Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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FYI: I am a 20 year-old recent college grad. Both men I am referring to in this question are only slightly older than me and finishing their degrees.
"Joe" and I began dating 2 1/2 years ago. Our relationship was generally good when last summer (1 1/2 years in)he decided that he didn't want a serious girlfriend. Nothing mean or ugly, he was just being honest. I tried all summer to change his mind but finally gave. (We remained close friends.)
After dating around for a little while, I began seeing "Michael". Our relationship was somewhat rocky because we had both come out of relationships and he had been hurt many times before. During this time, Joe began to develop interest in having a relationship. I thought it over and eventually decided to try things again with Joe. (I stayed in close contact with Michael.)
Joe and I have a really easygoing relationship, but he refuses to discuss a more serious commitment. When we discuss it, he says he doesn't see us going in that direction at this point but is always careful to avoid losing me entirely. In the past few months, Michael has attempted to see other people to no avail. He is convinced that I am the only one for him. We have been getting along beatuifully, and Michael has done everything he to prove to me that we belong together. (Both are fully aware of each other and the current status.)
Michael wants me to leave Joe and become engaged to him. (He's even looking at rings.) I am seriously considering this. I love both men very much (in somewhat different ways) and could she myself happily married to either (in 2-5 years). The difference here is that Michael is willing to commit and Joe is not. Both have treated me very well; although Michael is romantic (flowers) while Joe is considerate (fixs my car). Is there any point in continuing to wait for Joe or should I leave him and accept the proposal from Micheal? (link)
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Wow girl.. Your in a situation.
From my opinion.. and my opinion only.. Michael sounds like your match.
Joe sounds like the type of guy who doesn't want to commit.. You've already had a relationship with him before and have now evolved another.. who's to say that he wont break it off again..?
It sounds like to me that you are his comfort zone and he doesn't want to let go because no matter what you'll always take him back. He's taking advantage of you and your love for him.
He is clearly not interested in marrying you or starting a family with you.
Michael on the other hand sounds like he has swept you off your feet and is ready to full on commit himself to you.
As you said you have both come out of relationships so you have that connection already. He sounds perfect for you. He is willing to spend the rest of his life with you because he loves you.
I don't want to choose the right guy for you.. that is totally up to you to decide on, only you know whats right for you and whats not.
But I think the Mr Perfect is clear on this one.
I wish you all the best.. Good luck :)
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sorry, i had to use my friend's account... but just to say that she already knows that i'm using hers. so yeah, anyways.... i'm just going to get to the point.
my boyfriend wants to have sex with me. and it hasn't even been 2 months yet. i told him when i'm ready, and he's already ready. but then he said he'll give me time, he's the type of boyfriend that doesn't pressure a girl into anything. he says that i'm the best girlfriend he ever had and that he hasn't felt like this to anyone besides me. i want to do it, but the problem is some things are holding me back.. like i'm scared my body won't be looking the same (because thats what i hear all the time), i'm scared i'm going to regret it, i don't want to end up like my sister(her boyfriend took advantage for her and used her for her body), and it's too early. should i just take the risk? or should i just not do anything at all. because part of me does want to loose it to him, but part of me wants to not loose it. >.< help me?
love, jenny. (link)
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I didn't really think that loosing my virginty was a huge thing.. but honestly I think about it all the time.
I was 17 when I lost mine, it was to my boyfriend who I am still with 2 years later. Although we did wait for nearly 12 months before we had sex.
I honestly don't think you should have sex with him. Obviously you have respect for yourself and are thinking wisely.
If you tell your boyfriend that you want to wait and your really not sure of when you will be ready and he disses you.. he's totally not worth it.
You need to be with the right person at the right time, someone who you love and trust. Someone who will treat you like gold and make everything perfect for you and will never pressure you into things.
Just for the record.. your body doesn't look any different.. only if you become pregnant of course.
Just remember to be safe and make your own choices.. don't let anyone else choose for you.
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Hi... i'm 15 year old and my penis size is 5 inches is that normal? (link)
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hun.. everyone is different. 5 inches in perfectly normal.
remember its not the length, its not the size.. its how many times you make it rise :)
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when my boyfriend and i have sex, he doesnt want to finish in my vagina because i'm not on birth control and he's afraid of me getting pregnant.
what are other ways that he can finish. like i dont like the taste of semen so the mouth isnt an option.
do guys finish in a girl during anal?
what else can he do? (link)
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Is there a reason you are not on birth control? Perhaps looking at getting it so you are safe and he can finish in your vagina.
