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telling a teacher about cutting
17/f. I have had an awful year. And I thought the worst was over at the end of the year. (I don't feel like explaining it; it doesn't really have anything to do with this...well sort of but I don't have to explain.) Anyway...I cut myself. And I haven't for say about a week, but I really have been wanting to lately. It drives me crazy; I sit there and my entire mind is focused on that. It drives me crazy when I force myself not to cut. Just like right now. I really want to and it is really hard to just not give in. And I know I should probably talk to someone, but I have a really hard time opening up to people, especially those I don't know. However, there is this teacher that I have talked to before. So, if I told him, then maybe it would be easier to talk to a counselor, or he could help me or convince me to talk to someone or something. I know I can't do it on my own. I don't know what to do anymore. What should I do? And if I do end up talking to a counselor, they don't have to tell my parents, do they? It'll stay confidential?
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hey,
stopping cutting is pretty hard and sometimes like you say the cravings get really intense but if you fight it off the cravings eventually lessen and stop.I have been there, and not very long ago either only about a month ago actually, so anyway i was dying to do it but with alot of self-control i managed to stop.Also like i did it is good to find someone you trust to talk to and in your case it sounds like this teacher. Occasionally i will get the urge to cut when something goes wrong but if you push through it, it goes away. Also a very important this is to keep yourself occupied so that you dont have a chance to think about it.
I hope that this helps.
stay strong and remember that only you can control what you do.
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You have the right idea here in telling the teacher. Will it remain confidential? Everything you tell a counselor, teacher or admin person is confidential unless you are causing harm to yourself or others or your life is at risk.
In this instance you are causing harm to yourself and it's their duty by law to tell your parents. If they didn't they would be neglecting their responsibility to their students. Is it such a bad thing that your parents find out? The answer is no.
All that it means is that they will get you the proper help to see that you never cut again. They aren't going to blame you for this either as they know you aren't well mentally and that this is what is happening.
All that will happen once they and the school know of this is that you will get assistance from a psychiatrist. You'll need to be brutally honest about cutting and how you feel mentally so they can help you to overcome it. They will likely meet with you every few weeks and give you the proper medication to resist the urge to cut and be well mentally.
They cannot put you in the hospital or keep you 72 hours or longer unless they think you are in danger, suicidal, delusional or of harm to yourself or others. Relax there. Even if you did spend time in the hospital it's not all that bad. I've been there twice. They take good care of you and give you time to rest and get well.
If you feel you can't tell this teacher face to face write him a note that you trust him/her and need to stop cutting. Hand it to him privately and ask that he speak to you later in confidence. You're doing the right thing in doing this.
You can also bring a friend you trust and tell him/her privately. Bottom line is as hard as that is to do you know you must. If your gut screams at you to do it you have to trust it.
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That's bad, my frnd cuts herself to, like crazy! she craved Love on her highs twice! huge words, it's vairy dangerous and scary, and it's good you know you need to talk to some1, and sometimes the counselors dont tell, but if theyre really worried they would.
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okay well at least you know you need to talk to someone, most people dont and then the while suicide thing. which is sooooooo not good. let me just tell you about my story, in a way similar to you. i have anxiety, ive had it since i was 5 and when i was 8 i was put on lexapro. i stopped taking it around age 11 and started middle school fine and i was suprised. then 8th grade, last year my anxiet came back. but this time with what ended up being depression! so every weekend my family would go to vermont friday night and come home late saturday and with my anxiety my mind wanders like crazy and its kinda scary what i was coming up with (like suicide and stuff like that) and one morning in the hotel i was up before my family and my mind wanders off and it scared me and finally i woke my mom up and told her she kinda freaked out but said she was gonna call the doctor the next day. well she did and i went to a psycositheripist. she decided that i was depressed and i went to her a few times and got put on some medicine and im fine now!!!! my point being that you need to tell someone, anyone before it gets any worse because it probably will. tell your mom, tell your teacher (if you decide not to tell your parents for a certin reason, then you shouldnt talk to the counselor because they may call your rents because it involves you possibly needing help. but honestly, tell your teacher but leave your parents open to help. dont be afraid to go to a shrink or anything, (i didnt want to go but i had fun,i recorded our conversations on my phone in my pocket and my friend and i laughed listening to them. then the shrink was REALLY weird so my friends and i would laugh and make fun of her )
if you need any help
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Teachers and counselors are required by law to inform your parents of this kind of thing. They will also involve other government officials that deal specifically with these things. You will probably not enjoy the next few months of your life because of the stress the school and government will give you.
However, if you feel that you are in desperate need of help, you should talk to your counselor first and avoid the teacher. By telling the teacher first, you are putting enormous strain on him; he will have to fill out forms and alert a number of government officials.
The best option would be to talk to a professional psychologist. They, in contrast to school counselors, are bound by law *not* to reveal anything you tell them, unless it is immediately dangerous to someone other than yourself.
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Hey, I just want to let you know, you're not alone. A lot of teenage girls cut. My best friend did for a while. I understand that it's really hard to stop, and I don't know you, but I'm prould of you for trying so hard to stop!
anyway, yeah I think that if you feel confortable with this teacher that you should tell him, he can help you, and then refer you to a counselor, they don't have to tell your parents, but it may be a good idea for them to know. If you parents know then they can get you help from a doctor or a "shrink". They may help you better than your school can. But that's up to you. It's your body and your choice. Your feelings.
I hope I helped
*jackie*
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