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first time?
my boyfriend (16) and i (16) have both explicitly and bluntly expressed to eachother that we'd like to have sex and think we're ready. we have been dating for 6 months and i don't trust anyone in the world as much as i trust him.
there's no way in hell i could ever tell my mom that i wanted to have sex, she'd flip a lid. however, i really want to be careful and don't want to run the risk of becoming pregnant. i'm curious about birth control, is there an over-the-counter brand that i could get without a doctors note?
more importantly, anyone with prior expierience... how were you able to do it and get away with it?
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Me being young the first time I had sex, I can help you out some. First of all I want to say that I dont totally agree with everything, but I am glad to see that two teenagers are being smart and as responsible as you can be about sex. I definately think you should make an appointment at Planned Parent Hood (or another program just like that), where you can recieve birth control, condoms, and the morning after pill.
Also the was I was able to "get away with it", was that my boyfriends parents didnt really care if we were home alone. But just make sure you're really smart about it. The last thing we need is more teenage parents in this world.
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You should make an appointment with Planned Parenthood's Health Centre. Check their web site out [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) for the one nearest you.
They will be able to give you your prescription, give you an exam and really educate you on all the different types, brands of birth control.
The appointment is a confidential thing between you and them. Depending on what kind of physical exam you may need there could be a charge. It's best to ask before the appointment. They can't tell your family about your business nor can any doctor UNLESS: you are in danger, or causing harm to yourself, delusional or not in a good place physically/mentally.
Your mom would flip way more than a lid if you got pregnant at this age. Most parents would rather know and help you remain safe and pregnancy free than not. Sooner or later they always find out especially if you leave your pill box or packages for BC around.
You can take a prescription anywhere and get it filled without your parents being aware and it's confidential. You just need the money to fill it each month and that could be costly.
Instead of pills you should look strongly at NuvaRing. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) as it's easiest to handle.
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a condom is the best
lots of love,lizzie
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technically you shouldn't be doing this but if you go to the pharmacy you can get a morning after pill with out a prescription but you're supposed to be 18. So they may or may not check id
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The bad news is you need a prescription for any form of birth control.
The good news is, if you complain that your periods are irregular and your PMS symptoms suck (bad cramps, headaches, etc), it's treated with birth control. The pill is comprised of hormones, so it regulates your periods and (supposedly) calms down those nasty PMS symptoms we all hate so much.
I had a different situation when I was sixteen - I had a boyfriend, he was 2 years older than me or so. We talked about sex, and did it once with a condom and me not on the pill. My mom wanted to be cautious, so she made me an appointment with a gyno, he looked me over and talked to me, and my mom told me if I wanted to go on the pill I could, and that she'd rather be safe than sorry. (As in, she'd rather I be protected if I chose to move forward in my relationship with the guy than have me wind up pregnant.)
So I just told my mom "I've decided I want to go on the pill," and she said "okay."
But if your mom's not as understanding as mine (you never know, though, she might surprise you one day, mine sure as hell did, and still does) your best bet is to tell her you get bad cramps and your periods are irregular.
You're sixteen, that makes you of legal age to be sexually active in most states, so really it's nothing bad.
Now I don't want to preach, but...
Even with the pill, it's only about 99% effective. You also need to be on it for a month to make sure it's taken effect before you have sex. AND, even with the pill, always use condoms.
Have fun, be safe, good luck!
-Siren =)
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