Or wear a condom!
You didn't say if you were wearing a condom but I would strongly suggest to do so.
My boyfriend thinks it hot when he cums on my stomach.. while i'm giving him a hand job.. try that!
But you really do need to look at some sort of protection.
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i dont want this to sound bad of me, but my boyfriend doesnt want to have sex with me. we used to have great sex all of the time, but he won't now.
recently, he got ill but doesn't know what caused it, and it's lasted for over 2 weeks now. since then, he just hasn't been interested in sex.
why is this? like, could he be sick and not want it or can it be possible that he isn't interested in me anymore? we have been together for 2 1/2 years. (link)
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Hi there,
Perhaps your guy is feeling better but his body is still weak. If he was sick maybe he just doesn't have the energy at the moment.
If you feel that he has become distant in sex but nothing else then I wouldn't worry about him not being interested in you anymore.. it could very well just be the fact that he is still getting over his sickness.
On the other hand.. If he isn't paying any attention to you in the bedroom or in any other way you seriously need to talk to him.
Let him know that you have noticed a lack of affection in the bedroom although you understand he has been sick but is it for any other reason..?
Hope I helped and hope you get some soon lol :)
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Ok, well. this may sound a little stupid, but i wanted to ask you because all youre other answers in your column are genuine and my question seems a little confusing, but i really dont know what to do.
I met this guy about a month ago, and I really like him and all, and I can really talk to him about anything. Well, turns out, one night we were talking the issue of boyfriends and girlfriends came up. Now, when we were talking about it he said he doesnt want a girlfriend right now, but we still kiss and make out and stuff. I want to go out with him soooo bad, but I dont know what to do since he said he doesnt want one right now. Im just confused I guess. Like, he tells me im goregous and that he can really connect with me, but I dont know whether to go for it and ask him out, or just leave it alone. (link)
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It's not fair on you if you don't let him know how you are feeling.
You need to sit him down and let him know how you feel. Even if he doesn't want a girlfriend you need to do the mature thing and talk to him about it.
Start if off by saying I know you don't want a girlfriend right now but this is how I feel, be honest with him. Then perhaps end it by saying.. well now you know my feelings for you i'll leave it up to you to make the decision.
Don't put pressure on him about it otherwise he might run away from it all. Tell him you'll respect his decision 100% and hope that things will eventually involve more feelings towards one another.
Until then all you can do is talk to him about it.
If he ends up saying no it might hurt but don't get mad at him, if you get mad then you might loose him out of you life completely.
Good luck and I hope you get together :)
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About a month or two ago I made a promise to God that I would not masturbate until I turned 14. Several months ago, probably like 3 or 4 maybe 5, I turned 13. But, I broke that promise. And I know it's really bad to do that, and I'm a Catholic! But the really bad thing is, that I keep telling God I won't do it again, but I do! Sometimes when I cross my legs my clitoris throbs and it feels good, does that count? A part of me feels like he forgives me, partly because it was the time of my period when you're in heat, but part of me feels like he won't forgive me and I don't deserve to go to Heaven. I feel like I've broken my promise, God never breaks a promise and I feel unworthy. I talk to God a lot, I pray a lot, and praise him a lot. But sometimes I'm not nice to others like I should be. Like lying, or making fun of someone and not apologizing, although most of the time I do, yet I do it again! I truly, truly, truly need help to keep my promise and stay un-horny. Will I go to hell for this? Will he forgive me? I feel so scared, I want to go to Heaven! I worship God with all my heart, I really do. And I believe in Jesus and his commandments and in the beatitudes. But one night a while back, I wanted to sort of have my own way of getting an immediate answer with him. Years ago, I bought a statue of Jesus from Canada and the hands broke off accidentally. So I took one hand and fell alseep with it in my hand and asked him to have me wake up with it on the right side of my bed if the answer was "Yes, you will go to Heaven." and it go to the left side if the answer was no. It landed on the left side underneath me! I'm scared. I've done this before, and I asked him if I would meet my sisters in Heaven (I never met them) and it landed on the right side. Is this kind of witch craft or something? Well I'm really scared, so please answer this question! (link)
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God created men and women, he created us with hormones and curiosity. This isn't a sin sweety!
