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Friends dating behund my back
An aqauintance told me that 2 of my really good friends are dating behind my back, both of these friends are male therefore they are gay. I have absolutely NO problem with that but why wouldn't they tell me they were dating? I would've been really happy for them, now I am just hurt because they kept something like that from me. So, are they still my friends? And why wouldn't they tell me?
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yes of course there still your friends! They were probably just very scared that you would be totally freaked out and judge them so they were just waiting for the right time to tell you. Dotn worry about a thing!
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Yes, they are still your friends.
Telling someone that you are gay can be a very difficult thing for people. It can be embarrassing. Your friends may have even believed that you would have judged them, all you can do now is try to understand them and be there for them.
Don't be angry at them, this is probably a very confusing and difficult time for them.
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Trust me, it's a very hard thing to talk about. They are still your friends but they probably didn't want you to feel uncomfortable or any different around them.
They would have eventually told you, I'm sure, but it does take time. Also, they probably don't want it to get around. I'm sure you're great friends but it's still very difficult to express to people closest to you.
Don't feel hurt. You can always talk to them about it.
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'My' and 'me' are the words you keep using here hun, and the problem with that is that their relationship and their sexual preferences have absolutely NOTHING to do with you.
Don't take it so personally. If you really do have 'NO problem' with it show that by respecting their choice not to go public with their relationship just yet. Often it's the people whose opinions matter the most who find out last. They are the most risky to tell.
So stop worrying about what this means about you, and start to respect what it might mean to them. If there is something going on, let them come to you when they are comfortable, then you can all have a good friendly laugh about it.
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They probably kept it a secret from you because they would think it would come as a shock to you. It does for some people. To me it sounds as though they like having you as a friend, and they didn't want that friendship thrown away because you wouldn't like them for being gay. Does that make scense??
Just make sure that you tell them that you don't mind and that you still want to be friends with them. They like having you as a friend, but they were scared you would dump them because they were gay. So yes, they still are your friends.
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