about

Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

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BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

advice

First of all.. we are broken up now! But, when my boyfriend tried to kiss me, I pulled away. He tried so many times and i did the same thing. I really wanted to kiss him, but I guess I was too scared??? Why did I do this?? & What can I do about it??? Please help, I dont want this to happen again!!

How can you want to kiss him, but be scared?? If you want something, you go for it! No questions... just do it. When he goes for it again, just close your eyes and lean it a little... then eventually your lips will touch. You don't even have to do anything, just let him work the magic. A lot of people are scared for their first kiss, and then yet, they want to rush into it. If you feel like you're not ready for this, then take it slow and don't rush into anything you don't want to do. However, If you feel like you really really want to do this.. then you just have to trust your instincts and tell yourself that you want this, and you'll do it. I know it is hard, but you have got to have courage. Without courage, this world would be a bunch of scardy cat people... and you're not one of them now, are you?

have faith that you can do it! and don't rush into anything, take your time and have fun. This should be a fun moment, not a tragedy.

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I like this kid, but he has a long distace gf. they have been dating almost a year now, i want him. im not going to break them up, but i want him.. help please

Signed, huggless

sorry hun, it's their decision if they want to break up or keep on going... so there's nothing you can do to get him. You said you didn't want to break them up, so how would you get him another way??

There are PLENTY of dudes out there.... not just one. So you can

1- tell him you like him and see what happens

or

2- forget about him and find another guy.

That's basically all you can do

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ok.. so my friend melissa went to my high schools rival school, but she transfered, and is now going to my school.Im really really excited, but she is FREAKING out!! She hasnt acted the same in a couple weeks because of the whole going to a new school thing. Im really calm about it, and im always reassuring her that things will be great. its not like she doesnt know anyone at my school, i know she knows at least 50 some kids here, but anything i say just hasnt seemed to calm her down.. so i guess my question is... Is there anything i can say or do to make her feel more comfortabel??

many thx in advance =]

You can tell her that everyone gets nervous when the y go to a new school, so it's not like she's the only one. If your school has an open house, take her there and show her the school. Enough times as it takes for her not to get lost. Tell her that she knows soo many kids, and if she is nervous, then she is going to make a complete fool of herself in front of them. ha ha that's what my friend said to me.

Other than those, you just gotta tell her that you're her bff and that you will not let her suffer this and you're going to help her.

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Alright im really not good at explaining things but ill try my best. It might be long , just to warn you. Here goes:


This boy and I started talking like 3 weeks ago while away together on a trip. When we started talking , we would joke around like we liked eachother. Than when we got back we texted A LOT. WE decided to get to know eachother before anything else. Than theres this girl who leads guys on a ton. Apparently she liked him and hes had feelings for her in the past. So we texted and were talking about it and i pretty much talked him out of it and everything was fine until she talked to him again and had him convinced to like her and everything. Gay right ? Anyways i was really mad for a couple days but i got over it and apoligzed for being a b*tch. We started texting again a lot and recently he told me that him and this girl dont like eachother anymore. When we text we call eachother babe and say cute stuff like that , but he says he just wants to be friends. Everytime i see him which is like a couple times a week, we dont talk . I dont know what to say to him. It seems so much easier in texting. Anyways what should i do ?! I feel like he acts like he likes me and than he says i just want to be friends. Ughh!

holy crap, you have no idea how much that sounds like me and my 2 friends. Seriously though... that's kinda like the same exact thing that happened to me. My 2 friends were going out and I kinda liked him. She introduced me to him and we texted more than usual. Then I found out that they broke up. I was happy for me because then maybe I could go out with him... but sad for my bff cuz she dumped him. So since they wern't talking to each other. I talked to him and her. when me and him were texting, he would always sound that he liked me, but in person... we wouldn't be that close. Now, a couple of days ago, I find out he has a girlfriend... but we still are friends. So now i'm giving him space.

sooo what's the whole point of that story, you ask??

Give him some space. Soon he will figure out what his heart truely desires. If it's her or you. I'm still waiting for him to make the first move and see what he wants. If he wants his current gf, me or my bff.....

If I were you, drop a few hints that you are interested in him, but beware! don't do too much too soon because he could feel uncomfortable and that could ruin your friendship with him. got it??

just flirt a little and see maybe if he want's to go to a movie ((don't mention it as a date, just as a hang-out)) and see what happens. Oh and don't get too involved because that other girl could get very jelous and start a cat fight with you.