It's your hormones and curiosity.
Look at it this way. You are in a room, by yourself, not hurting anyone so why do you feel so bad?
It's perfectly normal to explore your own body. There are plenty of other things that catholics and other religious people have done that is ten times worse.
Don't make anymore promises to god about this and you will be fine. He's not going to punish you for something that isn't wrong.
Hope I helped :)
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Okay, I've been living with my seeing things and a slight fear of the dark and almost any noise you could possibly imagine for the last few years. Lately though, it's getting worse and my paranoia has reached amazing levels, I also tend to be more aggressive about it. I've talked to my friends James, Casey, and Travis about it. Travis & Casey know alot about mental disorders and suggested that I am schizophrenic. Lately it's all getting worse. I'm frightened all the time, of almost everything, and not just at night either. Someone give me some advice? Anything would help. Thank you so much.
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You need to get advice from your doctor!! This is something that can be controlled if you get the right medication and the right diagnosis.
I'm sorry hun but your friends might not know everything there is about mental disorders so you should definitely see a doctor right away.
Especially before it gets out of hand. You said you've had it for a few years now but it's just started to get worse.. this is your cue to take control and look after yourself.
Perhaps take a friend with you or a gaurdian to the doctors with you. Trust me hun.. I work in a doctors surgery, it's not something a young girl wants to have.
Goodluck :)
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me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. i don`t trust him and i want to so bad. i want our relationship to work out. i know he wont cheat on me but i don`t trust him with other girls. i get so mad when he just talks to one. he`s done some stpid stuff but after we were broken up though. well actually he never did anything with anyone he said things like i wanna fuck you. but never did anything with them or while we were together. but he isn`t going to do that anymore and he hasn`t. the last time we broke he didn`t want to get back together unless i let him talk to who ever he wanted. he said he wants to be able to talk to who ever he wants to and for me not get mad because he isn`t gonna do anything. and i want to be ok with it but im not. and even after he told he isn`t gonna do anything i still don`t trust him. but how can i? anyone know how i can start trusting him? (link)
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hun, I guess i'm in the same kind of situation as you.
My guy doesn't flirt with anyone else and he's completely faithful to me, we've been together for just over 2 years.
But I think it' us hun, I think that we are insecure with ourselves. I'm just speaking for myself here, don't get me wrong but you could possibly feel the same.
I feel like that if we are together down the street and he's not touching me in some way that other girls just want to jump him. I know it's stupid but it's just how I feel.
We just have to put all that aside and trust our guys, they haven't really given us any reason not to trust them and yet we still do.
I find it hard to see other girls talking to him, especially when I know they've had something to do with him in the past. I guess just take it slow, take a deep breath and deal with it.
Or you can sit your man down and tell him that sometimes you just need to be reassured that your his girl and that he loves you because you do find it hard to see him talking to other girls.
Or two can play at that game ;)
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can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =] (link)
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Hi there,
I had sex for the first time at 17, I was almost 18. That night was the best night of my life. I had been with my boyfriend for nearly 12 months.
Sex wasn't really an issue until one night he sat me down and told me that he loved me, amoung other stuff that was said but he never once bought up the subject or put pressure on me. I just fell head over heels for him, I knew then that he was thr right person for me.
Then about 3 months later I stayed at his house and I said to him that I was ready to take a relationship to the next step.
He asked me if I was sure and never pressured me into anything. I told him that I loved him and that I was completely ready to give myself to him.
It hurt a little but he was so gentle and so loving and caring. The cuddles after were amazing.. just how he held me tight until the morning it was so perfect.
We are still together nearly 2 and a half years later and plan to move in together within the next 12 months. Alot of people judge me because i've only been with the one guy but whats the point in looking else where if you love each other.
Overall my night was perfect, our relationship was and still is strong and we trust each other. Not to mention I was his first too. He was 19 at the time.
Look if you feel that you are ready then no one can stop you. Just prepare yourself emotionally and be safe. You don't want to become pregnant.
Talk to your guy perhaps. Just don't let things turn bad. But no one can decide for you. It's your choice. Good luck.
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hey im a guy,13, and im lanky for my age. i was wondering is there any way i can get bigger around my arms and legs. Im quite thin around my waist, legs, arms. the only part of me thats fine is my chest and shoulders. I play rugby so i need to get heavier. any ideas apart from eating shitloads of shit food? (link)
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Eating lots of junk foods will just make you sick. You need to take care of your body.
Sign up to your local gym or buy a few weights for you to lift at home.
Lots of veggies, meat and fruit will keep you healthy but also try protien drinks and snack bars.
You must understand when you need to stop though. Lifting weights 3 times a week for a half an hour is plenty. In the mean time its always good to go for a power walk too. Power walking uses more muscles then running does.
Perhaps look at taking vitamin tablets too, they'll keep all your vitamins and minerals in your system and will keep you on the go.
It's better to sign up to a gym so a professional trainer can teach you how to use the equipment properly then straining your muscles if you don't really know what your doing.
Results wont come straight away but give it time and you'll look buff... hehe!
Good luck, stay healthy!
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I'm 20 years old and I have a bf who's 21. My bf and I live in different city. Just this week, he went in our house to have his vacation. He's very much welcome in our house because my mum is a cool mum and my sister is so nice that they became close immediately. The problem is with my aunt. I already introduced my bf to my relatives and everyone likes him because he's a nice guy, except to my aunt. She was so angry because she said that it's not nice that a guy would come to a girl's house and sleep there.(we sleep in different room) My bf stayed with us in our house for 2 weeks. My aunt told us things that made me cry. She said that she's pretty sure that my bf and I already had sex and that maybe i wouldn't graduate from college because i maybe become pregnant, and many more. The rest of the family really didn't believe in this opinion of my aunt because they trust me a lot, especially my mum. The problem is that i'm GUILTY.. My bf and I already had sex but i told them that i wouldn't do it before our marriage and i assure my mum that nothing happened yet and that i really won't do it. She believed in me and she really trusts me. I really feel guilty. I don't want to tell the truth because first of all it would break their heart and i feel shame if they'll know it.. Please help me.. and should i stop having sex with my bf to make sure that i wouldn't become pregnant? Thanks a lot.. (link)
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Hey there.
I guess I am kind of in the same situation as you at the moment.
From my point of view you are old enough to do what you want, when you want. You are 20 years old. You are no longer a teenager anymore.
It's ok for you and your boyfriend to have sex. Sex is something so special between two people, its passionate and it brings you closer to your partner.
As long as you are careful with sex like using condoms and perhaps the pill you will not become pregnant. If you do become pregnant well thats just going to have to be a responsibility that you and your boyfriend are going to have to accept.
Perhaps you should talk to your mum. Talk to her in a mature way and explain to her that you love your boyfriend very much and he loves you and you feel as though you are ready to take things in your relationship a bit further and how would she feel about you having sex..?! If she disagrees with this then just leave it at that, tell her you respect her desicion but you wanted her to know how you felt.
You don't have to tell her that you've had sex with your boyfriend. It was your choice. Don't feel guilty because it's what you wanted to do. This was totally your choice. Don't let anyone make you feel bad.
As for your aunty. She is not your mother. Tell her to leave you alone and let you live your life how you want. You know how to make the right choices for yourself.
Obviously your Aunty is trying to make you feel bad so you wont make the same mistakes she did??
It's ok to do what you want.
Good luck. Hope I helped!
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theres this guy who i've liked since the beggining of the school year. we've hung out with eachother and kind of got physical.
Then we kind of just stopped talking and he went out with this other girl.
okay, so when they broke up me and him started flirting again over the internet and i went over his house and we made out, held hands, all of that. The thing is, i like him STILL and i don't know if he likes me. He even bragged about having tons of girls in his room. But it was so sweet, he walked me home and he once walked in a blizzard for me. But hes a big time flirt and who knows when the last time he made out with another girl is.
i don't really know what my question is but does this sound like a stupid place to put myself in?
I get hurt easily. and i had feelings for a LONG time. (link)
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Ok.. my advice to you is to sit this guy down and talk to him. Let him know that you have feelings for him and you would like to perhaps have a relationship.
If he agrees with this then you need to make him understand that he can't always be flirting with other girls all the time because it hurts.
