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ok so my areas code is 43162 and after forever i finally got the-n and i only had it for a couple months when the-n went to its own channel. And i have time warner cable so i wasnt sure if they just got rid of it completely or just moved it. if u can let me know that would be great thanxs (and srry i wasn't sure what this would go under) (link)
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Go to timewarnercable.com and put 43162 into the box where it tells you to enter it for local info. Hit the button that says programming. The channel lineups will appear for West Jefferson, Marysville and other townships that have this Ohio zip code.
I was able to find it listed in Marysville as 858 but not listed on a few others. Try logging on and see if you can find it in their lineup. If not call their 800 number and ask why you can't get N in your neighborhood.
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15/f sophmore.
pep rally
so i'm at school and my vie principle wanted me any my 3 other friends to do this relay thing. And each person had to spin around on a bat 10 times around...so after i spun around the bat 10 times..i was REALLY dizzy. and i fell...but i got up and ran across the gym.
so my question is i know on monday people are going to make fun of me..or make jokes about this situation. So how do i act like i don't care ?!!!..what would you do in my situation?!!
please give me all of the advice you can think of. (link)
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There's no need to be embarrassed. The only way they'll mention it is if they see you brooding over it or something. Go about business as usual and if it comes up laugh and smile.
Tell them "The relay was fun but its a lot harder to spin around and walk afterwards. You ought to try it sometime." Nobody could pick on you then if you have the ability to mock your own self.
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this is the first concert ive ever been too
and the only thing available is the boucany
there arent any seating
we just stand
what are the problems with this
and whats good with this?
what should i expect
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ADDITIONAL INFO: Check this seating chart out at http://www.livenation.com/venue/getVenue/venueId/1377
There are some singles in the M area. As far as pairs it is indeed the balcony only. Good thing is you won't have to stand. There's seats up there but on a first come first serve basis. The only way this will be worth it is if you're in the centre section of the balcony labeled on the chart as being from B1-B5.
Even then the view may not be that great judging from the chart and the amount of seats. Bottom line if you REALLY want to be there go and get the seats. If you can wait until they play in your town next time then wait for a better selection.
ORIGINAL:
That's known as standing room only. The view may or may not be obstructed. It's basically you and whatever number of people the balcony can hold standing up.
The view will likely be obstructed and you may not see much of anything depending on the venue and bodies being packed in like sardines. You'll definitely hear the group but being able to see them and enjoy the show won't be possible. You'll be standing for 2 hours or more so your comfort is greatly compromised.
Then again it may be fine but that depends on the seating chart and how the stage is set up. If I could know the venue, the concert and the date I could pull it up for you and see if going for balcony seats or standing room only would work.
Also, if you really want to see this group find out if they have single seats only. You'll be alone in a great seat (usually) that way. often when they say they're "sold out" they mean pairs and not singles. There should be a lot of singles scattered throughout the venue.
I would pass on the seats you mentioned but message me privately with more info and I'll look at how the venue is set up and tell you if your balcony seat option is a good one or not. You may be closer than you think with those tickets depending upon the layout.
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my boyfriend (16) and i (16) have both explicitly and bluntly expressed to eachother that we'd like to have sex and think we're ready. we have been dating for 6 months and i don't trust anyone in the world as much as i trust him.
there's no way in hell i could ever tell my mom that i wanted to have sex, she'd flip a lid. however, i really want to be careful and don't want to run the risk of becoming pregnant. i'm curious about birth control, is there an over-the-counter brand that i could get without a doctors note?
more importantly, anyone with prior expierience... how were you able to do it and get away with it? (link)
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You should make an appointment with Planned Parenthood's Health Centre. Check their web site out http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ for the one nearest you.
They will be able to give you your prescription, give you an exam and really educate you on all the different types, brands of birth control.
The appointment is a confidential thing between you and them. Depending on what kind of physical exam you may need there could be a charge. It's best to ask before the appointment. They can't tell your family about your business nor can any doctor UNLESS: you are in danger, or causing harm to yourself, delusional or not in a good place physically/mentally.
Your mom would flip way more than a lid if you got pregnant at this age. Most parents would rather know and help you remain safe and pregnancy free than not. Sooner or later they always find out especially if you leave your pill box or packages for BC around.
You can take a prescription anywhere and get it filled without your parents being aware and it's confidential. You just need the money to fill it each month and that could be costly.
