Im a 13-year-old Aussie girl with nothing better to do with her time than give advice to people with problems.I can give good advice on guitar playing because obviously i play i can answer questions about emo stuff and suicide and any other random stuff that draws my attention.:)


Well a few days ago i started cutting myself and I don't know why. I haven't been upset or depressed about anything. Does that mean that I have a mental illness?

Oh hey...
well when i started cutting
i wasnt depressed, actually
i was relitively happy...
i think its a phase but dont let
it become a habit because i did
and it ruined my life...i became
depressed and some relationships
in my life were wrecked.

i know this reply a late but
it isnt just a cliche when i say
just stop...no and ifs or buts

hope i helped

good luck


Hi every one i am a cutter i have been cutting for 4 years and i really want to stop how can i

congrats on trying to quit.
its really hard to stop cutting and i would know i am proud to say im an EX-cutter for almost a month.

Anyways if you cut for the pain u could try the rubber band it never did anything for me but hey its worth a try.
you could also try ice cubes.

If u cut because of emotional reasons then everytime you feel the urge ask yourself what feelings are making you want to do this and then try to work through the feelings and emotions rather than cut.

If you cut for visualness you could draw cut on with red pen or marker.

Overall if you wish to acheive your goals you need to stay strong.

If you every need support or just wanna talk you can contact me at chantelle_4991@hotmail.com.

hope i helped.
get well soon. xoxox


Oka well this is my probblem.My friends and i well we are kinda falling apart, like we dont talk to eachother that much like we use to.And also we havent spend that much times with eachother it just seems like we falling apart.It all started when school started back and we been busy latly with other things and what makes it worst is that we all dont live close to eactother so that makes it hard to just go to each other houses.I just want to know what should i do.How can be become closer like we were before.I really need your help on this!

i think you have have to address the situation head on, go up to your friends and ask them whats going on.tell them that you dont like the fact that you aren't as close as you once were.I dont know if it will do anything but it could help.


what are the famous songs of savage garden again? "truly madly deeply" "i knew i loved you" and what else..?

some savage garden songs are:

crash and burn,
kiss from a rose,
to the moon and back

and others...
hope i helped...:)


what are the nice singles [old singles] from the -then- popular band BLINK 182?

the year ranges from 1998-2002?

Good Charlotte
Simple Plan

i dont knowabout the years but...
Blink 182 songs:

every time i look for you
im lost without you
adams song
all of this
all the small things
first date
roller coaster
stay together for the kids
the rock show
wasting time
what's my age again?

Simple plan songs:

shut up
welcome to my life
perfect world
thank you
me against the world

you also might like greenday if you like blink 182.

hope i helped :)


Lately ive been getting urges to look at naked girls. Like Vanessa Anne Hudgens, nude. I like a guy, but i wanna know if im a lesbien. I like looking at myself naked, and lesbien porn, and fingering myself. Its just happened like this week. Im 14/f. Thanks so much!

You might just be having a phase which is making you curious about sexuality.there is a chance that u could be bi or lesbian but you will probably just have to wait and see.Over time it will become clearer to you.hope i helped.


what's a chode?

Pretty much what the other person said - its a prtty short and wide/thick downstairs outfront on a guy i guess...:)


17/f. I have had an awful year. And I thought the worst was over at the end of the year. (I don't feel like explaining it; it doesn't really have anything to do with this...well sort of but I don't have to explain.) Anyway...I cut myself. And I haven't for say about a week, but I really have been wanting to lately. It drives me crazy; I sit there and my entire mind is focused on that. It drives me crazy when I force myself not to cut. Just like right now. I really want to and it is really hard to just not give in. And I know I should probably talk to someone, but I have a really hard time opening up to people, especially those I don't know. However, there is this teacher that I have talked to before. So, if I told him, then maybe it would be easier to talk to a counselor, or he could help me or convince me to talk to someone or something. I know I can't do it on my own. I don't know what to do anymore. What should I do? And if I do end up talking to a counselor, they don't have to tell my parents, do they? It'll stay confidential?

stopping cutting is pretty hard and sometimes like you say the cravings get really intense but if you fight it off the cravings eventually lessen and stop.I have been there, and not very long ago either only about a month ago actually, so anyway i was dying to do it but with alot of self-control i managed to stop.Also like i did it is good to find someone you trust to talk to and in your case it sounds like this teacher. Occasionally i will get the urge to cut when something goes wrong but if you push through it, it goes away. Also a very important this is to keep yourself occupied so that you dont have a chance to think about it.
I hope that this helps.
stay strong and remember that only you can control what you do.


im 13/f and 6 days ago my neck started hurting like a stiff neck and i dont know why. when i lean my head any way it hurts the left side of my neck only. i recenly had strep about the same time this starrtedd and i wanted to know if they are anyway related. also ive tried different pain relievers and none of them work. if youu have any idea on what it might be or how to ease the pain...HELP PLEASE!

