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My boyfriend's brother's funeral was today and after it was all over with he wanted to go to Astroworld (an amusment park). I thought it was totally unappropriate because I thought he should have been with his family. But, I went anyways, for him. His brother had committed suicide and my bf never had any room in his life for suicide. Still though, it was his brother, ya know? Do you guys think that it was weird that he wanted to go there after his brother's funeral?
No I don't think it's weird. I think it's his way of coping with the situation. Just trying to forget about it and move on and have some fun and live life. He's probably feeling depressed but just doesn't want to show it. If he continues to want to go places, just go with him and have a good time. That's probably what he's looking for at the moment most. I hope I helped and I'm sorry about your boyfriend's brother =/
Love,
MELii
MELI MARIE,
i kno dump him but im scared cuz i have to say it to his face or else everyone in my school will call me a pussy or something? I dont kno. Help?
Sincerely, Scared.
why would they call you a pussy? you don't HAVE to say it to his face. You can always say it over the phone or give him a note or something. But seriously, I doubt people will call you a pussy or something because people break up with people all the time, and do they get called something? Well I don't know about your school, but at mine, no. So .. just do it, everything will be fine. It'd be better if you did it cause you shouldn't stay with someone if you don't want to. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Monday in school we are aloud to only dress up as a super hero and a super hero only. Okay? Well I decided that I wanted to be Catwomen... The only problem is that I'm not sure if its a Superhero? Could someone tell me if Catwomen is good or bad/super hero or villian? Also if you have any ideas on the coustume please let me know..(I was thinking black and cat face and ears and a ail and) Well.. Thanks In Advance..
-Meg-
Your ideas for your costume sound fine. But yeah, Catwoman is supposed to be a villian, but she really doesn't do anything. So yeah I guess she's considered a villian.
For a class in school, I have to do a debate against someone in front of the whole class. My topic is lowering the drinking age. I am AGAINST it..(con) I need to be able to talk for 2-5 minutes with GOOD facts, statistics, etc..about why I think that the drinking age should NOT be lowered. Then we are going to argue it out til one of us wins! I am doing this debate against my b/f! He is going to argue that it should be lowered. So I need some good facts that are reasons to be AGAINST lowering it! I am also afraid that I am not going to know what to say b/c I will get nervous and embarrassed! please help me out. If you need any more information please let me know!! I need help!!!!!!!! Any information you can give me will be great! (advice on how to not feel stupid/get embarrassed OR any facts about my topic..) thanx!
well for facts just state that you feel the drinking age should be lowered because then that'd make an increase in death rates. People are already talking about the death rate of drunk drivers is so high now, and by lowering it, they'll be increasing the death rate. Also they could die of alcohol overdose and such. and by lowering it, you're going to give kids and earlier liking to it, and who knows how they'll handle it. They might become alcoholics or something or since they're so young, they're behavior may be violent. for some more facts, just try googling it. ( im sorry I would for you, but I don't have the time I'm trying to hurry this ).
for the nervous thing, it's alright to be nervous. I mean, everyone is. I always think of that whenever I'm giving the report. I'm just like," they aren't going to laugh. They know how i'm feeling they know i'm nervous, cause they were too" and it makes me feel a little better. Just before you go up just take some calm breaths and like i said, everyones nervous and embarassed.
I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
ive been going out with a guy for two weeks and now i want to dump him because i just dont like him anymore and liked the way it was before but this whole week we have been fighting because i cant seem to act normal around him and i dont kno how to dump him because he gets this look in his eyes and i just cant what should i do to break up with him?i rate high!
just be honest with him. just tell him you don't feel the spark that you used to feel and you apologize for all the fighting that you just didn't know how to act around him. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
OMG!!!!! I AM SOO ANGRY RIGHT NOW ok sorry well i like this guy lets call him chris and he likes my best friend lets call her ash. well chris talks about ash to me all the time and i kinda ignore it and he was going to ask ash out and ash was like oo no i would never do that to you. and that was cool and all and i can tell she likes him but w.e. so theres the winter dance coming up and i asked chris if he was gonna ask ash and he said probally not and i told ash he wasnt going to ask her and she said good i wouldnt go with him any way cause you like him...totally cool so far right? well tonite he asked her to the winter dance and she said probally but i dont know yet but its probally a yes. and she hasnt told me or anything it makes me so upset not the fact that chris is going with my best friend but that she said she would never do that to me and she is. it really hurts my feelings im crying so much...i dont know wat to do...sorry if this isnt really like a questions it just upset me soo much and sorry it was soo long
sorry =/ but you can't get yourself worked up over some guy. I mean would you want to ruin the relationship you have with your bestest friend for some guy? Theres the saying "there's plenty of fish in the sea". But I would try talking to her about it. Just ask her why she would do that to you after she told you she wouldn't? Just try and talk it out with her. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
My boyfriend tried to push me down stairs.. NOW what should i do?