I hope I helped!
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14/f [15 in september]

starting yesterday i ate my breakfast in the morning, and then a few minutes later i got this pain in my stomach that felt like someone was stabbing me there. then today i ate my breakfast again and the same thing happened! i went to the bathroom yesterday right after this happened but i didn't go to the bathroom today after this happened but i feel fine. what is this? how soon should i see a doctor?

fyi: both mornings i had cereal and the pain is in my lower stomach and lasted like 10 seconds.

it could be the cearl... try eating something different instead of that. Maybe pancakes, toast, or eggs. See if that helps. If it doesn't, then the other advicenator might be right about the lactose intolorant thing.

maybe see a doctor about this?

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I dislike who I am, and want to reinvent myself. I know I can do it! The only problem is I'm not sure who I want to become, I know who I DON'T want to be, but not exactly what I should focus on, you know?

My biggest priority is to become an HONEST person because I have lied so much in my life and ended up in the worst situations (WHOEVER READS THIS - NEVER LIE - ITS NOT WORTH IT - I MESSED UP MY LIFE AND LOST SO MUCH - PLEASE LEARN FROM MY MISTAKE, especially don't lie about your past experiences to boys! they'll eventually know what you have/havn't done!!) so I'm coming up with ways to make sure I don't lie, or tell the truth when I do. And I thought I was making life EASIER by lying - but boy is life so much better now that I tell the truth!!

But now I need other goals to focus on, other qualities I want.. can you help me on what they could be and how to reach them??

Thank youu!

wow, that takes a lot of potential for someone to do that. Most people I meet are always lying and they never learn from their mistakes. good for you! you are actually trying to become a better person. I like your optimism.

Well everybody loves a good, honest, fun, and enjoyable person. So as long as you have a positive attitude always, I don't see why people won't like you.

Here are some things that came to my mind-

always live life to the fullest (aka- be brave and confident)

be independant (people don't like people who are always counting on others)

be ambitious (when you start something, don't quit)

smile!!! if you are always depressed, nobody will want to be around you. Someone wants a friend who will lift their spirits up when they are feeling down. So they will choose a friend who is always happy.

keep your head up high ( if someone makes a rude comment about you, don't go spreading rumors about them.... just ignore them and let them be the desperate one for attention, not you )

don't be selfish ( think of others before you make a choice )

If you do all of those things, plus being honest... i gaurntee you that you're life will be much more pleasant, then a persons life who is always lying, cheating, selfish etc.

-volleyball2150

PS: If you feel like everything is going wrong, don't give up! Keep on trying and don't quit.

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scrunching your hair. what are some good products? and how do i scrunch my hair?
step by step on you do it?

http://www.wikihow.com/Scrunch-Hair

http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art4077.asp

http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip18011.htm

http://ezinearticles.com/?Curls-for-Girls---How-to-Scrunch-Your-Hair&id=116647

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070728035437AAqtiqL

5 good websites to show you. all you had to do was google it up...

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what are some ways to overcome this shyness i have sometimes?
like i'd really like to be in drama, but i just get shy and i'm normally not a shy person. any suggestions?

thanks!!

Gradually

That is going to be your new best friend, ok???

Just go up to 1 person and 'gradually' talk to them about things. If you get shy, just think that everybody gets shy. It's not only you.

then 'gradually' talk to more people and then your shyness will be overruled. got it???

so why are you still on the computer? go and be a social butterfly!! ha ha.

-volleyball2150

PS:talk about something really small like the weather, and then 'gradually' talk about something big like your personal life.

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Almost all my friends buy their clothes from this popular clothing store called Stitches. They have great clothes there but I think they're too expensive. So, almost all my wardrobe is from Frenchy's (I'm sooo lucky there!) Anyways, sometimes my friends buy the same shoes or clothes as each other and they freak out at each other.I always tell them to chill and its their fault they buy at a popular store. What can I do about this?

Well there's not much you can do. It's their decicion where they want to shop, not yours. The only thing that will actually help is if you keep convincing them to shop somewhere else. for example- Invite a friend(s) over and take them shopping. If they want to go to Stiches, say no and take them somewhere else. Try to pursuade them into going into different stores and let them explore what is outside of their style.

So yup that's about the only thing you can do. besides that, just don't worry about it and forget about it.

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Ok...I'm only 13 and I'm going into 8th grade..and I rly want a nice hair style since it will be my last year in grade school!...My hair right now is thick, shoulder length, with short layers..(but grew out) and it's a dark brown color...I have rly bad split ends too!...Please give me some good ideas and some good products to use!
Thanks

ok well what is your hair tetxure? straight, wavy, curly???

for split ends, just get a trim (1 inch should be fine) and it will grow faster because your hair is healthier.

