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Suicide
There was a guy that went to my school that was my age and seemed to have a good, normal life... I mean, he had friends, girlfriends, good grades, played sports... and I just found out like twenty minutes ago that tonight he killed himself. I had only talked to him once ever. I just don't know how to feel right now. I don't know how to help my friends deal with this... I don't know much because there hasn't been anything on the news yet because it happened just a few hours ago. I guess I am just looking for words of advice, or experience... thank you, everybody.
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Here's an update... they don't actually know if it was intentional or not. It could have been a freak accident, but we will never know for sure.
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When someone you know commits suicide it is hard. But it is harder on his family. He may have seemed a 'normal' guy, as you put it, but looks can be decieving and you never really know what is going on inside someone's head.
The only thing you can do right now is be there for your friends. You can't help them deal with it, so to speak as every deals with tragedy differently. But everyon in your school is in the same position as you are. Every single pupil at your school needs to lean on each other now for support.
It is hard, but you will get passed it. Remember him in life, not in death. In other words, remember him as you knew him, not how he is now going to be portrayed.
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I'm very sorry to hear that, truly i am. It happens to people with the same situation, has everything yet nothing. Often people like that may look troubled but are fighting themselves inside or have problems at home. They keep to themslefs so it's hard to root out the one's that have that kind of mentality of killing themselfs. I remember i had the same feeling but i was called from god that i would grow up to become someone of great importance. It's shocking to hear i know, I'd give you a hug if i could cause no one should experiance this feeling esspecially if they knew the person even for a second. My words of wisdom my friend is to just be friendly to those who look like they need a friend, to lend a hand to those who're critizied by kids at school becuase they'll need it more. If you apply yourself to those who have no status to even voice a word, then people will come to you, and when you help them with a hug or just by saying "things will be alright and i am here for you" then that feeling... that feeling of helping another iwll feel far better than what popular kids feel, or winning money from a raffle, or haveing a boy/girl friend. Help those who need it, even if you say hello. Hope this helps and please take care. ^^
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I answered a question like this in the past, so I am going to just post what I said to them.
I know you have gotten many answers like this one, but I, too, went through this perdicament.
I did Cross Country for my school, and I was having a hard time with certain things. There was a guy whom was a Senior. He had a heart of gold and a smile that could cheer anyone up. He helped me through so much.
After the season ended, him and I didn't really talk anymore. Just a simple Hi in the hallway on occation. Sometimes would sit with him at lunch, mostly because my friends sat there. Couple months later, 4/20 to be exact, all of the teachers were told to read an email that they have received. My english teacher read out loud that someone had committed suicide the night before. We asked who it was and he said the guys name. It was so unreal.
So unreal.
Everyone who knew him in some sort of way went down to the library. Though I was not close to him, it still hurt that someone I knew hurt so much to kill himself. He was 17 years old, and 2 months away from graduating.
That whole day was just a blur. I was with my friends the whole time just walking around.
What made it worse what that I wasn't close to him either, but seeing his best friend's faces was heartbreaking.
My best friends were close to him, and it was the first time I have seen any of them cry.
Just knowing someone who has died is a horrible feeling, a feeling that you cannot decribe.
It makes you realize that it can happen to anyone, and to really pay attention to different feelings of people.
Cherish your friends and your family, they are there for you no matter what. Be a shoulder for them to cry on, and listen to everything they say.
Don't forget him, pray for him.
It's a hard concept, but if you keep him close to your heart, and stay close with your friends, you will be able to handle it.
Be strong, and I am sorry for your loss
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Just always be there for your friends, that's all you can do.
A lot of times people mask how they really feel, they're afraid to draw attention to themselves, and they just want to appear perfectly fine, even if something's been eating at them. There was no way to detect it, it seems.
I'm sorry.
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My friend committed suicide my junior year of High School and it was the worst feeling ever imaginable. Like your friend, he seemed to love life and was normal. But after receiving the news, I got this numb feeling. I didn't want to talk to anyone about it, really... I just wanted to be alone and deal with things on my own terms. A lot of people deal with grief differently. Just tell your friends that you're there for them and that will mean a lot! :)
My condolences... :)
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That is so sad =[
The reason why a person commits suicide is very complex.
I had a friend that tried to commit suicide once.
So i know how devestated and confused you must feel.
People who commit suicide usually don't think of how it affects the people they leave behind.
Everyone is affected. Family and friends of a suicide victim feel grief associated with loss.
You often feel you have failed and that you could have prevented it in someway.
And even people who didn't know the teen well might experience feelings of grief, confusion, and guilt. And that is kind of where you are.
But there is no right or wrong way to feel.
Just be there for your friends. Expecially the one's that were close to him. This is a time when a person absolutely needs to feel connected to others.
Here's a little bit about suicide:
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-parkeranne
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