...dump him.
One of my friends think that i have been practicing witchcraft and black magic. She thinks i have become a witch and she keeps scolding me. I told her im not a witch and she keeps lecturing me; What should i do?
Maybe take her over your house and show her around and show that you have nothing around your house that involves witchcraft. Ask her why she thinks your practicing witchcraft. I'm curious myself. So yeah, just talk about it with her and explain to her that everythings normal. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
ok ive been going out with this guy for 3 weeks and like i didnt rly like him at first i used to but then he kept goin out w other girls and so i stopped liking him but then out of no where he asked me out n i syd yes n now i really really like him and i love to be around him and like he tells his best friends he rly likes me but then some of his friends say hes thinking about breaking up w me and like i had a dream that he did and it was horrible. and i just dont want it to come true. wat can i do to make it not come true???
thnks
(oh and im not real clingy or annoying or nehtign liek that so were cool wiht the whole eahcothers space thing)
don't listen to his friends. they might be lying. besides if he was thinking about breaking up with you, don't you think he would have already? Just talk to him about it. Just be like," well _____ told me that you were thinking about breaking up with me, is this true?" or something like that. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
is it normal to not like it when other girls are around the guy you like???
of course its normal. Who wouldn't get mad whenever theres all these girls sitting around or flirting with the guy you like?
well i was just wondering what do you do when you really have no one to turn to? when you grandmother don't care, your father is never their, you mom dosen't seem to understand and you sister just critizes you and you don't really have anyone to turn to? i just need some advice please help..
you turn to your friends. They'll always be there for you and there there for you whenever you need help or comfort. That's who I turn to whenever I need help or anything.
Love,
MELii
ok i have this guy friend from another town and i kinda like him. he has a screen name but he is barely on, im a cheerleader and hes a football player and i use to see him every sunday at our games but now our season is over, and he lives in the town next to mine so next year when we go to highschool we are gonna be going to the same school. and i dont talk to him all that much so i would feel akward calling him. so my question is, what should i do for the time between now and highschool? the next time i am going to see him will either be this friday if he is at the highschool football game and if he's not there then i will see him in december at our banquet for popwarner. so this might be a hard question for you to answer cause there is barely anything left to do .. so its ok if you can't think of anything lol .. thanks in advance ♥
Well the next time you see him just talk to him. Just try talking to him maybe about an old football ( since you both have something to do with sports ) and then slowly work into talking about other things like pets, family, music.. all sorts of things. I hope I helped some.
Love,
MELii
o0k ...f/14
ii have 2 best friends that ii do everthing with! they are alsome and everything .. but one of my friends is the biggest copyer ever ... she follows my other friend around and copys after her and alwas agrees with her and eats wat she eats dresses the same way and just copys her on the littleest things .. me and this gril alwas talk about it and it is really starting to bother the both of us .. please help we dont know what to do .. it is driving us crazy ... should we tell her ?? or not we dont want to be mean but she is really anoying us !!!! [[ALOT]]thankx and please help as fast as you can
love *ME*
I used to have a friend like that. What I did is whenever we'd go shopping, I'd point things out that'd look good on her and stuff and just try to get her to get her own taste. And just try and push her to her own thing. Maybe after awhile she'll get the message. She just must take your friend as a role model and that's good and all, but sometimes people can take it overboard. Just have your friend explain to her maybe that they're too much alike, and that she should try to find her own things. Suggest her for a club or something. Make her meet new people, and maybe realize she wants to be her own person. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
ohkay so theres this guy and he really, really, like REALLY likes me and today he asked me out in person and i paniced because he told me he was really nervous before he asked me and i said yes but the problem is i dont like him like that..and i dont want to break his heart by breaking up with him..but i dont like him. i want to break up with him but i dont want to get a reputation for breaking up with guys after 3 days cause my last boyfriend i had was a stalker and i dumped him after three days & i really dont like my boyfriend only as a friend and i dont know what to do! please help me!!!!!!!!!