Im guessing that you just slept on your neck wrong.it should get better soon, if not go see your doctor.
hope i helped..


So in Australia it's summer, and tomorrow is my last day of summer holidays.

I suggested to my weekend group (I have my school friends who I never see outside of school, I NEVER hang out with them because it would be awkward and we're not really very close, so what I was suggesting to the weekend group, don't say to do it with these people because I'd rather be misrable the whole day) that we hang out to celebrate the end. However my weekend group all start school tomorrow.

So I was wondering, what are some small things to do? I'm looking at a day inside, so don't go suggesting go outside and do things by myself. I'm not expecting a magnificent answer, even something simple like "read your favourite book" would do, except not that :P

Thanks in advance.

haha me too..
my friends all start tomorrow n i start thursday.
ill probably sleep in maybe go on the computer for a bit go outside and ride stuff like scooter, skateboard etc.i might play ps2,listen to music or watever. hope that tellin u wat im doing helps you decide what to do.
hav fun at school.
ps.where about in aus are u?


I know this might be kind of weird ,believe it or not ,im an 18 year old virgin but the thing is that there are a lot of girls who keepin tellin that im cute ,i have dated numerous times before but i just never got to that stage ,do i have a problem guys

its pretty cool that you are still a virgin and not being forced into it because everyone else is.just wait out for the right person and it will be more special.
p.s-i know this irrelivant but how funny is this...im a 13 year old girl giving advice on ur sex life :P just thought id point that out.


Hi I am 14/f and i am a tom boy i wont wear my hair down or wear a spot of pink or purple and i wont wear make up and i have foot ball practice after school (oh and this is the first time i have asked a quistion i share this acount with a friend) i have never had a boyfriend i only have 2 friends at school and all the boys tease me they call me man girl and lesbian and stuff like that and the girl are always playing pranks on me like one time they stoll my jornal and football diary (my football diary is for the things i did wrong so i can correct them and advode them) my parents are divorced and i cut and im anorexic cause all the girls at school say im fat and every time i look in the mirror i think they are right i want to be like all the other girls skinny pretty have boyfriends wear make up i just dont know how i really want help please help

im 13/f
When i read this i was scared out of my mind at how similar our stories are:-im a tom boy,i dont wear my hair down,ive had 1 bf but it wasnt serious,my name is chantelle so i get mantelle,there was a stupid rumour that went around saying that im a lesbian,im not exactly skinny as and i cut sometimes.So now u know what i mean when i said our stories are similar.Anyways the girls at your school sound like bitches.anyway i just accept that im different to them people and am happy for it.Seriously how boring would it be if we were all the same.And occasionally i laugh to myself when they try so hard to put me down.You just gotta stay positive. :P
As for the cutting u gotta try n stop its hard but worth it.
And as for the anorexic thing-ive never had that problem, hey im a wog food is my friend :)- anyways your probably not that big.people jst pick on the tiniest things.
All in all dont stress too much over it and stay positive.
Hope i helped.


okay so im looking for some sad songs. songs that really give you that feeling inside. that heart dropping feeling of sadness. know what i mean? but yea im looking for some really sad songs. preferably rock, alternative, pop, country, acoustic kinda music.
for example a few of the songs i really like that are ones that im kinda looking for are...

Tonight I Want To Cry by Keith Urban


One Man Drinking Games by Mayday Parade.

or even

Adams Song by Blink 182

they can be break up or suicidel or loosing someone kinda songs or anything

i just need sad ones

thank you so much!

you and me by lifehouse

1000 miles by vanessa carlton(i dunno it might be a personal thing)

im lost without you by blink 182

Friends forever by vitamin c

it all depends on the situation-hope i helped.


So yeah I'm like 15 and i'm a teenage girl who is having a really hard time with life and I think I should just kill myself. Nothing ever goes my own way. Guys never like me. People hate me in general I'm just an annoynce to everyone. I hate life. It never gets better it just changes and it still sucks after that. I'm sick of being depressed. Really I just want to lock myself in my room and cry then starve myself then die. I hate being a teenager its not like being a kidd its diff. Everything is confusing and nothing is ever how you imagined or wished it to be. So I dont know what to do ? Any advice?