Instead of pills you should look strongly at NuvaRing. http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/vaginal-ring-nuvaring-4241.htm as it's easiest to handle.
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Okay, sooo here I go. sorry if this is long =/
me and my boyfriend just recently started having sex, it was both of our first times by the way.
Yes, we use a condom. EVERY TIME. I'd refuse to and he says hes not that stupid anyway especially since his dad got some girl at 17 pregnant with no condom like that. (Hes 17 almost 18 in july and im 15 almost 16 in september)but anyway when i get my period, my cramps are horrible, my period is for about 8 to 9 days and sorry for the over share but i bleed really heavy. yes i am a heavier girl and its normal to bleed heavy when your a heavier girl (i'm 5'2 or 5'3 and about 183 lbs. yes i know i'm overweight and i need to find out a way to get rid of that too but i have a size F bra if that helps)
but its really annoying to feel like even if i just changed my pad i feel that im going to bleed through my pants.
to get to the point, i want to ask my mom if i can get birth control not only because there is always that TINY chance the condom can break but because i know that birth control will make it less days, lighter and less cramps also. i know A LOT of girls that are on birth control at my age because of their period but the problem is i dont know how to ASK my mom about it. It'd be awesome if you could give me a few ways to ask without her being EXTREMELY overwhelmed please? thanks in advance! (link)
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Try being truthful. Tell her that you have extreme cramps, too heavy flow and feel like you can bleed right through your pants. Tell her you want to see a doctor about it and that you heard birthcontrol pills can in fact make things better. Leave it to her and mention nothing about sexual activity unless she does.
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Um when i get scared, anxiety, really nervous, etc my hands are liek frozen. (I guess because when I'm scared my blood runs cold, literally?).
I know it isn't normal but I don't know if there's a name for it if it is a serious problem or disease.
My dad wants it checked and some of my friends think that it's freaky lol especially when it happens during the summer when it's blazing hot but I dunno..even though you know something's bad going on, I like the coldness.
Does anyone might know of what it is? thanks. (link)
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It's not something you will die from so relax ;) It's a symptom you are experiencing because of anxiety, nervousness etc. that isn't present at any other time.
As long as it only occurs under those circumstances there's no real health concern. The thing you need to treat isn't a problem with your hands at all. You need to treat the anxiety problem and all these physical symptoms will fade.
You might have a mild to moderate anxiety disorder/problem that you should talk to a psychiatrist about and see if there's medicine that will curb it. What you are experiencing is likely the byproduct of that and just an annoying symptom. I've been there, done that so thats what I'm basing this on: experience.
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13/f
Okay... This makes me nervous, but I... Well... You know the word. I do that, but today... I hit this part and it really hurt... It kinda hurts now. Did I do something wrong??? I cannot tell anybody else this because it's my secret... Nobody knows about my... Thing. So... Can somebody tell me what i might've done????
p.s is it bad to... Do that at my age? Thank you! (link)
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Like the others have said you didn't give enough specifics about what you hit. I have a hunch thought that you may have broken your hymen which can hurt and cause a bit of bleeding.
This mucous membrane is usually broken through tampon use, masturbation and or sexual activity. I gather this might be what you are describing but am not sure as you didn't give a lot of details.
Read here about the hymen and its purpose http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen it contains a medical diagram like you would see in health class and no actual pictures.
This link is even better http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/hymen.html
Your "secret" shouldn't be one or rather doesn't have to be. Most teens your age as well as kids, adults, toddlers etc. do it. 90% of males done and about 78-80% females do. It's universal at your age and NOTHING to feel guilty or secretive about.
Most parents know that there kids are masturbating at your age be them male or female. It's very common. Most of your classmates and even friends do it but don't discuss it. Believe me you're in good company.
It's best to be open about it with folks, close friends etc incase you have questions about it, fears, concerns etc. You should find an older female ie sister, aunt, grandma, friend's mom to talk to about this because you shouldn't feel ashamed or secretive about something normal and natural that virtually everyone does.
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My boyfriend & i of about 5 months fight non stop every night for like the past month. We have been fighting about his exs & about stupid stuff. Such as hes trying to be friends with them even though i don't want him to talk to girls. I feel like hes going to go with them because there better.and lately he's been acting like he doesn't love me. Like he doesn't show it in the ways he used to. I just don't want this relationship to be over. I need advice how to get over this fighting. adn how i can trust him more.
