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i like him ALOT!, but I remind him of his ex
I like this guy lets call him "Phil"(random name). I have a crush on him, he's at my new school. He plays guitar, is short, but cute, he luvs the same music i do(fob, mcr, p!atd, and to top it all off my locker is right next to his and we sit next to eachother for every class because of the seating chart. So today he sits next to me and my friend Tori for lunch. He says I remind him of his ex girlfriend. Now, from what I know from talking to him, he only has had one girlfriend and she and him were together 3 weeks ago, but he asked her to go to homecomeing with him, she said no and she brokeup with him. He was evidently head-over-heels for her.
FYI: I have a short attention span. So i just hear him say creepy and point at me. So i turned my head and said 'What's wrong with me being creepy?' He threw his hands up in surrender and said "You're not creepy at all! I said it's just creepy how much you are like my ex-girlfriend"
He's SO nice and cute! There's a Sady Hawkin's dance comin' up, so i was wondering what do u think he meant by that I'm like his ex, is that good or bad given the past.
I want him to know that I'm not some carbon clone of his ex if he does like me. How should I go about this.
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There's no harm in going to a dance together as friends. Anything else that happens will occur naturally. More or less invite him and go with the flow.
If he seems interested in you afterwards confront him with the ex-girlfriend thing. Tell him you know they just broke up 3 weeks ago and there's feelings there. Ask him to sort that stuff out and come back to you when he knows he wants to be with you.
Be honest and tell him point blank "I like you too but right now you're on the rebound. I need to know you want me because of who I am and not who I remind you of."
You don't want to be "the rebound" girlfriend who gets discarded easily. You have to be let him know that and let him figure it out. At least enjoy the dance with him as friends and don't get hung up on other junk. The future will unfold from that.
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I don't know him, you or the ex. So, I wont even geuss if you reminding him of his ex is a good or bad thing.
By all means ask him to dance!
Frankly, you aren't going to figure out if you remind him of his ex in a good or bad way unless you do. His behavoir is the only thing that will tell you if he is looking for a carbon copy or not. If he always talks about her, if he wont get some distance from her and he moves waaaay to fast into a relationship with you, those are some pretty good signs that he wants you to take her place.
You can help make it clear to him by being original and honest. You and his ex are probably very different people, so you don't have to know all about her to illustrate your differences, you only need to know YOU. Talk about your hobbies and interests. Just be yourself and be honest.
If you realize he just wants a clone, don't go out with him agian.
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Hey, thanks for asking me!
Hmm, well if he never implied anything bad.
Now, im not a guy, but if he was IN LOVE with a girl who you remind him of, then it cant be a bad thing.
Ask him to the dance. You can just be like, hey are you going to the dance on friday (or whenever it is) If he says yeah, be like are you going with anyone? and if he says no be like we should go together.
If he says yeah and smiles and seems excited about it, he probably likes you.
Once he gets to know you better, he'll realize that you and his ex arent the same person.
I hope this helps. Good luck hun :)
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Well, if he was head over heels for his ex, then I think he means it as a compliment :] Now, start flirting woman! Don't look too eager though, just laugh when he's funny. Smile at him, catch his eye, then glance away and giggle. Touch his arm when you talk to him. Just don't get too clingy, that won't work at all. Then, after you've got him where you want him .. ask him to that dance! Just take things lightly, don't rush him into another relationship.
Good Luck<3
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i would go with him because it seems to me that he likes you and you like him. i think the reason you remind him of his ex-girlfriend is because he is head of heels for you. the both of you would be good together because you would see each other a lot and you would have a lot to talk about.
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All I can tell you is what I think is best for you.
That being, you are NOT his ex girlfriend, and if he DOES go with you, it is most likely solely based on the idea that he finds you so much like her.
I know you like him and all, but is it really worth it if he is going to think of her the whole time he is with you?
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