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Q: i have to write a papper for school trying to persuade people that we should have longer lunch hours but i dont know any facts or anything to back it up. anyone have any? 5's!!

13/f

Tell them:

1.) Lunch is the only time you can actually socialize and it's important to make/ have freinds.
2.) You won't feel rushed. Somtimes the lunch line to buy food is long and those people don't have enough time to eat.
3.) You can get extra help from teachers or students during that time.
4.) Some students need to go to the nurse during lunch to get their diabeties shot or other medication.. they will have more time to eat.
5.) It's a good time to go to the bathroom so then you still have enough time to eat.
6.) Some people do have big lunches. :)

I hope that helped... I love to write and I have good ideas so you can IM me with any more questions, xo mtin 33.

Q: How much should I charge per kid for babysitting? Any suggestions, comments? This is a main concern for me right now. Thanks in advance.

I get paid $10 per hour. Tell the people you charge between $6 and $10. Or just leave it up to them and say "Whatever you think." That's what I usually do.

Q: I need your advice...
Well, my friend(John)is gay and he just found out his bf was cheating on him. So, I invited him to see a movie to get his mind off of the situation. Well, of course he wanted to see Brokeback Mountain. So I went with him and what do you know? His ex bf was there with another guy. He asked me if I could pretend to be with him to make his ex jealous. I didn't know anyone in there so i agreed. I didn't think he would do anything extreme. Well during the movie he held my hand, and i felt akward. He even leaned over to kiss me and we actually started making out. I actually enjoyed it and I invited him over to stay the night. Well while were bed one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. The next day at school his ex started telling everyone that he saw me and john making out. Now everyone thinks i'm gay and they aren't being nice about it. Just because i had sex with a guy does that make me gay? And if i am should i try to have a relationship with him? He wanted me to, but i didn't know if i was ready.
Thanks

The only way to be gay is if you have intimate feelings for the guy. If you do have feelings for him, then go ahead and have a relationship.. it will stop the teasing at school. Just do what YOU want to do.

Q: k so i've had a major crush on this guy brian but his best friend davis has a crush on me and now its ruining everything... its like a competition because i'm pretty sure my crush likes me too, i wish davis didn't like me and wouldn't care about me and brian.. haha so basically i don't even know what to ask besides how do i fix the problem?

this is a really hard question i know but seriously ANY advice is worth hearing

*i'm a 15 yr old girl if that matters

Just tell Davis that you don't like him in that way. Tell him you like him as a freind but you like Brian and you don't want to ruin the freindly relationship between you and Davis. If he doesn't understand, then just forget him. You need to follow your heart and not someone elses.

Q: haha so yeah tomorrow i'm making out with this guy that likes me, and i like him, and i'm really excited BUT I've never made out with anyone, let alone kiss him, and i'm soo nervous and anxious and stuff. like.. what if just freeze andi don't know what to do (that happened to my friend) and... ahh! anyone help? cause i'm really nervous :( lol and how do i start it?
any help is great
thank youuuuu

Start of kissing..suck on his lower lip. Then let go and just rest your lips on his if he starts to kiss you deeper, go for it and follow him. You could push your tongue into his mouth then he pushes his tongue into your mouth. It's kind of like a game. Just relax and have fun.

Q: okay, so like, this is really weird. I have fantasies about doing things with my best friend...we'll say her name is Sadie... (i am totally sure I am NOT a lesbian), things like kissing and stuff. I really don't know what I should do about it. She already knows, we talked all night about this problem. She says she totally understands and she's not grossed out or anything. Is this normal? She is very pretty, and practically every boy that lays eyes on her is in love with her. I have another friend who is younger than me and actually does this stuff with her friends, but i don't feel comfortable doing anything with her. Everytime I am alone with sadie, I get that urge to want to do something. I have done that stuff tons of times before, but my parents always found out. One of the things is, I am really trying to be moral and clean. I really wanted to practice kissing, I am saving my first kiss with a guy, and I want it to be good. I want to do something with her more than I care about morals. I think it is kinda weird how I want to practice with her, but I know 100% that I'm not a lesbian, or bi. I don't have a crush on her. Can anyone explain to me how to deal with this, if it's normal, and what I should do about it? (by the way we never did anything together) I rate, PLEASE HELP ME!!

It is 150% normal. People do this stuff all the time. If you ever watch MTV people admit to kissing the same sex. It's totally normal. If Sadie wants to practice on you as well, go for it and have fun. It is a good way to practice for your first kiss. Just try to keep it on the down low so people don't find out and expect things. You are definitly not a lezbian if you don't have intimate feelings for her. It's just a stage you are going through. If you want to talk more about this, IM me, xo mtin 33. Or drop one in my inbox! I'm on a lot!

Best of luck, Marissa

Q: what are the best acne solutions? like cleanser/toner/gels whatever works? please help with this.

Proactive

Q: I think I have a yeast infection. Its itchy down there a lot. My discharge is a normal color though. Do I need to get this checked out by a doctor? And how do I tell my mom? I'm 13. Do I just buy something like Monistat? And what if I use medication and I don't have a yeast infection?

sometimes it hurts when you go to the bathroom when you have an infection like that. i would tell your mom it;s itchy and it hurts.