Thanks sooo much
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His relationships with those girls are over and it's only about friendship. If he wanted to "get" with them he would have left you or already done it. He's trustworthy and will always be with you unless you drive him away with jealousy.
Tell yourself that you can trust him because he's given you no reason not to. If you have a solid relationship he doesn't have to show you or tell you he loves you. You just know. Stop with the jealousy and you'll be fine.
Guys have friends who are girls even if they were ex-girlfriends and it means nothing. You have no right or expectation that he stop talking to females altogether. That's unrealistic.
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I was wondering if anyone knew if alcohol was served at all ages shows at the House of Blues? I want to take my sister to the Honda Civic Tour at HOB in Orlando in April, but our parents won't let her go if alcohol is being served. I've been to all ages shows there before, and I don't recall seeing anyone drinking, so I would assume they only serve at shows that are 21+, but I thought I'd ask anyway just to see if anyone knows for sure.
Thanks! (link)
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Try this link http://hob.com/venues/searchresults/california.asp
It has all the House of Blues locations as well as venues their Live Nation Promotions firm owns in California. Call the number of the venue and ask for their alcohol policy when it comes to all ages shows. From what I know about HOB where I live there's no booze present at all ages shows.
At least here its an issue because their liquor license can be pulled if there is alcohol and minors because the bar is on the hook if they serve someone they didn't card. That's the way HOB does it in Toronto and Chicago.
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My 10 year old sister has a 13 year old friend and that friend is a complete girly girl and she constantly talks about her crushes (she can have 16 crushes at one time) her make up her clothes her nail polish blah blah blah now my sister is a tomboy and im not girly but im not tomboy and my sister kinda thinks its weird that her friend likes all that kind of stuff but her friend is always saying when your 13 you will feel this way and blah blah blah blah blah blah and my sister really will not feel that way ever thats not the way she is she start throwing a fit whenever mom wants her to go to the mall with us and she plays football and goes to school in those basketball shorts and long t-shirts and baseball caps she isnt going to change much in 3 years and she really wants her friend to stop saying all that stuff because its not true and you know that teenager feel like they know best and stuff but she is acting really stupid my sister just wants her to stop what should my sister do thanks to whoever answers this (link)
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She should accept the fact that this is one small thing she dislikes about this person. There's obviously tons of things she does like about her or they wouldn't be friends. This is just part of this girl's personality and she's acting like a typical girl her age.
If your sister doesn't like this aspect of her friend's personality than she should say something to her. It's best if she ignores this trait as it will lead to a fight and damage a friendship.
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My penis is like tan towards my body...and like there is like almost a tanline then it gets really light closer to the tip...it is not dirt..b/c i do wash it...it looks kinda funny having a tanline...why is it two colors?... (link)
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This is normal and present in all circumcised males. It's the scar from when your foreskin was removed. The small bits of that skin left are a different color than the shaft of the penis and rest of your genitals.
It's more tan towards your body and the glans and a different shade of pink on the shaft. Wikipedia explains it rather nicely http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circumcision_scar
There's nothing graphic there and no examples or pictures. We can't link you to that kind of thing because of the rules regarding minors reading the site. However, it is a medical thing that you can look up and see that you're perfectly fine.
Most genitals both male and female have different shades of pigmentation. You're fine as every circumcised guy has it. you'll notice that the foreskin on intact males is a slightly darker shade than the shaft so it explains everything.
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hi, i am 14/f....
and one of my friend's is cutting herself badly, and idk what to do, cause i promise her that i wouldnt tell anyone
but i am really worried about her, cause she is doing it really bad, and me and my other friend really want to help like talk to her about it
cause i have done it before it doesnt help and i know that now, and when i was doing it my other friend help me though it so she knows how to help to. and if we tried to talk to her she changes the subject
what should i do?!?!?! (link)
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In life there are secrets and promises that can't be kept. If you kept this a secret from adults it would only harm your friend further. You need to tell your parents what you know IMMEDIATELY and have them deal with it and her family.
Your friend may be pissed at you for awhile but you are doing the right thing. She will thank you in the end. She has a problem that needs to be looked at by a psychiatrist. They will get her counseling and medication to help her put this in the past.
You know what you need to do. Tell your parents, guidance counselor or teacher about your concerns for her. That's your only correct option.
