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i've been wanting to be a mother since i was a baby, myself. i've never intentionally tried to get pregnant, but i have had unprotected sex but i've never gotten pregnant. how do i know if i'm able to have children? and if i find out i'm not able to, how do i cope with that knowledge? (link)
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Talk with your doctor about it.
If you have been trying to conceive for one full year and haven't been successful yet then you will be thrown into the infertile category. From there the doctor can evaluate your body and look for things that may be damaged or experiencing problems.
There are lots of things that cause infertility, including poor health and drug use. If you've ever had any form of STD then you may even have your fallopian tubes damaged or impacted to where they are blocked and won't allow the egg to travel down. You could have scar tissue in your uterus from periods that came too close together and too long, fibroids that have grown in the uterus, cysts on the ovaries that are preventing proper ovulation, etc. If you've ever taken the morning after pill, birth control pills, or had any sort of medical procedure on your reproductive parts then things may be having trouble getting back to normal.
To find out if you are actually ovulating you can purchase over the counter ovulation predictor kits from various stores and pharmacies. You should take them for a full 6 months (which kind of turns out to be pricey but very worth it) so that you know how frequently you ovulate and when that is. It will help you conceive or help you figure out that you are: ovulating on time, too frequently, less than the normal amount, never ovulating, ovulating too late, etc.
If you are leading an unhealthy lifestyle, eating poor, engaging in harmful activities such as smoking or drinking, or are under a lot of stress then now is the time to make those proper changes. While you are young your body does have a chance to heal and repair. As you grow older things are more likely to remain stagnant and dysfunctional. The longer you lead an unhealthy lifestyle, the more odds the damage won't be reversible.
So, talk with you doctor. Pick up some home ovulation tests. Track your menstrual cycles and ovulation cycles as per the tests. Change your lifestyle if needed. Try not to worry too much.
Your doctor may be able to offer other methods to help you conceive in the future if you are found to be infertile and they can figure out what the root cause is. For example, if you rarely ovulate they can prescribe a pill that can help your body to do what it should be doing each month and release an egg.
Lastly, all hope is never lost. I've read multiple stories about women who have tried to make babies for 10 years or more and were never successful. They gave up and just coped with the fact that they were infertile. Some 10+ years down the line they miss a period and wind up pregnant. Miracles happen and you should always look at the bright side and hope for the best.
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Hey! This is a follow-up to a question I asked before. I'm getting slimed (covered in like nickelodeon green slime) to raise money for charity and like everyone I asked told me to get dressed up for it when I asked what to wear haha! I don't know if its the sensible thing to do but it'll probably be fun for me and really funny for the people watching, and hopefully will raise a lot of money, so I'm going to get dressed up :)
I have several dresses I'm thinking of wearing. My prom dress from last year is a white, really classy, full length dress; I have a black evening dress which is also really classy/elegant. And finally I have some more casual dresses, like a red shorter dress. Which one do you think I should wear and what color heels? Also should I have my hair in an updo or down? THANKS!
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I think the most extreme fashion you could go with would be the long white prom dress you have with a neatly done updo hairstyle and red heels.
However, you need to consider something very important:
You could very well be ruining the dress completely. It could wind up with a giant green stain on it. You could also very well ruin your shoes, jewelry, and any hair accessories you choose to insert.
So, if you're not cool with ruining a $100+ prom dress then maybe you shouldn't go with that option, but, rather, something on the lower-class side that is still cute.
If you're cool with ruining the white dress then it'll probably make the most impression on the audience. The white gown will really show off the slime and people will have that shock factor of, "Oh my goodness, did she really just get slimed in a WHITE dress?!"
Go with something you're okay with ruining, first and foremost, and work from there.
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So this guy and I have been dating for a couple weeks now and it seems like an okay relationship. We don't do anything sexual, which is good since I'm a phobic. We just give light hugs. We talk every so often and stuff.
Well, something about this relationship is starting to bug me (And it's not the fact that my friends scream at me for not making out with him or something silly like that) He always one words me. If I ask how his day went, he'd just say good and you? And if I one word him, he just stares at me, waiting for me to go on. He gets impatient sometimes too and I feel like it's starting to snap. It doesn't help that he's younger than me and his other relationships didn't particularly count. His sister, also my friend, tells me that I'm his first real girlfriend. I know I should be patient with him and I mentioned a couple times, some things that would help it move along, but it's like he ignores it or just doesn't wanna give it a shot. I'm getting nervous a lot too and it's not helping... :( Some help, please? (link)
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Ask more questions that require more than one-word responses. Seriously.
"How was you day today?"
Turns into:
"So, what happened today with you?"
and things like
"Whats your favorite color?"
Turns into:
"How do you feel about [color]?"
...
"Do you like [this] movie?"
Turns into:
"What are your favorite movies?"
or
"What was your favorite part about [this] movie?"
...
"Do you like so-and-so's class?"
Turns into:
"What do you HATE most about so-and-so's class? I can't stand it!"
etc. Find your usual question and try to form it into something that usually isn't answer with one single word.
A lot of people have this one-word-answer problem. I use to be pretty bad for it. It's not that I didn't want to talk though. It's just that I had no idea what more I could or should say. I hated it when people did it to me because they obviously knew how to make better conversation than I did.
So, try to work around the problem by altering the questions you ask him.
"Did you like the movie?"
becomes
"Wow, what was your favorite part of that movie we just saw?"
Alternatively, help him out by asking follow-up questions so that he knows what he can further say.
"How was your day?"
"Good and you?"
"My day was alright. Nothing really happened though so it was kind of boring. I did have an awesome lunch though, which was probably the highlight of my boring day, haha. What happened with you today?"
And try to ask newer questions. Answering the exact same question the exact same way every day gets boring. You know you should say more, but you don't know what, and this other person insists on asking the very question that troubles you every day.
So, instead of prompting him about his day just make a statement and go on with conversation.
"Well, my day was pretty boring and bland. I sure hope your day was a better and more exciting. I was so happy to get to talk to you today after school. You're always the highlight of my day."
It gives him more to work with. He can then talk about his day, your boring day, or how much you two care for each other. If he's still stuck from there then you might have to lead conversation a little more.
It can be very hard to learn how to communicate and conversate when you don't have much practice to begin with. While you can sit down and tell him you "want" or "need" him to improve it might just put more stress on him and further his internal anxiety or confusion. It's good to present the problem with him but don't keep pestering him to improve just because you don't see the improvement yet. You can help him more by leading the conversation. "I'm glad you had such a good day today. What made is good?" or "Really? What happened today then?"
Don't be robotic or anything. Don't tell him, "I'm trying to help you talk better with me!" just do it. Just go along like it's how you normally have conversations. If he ignores the question then ask again in case he didn't hear it. Don't keep bringing up that he has a problem. It can be very embarrassing, especially when the other person keeps reminding you that they're coaching you to improve. Just go along with the conversation and choose better questions for him to think up a response for in the conversation. And be casual! If it takes him 3 minutes to figure out what to say then act like it's no biggie.
If it really is bugging you then it might be time to call it quits. He isn't likely to magically improve overnight or within the next few weeks. It takes time to learn how to have a back-and-forth discussion like normal people. If he doesn't have much practice then it's just you and him working at it and that can take quite awhile.
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I read this thing like a year ago about a girl putting toothpaste on her outside vagina parts (like the clit) and it made her feel really good. It popped into my head today and I was thinking about trying it with some like regular toothpaste (not gel) I have in the bathroom? I wouldn't, like, put it INSIDE my vagina so it couldn't hurt, right? I just want to make sure before I do it that I won't end up getting hurt.. (link)
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This is a horrible idea.
Think of this:
When you brush your teeth, how long does that minty, tingly feeling last? Quite awhile, right?
What happens if you apply this to your sensitive vaginal area and clitoris and it begins to burn or feel very uncomfortable?
Even if you rinse it off, the burning may not stop.
My friend had this problem with a "warming" lubricant. Her boyfriend applied some to her and within a few minutes she was running around in pain. She soaked in a cold tub of water and the burning didn't stop for quite awhile. She said it was very uncomfortable.
Then, she ended up with an infection because the lubricant that was applied to the outside of her vaginal parts went inside and it just wasn't happy.
So, what happened if you put that on you and get really into things and, oops, there is toothpaste inside of your vagina suddenly? You can't just fish it out.
Skip on the toothpaste idea. Purchase vibrators and dildos if you want toys. Purchase warming lubricant from KY Jelly if you want something that tingles. Even that is specifically made for sex and can cause big problems so you might as well go with something that is "usually" safe instead of some random object in the house.
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Ok so I have been freaking out about what I "want to be when I grow up" for a long time since I'm a junior in highschool now. Well recently, I've finally decided I want to be an art teacher, preferably at the highschool level. I asked my art teacher what she majored in during college and she said "art education" but I'm kind of afraid that if I limit it to just "art" education then there wont be any schools that need an art teacher...so I did some research and found out that at some schools you can double up and major in both "art" and "general education". It sounds like that might be better in case I cant find any specificly art jobs...right? I don't really know where to go from here I guess, but I know I need to be doing stuff to get ready for a career right now. So, any advice? (link)
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You should speak with the counselor of the college or colleges you're most interested in. They do this sort of figuring out for a living and charge absolutely nothing to help you out. They can also help you figure out the fastest, easiest way to get through school with the degree or degrees you're most interested in and want.
An art degree and a general education degree together may run into some problems when you're seeking a position with a school. Just because you know art doesn't mean you can teach it to students and just because you can teach students doesn't mean you know how to teach art to students. Some schools would approve of this sort of degree combination while others would shake their heads and pass on you.
I wanted to be something sort-of like an art teacher at one point. Most a FACS (family and consumer science ie home economics) teacher. I figured the same thing you did--well, even though schools have them, usually, not many teachers may be retiring from the spot, right?