Q: ok can you get pregnant by being AROUND sperm. not actually having sex?? like if it was on a surface er in the shower. like if you use the bathroom & theres sperm er anything??

thanks

bo. it has to go in youu

Q: does anyone know where you can buy leg warmers ? like, the kind that ballerinas wear. thanks

Target
Kohls
The Mall
or any dance storess

Q: my mom beats me up all the time...she has problems with my dad and takes them out on me!!..when im sleeping sometimesi see her put her hands round my throat and try to choce me ..i love her so i dont want her to go to jail...what do i do??

No child should be abused. Tell your dad about it... he will most likely know what to do. Tell your feinds for help your teachers of your freinds parents. You could get hurt if you don't tell them now. Or, you can say to her that you may have to tell if she doesn't stop but, it could mkae it worse. Please IM me if anything else happens... xo3maris3ox. DON'T HESITATE!!!!

Q: alright i didnt know what to put this under. But im going back to school tomorrow and vacations over :-(....for the past week i have been staying up late and sleeping in late like...like id go to bed at 1:30 and than wake up at 12..well now that schools starting i need to go to bed early but im not going to be tired...what are some good tips to fall asleep earilier?

ILL RATEE !

Read. It make your eyes tired. Or watch a movie...

Q: my boyfriend and i have been going out for a little under a year. i love him so much and care about him and i found out that he's been doing something i dont really approve of. but its not what hes doing that upsets and worries me, its that he's been lying to me about it, and then said he's never lied to me. i dont know if i can trust him anymore. i dont want him doing what hes doing, but if he's going to i want to know about it because i dont like being lied to. i want to talk to him but i have no idea what to say? any ideas? i really care about him and love him and don't want anything to happen to him. :-\

Honesty is the biggest thing you need to have in a relationship. Drinking is more then stupid, exspeccially under age. It cna get bad and he could get caught and his life may get ruined. I think you should say to him that you know he has been drinking and that he has been lying to you. And that if he doesn't tell you the truth.. well hunn... you should take a break from him. It may hurt but it will help. If he confesses, say that he neeeds to stop and tell him the consequesnces if caught. I know that he could go to jail. Belive me, this will help him and YOU!

Q: my hair is very hard to straighten..what are sum products i can use to straighten it.

thanks. i rate 5's

I love anything from Aquage. The straightner spray and gel for after you get out of the shower. I use RUSK straightners and they work amazing!

Q: I like this one guy, & he flirts with me. But he is also a huge flirt with other girls. [ He has alot of girl friends] & Everytime he says something sweet to me, I fall harder for him.Does he like me ,or is he just being nice?
I know this may sound stupid, but advice would be nice

This is a common problem in love like this. So, I would say like if you really like him and know him fairly well, maybe you can get a freind (who also knows him) and ask her to ask him if he likes you. Just be really flirty around him and get to know him. He will far right back at you!

Q: ok well i have been deprest for a year now but i also self harm i cut,bang my head and bit my self i di all this because it helps releave all the pain but fot the past 3days i havent eaten or drank anythin because the site of it makes my heave and be sick i dont know what to do anymore please help i am femail aged 18.

please note that i have dyslexia and have looked over it again

ok.. you might want to see a doctor about your eating problem (not eating or drinking) as for being depressed try talking to someone, either your freind mom, sister, teacher, or even your guidance counselor. They can help you and make you fell better. Good luck and if you have any more questions just ask me! xomarisox

Q: i always end up having a crush on a guy who has a girlfriend, wat the hell is wrong with me
what should i do

It's natural it just means you are attracted to him. There is nothing wroung with you it usually happens. The only thing you can do is try and stop likeing him... that may take some time though.

Q: ok well,just like..2 weeks ago i saw yellowish white faintly in my underwear,but im not sure if its dischagre or if i really had to go to the bath room..i cant feel anything come out so..how do i really for sure know? and also,my mom got it when she was 13,my sister 14..so will i get it at 15? how long does discharge last untill you actually get your period?

Discharge can last until you get your period and even after. I think it may be ok. If you constantly see that it's yellow and smells diffenent I would get it checked out. If both our mom and sister got it, your probably ok.

Q: Well my brother Blake died almost 8months ago. He was only 24 and thats wats the worst part of it. My brother was really well liked and always smiling. He was good looking and was always teasing me. Now that he is gone I find myself crying over things that make no since. Im' in more fights with my parents and everybody keeps saying Ive changed. Well There has also been alot of memorials for him and i don't want to go to em and all my parents can say is your so selfish. I don't wanna go cuz it hurts so bad. I tell them that tooo. Wat should I do to keep them from thinking I'm selfish?

first of all I'm really sorry about your brother's death. You might be differnt because you are upset it's only human to be that way. If people are saying that as their excuse they are selfich and obviously have never been through a situation like this. As for your parents say to them that you aren't selfish you want to go to the memorials but it hurts too much. You can cry when you say this too. Tell them you really miss your brother and it makes you even more upset.

Q: I just bought a new shirt from aeropstale and when i got home i was lookin at it and they kept that security plastic thing on and i heard you can only get it off with a special thing! Im sooo mad i wanted to wear it tomorrow! does anyone have a way to get it off without ruining the shirt??? PLEASE HELP! 5'S!!

Sorry, the only way is to bring it back to the store. The shirt will definitely get ruined if you try and get it off.

bio

Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts