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awkwardness
how do i get rid of it? its becoming easier for me to be myself and stuff but sometimes i feel akward and shy. especially around really outgoing people.. i mean normally im not shy and sometimes i wanna just be myself around people like that but then i get like stiff but i dont want them to think im a boring person its just.. idk like some friends i have they are outgoing and stuff but i met them in outgoing situations.. its hard to like get to know someone in the middle of class.. like im trying to concentrate at work and like "making new friends" while getting some info from a book then putting it on paper like.. its hard to do all that and socialize like im not stressed about my work and stuff. and its a bummer because some of those people seem like people who'd be great friends.. i want to ditch some of my not-so-good friends.. so how can a girl who a lot of people think is shy unless they met me in like a comfortable setting where i could act more like myself, and even people who are already my friends.. like some think im kinda shy.. like how can i just break out of that? it seems weird to suddenly stop acting like that.. i mean i try to stop but how can i actually do it? if you get what i mean.. and i never want to be thought of as a poser or anything.. not that i should really care what others think.. but yea. how can i get rid of this uncomfortableness and just be myself 24/7 and stop being so shy at times? 14/f thanks a lot btw!! :) know that your answer will change my life~
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honestly i had the same dilemma a couple months ago. you should just break out and EXPRESS YOURSELF. ill be honest, some people will think it is strange/poser-ish that you suddenly turned more outgoing, im not going to lie (i would probably be one of those people) but if you know IN YOUR HEART that you are TRYING YOUR ABSOLUTE BEST to be yourself, you will know that you are NOT a poser, even though you may feel like one at first. gradually, though, you'll learn how to not care about what other people think of you :)
& how do you NOT care about what others think? talk to yourself like your best friend (no more internal "omg im so embarassed i suck" talks, always stop yourself when you find yourself doing that), dress however you want (within reason), learn to make decisions for yourself, RESPECT YOURSELF! because you cannot expect others to repsect or like you if you do not respect or like yourself.
sweetie, this is what i learned, and what im still trying to get used to, so if you wanna see results then you gotta persevere. im telling you, an extreme change from SHY!GIRL to JUST MYSELF!GIRL will take a loooong looong time, especially if you've spent a lot of your life trying to live up to other people's standards (its taken me since september) a lot of times when i think ive become totally self-reliant something comes up and i lose confidence, even now.
work it out girl, WORK IT OUTT. good luck & stay strong. <3 the end results will be so worth it. i promise you.
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I know how you feel, a good way to to get rid of this feeling and be yourself is to not care what others think of you. this will help you to act like yourself because you wont be caring about what people think of you and youll be happier that way, trust me
good luck:]
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okay, so I used to have almost the exact problem, only I was shy in every situation, even outside of school.
I think you should focus on your responses to people now. If you think that something they said was funny, go ahead and laugh.
& if asked a question, try to avoid yes or no answers. Elaborate a little, so that people become interested. Same thing with questions: dont ask yes or no or one-word-answer questions until youre comfortable with someone.
Bad example:
you: hi.
person1: hello.
you: how are you?
p1: fine.
you: so whatsup then?
p1: nothing.
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good example:
person1: hey, how was your weekend?
you: pretty fun. (smile) I went shopping.
p1: oh really? That's cool. What'd you get?
you: I got a pair of awesome new jellies.
p1: seriously? I've been wanting those for forever!
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as for the talking in class thing...learn to multitask. Carry on a conversation while reading and writing at the same time.
Good luck & I hope I helped. :]
feel free to ask if you want more tips or elaboration.
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