Wrong, actually.
And, hey, let's face it--more schools have art teachers than they have home ec teachers. ;)
Anyway, a lot of schools are going to be in need of teachers within the upcoming years. Many are retiring age and just want to get out of it so they can relax. This means art teachers, too. If you're willing to relocate once you've graduated with your degree then there is even a program you can go through that will pay for your relocation, the only issue is you are placed in spots of high crime or some place like Alaska. It's an option though and they can always find you a spot.
So, do what you'd like. If you're really only after art education then shoot for it. If you go after general education you're not actually qualified for any specific class so it, really, isn't going to help any more or less than having a degree in art education.
Talk with a guidance counselor at a college and see what they can help you get done. They're most knowledge about this and can even steer you to a different college if you need. Sometimes it's even better to get basics at a smaller college before moving on to a university.
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I was looking at shoes today with my bff and she was talking about how she has high arches and has to buy added arch supports for her shoes or her feet hurt a lot. My feet hurt sometimes and I was wondering if maybe my feet are considered high arches or whatever. How can I tell if I have high arched feet, normal feet, or...? (link)
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There are lots of diagrams online that will help you figure out if your feet have high arches, regular arches, low arches, or you have flat feet. All different types of these feet oddities (or not so odd) can cause feet pain because of various reasons though. Everyone should have a little bit of arch support in their shoes, too, even the people with flat feet!
Here are some diagrams to help you out:
http://www.allcarepodiatry.com/images/flat-feet.jpg
http://www.runnerslane.com/images/foottypes3.jpg
http://www.forwardarch.com/images/higharch.jpg
If you still can't quite figure it out then you should see a foot doctor, called a podiatrist. They can even help you to make a custom mold of your foot so that you get great arch supports and help you decrease foot pain easily.
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Sometimes when Im at home, I cant see anything for a few seconds and then I can see again. It happens a lot everyday. Its been happening for a while and its gotten worse. I cant see anything but the dark for a few seconds. what is this?
sometimes when I stand up I loose all vision and get light headed. I do wear contacts. Why do I go blind sometimes?
Sometimes i got blind for a few seconds, like ill stand up and ill get this weird feeling in my head and i wont be able to see for about a second or two.
I get dizzy, cand black dots start to appear everywhere & then my ears start ringing & everything goes dark (link)
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This sort of lightheadedness can actually be a sign of more serious conditions like very high blood pressure. The elevation difference your brain experiences within the few seconds you are rising shouldn't affect the body, but in people with high blood pressure, anemia, low blood pressure, thyroid disorders, diabetes, brain tumors, severe dehydration, calcium deficiency, magnesium deficiency, Parkinson's Disease, and other medical conditions may experience this sort of momentary black-outs.
It's called orthostatic hypotension (also known as postural hypotension) and is when your blood pressure drops suddenly when you stand up. It could be noted even by a problem in the main circulatory system.
If I were you, I'd get myself checked out just to make sure everything is alright. The doctor may be able to provide a few tips for you so that you don't have to deal with this. It doesn't hurt to make sure everything is, indeed, working right in the body.
Remember, you are important and you have to rely on yourself to take care of yourself.
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so my squad is competing and i can't think of any words for a cheer. i want the cheer to be long. our cheer from last year was this:
get ready for the wildcats.
cause we are ready for you.
look out crowd those cats are coming through.
those cats are on the move again. moving to the top we'll win. M-U-L-V-A-N-E. mulvane wildcats are hotter than can be. woo!
what i have so far is this:
battle of the squads.
we're back again.
ready to fight and here to win.
and that's it. if you have any suggestions that would be helpful. btw we're green black & white. THANKS! :)
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I've never been a cheerleader and don't really know much about what it takes to create a good cheer but I thought I could take a stab at it and maybe it'd spur some great idea in you or you could do something with it (now or later). Here's what I did think of:
Battle of the squads,
We're back again.
Ready to fight and here to win!
Our claws are sharp,
and watch out for our bite.
Green, black, and white,
We know where it's at,
We're the Mulvane WildCats!
[or, alternatively:
Our claws are sharp,
and our bite is fierce.
We know where it's at,
We're the Mulvane WildCats!]
I was trying to think of something like you did with the M-U-L-V-A-N-E but came up with nothing. I thought a Me-OW at the end or even a hiss but I don't even know how that works in the whole cheering thing.
Anyway, that was my suggestion! I hope it helps...
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I have a baby girl and she is now 3 years old. I have been breastfeeding her the entire time since she was born. About a year ago my doctor suggested I start weaning her off of my breastmilk so that she would start eating solid foods more. I just can't seem to break her of it though. She will cry and cry at certain times of the day until I let her nurse. I don't want her to go without, and I don't want to cut her off cold turkey, but I know I need to be weaning her. How do I do this right? I've read a few stories about children being insecure because of their mothers suddenly weaning them too quickly. I know she needs time, but how do I do it? Thank you. (link)
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you weaning you baby at 3 years old. Seriously, people take the 2 year old rule too seriously sometimes.
