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cutting friend
hi, i am 14/f....
and one of my friend's is cutting herself badly, and idk what to do, cause i promise her that i wouldnt tell anyone
but i am really worried about her, cause she is doing it really bad, and me and my other friend really want to help like talk to her about it
cause i have done it before it doesnt help and i know that now, and when i was doing it my other friend help me though it so she knows how to help to. and if we tried to talk to her she changes the subject
what should i do?!?!?!
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not tryin to sound bad or mean but get her to rubberband instead. the pain is like cutting but you wont loose all the blood and wont have big scars to remember later. i did cut for a while i recently stopped. i rubberband now and my friends tried to get me off cutting. they helped alot but it was me that got myself to stop. theyd grab me make me listen theyd use tough love hold me down whatever. if you tell it will make it worse for her. no phyciatrists work just piss you off even more. just dont let any kids make fun about cutting in general around her thats when all hell breaks loose even if they dont no she does. um anything else ill help.
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talk to her wether she likes it or not make her listen to you.If she changes the subject you stay on the toppic!!!Try convincing her to stop and tell her shes not only bruising her arms but bruising her life cuz when shes older and she sees them scarz shes gonna remember all the pain she been thru and get depressed...AGAIN!Try talkin her outta it and if that don work you have to tell her parents or a trusted adult you just got to man.If you dont one day she might be dead and youll end up regrettin it.An adult has much more knowledge and experience then we do so they might get her some therapy or help her out...shell hate you after it butll thank you when she realizes you saved her life!!!
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throughout my childhood, I had severe bouts of depression. [to put it simply]
cutting, as long as she isnt doing it to be 'cool', or whatever the latest crazy fad is, is NOT cureable through psychiatry.
once someone has made up their mind to do it, there isnt much that can stop them.
try telling her how you feel, and how you're scared for her. knowing you have friends at this point is very important.
talk to her as much as possible- but make sure you treat her as you did before you found out. checking in every once in a while is more beneficial than nothing.
Try to steer conversations toward positive events, if at all possible, but if she brings up the subject, then talk with her about it.
One thing that really worked for me was seeing those worse off- volunteer at a shelter, visit a childrens hospital.
& as always, feel free to talk to me any time, or have her talk to me. [my personal contact information can be provided]
I would also like to thank you. Its friends like you that can help to save lives.
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In life there are secrets and promises that can't be kept. If you kept this a secret from adults it would only harm your friend further. You need to tell your parents what you know IMMEDIATELY and have them deal with it and her family.
Your friend may be pissed at you for awhile but you are doing the right thing. She will thank you in the end. She has a problem that needs to be looked at by a psychiatrist. They will get her counseling and medication to help her put this in the past.
You know what you need to do. Tell your parents, guidance counselor or teacher about your concerns for her. That's your only correct option.
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