too broad. Maybe try telling her about someone else, see how she reacts.... ? about either a guy or girl... see what her response is. Because seriously, the main thing thasts throwing me off, is the leaning on you on the theater. For how long..? I would say experiment with little thing, like i said above to see what she says or how she reacts...
Besides that, i'm not really sure what i could tell you =/
Best of luck!
VB
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It's very confusing to say the least. It would appear to me that she's not bi-sexual and simply not interested or correct me if she is just not interested or in to destroying (potentially in the end) an 8 year friendship.
It's unsual for someone of the same sex to rest their head on your shoulder though if it's not meant to be taken as a sign of love/affection.
Does this mean she's interested? Maybe but I doubt it. I would ask her what was meant by it and about her true feelings. Tell her she's confusing you with what could be taken as mixed signals there.
I would tend to believe her that she's not interested in you after she told you as much before.
Why the jealousy? Maybe she finds it hard to meet guys and doesn't like hearing about how you met someone wonderful Maybe she was being as she said protective of you as she doesn't want you to get hurt.
You need to talk to her again and tell her you're really confused by things said/done lately especially the head on the shoulder thing and see what the reality of it is. Until you confront her (nicely does it) and get the answers there you'll be forever wondering.
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