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bisexual ...?
well, i might be bisexual. i had a girl friend that i really liked but then i broke up with her because she wouldnt let me so things to her like finger her. but im not really attracted to anyother girls. am i bisexual or wat? i like guys but i love seeing naked chiks. so idk.. pls help & also should i come out? how do i tell my mom???!
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You may be bisexual, gay or straight, but you have nothing to worry about. Theres nothing wrong with being gay/bi, so don't feel worried. You go through a confused phase, and I know this from personal experience. I now now I'm straight, but for a while I thought I liked girls. You will eventually realise that your feelings for a certain sex are more of great respect or friendship, and the other gender you harbor feelings of love for. However if you are bisexual, those feelings of love will float towards the people you like, but those that you only see as friends you will have respect for. That sounds kinda confusing, but it's really not. I didn't speak to my mum at all during that phase, and even then only a few of my friends know I went through it - and it was quite difficult, so I'd recommend that you speak to your mum, but sit her down and talk to her, and she'll respect you more for it.
Good Luck! xx
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At your age it's a bit premature to know if you are bi-sexual, gay etc. or not. You might just be curious about what it's like to be with another girl and want to experiment.
None of this would make you gay or bisexual. You also like guys so you could be completely hetereosexual. I wouldn't worry about coming out yet as it sounds too soon.
You need to see that you're consistently over long period of time attracted just to guys or just to girls or both. Trust me, you'll know as there won't be any denying it.
No matter what your mom will always love you for who you are. Parent's aren't lying when it comes to telling them tthings you ought not keep in. They'll find out about it in the end anyways.
Tell your mom that while you don't think you are gay or bi-sexual that you are curious about other girls and have tried to experiement but like guys too. Let her know ou are confused and get her support now.
Yes, this will catch her off guard and she may not be happy at first but she's there to get you through tough situations like this one. If you think you could be bi-sexual you really need an ally in your corner to help you digest what this means.
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You never said whether or not you are a guy or girl. This makes me think you're a guy because you say you had a girlfriend and are into naked girls. It also makes me think you're a girl beacuse you say you aren't attracted to any other girls but this one.
If you're a guy - I would say you probably aren't bisexual, you just have one of those feelings.
If you're a girl then I would think that you are. You've had a girlfriend and feel sexually towards the same sex. Then again, you would have to be interested in females romantically also.
It's really not that big of a deal if you are bisexual. Just ask your mom to sit down and tell her you have something serious to discuss with her. Let her know that you feel you may be bisexual or even homosexual. Make sure she knowns that you can't help how you feel, you just feel that way. You like people of both sexes (or the same sex...) and whether it is just a current feeling or how you will feel for the rest of your life, she will have to learn to love and accept you the way that you are.
There is nothing wrong with being homosexual. Just like you don't choose your race, height, name, birth location, etc. you also do not choose your sexuality. Those around you will have to learn to love and accept you. They shouldn't judge you based on whether you are straight, bisexual, or homosexual; they should instead judge you based on your personality, your likability, YOU!
At my school there is this club called the GSA (Gay/Straight Alliance). I'm not apart of it but I'm pretty sure it is for people of all sexualities to share their feeling I guess. I really have no idea...
Anyway, maybe your school has something like that. Or maybe there is a support group near you where you could find ways to come out and accept yourself the way you are.
I think it's really upsetting about how many people there are who feel negaitively towards somebody who is different. I don't think you should necessarily announce it to the world. Maybe tell your close friends how you feel. Don't just tell every random person. If they ask you, go ahead and tell them. You could also just let them find out. You don't have to necessarily tell them, just don't hide it from them. That doesn't mean PDA (public display of affection) is okay. I don't want to see anybody making out in the hallways at school, boy/girl, girl/girl, or boy/boy. It's just wrong to sit there with your tongues down each others throats for all to see...
Anyway, good luck. Never fear who you are, brace it, accept it, look forward to it!
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