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17/f. I have had an awful year. And I thought the worst was over at the end of the year. (I don't feel like explaining it; it doesn't really have anything to do with this...well sort of but I don't have to explain.) Anyway...I cut myself. And I haven't for say about a week, but I really have been wanting to lately. It drives me crazy; I sit there and my entire mind is focused on that. It drives me crazy when I force myself not to cut. Just like right now. I really want to and it is really hard to just not give in. And I know I should probably talk to someone, but I have a really hard time opening up to people, especially those I don't know. However, there is this teacher that I have talked to before. So, if I told him, then maybe it would be easier to talk to a counselor, or he could help me or convince me to talk to someone or something. I know I can't do it on my own. I don't know what to do anymore. What should I do? And if I do end up talking to a counselor, they don't have to tell my parents, do they? It'll stay confidential? (link)
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You have the right idea here in telling the teacher. Will it remain confidential? Everything you tell a counselor, teacher or admin person is confidential unless you are causing harm to yourself or others or your life is at risk.
In this instance you are causing harm to yourself and it's their duty by law to tell your parents. If they didn't they would be neglecting their responsibility to their students. Is it such a bad thing that your parents find out? The answer is no.
All that it means is that they will get you the proper help to see that you never cut again. They aren't going to blame you for this either as they know you aren't well mentally and that this is what is happening.
All that will happen once they and the school know of this is that you will get assistance from a psychiatrist. You'll need to be brutally honest about cutting and how you feel mentally so they can help you to overcome it. They will likely meet with you every few weeks and give you the proper medication to resist the urge to cut and be well mentally.
They cannot put you in the hospital or keep you 72 hours or longer unless they think you are in danger, suicidal, delusional or of harm to yourself or others. Relax there. Even if you did spend time in the hospital it's not all that bad. I've been there twice. They take good care of you and give you time to rest and get well.
If you feel you can't tell this teacher face to face write him a note that you trust him/her and need to stop cutting. Hand it to him privately and ask that he speak to you later in confidence. You're doing the right thing in doing this.
You can also bring a friend you trust and tell him/her privately. Bottom line is as hard as that is to do you know you must. If your gut screams at you to do it you have to trust it.
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does anyone know where I can buy one?
not from the internet?
or if it is from the internet, I can pay w/money orders? (link)
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The shirts are almost always free and handed out by campaign officers at each event she attends. I would doubt it very highly that they would charge for them. How do I know? I've worked as a volunteer on several campaigns and they had more free t-shirts than anything else on hand.
Try calling her campaign headquarters to inquire about the shirts 703-469-2008. You can also log onto http://hillaryclinton.com and hit contact us. A list of regional offices in every state is listed there. You can call the one in your state and ask the person on the phone about the shirts.
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is it good to have sex during period time? (link)
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There is absolutely no evidence of this being physically harmful or affecting you or your health in an adverse manner. it's up you whether you are comfortable doing this. As long as you and your partner are mature enough to handle it you can proceed.
Many people do this and others don't. It depends on what you and your partner feel about it. It can be messy and there's nothing anywhere suggesting it sinful, against the bible, God etc. as mentioned below. That is just one person's personal belief. Don't let it cloud your judgment in any fashion for or against.
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I have to write a short story. Due tomorrow. Ha grreeat. And it's on electricity, the broadest subject I could have. I want to be creative and quirky..Or maybe it could just be a made up idea...Any help?!?! PLEASSEEE (link)
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Try the web technique. On a piece of paper put the subject "electricity" and then draw lines and little balloons with each of your ideas about it. Pick a good 2-3 to use to inspire your story and develop characters. It's a great technique that seldom if ever fails.
The other thing you need to do is to stop putting pressure on yourself to write something amazing. Great pieces unfold and can't be forced. If you're having trouble take a break for 30 mins to an hour and come back to it with new ideas.
Even if you have to write 1 paragraph and stop and come back in increments all night you'll be fine. Write what comes to mind, try your best, edit and then hand it in. Let the chips fall where they may and stop putting stress and pressure on yourself to complete it.
Yes, it's due tomorrow but you can make it if you calm down and trust yourself.
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i love masterbating.
i do it everynight with the shower head in between my legs.
but are there other techniques that are AMAZING?
please share!
like other ways to stand or massage with the shower head or
with anything else around the house?
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The site and its users are not allowed to give out this kind of info. Even if it did what works for one person won't for another. The only guidance we can give you is to find out what works for you.