Dont kill yourself.
Think about it there must be at LEAST one person out there who loves you even if you dont know it.If not for yourself dont do it for that at least 1 person.Imagine the pain you would feel if one of your loved ones decided to take thier life-how upset would u be.So dont put that burdan on anyones shoulders and dont take the cowards way out.Anyways once your over the teen years you will look back at this and say something like "what was i thinking". So just dont.
Also i may be only 13 but im not an idiot and i know what im talking about.
Please lets the words ov myself and others make a difference and remember someone out there loves you, you just dont know it.


Is this some kind of personality disorder im going through?

I jump from happy to angry to sad to just about different emotion to the MAX so if i am happy, im really really happy, but if i am angered by little thing, i get so aggrevated and mad.

I act on my emotion, such as yell at people, punching walls, swearing like crazy (which i have stopped now), saying i hate someone, and then pretty soon after, I just feel so sad and bad that I had done all that and regret so much.

Is that some kind of disorder? I would love to get that checked out by some kind of therapy, but my parents thinks im lying and they are kind of in denial because I said i need some help because I am sick and tired of crazy mood swings. They basically doesnt like to think there's something wrong with me, especially mentally.

umm...depending on how old you are it could just be overactive hormones.Gosh why do people have to think the worst. :)



Okay, I'm emo. Well, my other friends are emo too, but they cut themselves. I don't. I want to know, to be emo, do you have to cut yourself? People are spreading rumors that I cut myself and that I'm a pervert. I mean, sure I have a perverted mind, but I'm immature, give me a brake! can someone explain to me why they would say I cut myself, which I don't, even if I am emo. do I have to cut myself???

if your asking if you have to it means that you would only be doing it to fit in.That makes it even worse than cutting yourself because you are emotionally messed up-which is also bad.Dont do it cause like 1 of the other people said its a sickness thats hard to get out of.And by the way im not some person who is sticking my nose into something i know nothing about.A few months ago i started cutting myself as a relief and couldnt stop its addictive like any drug or alchohol.I am also the same age and gender as you.Dont let your self go there.

I hope that this makes a difference xoxo


What exactly is it? How do they do it?
And do you guys believe in it or not?

I'm not pregnant and I will never get an abortion, I'm just curious. I don't know much about it, I only know they kill the baby but I think people should only do it if they get raped.

I'm 14/f by the way. :)

ABORTION IS MURDER.People say that its not murder because the kid isnt alive until its outta there, But the kid will be alive and that means if it kets aborted it will be robbed of its life.The only exeption i think would be is if the child would grow up in a bad enviroment and not be loved or cared for.but like i said, ABORTION IS MURDER.


i need easy guitar tabs and easy rock songs or metal or just any can anyone help ive been looking for a while and i just cant find any good songs or easier tabs.

Hi, TNT BY ACDC is pretty easy so is the intro of SMOKE ON THE WATER BYE DEEP PURPLE also SMOOTH CRIMINAL BY ALIEN ANT FARM (AAF) is easy if you like that kind of music.


I want to learn how to play guitar myself, but I was wondering whether it is really hard...or it it is ok..and in general, just pros & cons about learning it yourself, without teacher.

thanks :)

dont listen to every1 who says that you need a teacher.im self taught and im better than some of my friends who take lessons.The only thing that i would recommend is that you find a good chord dictonary and find out how to read tabs off the internet so that you can play the music that you see.once you have learnt some of that stuff go onto a website like www.ultimateguitar.com and type in the songs that you want to learn.Some tips:1.at first your fingers will get sore and you might get blisters until you build up calus in you fingers(then it wont happen any more.2.guitar isnt necissarily hard but you need alot of PATIENCE and i stess that so much that its not funny.3.have fun with it, one of the most important rules of music is if it sounds good it is good and dont forget it.HAVE FUN.(PATIENCE)


I've just started learning guitar a few weeks ago, and I just get so mad whenever I pratice because I suck. It's really hard. Does anyone play guitar and did it take awhile before you could actually play a song?

Hey,ive been playing guitar for about 2 years and i know from personal experience how frustrating it can get espesially if you are trying to play chords.After a while your fingers just go in the right place and ou'll be greatbut you have to remember YOU HAVE TO BE PATIENT.It works.


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