The truth is, a lot of babies get comfortable from snuggling up to Mommy and having a delightful treat or snack. It's quite natural and isn't anything to be worried about that she doesn't want to stop. The only problem here is that you simply cannot end up breastfeeding an 8 year old and feel acceptable, you know? At 3 this is a fine behavior but once she gets school-aged things would turn a little, well, not good.
Take things slowly so that she doesn't develop the insecurities or feel like she's suddenly unloved because she is aging and getting to be bigger.
She cries because she gets pleasure from it. She likes to cuddle up and relax with you. She likes the comfort "food" that is supplied. She likes that attention. She likes being held. It's understandable to get upset when, suddenly, you can't enjoy one of your favorite activities any more!
Start by trying to cut out one feeding per every month. You can start by skipping a feeding session every few days, where instead of feeding you two do something else together during that time. Eventually you'll get to a reduction--where you use to feed, say, 4 times a day you usually feed only 3 times a day. As the months go on, you can lower the sessions. If it takes you two months to cut out one session then that's fine, too. Progress is progress and some parents will just have to spend a little extra time working with the little one.
Instead of feeding during that time, cuddle up together where you would usually feed at, having a little snack that's appropriate together, read a book, or watch an interesting show together. Make sure she knows you're interested in hugging, cuddling, and holding her even though she isn't latching onto your breast for milk. That cuddling is essential for her mental development. Let her know she's loved equally even though she isn't having her usual snack.
Try to make specific times you are willing to feed her. If she isn't already on a schedule then one needs to be created. This way she knows that no matter what there will be certain times each day where Mommy will be devoted to holding her--feeding or not. As she ages you will be able to cut down cuddle time, too, but for now 30 minutes here-and-there shouldn't be too much a problem if you're already still breastfeeding.
If you can pump then you can always keep a little breastmilk on hand for cuddle time. Instead of her feeding directly from her, give her the opportunity to have milk from a bottle or, preferably, a little sippy cup. She still gets cuddles and her favorite treat then without having to latch on and become a little bit of an embarrassment if company is over.
Take things slowly. You know your child. Don't just cut her off, like you have heard. It isn't good. She doesn't "get" things like adults do. She knows she likes to cuddle and feel your warmth. She knows she likes the milk that comes out. Just try to make cuddle time still with alternative snacks, alternative ways to have the milk, or just time to be together (again, reading is a GREAT thing to start doing at this age--you can really help her LOVE books already).
There isn't anything wrong with your child or you. You're doing a great job if you haven't been so frustrated you've cut her off already. Some parents just don't understand "emotional development" like others do. Your doctor isn't going to be angry if he/she finds out the little one isn't weaned yet. All children are on their own level and own speed. Take it slowly with her and show her you still care about her even when she isn't feeding. Spend time together just cuddling sometimes. It'll help her to give up the nursing desire while letting her know that growing up isn't scary and she's still just as loved as before.
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i read online, that even though acne medicatons work, the perfumes and stuff in them arent good for your skin. i'm trying to heal my skin, because when i was a freshman i suffered from acne, and i still have some of the dark marks from them. and i want something COMPLETLEY natural, but i still want it to be guaranteed to work for my skin, and to clear and prevent acne. right now i use st. ives apricot scrub, and the queen helene mint julep masque. what can i use to wash my face, tone it, and moisturize it, but tha'ts really naturally and actually healthy? i'd like to reduce the redness in my face, make it have a glow, and also prevent/reduce acne. :)
btw, i have sensitive skin! (link)
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Wonderful question.
I'm into the natural health and healing myself and might be able to make a few suggestions here.
You should wash your face twice a day. Once of the morning and once of the evening before bed.
It's always important to keep the face moisturized.
You should only use scrub and exfoliates (like the St. Ives you are using) once a week at the most. Preferably, you should only use it once every 2 weeks.
The mask is great to use, but not every day. It can actually cause your pores to enlarge and your skin to reduce it's natural oil secretions. Try to limit yourself to a mask once or twice a week only.
Tea tree oil is great for healing scars and reducing inflammation of the skin. This means it can help the heal scars from pimples and prevent new pimples from forming. It took me awhile to find something appropriate for the face, that wouldn't dry it out too much, but I did have some success with something called Desert Essence Thoroughly Clean Face. You can find a small bottle here:
http://www.vitacost.com/Desert-Essence-Thoroughly-Clean-Face
or, if you end up really liking it, the larger size here:
http://www.vitacost.com/Desert-Essence-Thoroughly-Clean-Face-Wash-32-fl-oz
Once you finish washing the face then it's the best time to go on and apply a moisturizer. At night it's not absolutely necessary unless you have dry skin or the weather is fairly dry out. For a moisturizer I tried all sorts of things. I couldn't find something that worked until I ran into a problem with my nipples chaffing. I bought some stuff called Lansinoh, which is medical grade lanolin. It's natural, not perfumed, and WONDERFUL.