Well all I can say is.. you got to be honest with him. Just be like," I'm sorry but.. I don't like you like that. I mean I like you like a friend, just not as a boyfriend. IT's just whenever you asked me I got nervous and didn't know what to say. I hope your not angry with me and I'd really really like for us to still be friends." or something similiar to that. And I don't think you'll get a reputation for dumping guys three days after. I mean, you have to do it repeativley for it to catch on to people. I mean, just spread around the school your situation ( that you just wanted to be friends and you were nervous ) then people will understand you were just nervous and won't think you do that to every guy. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
please answer my question asap! thanks :]
ok today, i started cutting. im getting really stressed out. i've cut 4 times today. my parents are yelling at me for literally ever single thing i do, i have no freedom, im getting an overload of homework at school, my math grade is dropping, the boy im madly in love with is always telling me he loves me online, but never talks to me in school. i have a boyfriend but i dont like him at all. ppl told me that he really really REALLY LOVES me and when he asked me out in person i paniced and freaked and said yes. and i dont want to break his heart by breaking up with him but i dont like him at all. also my best friend is really really popular and she doesnt talk to me anymore (im semi-popular, my boyfriend is popular, im a cheerleader, everyone says im pretty, but i have so many problems) there is so much drama at my school to, its like everywhere i got i cant get away from drama. i hate it and to "resolve" i started cutting. i promised myself id never do it and i know its bad, but i couldnt help it..i just started. no one knows about all the stuff i go through and i cant tell my parents cause they're gonna start yelling at me even more.. i dont know what to do! i feel so alone and lost..like no one else has problems like i do. i hate it. please help me
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Parents- my parents are the same way. My mother every single thing I do I get yelled at or told it's not good enough. It sucks, I know. But I just talk to my friends and try to forget about them or take it out on a pillow or a wall or something other than yourself =/ Talk to your friends. They'll always be there.
Boy- I would suggest breaking up with your boyfriend. I mean even though he really loves you, you don't feel the same. And it wouldn't be fair for you and for him. Just tell him that you don't feel that spark anymore and you'd be better off just being friends. =/ and with the boy always telling you he loves you, i'd talk to him online and ask him whats up. Just be like," You never talk to me at school or anything.. whats up?" see whats going on with that. Maybe whenever he says " love you " he means as a friend. I don't know.
Friends- Yes, I hate drama too. Our schools flooded with it. What schools not? You have to just push it out of the way. This year I just thought to myself " ugh who cares anymore? Im going to be mature and not give a crap and ignore it all " and i've been so much happier. YOu just got to realize people are going to talk and are going to say things. You just have to realize whose your friend and whose not and to stop being friends with those people who aren't cause they'll be of no good. Talk to your best friend. Ask her whats the matter. Tell her you feel like you guys aren't friends anymore and that bothers you.
And also.. people DO have problems like you do. Example, me. My parents always yell at me for everything, can't talk to them without arguing ( me and my mother argue every single day, no lie. ) and theres all the drama and everything.. I just never resolved to cutting. I count on my friends to be there for me, and also my pillow at home for the occasional whacking. You just got to learn other ways to get it all out, instead of on yourself. Just try talking to your friends, they're there for you, or I might suggest the school counseler. Sometimes I just ignore the situation/problem and think of something else that makes me happy ( like when I'm getting yelled at ) and whenever they're done, I feel fine and I just go and watch TV or somehing. I just don't let it bother me anymore. If you need to talk more, IM me at MELii x MARiiE. Im usually always on. I hope you get better and I hope everything works out for you. =]
love,
MELii
Thizs is aa lonqq story, but i`m gonna shorten it up. I`ve been with my boo for over 4 1/2 months and i've loved him for over lyke .. 8 monthzs like after we met. We met at a trackmeet - his leg got hurt so he wasnt runnin and i dont run so we was both walkin around and i asked his friend about him, like what was his name. And they told me this reallyyy funny name so i was pickin on him until we both got serious and started talking. Gave eachother our numbers den I went home, he went home. We leave a 1 hr 1/2 away from eachother. Well, anyways he didnt ask me my aqe =/ until we qot home and started talkin on da phone. I asked him his aqe and he's .. 16 qoin on 17 and I got nervous and told him i was .. 14 qoin on 15! So we started talkinqq but da catch is .. i'm 13. Yezs, I know.
I`m truley in love with him, I'd die without him! Just aa cpl weeks aqo we broke up and i really had a hard time so we are back toqether and I`ve fallen even harder. