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Q: Ok so for the summer dance I want to dress like a rockstar (not a glamorus rock star just a plain old rockstar). Does anyone have any ideas or sites besides wiki how. Thanks in advance.
answers.yahoo.com
eHow.com
grooveshark.com
hotgirlsdressup.com (sounds like a porn site, but it isn't)
style.com

Really, type in 'how to dress like a rockstar' into google, and you get tons of results that aren't just wikihow.
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Q: Does anyone know any good books similiar to the twilight series? I like fictional books with some "paranormal" aspect but nothing thats too over the edge in the fantasy section.

Some people reccomend A Great and Terrible Beauty, anyone here know if its worth the read?

thanks so much!
I thought Blue Bloods by Melissa De La Cruz was pretty good. :]
I thought that A Great and Terrible Beauty was good, also a trilogy. They are books that are fairly long, but dont seem to run on and on.
Good luck & happy reading. :] if you'd like more suggestions, feel free to ask.

Q: Does anyone know where I can get an ear-ed hoodie? I've checked every store around here, and they don't have them. So any website I can order them off of?
well, since there's no way for me to tell where 'around here' is for you, I'm going to try my best. :]

There's a UK based clothing brand called 'criminal damage' that sells them. So if you're anywhere in Europe, there's ways to get them.

Also, you can get them online if you live in the US.

I dont know if you go for the whole emo/goth/whatever scene, but I'm pretty sure Skelanimals sells those, too. If you like them, head out to your nearest Hot Topic retailer & get to the shopping!

If you want specific websites, or stores in your area, let me know your location (generically- its not a good thing to give out your address.! D:) & I'll look some up for you. Good luck & happy shopping.! :]

Q: Ok so last year I went to the best summer camp ever! I miss it so much. Some times I miss it so much it makes me wanna SCREAM! I have cryed in school before about it. What can I do to not miss it so much until summer again? All advice apreciated.
I know how that is. My summer camp=amazing. My home life=not so much.
I find that if you concentrate on something else for a while, like getting all A's in school, or improving your stats at whatever sport you play, or otherwise putting your attention on other things.
good luck, have fun & feel free to ask if you would like a few more suggestions. :]

Q: Ok, I got an emo haircut, but the thing is, it DOESN'T LOOK EMO. It's cut the same way an emo kid's is, but it won't show. How do I fix my hair? My coon tail also keeps seperating, making it less noticable. Anyway, thanks!
texturizer.! mousse.! those things work lovely.
I'm assuming you're wearing your hair straight, so I find that herbal essences dangerously straight mousse is nice. :]
bed head's uptight also works well for simple texturizing jobs. (I know its for making curls, but it smells good & works as a texturizer during the winter, spring, fall. -if it gets too hot or humid outside, you'll start to see some waves, starting out with straight hair. If you've got curly hair, you'll see some of those popping up, as well.)

If those dont work, go back to your hair salon (bathroom, sister, mom, etc.) and tell them you want the same length, but with stronger layers. DO NOT try & cut your hair on your own, unless you have specific knowledge and the right tools.
Good luck.! :] let me know if you need any more products that work fairly well.

Q: Ok well i want to get like a flat stomach, but what do i do? like i have PE and we run the mile like almost everyday and stuff but i need help with outher things, like what should i do at home and what excately should i eat?

also i like to make my legs thinner, not with more muscle becasue my legs have alot of that but just thinner becaseu they are like huge.

I'm not really concered with losing weight I just wanna get my stomach flatter and my legs a little thinner, so any help would be apprected.

Thank you!
okay, to get a flat stomach:
-running in PE isn't enough. (sorry hon) you should try to get at least 45 minutes of cardio in every two days.
-crunches! Alternate with cardio- work on building the abdominal muscles.

The crunches & stuff will give you a lean midsection, but you have to burn the fat off in order for them to be revealed. (bitchy, I know)

Thighs:
-unless your thighs are ALL muscle, which I doubt coz that's just crazy insane, you can still build up lean muscle in place of the fat. Fun things that help you do this are dancing, watersports, etc. The running will help with this too. You can also do squats, lunges, and those exercises in moderation.

Good luck! Let me know if you would like any other workout/health tips. :]

Q: i'm turning 18 so this summer me and my friends are going on vacation together. we are looking for some beaches that are also near a lot of nightlife with things to do. can anyone give me any good ideas on where to go?
If you're up for traveling (& spending quite a lot of money) I'd suggest Mykonos, which is an island off if Greece. I stayed there for two nights last summer and fell absolutely in love. :]

otherwise, depending on where you are (east coast, midwest, west) you might want to check out some localish attractions.

if you want to go to California, for any reason, dont go to Sacramento/Central Valley if you want to have fun. Its all buildings, Mickey D's, and cows.

Big cities frequently have clubs & such, and many states have at least one big city.

Have fun- & I hope I helped somewhat. (despite my nonspecifics)

Q: I think I might be a lesbian, but I'm not sure. I'm 17/f, and I find myself thinking about girls and how they would look naked. I find myslf looking at the girls in the locker rooms. I find myself wanting to have like sex with girls and kiss girls and make out with girls. Are there any websites for girls like me?
hon, thinking about girls does not make you a lesbian. Do you, or have you ever, liked/fantasized about guys?
If you have, you're either extremely curious, or bisexual. (Just stating that as a warning- many people do not accept lesbians or gays and somehow find bisexuality easier to deal with. Make sure you're sure before announcing it.)

As for your question: there are PLENTY of websites for straight, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, transexual, crossdressing, sadistic, masochistic, BBW, convicts, ECT. Aside from social misconceptions, there really is a place for anyone, no matter wthh floats your particular boat.
type in 'lesbian dating sites', 'lesbian chat rooms', or find a lesbian/bisexual/whatever you end up deciding you are group on myspace, or the likes.
Just remember- not everyone on the Internet is who they say they are. Good luck in your search. :]
if you need to talk, ever, feel free to contact me.
-kristinaa. ('out' for 4 years.)

Q: I'm 16, I wear a D36 cup and I'm 5'0. I have dark red hair and olive skin. I'm tired of hiding behind clothes that don't fit or flatter me in the correct places. Could someone put together a cute outfit [from the forever21 site] for me for an example or give me tips? Obviously I would like to stay modest with cleavage. I want to go shopping soon but I'm totally lost with style and correct colors.. My whole wardrobe needs to be revamped lol. Lots of answers would be appreciated.
ah, another member of the club.
I have the same problem a lot of the time, too.
Just a few suggestions:
-dont wear anything with more than 5% spandex. When things have to stretch, they look tight, and feel like a very uncomfortable sports bra. o.o
-dont do babydoll-style shirts. They may help to minimize your chest, but they make you look fatter that you really are, and pregnant if you have any amount of squish.
-I find that lacy cami's (pulled up enough) paired with fitted jeans, and a cropped jacket or loose-fitting half-zipped hoodie look really cute.
also, depending on the rules at your school, and your body type, you can go without the jacket. If you have a long torso and shortish legs, it looks good. :]
-tank tops are usually not very good, because they stretch around the chest and make it look larger.
if you want more specifics, like how to dress for a certain style, or specific stores & prices I would suggest, let me know. I dont really have enough information to give you any more ideas. :[
definitely, if you're looking for a better fit, look into a minimizing bra- I believe they sell them at Victorias Secret. (again, let me know if you'd like me to look up any specifics.)
hope I helped- & good luck.!

Q: ok, i have been going out with this guy for... seven months now, we LOVE each other, well i do, he says he does too... and i want to trust him SO bad, the problem is, my friends say he has been cheating from the beginning, and he keeps denying it, and so now i don't know what to do, and who to trust! my friends, who are sooo close to me and the guy i promised to always trust!! i have never been there when he cheats, and there is no proof, but the only proof i have is that my friend (close friend) is there when it happens, and he close and trustable friends are there when she isnt, so there always is someone there to notice him cheating. i have heard these cheats four times altogether, and so now im beginning to question him and our trust, he keeps denying it, i ahve been confronting him about these cheats and he keeps denying, saying it isnt true and i should be trusting him and not stroies. i am on the verge of breaking up with him, but i dont want to because we have become so close and i love him now.
please, i need help... i have spent my whole day crying over this... and whenever i hear stories of him cheating, i keep crying! what do i do?!?!
PLEASE HELP ME!!!
thank you so much.
sounds to me like you already have your answer.
if you really, truly trusted him in the first place, you wouldn't believe a word about that.
and more than one person has said it to you? More than one group of people? It seems like they're telling the truth- conspiracy theories like that dont really happen (unless you're a mega-bitch, which you honestly dont come off as.)

Other than that, I'm not going to give any other opinions about the situation unless you specifically ask me to.

Good luck, really. I hope I helped. :]

Q: okay so where i live we have water from a well. when i go to my dads he has city water not from a well and when i wash my hair it feels soooo much more silky and it even dries different. is that because it's not well water? like when i wash it at home it dries all weird and gross. i'm just wondering
is there anything i can do about the well water?

ugh i hate it!

15/f
I also have a well, but my hair reacts the opposite in the city.
it seems to me that its the climate, not the water.
if you have a drier climate in the house with the well, you just need moisturizing hair products- make sure they arent too greasy, though.
If its a more humid climate where you live, your hair is probably really healthy, but it feels cleaner when you go to the city. You could use conditioner every other wash, or every third wash (depending on the time between each).
good luck. :]
I know how much hair can suck sometimes. xd

Q: My friends do the exact same thing every single day its so annoying.
I need new friends, they tell me to shuttup all the time, and theyre nice and all, but so preidctable it just gets boring, im the only spice to our group. Now i have other friends...but itll be weird if i just waltz right up to them and their friends you know? But i dont just want these people, i want friends from all over the place!
how do i do that without seeming desperate and without throwing my current friends in the dust?
uh, sounds like your 'friends' arent that nice.
they tell you to shut up? that seems a bit contradictory.

& its perfectly fine to walk up to your other friends, even if they hang out in a completely different group.
I know that sometimes you'll get 'looks' from some of the people in that group, but ignore them. :]
if the person is rlyy your friend, they won't care that you dont hang out that much- and you can get a chance to hang out more that way. good luck.
I hope something in there helped...& I'm sorry if it didn't.

Q: i met this lady whos on her 40s she juz got from mexico but needs eye surgury rite away or she could be left blind she dosent have the $$$$ 2 pay for it and since she got here in california she has no health insuranca and yeah she came here illegally but is there any place she can get help plz
I'd also like to add that 'cheap' eye surgery still isn't cheap.
and FREE? Are you kidding me? Free eye surgery, if you could find anyone who offered it, would most likely be experimental, unprofessional, and horribly, horribly dangerous.

Being blind isn't such a bad thing compared to the alternative.

Q: Alright. So my girlfriend is going to california for spring break. She would like me to go with her. Problem is, its 500$. I do not have efficient funds at this point. I cant get a job, I cant borrow. I do not know what I could do to get this 500$. Our Spring break is in 3 and a half weeks. Please help me if you can.

15 male...
if you're really set on going, you can do a few things:
-ask your parents for SOME of the money. Make sure you let them know you are going to pay them back, and actually do it.!
-do chores around the house for money, if you can't go and get a job. Ask neighbors if they have anything you can do for them. If your grandparents, or other older relatives live near you, ask if you can help them out.
- if you REALLY REALLY want to go, sell some of your stuff. Make sure it isn't too important to you.

Even if the plane tickets cost $500, you need to think about other expenses, too. Food, board, all that stuff- it costs a lot in california. (this is coming from someone who has lived in the state her whole life)

Good luck- & if you end up getting out here, have fun. :]

Q: where can i buy sandpaper?
home depot, OSH, Im pretty sure target and walmart sell it, too.

If you live somewhere where there aren't any of those stores,
find a construction store & they should have it.

Hope that helped. :]

Q: wat does "on tour mean?

like when artists go "ON tour"??



huh!?!!
okay, because musical artists & other artists cab go on tour, thisll be pretty generic.

Basically, they travel around, hold exhibits or shows, and try to gain a fanbase. [or keep one]

Like when you tour europe, or some other place. You travel around, seeing the different cultures of places. These people are trying to integrate themselves into the cultures of the places they are traveling to.