So, if possible, pick up some of that. It says it's for breastfeeding mothers but it isn't going to hurt you to apply it to your face. Put a dab of it onto your finger and then warm it up with another finger, kind or rolling it around. Then just rub it on your face and voila! Seriously nice, radiant skin after a good wash.
Another good thing to use is a humidifier. Fill it up at night and close the door to the room you sleep in. Start the humidifier in that room and let it go all night long as you sleep. Your skin will actually absorb some of that moisture and help keep away things like puffy eyes, odd redness of the skin, and flakes. It's brilliant.
I have a natural beauty book here at home and there is a whole section devoted to "toners" and how they are absolutely, completely, 100% unnecessary to maintaining healthy, beautiful skin. Honestly, the less anything you use--the better. Your skin has to restore it's natural oils. If you use a whole lot of beauty products then it can cause the skin to freak out and do something it shouldn't be doing.
Using a little of this-and-that from nature is great but, still, you can go overboard. Like people who obsessively wash their hands. It's good but there's a limit where it becomes harmful to the skin.
So, try out the tea tree face washes. Moisturize with lanolin at least once in the morning. Use a humidifier in your closed bedroom at night. You'll really be surprised at the change. (especially if you cut down on makeup, too! ;)) I've pretty much "cured" my sensitive skin and acne with the above methods.
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So I just started this job a month ago. I've been working at the front desk and this co-worker Sean who has been passing by the desk has caught my eye. Well I told another co-worker Mason about my little crush on Sean and he hangs out with Sean outside of work. Last night they went out and I was brought up in conversation last night...and Sean said he thinks I'm cute with my glasses on and that I'm cute ingeneral. Mason hinted I was was interested and Sean told him to tell me he was single.
What should I do? He works during the weekend and I work every other weekend and sometimes on Fridays! (link)
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First, you should know how your work is in regards to dating policies. Many jobs will not allow office romances and will be forced to fire one, if not both, employees if they are found to be in a romantic relationship in work. So, pull up the work policies on company dating and check it out before doing anything more.
If there is nothing about it then you need to ask someone like your boss. You don't have to say you're pursuing a person at work but you can say you didn't see any information it and were curious about company policies regarding that.
If they state they don't mind inter office dating then you can proceed by approaching Sean with you telephone number or asking him for his. This way you two can get to know each other outside of the work environment. Personally, I'd go for the ask-him-and-give-yours so that if he misplaces your number then you can still give him a call. Otherwise, he could be the type that forgets to call interested women and you can end up having to start this entire get-to-know process in a more difficult manner. I mean, think about it, how do you approach someone with, "You never called!" right? Right.
If you ever take breaks with him, especially lunch break, then it's the perfect time to invite him to grab a quick bite to eat with you. You two can chat over lunch break and exchange phone numbers if you two so desire. It also gives you the opportunity to find out if Sean is really a jerk in disguise.
Ask him out to something neutral like lunch or dinner rather than a movie. A movie doesn't allow you to get to know the person at all. You can't chat during a movie. If he pushes for a movie, for whatever cause, then make plans to have dinner before or after. :)
Approaching him is seriously your next step. You're interested he knows it. He's open and you know it. It's time to make your move.
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I am 17 and i have been on birth control since I was 14. i stopped a few months ago and my period still came on time.I haven't had sex in 7 months so i wasn't worried when my period didn't come my doctor said I was stressed out. so I went on a little vacation to my boyfriends and we had unprotected sex. My period still hasn't come and its now a month late should I be worried? (link)
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Any time you have unprotected sex you should be worried about pregnancy.
If the period seemed on time after discontinuing the birth control pills then you can very well be pregnant right now since it suddenly went missing. Not that you couldn't get pregnant otherwise, but it'd still be counted as full one period skipped with no other reason, you know.
I, personally, would purchase a few over-the-counter home pregnancy tests and take a few right now since the period is way overdue.
If they're negative and your period doesn't come for a second month then it's time to see your doctor to see if anything is wrong. Underlying health problems affect a woman's menstrual cycles, too.
Stress can cause your period to be delayed for a month or more sometimes. Sometimes it isn't just stress though. Take some home pregnancy tests, give your body a chance to start the period (relax!) and then head back to the doctor if you miss again to make sure there is nothing amiss with your womanly parts (like ovarian cysts, for example).
Talk to your doctor about other methods of protection if you've going to engage in sexual activities--especially unplanned ones. See if they have a good method for you to try out if you aren't already pregnant.
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15/f
Well, I like this guy who's two years older than me, and I'm just really scared to say hi when he walks by in the hallway or something (half the time, he's with his friends... So yeah.) It's not that he doesn't know me. He does. Also, the thing is, I don't have him on msn, but I do have him on Facebook, and I tried to talk to him once and start a conversation, but it kind of died, because not only does he respond late, but it's those "one worded answers" kind. Overall, I don't think he has great replies, but in real life, he's cool and stuff. As much as I want to say hi and attempt to talk to him, because of one fact that keeps holding me back; that he'll think I'm annoying or something. He's definately not those jerky guys who will laugh at you, but I think it's just me that too scared to approach him. Once in the morning, I was in front of a locked door, and I see him, and he just waved, and I waved back and said hi. I honestly don't know why this is so hard for me, because I'm not like this when I'm talking to guys I like, and guys overall. So is there any way or advice on how to approach or say hi, or at least be good friends with him? Agh! I feel so stupid asking this, because I really am NOT, EVER, like this.
