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I feel like i'm losing it...
I really feel like I'm going crazy. Two years ago when I was 12 everything was great. I had great friends and boyfriends or guys that liked me. Now, I'm really upset because I've lost my friends and guys don't like me. Anyways i'm really sad and I have a problem that's making me lose my freaking mind. seriously it is. Okay so I like this guy a lot. He doesn't like me anymore. But his friend likes me alot. I don't like his friend. Anyways the dude I like says im verry annoying and sometimes he's just plain mean to me. I don't know why either. I'm losing my mind thinking of all the reasons to why he hates me. I really like him though. A lot! More than what I've ever liked anyone. I'm just sick of not having guys that like me. I'm not ugly or fat. does anyone have any advice? thanks in advance....
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You are a late bloomer. Plain and simple. I had a hard time when I was 11, 12, 13. I went through my ugly stage... I always had friends, but I was always the "friend," never the girlfriend. But when I hit 15, everything changed. I started feeling more confident and people (guys especially) wanted to talk and hang out. It's not that I was never shy, just unsure of who I was.
By the way, date guys who want to date you. If you end up not liking them, you can always break it off. I have never been dumped and I'm 20!
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Why would you be in love with someone who isn't lovable? This person doesn't have any of the qualities you should be attracted to. He sounds like a jerk who just likes to hear himself talk and get a rise out of you because he can.
He knows you are easy to pick on because you have a crush on him. Believe me he knows that. Because you are the type of person not to stand up to him he can easily attack you.
You need to become thick-skinned and let this stuff fall off of you like water does on a duck. It's B.S. and has no power to hurt you unless you let it. Ignore him as in the grande scheme of things you aren't fit for eachother.
Don't obsess about him not liking you as it's his problem and not yours. He is the one who misses out on friendship or more not you.
You may not like his friend now but he sure does like you. I think it would be wise to get to know him. He sounds like a winner. Try one date. It won't kill you. At the very least befriend him as he might be the one who can set this jerk straight so you don't have to.
Guys do like you! Duh! You have one now that does. Start noticing people around you that you may click with or haven't talked to before. They might like you but you may not be picking up on it. The right person will come along when you stop worrying and obsessing. That kind of thing repells people.
I think you should go on a date with the guy who likes you as he may become more attractive to you later on. You need friends and boyfriend's like him. At least he won't treat you like crap.
As for the other guy tell him "I don't know why I used to like you. You are a total creep who has no regard for anyone's feelings but your own. Get a life and get a clue!"
Leave him something to think about and he'll see you cannot be victimized by his comments. He will move on and may in fact apologize and respect you.
You're not "losing it" and your life isn't screwed permanently now that you are 14. Don't adopt that line of thinking as it will make you miserable. Embrace each day and damn it all have fun and forget any nonsense out of his or anyone's mouth.
Develop mental armor like a turtle and withdraw into your shell thinking only good about who you are and sooner or later you won't give a damn about any nonsense stemming from other's mouths. Consider the source and whether ot not they feel inferior to you. Perhaps that's it.
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