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TRUST?
me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. i don`t trust him and i want to so bad. i want our relationship to work out. i know he wont cheat on me but i don`t trust him with other girls. i get so mad when he just talks to one. he`s done some stpid stuff but after we were broken up though. well actually he never did anything with anyone he said things like i wanna fuck you. but never did anything with them or while we were together. but he isn`t going to do that anymore and he hasn`t. the last time we broke he didn`t want to get back together unless i let him talk to who ever he wanted. he said he wants to be able to talk to who ever he wants to and for me not get mad because he isn`t gonna do anything. and i want to be ok with it but im not. and even after he told he isn`t gonna do anything i still don`t trust him. but how can i? anyone know how i can start trusting him?
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Trust is the basic foundation of a relationship; without it, you're building on nothing so whatever you're building with him will fall apart. You don't have to trust him, you don't have to want him, you don't have to need him. Who says you even have to have a relationship? I know I wouldn't like to be in a relationship with a guy that tells other girls he wants to fuck them, even if you were broken up. It's unclassy, rude, untrustworthy, trashy, and a perfect example of betrayal. You and I both know you deserve better, sweety. There are tons of guys out there that are so much easier to trust that you can fall in love with before you can say "We're breaking up." to your current boyfriend. If you get into that many fights, next time he says he wants you back you don't even have to talk. Just use sign language ;) You know... the finger? Haha, just kidding. But anyways, there's nothing you can make yourself do to trust him. It's something he has to earn, and this is natural for you to feel since you two have broken up so much. You deserve better, go for the gold!
Much Luck.
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hun, I guess i'm in the same kind of situation as you.
My guy doesn't flirt with anyone else and he's completely faithful to me, we've been together for just over 2 years.
But I think it' us hun, I think that we are insecure with ourselves. I'm just speaking for myself here, don't get me wrong but you could possibly feel the same.
I feel like that if we are together down the street and he's not touching me in some way that other girls just want to jump him. I know it's stupid but it's just how I feel.
We just have to put all that aside and trust our guys, they haven't really given us any reason not to trust them and yet we still do.
I find it hard to see other girls talking to him, especially when I know they've had something to do with him in the past. I guess just take it slow, take a deep breath and deal with it.
Or you can sit your man down and tell him that sometimes you just need to be reassured that your his girl and that he loves you because you do find it hard to see him talking to other girls.
Or two can play at that game ;)
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Trust is a major part of any relationship. Since he did say those things in the past, yes it would be difficult trusting him. You should give him a chance though. People change & he might seriously care about you & not want to hurt you. Just because he said those things to girls in the past, does not mean he would if you guys were dating. & you said he didn't so far right?? Everyone deserves a second chance. If he ever seems distant or shady, then it would be a good idea to talk to him. Just explain to him that you really do want to make an effort to trust him, but that he has to put effort in staying loyal also & you won't get mad when he talks to other girls. If he can prove it to you, then you should be fine. Maybe you do trust him, but it's the girls you don't trust?? I totally trust my bf, but i definitely don't trust random girls. Especially when I don't know them. Talk it out with him. If you want your relationship to last, it has to be 50%-50% & you both have to help one another.
-hope that helped!♥
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