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my xboy got locked up, i got a new boy, new boy cheated, n x
okay well, its long... but basic form is fast...
josh is my current boy, brandon is my x-boy.
in basic form: josh skrewed some girl while going out with me and i have him admitting it on recording but i havnt said anything to him yet, and brandons step dad wants to do everything he can to mess my life up and upset me and my family. and now that brandons coming back i dont know what to do... help please! please. brandons coming back into my life again in a week.
in long form:
josh and i have always had a thing but had never gone out. brandon and i had gone out, and we where going out untill brandon got locked up. at first it was okay, we sent eachother letters, but then we couldnt anymore. so i broke up with him. i loved brandon so much he ment everything to me. i thought he was the one, the one i was gunna marry. anyways, josh started making moves on me while brandon was locked up, somehow he wone me over even though i voued to stay with brandon. i started going out with josh and it was awesome. we have been going out since january. now brandon is getting out in about a week, im so skrewed because im still head over heals for him. he had my friend that got out on a pass from being locked up call me and tell me that brandons still in love with me. (and im still oviously in love with him)
but get this...
this person that called me also let me listen to a recording of my current boy, josh when he was drunk and he admitted skrewing my friend sara! and he said that he would do it again. i havnt said anything to him yet but oh my is he going to get hell. and my parents dont like him because hes not white (im white.) No matter what, i still love josh because i gave it up to him and that means that much more. its hard for me to believe he did another girl because hes always checking if im messing around with other guys.
and brandon, his dad called my parents and tried to skrew up my life by telling them terrible lies about me and saying that brandon didnt want anything to do with me although it isnt true. but my parents dont like brandon either because hes been locked up.
i dont know what to do. i loved brandon, he ment everything to me. when he got locked up i cried evey day for about 4 or 5 months. i cried all day long- just randomly durring school, durring cheer and when i got home. finally josh fixed that hole for me, i mean its not like he replaced brandon, he could never do that but, he helped me forget and keep living my life. i started being so happy with josh too! and now this. this is so messed up its rediculous.
i need to know what to do about brandon and josh. also i need to know what to do about sara.
i was thinking just to doubble check everything i should go up to sara in school and be like, i know you did my boyfirend sara, i thought we where friends. well you have about 5 minutes to tell me everything and say your sorry before i never want to talk to you again and lable you the whore who did my boyfriend... orr i was thinking about going to josh's mom and asking her what to do. even though shes my boys mom she would tell me straight up.
i am trying to tell you everything i can so i can get the best answer.
help please, please.
im so sorry this is long too.
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I apologize I never saw your question until now. I doubt my answer will do much for you now but I'll send it anyway. You took the time to write so here you go.
Based on the short version you wrote I say MOVE ON and FORGIVE but don't FORGET. Destroy the tape and forget about a confrontation. It's only going to make you sick. Tell him you know what he did and you wan to move on with/without him but he must stay faithful if it continues and you'll have his balls in a vice if he doesn't.
Let him know you don't mess around and he cannot mess with you. I believe once a cheater always a cheater. You cannot reform guys like him.
Stay clear of the ex-boyfriend and his father and make it clear you don't want to be in their life or them in yours. Just don't hang around them. Be civil at school but apart from that let him know you don't want him around. Nobody can fuck things up for you in your life unless you grant them the opportunity.
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This is a pretty crappy situation, but you need to ask yourself how you got there. I think that's even MORE important then figuring out how to get out of what you're in. Because honestly, it sounds like you're dating the same guy over and over again. And your 'friend' doesn't sound that great either.
You need to find some better people to hang out with and start making some better choices or you will keep finding yourself in the same situations. Figure out what kind of person YOU want to be first- in other words, what are your values? Your priorities in life? What's most important to you? To be an honest person? A caring person?...etc.
Then only surround yourself with people who have the same values. It's hard to find good people, but it's way better to have one or 2 real friends then to have 10 not so good friends, or worse. Same thing with guys, it's better to be on your own and wait to find a decent guy then to be with a jerk who will just cause you grief.
Don't bother with this kind of people anymore. You deserve better.
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