You need to make him aware that you want to be with him but if he doesn't feel the same way you should just cut him out of your life and move on.
To me he sounds like a player who likes to make girls feel special so he can get a bit and he has that sweet charm that makes every girl melt.
Been there.. done that.. got hurt. Honey your young, go out have fun and eventually to hot sweet guy will come your way :)
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ok so heres how it went.
my bff is kind of spoiled and high strung. she has mega high expectations for guys.
anyways..she was going out with this guy thats sooo nice and cute and just the perfect bf for her cause he was nice and she was a bitch and they "completed eachother".
but then she broke up with him because she said he was to clingy. like a week after that me and her ex started talking and i told him i was sorry about what my bff did to him and we just started to talk and now i really like him and im pretty sure he likes me too.
so is it ok to date him? my bff doesnt know we've been talking to eachother. what should i do should i act on it or just break it off? should i tell my bff?
any answers great.
thankyou (link)
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I think you should go for it. She broke it off with him so there shouldn't be any reason for her to get mad at you.
If he is clingy and your happy with that then there shouldn't be any reasons why you shouldn't go for it.
If she does get mad at you then try to get her to understand it from your point of view. She dumped him then you became friends and eventually had feelings for each other. It wasn't like you were out to get him while your friend was dating him.
But you didn't say how long they were going out for.. if it was only a short period of time then that should be fine. But if they were together for a long time well then I would leave it for a while. She could have at one stage been 'in love' or had a lot of feelings with this guy and it might hurt her to see you with him.
But your friend also needs to understand that she just can't dump people because they are too clingy. She knows she's got it perfect for herself so she's taking advantage of that. Perhaps you should have a girlie friend talk and make her understand that guys are human... just like us. :)
Hope I helped and good luck!
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if you feel your husband is keep secrects from you and you feel like that is it good to keep it to your self?
sometimes as if he is hiding things from me, things like his phone bill, text messages, and maybe emails too, but i don't have any proof of it and it is bothering me. help me if you can. (link)
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I think you need to sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel before things end up in a mess.
He's your husband and he should not be keeping anything from you. Vise Versa.
Maybe do a bit more investigating before you say something just incase you are over reacting. Have you noticed him staying out later and night and after work and things like that?
I'm sorry hun but sometimes Mr perfect isn't so perfect. I know it hurts but you are his wife and you deserve to know what is going on in his life.
But then again.. could he be planning something special for you? Don't jump to conclusions just yet but definitely keep your eye out. Just watch the way he reacts to you.
Stand up for yourself and don't let him or anyone take advantage of you.
Sometimes in the married life people get disconnected to their once upon a loved one. It happens to the best of us.
But as I said, don't jump to conclusions but you really need to talk to him.
I wish you all the best :)
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I hooked up with this kid(joe) who likes me last friday. On saturday, I hooked up with this other kid, (tom). Well now, Joe's friend keeps telling me Joe is going to ask me out and he really likes me. I don't like him though and I don't want to go out with him, especcially since summer is soon. Should I tell Joe I don't want to go out with him cause it's almost summer or because I hooked up with someone else and I don't want to hurt him cause of it? (that is really the truth) (link)
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Ok well you definitely need to talk to him soon. Just wait and let him ask you out incase you make a fool of yourself since its only this guys friend who is saying he's going to ask you out.
Then when and if he asks you just tell him that you are really sorry and you like him but your just not ready to be in a relationship. Your young and you want to have fun.
Maybe perhaps tell him that he's more then welcome to go to the movies or something with you but only as friends, apologise to him and say sorry for any impressions you've given him.
Just be super nice to him because you might in the future want to be with him.