Many thanks to any replies! :) (link)
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Is it possible for you to share lunch with him? Work on a school assignment together? Invite yourself into his life in some way: "Hey, is it cool if I have lunch with you guys today? I don't want to be a bother but BESTFRIEND isn't here today and I don't really have anyone nice to sit with."
You can always be honest and upfront, "Hey, are you busy this weekend? Because I was thinking it'd be nice to get to know you a little more."
You don't have to run up to him and say something, "OMG! I have a huge crush on you! You are SO cute! OMG I want to date you right now!" :P
Just be cool about it. Remind yourself that the absolute worst thing he can say is, "Uh, no." Even if everyone giggles about it now, in a month's time it'll be OLD news and nobody will even remember it happened, for the most part.
The same thing happened to my friend. She finally found the words to ask for the guy's phone number and he laughed and said no. His buddies made fun of her for, literally, 2 days, and then it was just old news. They moved on. Nobody even remembered it by the end of the year and, honestly, she now doesn't even remember how it all played out.
So, he says no, and what happens? You move on. You move forward. You stand tall, and proud, and be happy that you confronted him and did this. You grow as a person and become more confident about yourself.
He may not be the typing kind of guy. He might hate texting and all of that, as a matter of fact. He may have no idea how to "chat" online, for the most part. Just ditch the idea and go for the phone or face to face.
On the phone, ask non-direct questions. Questions that require more than one word so you can expand on them and develop a conversation.
Rather than saying:
"Do you like hockey?"
you say, "What are your favorite sports?" [answer] "Oh, really? I love hockey, too. What about it do you like most?" [answer] "Awesome. Yeah. Did you see that one game on TV the other day between so-and-so and so-and-so? What did you think when so-and-so did-this?"
Instead of:
"Do you think CLASS is hard or what?"
you say, "What is the hardest class you have right now?" [answer] "Yeah, totally agree with you on that one. What do you think is hardest about it though? I've been trying to pinpoint what I think really sucks and I just can't do it." [answer] "What about when the teacher gives us this-work? I think it's really tough sometimes and I had tedious work like that."
Instead of:
"Do you like me?"
you say, "So, what are you most interested in when it comes to women? I mean, do you go for a specific personality?" or, "What would the perfect woman for you be like?"
Instead of:
"Do you want to go to PLACE to eat?"
you say, "What are your favorite places to eat out at?"
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So, I'd totally just go up and to him and, at the very least, ask for his phone number. He'll get the idea. Prompting him to call you by giving him your number might be a bad move right now because if he forgets to call then it's going to be problematic to start things up again. It's fine for girls to ask out guys so try to get closer to him in some way if you're not up to saying, "Free this weekend?"
Start conversations when you can. Ask questions that require more than one word answers and build on what he responds with. Even if it's something you don't know much about you can say, "Well, I don't know too much about that but, you know, I really do like something-that-relates-to-the-initial-question. What about you?"
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this scene is about a brother who tells his family at the dinner table about his enlisting. his sister, haley, and him are very close.
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We all look back at him. He clears his throat too, and stares at the table. He refuses to look up at anybody. “I enlisted myself in the army.”
My eyes pop open and my throat literally closes up. I can feel something constricting my throat... now my lungs completely shut. “What?” I cry. “Wait, what did you just say?”
Mason shakes his head. “You wouldn’t get it, Haley.”
I’m speechless. I can’t find words.
How the fuck could he do that?
How could he do that to me? When I need him here more than anybody?
For the first time in my life, I feel this pain in my heart that so many teenagers have felt, that so many poems and songs and movies have emphasized but I’ve never been able to understand. For the first time in my life, my heart is broken.
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What do you think should be added, specifically? Description-wise? Dialogue-wise? thanks! (link)
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It needs a few minor touches to capture the reader in the moment. It's, sort-of, a little bland even. There's not quite enough to develop the scene in a person's head. Remember, you're painting a picture for the reader.You don't get much emotion out of it at first.
What about something like:
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We all look back at him. He clears his throat, and stares at the table, almost like a zombie entranced in the idea of fresh meat presented before him. He refuses to look up at anybody as he speaks the words so softly, "I enlisted myself in the army."
My eyes pop open and my throat literally closes up. I can feel something constricting my airways and my lungs are completely shut off from the outside world.
"Wh-What?" I mumble out and begin to cry, as I feel warm tears stream down my cheeks. "Wait, what did you just say?"
Mason shakes his head, his face flushed, "You wouldn't get it, Haley."