For hairstyles-

www.geocities.com/mka_wonerland

www.bosshairstyles.com

www.hairboutique.com

they have good hairstyles.

for changes- side bangs, more layers, highlights or lowlights, curl it, straighten it, wave it, add a cool color to your hair like red or blue (( like highlights except a color )) add accesories like headbands, clips, barrettes etc.

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hey

im sick of my boring hairstyle.

i have black hair, wavy-ish, and shoulder length.

i have a round face, and i want to try something new. not DRASTIC POW POW BAM new. just something else. i dont know what would look good on a round face and im not super skinny..but im not fat.

please help! i need change!

Hmm... well if it is wavy, you could try straightening it or curling it. That always looks cute. You can try getting Side bangs which are in style now. You can try Layers or getting a shaggy style. If you want a shaggy style, go to a hairdresser and ask to cut your hair with a texturizing razor. You can try getting highlights or one of my favs... color in your hair. Like Red on the ends or something cool like that.

If you want hairstyles- these are some good sites

www.geocities.com/mka_wonderland

www.bosshairstyles.com

www.hairboutique.com

I hope I helped!

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I really love to sing and my friends say im amazing.. I need to figure out how to get noticed.. My best friend and i would love if you could help us.. im 14 and my bff is 15.. what should we do?

Try going to your City hall or website. Then loook up for any talent shows or parties. If it's a talent show, sign up for singing. If it's a party, ask if there's kareoyke and then sing!

What you can also do is go here

http://www.auditionagency.com/audition/singing_auditions.htm

http://www.auditionagency.com/agency_directory.htm

http://www.auditionagency.com/email_agents.htm

I hope I helped!!

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An aqauintance told me that 2 of my really good friends are dating behind my back, both of these friends are male therefore they are gay. I have absolutely NO problem with that but why wouldn't they tell me they were dating? I would've been really happy for them, now I am just hurt because they kept something like that from me. So, are they still my friends? And why wouldn't they tell me?

They probably kept it a secret from you because they would think it would come as a shock to you. It does for some people. To me it sounds as though they like having you as a friend, and they didn't want that friendship thrown away because you wouldn't like them for being gay. Does that make scense??

Just make sure that you tell them that you don't mind and that you still want to be friends with them. They like having you as a friend, but they were scared you would dump them because they were gay. So yes, they still are your friends.

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Ive had mono for 2 weeks this comming monday and my sore throat has lasted for 10 days, and its so annoyingg, i havent slept a night all the way through since i had this as soon as i lay down to sleep my mouth gets super dry and my ears bother me. Im just getting fustrated, anyone whose had mono can you let me know how long your throat lasted and everything? my doctor told me i was recovering fast and i'll be able to go back out with my friends and stuff on saturday..

hey,

well I had mono. Yeah it does suck! Well to tell you the truth, I didn't even get a sore throat. i was just sooooo tired all the time. so my dad took me to the doctor and they found out that I had mono. But If I were you, try taking Nyquil Day and Night. The day one helps you so you don't get so stuffy and groggy, and the night one helps you sleep better. If your mouth is dry, then try drinking a lot of liquids. Try to stay away from liquid that can make you even more thirsty, like milk, sports drinks, lemonade etc. I would drink Water or Tea if I were you.

Whatever you have been doing, it seems to help your immune system because for me it took me 1 month for it to go away. But here's the thing, my relatives are professional doctors and they said that mono doesn't go completely away when you feel better. They say that it takes a few months for your body to completely heal and healthy.

But for all of the other annoying pain, just take a medicine that helps. Like advil, ibuprofen, nyquil, tylonol etc.

Just be careful what you take and only take as much as the directions say. Oh and also make sure you don't mix the medicines together. it can have very bad side effects!!

I hope YOu feel better!
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Okay so im looking for a specific hairstyle and if you find a picture similar to it id be thankful. i'll rate high even for trying.

i need something a little longer than shoulder length with side bangs.I want it to be layered.

The colors arn't a big deal but if you can please get a picture with brown hair and highlights.Please and Thanks.

Hey

I found 8 pictures of girls with long hair, sidebangs, and layers... some of them are brown, brown with highlights, and blonde.

http://img115.imageshack.us/img115/5799/33510965of5.jpg
http://img115.imageshack.us/img115/7217/94024926vt3.jpg
http://img170.imageshack.us/img170/6937/75268465gj0.jpg
http://img170.imageshack.us/img170/1659/65620559ap1.jpg
http://img48.imageshack.us/img48/9419/70978291en4.jpg
http://img48.imageshack.us/img48/4718/25893022gy0.jpg
http://img523.imageshack.us/img523/4834/19901368tx4.jpg
http://img516.imageshack.us/img516/1228/52092451bv8.jpg

I hope I helped!!
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i am conditioning but im trying to get into a routine. what would be a good routine as in what muscles to workout what day, when i should take a rest day and maybe even some excersises that will help

You said weight training.. so that's what you want? then ok.