:)
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Okay, so my 'friends' were the best of friends a girl could ever have, in the beginning of the school year (long ass time ago) Then in the middle of the year things started to change. I didn't feel the love that friends are supposed to have for eachother (in a friend way). And they are constantly labeling me goth. And I am always the one that is made fun of. But then a girl named Haley started hanging out with us. At first it was all the same for me. But then they all started talking behind her back. I would NEVER join in on those conversations, I would defend her. Then one day me and Haley were still eating lunch, and they left. So when we are done we go find them. And they start bitching on how Haley should just leave, so she leaves and I go with her. And that is the start of our great friendship. I mean, it's like we are sisters. We constantly hang out. (of course it isn't just us isolating (sp?) ourselves, we hang out with MANY more people, but we are always together, no matter who we hang out with) And we always have something to talk about, anyways I haven't hung out with my other 'friends' for awhile. Then a few days ago, I hung out with them after school, and they kept saying 'Why are you hanging out with Haley, she is some goth freak, is that why you hang out with her? I hate Haley, just stop hanging out with her!' And I don't want to stop hanging out with her, but my 'friends' won't stop bugging me about it, I don't want to go back to the old ways with them making fun of me, and them being rude and labeling me. And I can't ditch Haley, what should I do?? (link)
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First of all you need to make your 'friends' aware of why you hang out with Haley so much, because you can be yourself with out all the bitching and rudeness.
Tell them that Haley is like your sister and you feel comfortable around her.
Your 'friends' need to realise that they can't make you feel like your an outsider or anyone for that matter. They are not your friends if they do this to you.
Tell them to give Haley a chance to be their friend too because she's a cool chick.
Hope I helped. :)
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My boyfriend n my best friend thinks im anorexic just because i dont eat breakfast nor dinner...i eat lunch...watever is the food in d cafeteria...but sumtimes i jus dont finish everything...like last nite, i only ate half of a piece of a chicken tender n 3 cheesesticks...n after that i was already full....i dont eat that much, sometimes i throw up d food dat i ate....i use to weight 152 which was overweight, so i lessen d amount of food i ate n now im 124...i lost 28 pounds in less than a month...my mom thinks its dangerous, that i have to eat or else im gonna b sick n die...
do u think im turnin anorexic?
my goal is 110, my mom thinks dats too thin so i told her 120, but im gonna go to 110... (link)
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It is very dangerous. You might not interperate what your doing as being anorexic or bulimic but if you don't control this now it will get very nasty.
My friend had anorexia. I did everything I could to help her and she died 4 months ago. I still blame myself for not trying harder to support her.
You have a boyfriend and a best friend who obviously love you to be saying something to you about this.
Listen to them before this habit controls your life forever.
There are plenty of other ways of staying healthy and loosing weight. Like eating fruits and working out 3 times a week. Become a health fitness freak instead of just bones!
Honey.. too thin it too ugly!
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i rely need help i was on the phone to my girlfreind and we were sayin good bye here the convo basically
me:cya tommorow , i love you
her:no you dont
me:what?
her:you dont love me and i know you dont
me:ye i do
etc so it went on and in the end she ended up cancellin all of the plans we had getin in a mood with me and sayin tht i didnt love her when i even said i did!! i havent a clue what i wrong wit her she said its her hormones but she said that like 10 days ago im so confused and i realy dont want to loose her because i realy do love her but she cant see that and i know she may split up with me because f it is her hromones she will what can i do?? someone please help me (link)
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Ok why don't you sit her down and talk to her after you've given her a bit of space. If she's upset about something she obviously taking it out on you but it doesn't mean you have done anything wrong.
Sometimes people take things out on other people that they love the most.
She could have perhaps been looking for attention from you.
Sit down with her and start off by saying that she means the world to you and you love her very much and ask her if you have at any stage given her an impression that you don't love her.
Let her know that you are there for her to talk to when ever she needs.
Hope I helped. :)
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ok so there's this guy that i've been friends with since pretty much when he came to my school and most guys i dont feel comfortable with but with him i can be myself well i still feel a little uncomfortable like i cant be myself but for the most part i can be myself now i am kinda overweight and so i havent had much experience with guys but i kinda like this guy and i mean he has always been nice to me well that i know of and well i kinda want to stay friends but then i kinda want something more also he has gone out with alot of girls and flirts with a lot well he used now he doesnt as much so what should i do cause i wanna stay friends but then i want mroe help (link)
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Ok so you already have a good relationship with this boy so do you really want to ruin that by taking things further.
You can always ask him if he wants more from you then just your friendship especially if you feel comfortable with him.
Explain your feelings to him and see where things go from there. But then there is also the possibility of things turning sour.
Just think about what you really want before you throw it at him. Is it better to have him in your life then not at all?
But you can then do the mature thing and talk to him face to face. write him a letter or an email.
Hope I helped and good luck.
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