I'm speechless. I can't find any words for a worthy response. My mind begins to take off, racing on a drag strip of jumbled thoughts.
I am shocked, and angry, thinking to myself: How the (italicized)fuck(end italics) could he do that? What does he mean I wouldn't (italicized)get(end italics) it? How could he do that to me--when I need him here more than anybody else? What does he think he's doing, tearing us apart like this?
Then, for the first time in my life, I feel this aching pain in my heart that so many teenagers have felt, that so many broken poems, sad songs, and soppy movies have emphasized, but I've never been able to fully understand. For the first time in my life, my heart is broken. It's shattered and torn at the same time. I feel crushed at the thought of him leaving me here, like this.
How could this be happening?
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Does anyone know any other anime/manga that are rather similar to Kuroshitsuji (Black Butler) or Godchild? Preferably the same time period as well, please!
(Don't suggest Google... They give me creepy results that have nothing to do with what I typed in)
Any kind of anime/manga similar to the two that I listed would be great! (link)
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I'll be honest with you in saying that I don't watch much anime. I have a favorite that I like to watch but it has nothing to do with anything like Black Butler so I had to do some searching on this one. Ironically, I found an entire list of recommended animes from other people who were reminded of Black Butler. Most have to do with the supernatural, magical powers, and demonic characters. The first one, Pandora Hearts, I list is most similar, from what I've read, to Black Butler. Here are some anime shows similar to Black Butler:
Pandora Hearts
Hellsing
Majin Tantei Nougami Neuro
Loveless
Code Geass: Hangyaku no Lelouch
Nabari no Ou
xxxHOLiC
Soul Eater
Death Note
D.Gray-man
07-Ghost
Jigoku Shoujo
Hayate the Combat Butler!
Hakushaku to Yousei
tatics
Yami no Matsuei
Ouran High School Host Club
Eikoku Koi Mongatari Emma
Uragiri wa Boku no Namae wo Shitteiru
Katekyo Hitman Reborn!
Le Chevalier D'Eon
Chrno Crusade
Vampire Knight
Rozen Maiden
Natsume Yuujinchou
Zombie-Loan
Matantei Loki Ragnarok
Kure-nai
Ghost Hunt
Gankutsuou
Umineko no Naku Koro ni
Hakuouki
Blood+
Shaman King
Tsukuyomi: Moon Phase
Hellsing Ultimate
Witch Hunter Robin
Baccano!
Hatenkou Yuugi
Rental Magica
Monochrome Factor
Kimi ga Aruji de Shitsuji da Ore de
Vampire Knight Guilty
Shounen Onmyouji
Suzumiya Haruhi no Yuuutsu
Yakitate!! Japan
Devil May Cry
Suteki Tantei Labyrinth
Take note that some of these were recommended by other Anime fans because of the time period set-up or the dark features. Heck, some recommended them because the comedy is similar. Give them a shot and see what you think.
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I haveto give a testimony for younglife soon. Im going to takl about a death in my family and how younglife has helped.culd anybody help em with an outline or just ideas ? im so so nervous. (link)
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The basic outline is just what you'd think:
1. Tell who you are. Include your name and maybe how old you are right now.
2. Explain what happened. Tell about your lost family member and how they passed on.
3. Go into detail about how #2 affected you. Explain how you felt at those moments. Were you feeling worthless? Lost? Low? Scared? Find good, descriptive words about how your emotions were during that time.
4. Back up your emotional experience by explaining further. Give an example of how you were feeling, like:
I was so scared, as a matter of fact, that for 3 days straight I just didn't leave my room. I didn't know what to think at all. My mind was racing with all of these scary thoughts like...what if that happened to me some day? ...
5. Talk about finding help with YoungLife. Talk about how you found them. What you read or learned about them, and what really made you interested in getting with them.
6. Describe how YoungLife actually helped you. Detail how your emotions are stable now compared to how they were before. Describe how you currently feel and how YoungLife helped you heal.
7. Close out by giving credit to YoungLife and thanking everyone for taking the time to listen to you and your experiences.
Write down a specific outline. Make note-cards if you have to (remember to put a little number on each card in case they get out of order some how). Rehearse your speech a few times in the mirror at home so you're more comfortable about what you're about to say and how you look saying it.
Deep breath.
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A girl get "slimed" (covered in nickelodeon green slime) wearing like super casual clothes like a t-shirt and shorts or wearing something like a cute dress and heels with makeup/hair done? I'm participating in a charity event and I have seen people online get slimed and sometimes they're like dressed up for it and it looks funnier so I was thinking if I should do that. Would you pay more to see that?
I guess it sounds weird to dress up to get slimed but I've seen other people doing it, and it sounds like it could be funny. So... should I get slimed wearing like a casual shirt/shorts or something like a dress, heels, makeup/hair done nicely, maybe a bit of jewelry?
Thanks :)
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I think dressing up would be more comical because the whole idea of getting slimed is suddenly getting messy, ruining your hair, and making you unattractive.