My dad says to work-out every other day because if you work out every day then you get a lot of sore muscles and you can rip a lot of them.

So lets start on monday. Monday- start out with your upper body strength... so that would be, biceps, triceps, abs, chest, obliques, and your back.

Biceps- well theres so many exercises but the simple ones are push-ups, lift weights with dumbbells and benchpress. I think you know how to do those. Do maybe 10 each and then rest for 30 seconds. then do 10 more and about 5 reps.

Triceps- weight lifting with dumbbells. have your arms down by your side and then lift one arm up and bend it so that the hand is by your chest and your elbow by your hip. do 10 and 5 reps. 30 sec. - 1 min. break.

Abs- BOAT-lay flat on your back. Bring everything up except have your tailbone on the floor. So your legs are up and bent, and your head is up with your arms out. so it's kinda like a sit-up, except your feet are up to and you are balancing on your tailbone. stay like that for about 1 minute. ((if you are shaking... thats a good thing! I always shake when I do that)) Another exercise is lay down flat on your back, then hold on to something that is sturdy (like a chair, or couch) then lift your feet up and get them to be vertical ( so you are forming your body like an L) Then slowly lower your legs, but do not touch them to the floor. Then lift them back up. If you want it tougher... then lower them to 1 side, but don't tip your body over. Oh and here's 1 more- again lay down and hold onto something sturdy. Then roll your legs up into your stomach ( like the fetal position ) and roll yourself up so that your back is no longer touching the floor. So the only thing touching the floor would be your shoulders. Then slowly roll back down but keep your legs rolled into your stomach. Don't drop them to the floor! then roll back up and repeat.

Chest- lay on a bench and have your arms extended out so you are like a T. Then have weight in both hands and then slowly bring them up. Then slowly bring them down back to T position. Do 10... 5 reps and 30 sec. break.

Obliques- get into sit-up position. Then do the boat except have your feet in the sit-up position. then take your hands and both of them touch your left foot, then your right foot, left, right. Do about 25 and then rep. 4 X and 30 sec break. then do the same thing except in stead of touching your feet, touch the floor by your side.

Back- doing yoga will help your back muscles, so try doing that.


that's all for upperbody strength...

then Wednesday do lower body strength. Quads, Calves

Quads- WALL SITS- really simple to learn, pretend like you are sitting on a chair... having your back against a wall and there's no support under your butt. Have your legs be at a 90 degree angle. So it looks like you are sitting on a chair, but actually without one.

KING SQUATS- kinda hard. Have a bench or couch behind you. Have one foot on there and the other stretched and bent out in front of you. so it looks like a lunge. The leg that is in the back, has to be higher than your other leg. Slowly lower your back leg so it is parallel with the other leg. Then come back up.

LUNGES- same thing as a king squat, but without the bench/couch. So stand up straight, let 1 foot come out in front of you and bend both knees. Make sure that the front knee isn't over your toes... So if it is over your toes, then you need to step out farthur. Make sure your front knee is parallel to your toes. Then hold this position for 30 seconds and break. switch legs. also make sure that your knees do not touch the floor.

Calves- Ladders

find paint tape (( it's blue or someother color that you can see )) and make the tape look like a ladder on the floor. ((kind of like hop-scotch?)) but just boxes in front of each other. Maybe 10 boxes?

then follow these links to find out what to do
http://www.power-systems.com/News/03_30_06.aspx
http://www.brianmac.co.uk/agility.htm

here are some more steps you can follow-

in, in, out, out (going straight)

out, in, in, out (going diagonal)

2 feet in each box, 1 foot in each box.. forward/sideways/backwards

make sure you do this with your toes only touching the floor, if you have your whole foot on the floor each time you step, it makes a stomping sound and thus it will not work. Make sure you can't hear anything and that your heels are off the ground.


Then Friday- is just exercising... like jumproping, biking, running, play any type of sports, swimming etc.

Then you have the weekend to break. I know that only doing it 3x a week seems like not a lot... but if you do it everyday, you're tearing your muscles apart and that can cause major pain.

Drink protein shakes, eat vitamins, minerals, rest, take hot and cold baths, and STRETCH!! everytime you are done.