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ok so i re-met this guy simon i already kind of knew at my friends 6th period class like 2 wednesdays ago. i thought he got really hot since i last saw him and it was a running joke with my friend erin and i that night that i wanted her to hook me up with simon, and she said she'd have her bf talk to him but i didnt really think she would. so i sorta let it go.
then the wednesday a week later simon randomly adds me on myspace and we start messaging and he asks me if i wanna chill sometime and he asked for my number and i gave it to him. then i asked erin if she had her bf talk to simon and she didnt, so him talking to me was totally his own idea. the thing is that was last wednesday and i havent heard from him in almost a week. do you think hes really gonna call cuz im kinda into him... (link)
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He was probably waiting for you to make some kind of move other than giving him your number. You should talk to him in school tomorrow and tell him "Hey, I was hoping you would call this weekend as I would like to hang out with you."
That's all it takes. Then if he's still interested which believe me he will be you can set up something for a movie etc. He was looking for you to take the bait so to speak.
He wanted you to say you would like to hang out with him when he asked you to "chill". So, you need to go after him and tell him you're interested.
The other thing is that it's very scary for guys to approach girls in person or call on the phone because of rejection. maybe he didn't call because he was scared. You have to take into account that it was the weekend and perhaps he meant to talk to you but got caught up in family stuff.
Do what I mentioned above and you should be set. It sounds like he really likes you but isn't so sure where he stands with you. Invite him to hang out with you and your pals and see what happens. If you want him go after him. You have a window of opportunity here that you could drive a truck through. It will work out fine. Let me know though what transpires.
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this is going to sound incredibly stupid of me.. but im asking anyways
so... i have this friend that i was best friends with... she's really mad and should be after what i did. see, i have this drug problem and i've been working hard to stop and i did until two weeks ago i relasped. well... she found out and was like i warned you many times that if you did them again that i wouldn't talk to you. she isnt talking to me. so now i feel so stupid. i mean i've been calling and texting her... the whole nine yards to apologize. and i mean i know i like really messed up... so i need help finding a way to get her back... she doesnt go to my school either (link)
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Don't apologize for something that happened during a relapse or blame yourself. She doesn't know enough about addiction to know that you don't just get treatment and boom it takes and you recover. She's blaming you for something you can't control.
She should also know that anything you did or said at that time was the drugs, the addiction, and the relapse and not who you are. Granted what you did hurt her but she shouldn't blame you for it or shut the door on you for stumbling.
1 in every 10 people in recovery relapse if not once its several times. You have got to want to get better and back into treatment again. Once your friend sees you have done something to get back on the wagon she should come around again.
Stop apologizing, get help and boot bad influences out of your life. She's probably angry because she thinks you apologize every time but land back into the same trouble. If you care about her and others really work hard right now and turning around your life and figuring out what triggered the relapse so you don't ever go through it again.
If she sees that you are working your ass off and turning your life around step by step and in the moment she will respect you and see that you want to correct things. More or less she wants you to stop apologizing and get better because she can't stand who you are when not sober.
If this friendship is a solid one and one meant to be kept it will work out. You have to knock out the crowd you have been hanging with, get rid of friends who aren't right for you or do drugs/booze and work harder than ever before on recovery.
Believe me she and everyone else will notice and will want to be part of your life. She's probably also scared for your life, scared to be around you, confused and upset. She can't bring herself to be around that as it isn't healthy for either of you.
But once you clean up for good the right people will find you or return. Until you do this she's going to stay away from you I'm afraid. She doesn't know how to be supportive or a friend when you're in this condition. That's all there is to your problem.
Wait for her to reach out to you but get your recovery going again ASAP and make some painful and sweeping changes. Recovery takes a long time, honesty, and hard work as you know. You've just got to want this more than your next breath.
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when me and my boyfriend have sex this farty sound comes when he goes in and out...even though were not farting lol. i know it is me and it is really embarasing. what is it? how do you stop it? thanks (link)
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Think about it the vagina is a dead end street. Air being packed up there from thrusting has to be released somehow. It's normal, natural and nothing as others have illustrated is wrong. Tell your boyfriend that as it won't be embarrassing anymore.
Maybe you can even laugh together over it. A correction though, its not gas that is coming out. It's air that is being expelled. You can bet most if not every woman experiences it at some point.
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