If a girl came out wearing a pretty pink dress, with her hair all done up, and her make-up neat and tidy and then had green slime splashed down her face, unexpectedly, it would add to that comical factor.
If you can do a short skit beforehand, say, sitting in front of a mirror and tidying your hair/make-up/over-all appearance before getting "unexpectedly" slimed it would be even greater. I don't know if you could pull that off though but you might be able to get a couple more laughs then.
Anyway, yeah, I think dressing up would be more comical for the audience in the end. I wouldn't wear ANYTHING you wouldn't want to be ruined by accident though!
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so i seem to always get these little bumps under my arm or in alot of places on my body they come like every month i got like 5 of them that i have had this is the sixth it hurts really bad and like it has like puss inside but it really hard like it looks like a pimp but its not it hurts so bad the docotor said to put warm compresses on it bt that doesnt work it makes it hurt more is there something wrong with me ? or is there something that i can do to make it better or prevent this from keep happening i really need help cause i want to know what this is and why i keep getting it i never got it before. (link)
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This sounds like a boil to me and having a boil can be a sign or symptom of a staph infection. The fact that it heals up and then reappears may mean that this is a mild to moderate case of staph. You should definitely see your doctor again about this sort of thing. Stress to him that it is very painful, warm compresses don't help, and that this problem has been reoccurring for the past few months. He may need to lance the area, drain the fluid, and put you on a series of strong antibiotics to get this sort of infection cleared up. Even if it isn't staph, you shouldn't have to deal with this problem over and over again.
Call your doctor soon to make an appointment. Stress that you want this cleared up soon, it hurts, and keeps coming back. Tell him how important it is that he looks at it for you again.
In the meantime, while you are waiting for the actual appointment, keep the area clean, dry, and untouched. Wash it well in the shower, dry it off, and then try not to touch it. If possible, put a barrier between the sore and the rest of your body by applying a clean, sterile bandage large enough to cover the area well. Change the bandage at least twice a day just for cleanliness.
Your doctor needs to get this checked out. There isn't much more you can do. You aren't doing anything over and over to the area that would cause an infection of this sort, probably, so it's something that isn't really going completely away. It's time to see a doctor again.
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Does anyone know if the job has to be on campus of whatever college or can it be off campus, for example at a retail store? (link)
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It usually has to be on campus or some place that has been accepted by the federal government as part of the work study program. Again, it usually has to be on campus.
To make sure you're following the guidelines you should talk with the work study program coordinator. My coordinator was very, very nice at getting me situated into a comfortable work environment within the campus that I actually enjoyed and grew from.
Your coordinator can probably supply you with a list of acceptable positions that may be open for your campus' workstudy program. Talk with them about wanting to learn more about the different types of duties you could have with work study.
Even if you aren't even college yet you should still get in the time to talk with the coordinator. A lot of these work-study positions fill up fast and you might end up getting stuck in the only position left (something you just don't want to do). Talk to them as soon as you can so you know what to expect, when to fill out forms, and if you can make any special requests in the beginning.
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I doubt anyone will be able to help but it's worth a shot.
Over the summer I got an M-Audio KeyRig49 Keyboard and I connect it to my computer and use a progam called Live Lite 8 M-Audio. So it plays out of the computer speakers. It worked fabulously up until now. I don't know if this has to do with it but yesterday I was planning on playing it but never got to it so it was on but not being played for about four hours... So today I want to practice I got all my **** together, turn the volume loud, turn everything on, and connect everything. Test it by hitting a key and NOTHING! No sound or anything. I've been at this for a good hour plugging things in, restarting ****, and nothing is working. Why would it do this? And help me please! (link)
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Hi there!
To be upfront: I have absolutely no idea how to solve this myself. I've never even had a finger on a real keyboard. Yeah.
So, I took this upon myself to search up. I figured if you're having some problems then maybe someone else is, too.
I found some.
Unfortunately, not many people share how they provided success in solving this and many questions have never been answered to supply any sort of resolution.
Now, a lot of electronics like this come with a basic 1 year warranty that is in the pamphlet that came with the boxed keyboard. If at all possible, it would be a great idea for you to hunt that down and see if you might still be under warranty. If you are, then a simple call to a 1-800 toll free line might get you some quick answers or some repair service if any needs to be done.
Otherwise, I have found a few threads on other sites that might, just maybe, help you figure out this problem without much hassle:
http://www.talkbass.com/forum/showthread.php?t=652780
http://acapella.harmony-central.com/archive/index.php/t-2211340.html
http://forums.m-audio.com/showthread.php?22019-No-Sound-from-Key-Rig-49
http://forums.m-audio.com/showthread.php?10634-M-Audio-KeyRig-49-Problem
http://forums.m-audio.com/showthread.php?5701-Problem-keyrig-49-please-help
Many say something about having an ASIO driver, resetting to defaults, or it just magically starting to pick up again.
I hope I was able to supply you with some decent links, at least, but I felt bad since nobody else gave any effort in getting you some good advice. Sorry I couldn't be more help but I simply don't have experience with these sorts of things.
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