I hope i helped!
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okay so last year at school i had this really good friend named Sara. we had been friends for like 2 years and we told eachother EVERYTHING! we had a very good friendship. Then i got some new friends and so did she and we were still really good friends anyway even though she hated my friend named kelli. So sara started hanging out with some of the popular girls. me and sara's friendship started to fade cause sara started getting really clingy and really annoying and i was getting fed up with it! so then all of these rumors started going around about how kelli had broken up sara and my friendship and it totally wasn't true. so kelli used to be popular and all but now all of her friends (except for me) all started being mean to her and said they didn't want to be her friend anymore cause of what she did. kelli and me got really close and sara didn't want me to be her friend and tried to get me to join everyone else and i just said no and we never realy talked after that. so then more rumors started going around that i was kellis slave and that she was taking advantage of me and stuff like that which so wasn't true! so then after school ended people hated kelli and liked sara and then me and sara started talking again and stuff and we are friends again but now she started ignoring me again and i don't no what to do! So i'm friends with sara and kelli and thye both hate eachother and sara doesn't want me to be friends with kelli. please help me i no it's confusing sorry!

OK so whoever made up those rumors are soo mean! In my personal opinion, Sara is not a loyal friend. Forget her because she's the one who hates kelli and she was the one trying to get you away from kelli. If Sara was truely a good friend of yours, she would've respected you and let you keep kelli as a friend. not try to pull you away from her. A true friend lets other friends have their moments and individual space. Ya know what I mean?

I really can't make the decision for you. only you know what is best for you. You have to decide who is a true and loyal friend, and who is the enemy who just want's you for them? And another thing, about those rumors, well the best thing is to just ignore them. Don't try to fix everything because sometimes that just makes it worse. So just ignore them because the only thing that matters is what you think about them.

If sara ditched you for more popular girls, then she isn't even worth keeping. Even if you 2 are talking again and becoming friends. just think of the future, what if she starts being clingy again? do you really want all of that drama to start all over again?

remember, it's your choice.
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hey! well, i'm 14/f. and i really need a new hairstyle. it goes about 3 to 4 inches past my shoulders. i'm thinking about growing it out past my chest area. lol. cause i see a lot of celbritys (don't know how to spell, lol) that have long hair, even if some of them do have extentions. for example, ashley tisdale, miley cyrus, lauren conrad (laguna beach, the hills) and audrina patridge (the hills) and yeah, just people like that. i have layers and side bangs. i tried bangs across my forehead like ashlee simpson used to have. but those didn't look to great on me. so should i just grow it out. and then do different stuff like curls and stuff? thanks!

Well sidebangs are very popular now a days... so i'm not sure if you want to keep them or grow them out. If you have sidebangs, part your hair to the side. If you grow them out, part in the middle. If you grow your hair super long like celebritys, then there are sooo many hairstyles you can do. I also heard that there's a new style coming... its called the shaggy style. When you get a hair cut, ask the hairdresser if she can use a texturizing razor and it makes your hair shaggy. I heard it's very popular in hollywood. But yeah, I would grow it out because then you can do so much more hairstyles than a shoulder length hair.

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Ok so i have this problem and i dont even completely understand my problem but i cant stand my grandma everything about i just hate everything she says does just everything she lives with my my mom my sister and my dad and all she does all day is smoke drink coffee watch baseball goes on the computer eats and sleeps thats all she does she never leaves the house she yells at me and my friends when we go outside because my dad says we can and then she tells us we cant she's not my mom she cant me what i can and cannot do i cant stand her she always gets mad at me because i have an attitude

I agree with the other person. Maybe you haven't spent much quality time with her. Plan 1 whole day where you and her just hang out together. What does she like to do for fun? If you don't know, ASK HER!! I think the reason why she is being so mean around you is because you never really talk to her. Spend time around her and get to know her more. Ask her what she likes to do for fun. If she doesn't know, then take her out somewhere. Dress up really fancy and maybe give her a make-over or hair-do and then both of you can go out to eat and discuss things, or maybe to a museum or shopping, movie, park etc. etc. etc.

Just be nice to her. I know it kills to pretend to be nice to people. But just pretend like you are in a live tv show and if you be nice to her, you can win 1 million dollars. ha ha. that's what I always think of. But seriously, just pretend to be nice and you'll see what good things can happen.

I wish you the best of luck
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Can someone link me to a necklace that could be worn basically everyday. Here is a link of what I'm into.

http://www.ae.com/web/browse/product.jsp?catId=cat90106&productId=0482_8078

I'd really love to find a necklace with a stone or shell...(Something simple). Thank you!

I tried that link that you gave us, it didn't work for me... but Claires is a jewlery store and i'm positive that they have necklaces that you wear everyday.

I'm sorry if I wasn't much help
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