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bad at sex
my boyfriend and I have had sex twice. I was a virgin when we met but he wasn't, so he's more experienced than me. When we have sex he always slips out and then goes back in and then slips out again and sofourth. We've tried him on top, me on top, and doggy style but I don't know how to do any of those well. Is there any ways I can become better at sex? b/c to be honest i have no idea what i'm doing really.
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well my advice would be do it the way you get the msot out of it for you. i worry too much about me bein bad so i can be a abit of a hypocrit. but let me put it this way i live in NW of England and alot of fellaz bone their gf like their is no tomorrow n i mean really fast and hard, when i tried then i didnt get much feelin in my jim jim so i took it slow so i could get the best out of it and what do you know they preferred it that way. so do it how you get the best sentual feeling. i hope i helped n dont worry (y)
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You're being far too hard on yourself here. Nobody can expect you to be an ace at anything sexual or anything else for that matter if you have never done it before.
I think your partner knows this and if he isn't talking you through it or going slowly tell him to start. don't rush things either and be sure to tell him and vice-versa what feels uncomfortable or difficult to do when it comes to positioning.
As far as his penis slipping out of your vagina it's common and not the end of the world. He probably thinks nothing of it but it's a sign he's going at this too fast and expecting you to know how to react.
The best thing you can do is buy a book about sex that explains positions, what to expect, how to become more comfortable with it etc etc. Dr. Ruth has written Sex For Dummies and it's a wonderful book for teens and adults and contains medical diagrams but no real pictures.
Wikipedia also has an extensive all text link and medical drawings article on sexual positions. There were some good results on search engines that discribed what to do and how to become better at certain positions but the sites made the bad decision to use pictures which we cannot link to.
If you use the Internet and visit a bookstore and explore their section on sexuality you'll find more than you need that will help you and your partner. Read the material together and you should be fine. It's a learning experience and practice makes perfect.
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There really is no way to "become better" at sex.Just take it as it comes,and it'll all become natural to you..You two are obviously comfortable with each other.I mean,you're having sex.So,I'm sure he's patient.You'll be fine:)
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doggy style is simple you just have to get down on all fours like a dog
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Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? It sounds like you are quite insecure about a real important issue. Just because your boyfriend is experienced somewhat does not mean that he is god at it, and you not having had any experience does not make you bad.
Being good at it is bringing pleasure to your partner. And that is different for everyone. So you know, it may be awkward first, but it can also be sexy once you get used to it: ask him if what you are doing feels good. Show him what feels good for you. Finding out what makes your guy hot is half the fun, and you can always try new ways.
Also, if you still feel bad, go online, get a book on sexual pleasures. Look at it yourself, maybe with him...it could lead you to more pleasures.
Good luck
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