ON tour means that they are in the process of the above.
say, you have a concert schedule.
one band is playing with another in your city tonight, but they played in new jersey yesterday, and will play in california tomoz.

Hope that helped. :]
feel free to ask if i didnt fully answer your question.

Q: how do i get rid of it? its becoming easier for me to be myself and stuff but sometimes i feel akward and shy. especially around really outgoing people.. i mean normally im not shy and sometimes i wanna just be myself around people like that but then i get like stiff but i dont want them to think im a boring person its just.. idk like some friends i have they are outgoing and stuff but i met them in outgoing situations.. its hard to like get to know someone in the middle of class.. like im trying to concentrate at work and like "making new friends" while getting some info from a book then putting it on paper like.. its hard to do all that and socialize like im not stressed about my work and stuff. and its a bummer because some of those people seem like people who'd be great friends.. i want to ditch some of my not-so-good friends.. so how can a girl who a lot of people think is shy unless they met me in like a comfortable setting where i could act more like myself, and even people who are already my friends.. like some think im kinda shy.. like how can i just break out of that? it seems weird to suddenly stop acting like that.. i mean i try to stop but how can i actually do it? if you get what i mean.. and i never want to be thought of as a poser or anything.. not that i should really care what others think.. but yea. how can i get rid of this uncomfortableness and just be myself 24/7 and stop being so shy at times? 14/f thanks a lot btw!! :) know that your answer will change my life~
okay, so I used to have almost the exact problem, only I was shy in every situation, even outside of school.

I think you should focus on your responses to people now. If you think that something they said was funny, go ahead and laugh.
& if asked a question, try to avoid yes or no answers. Elaborate a little, so that people become interested. Same thing with questions: dont ask yes or no or one-word-answer questions until youre comfortable with someone.

Bad example:
you: hi.
person1: hello.
you: how are you?
p1: fine.
you: so whatsup then?
p1: nothing.
---
good example:
person1: hey, how was your weekend?
you: pretty fun. (smile) I went shopping.
p1: oh really? That's cool. What'd you get?
you: I got a pair of awesome new jellies.
p1: seriously? I've been wanting those for forever!
---
as for the talking in class thing...learn to multitask. Carry on a conversation while reading and writing at the same time.
Good luck & I hope I helped. :]
feel free to ask if you want more tips or elaboration.

Q: what are some animals that are strong, free and never give up? i want it because i want something to remind me of what i should be to be successful. thanks.
mythical:
phoenix
gorgon
unicorn/pegasus [not the same thing, but similar ideas]

real:lions, tigers, & bears. oh my!
snakes
ladybugs [despite all those dxmn aphids]
ants.
mice

prettier real ones:
storks
flamingoes
PENUINS.
owls
turtles
bunnies. [ahah]

...hope something in there helped. :]
ignore my caffeinated humor.

Q: I am looking for lace ruffle panties in plus sizes (8/9).

Something like these:

http://im.edirectory.co.uk/p/3202/p/piranhafrillys.jpg
http://g-ec2.images-amazon.com/images/I/41jco4EpfLL._PC_.jpg
http://www.3wishes.com/images/rufflebrief-l.jpg

Does anyone know any place that sells these?
uh, in response to what the person below me said: it doesn't really matter what you're using them for. Thats your business.

Plus size isnt an 8 or a 9 (unless we have some weird sizes up in here?)

If you are actually plus size, torrid has some ones very similar to the light pink ones. (the second website)

Idk whats going on with their online sizing right now, though.
anyways hope I helped. :]

Q: is it normal to have like hair around your nipples..?
little, fine, small hairs? Yes.
I'm almost positive that hair-hair (like your eyebrows or the top of your head) is not supposed to be there.
you're most likely fine, but if you get worried, tell your parent or a doctor.

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KristinaKinesthetic
i ' m usually pretty nice , and i love to meet new people . :]

both my parents are doctors , so i know quite a bit about that subject . c:

and i don ' t like using capital letters : i find them pointless , though i can type in full sentences , and love to see others try , as well .

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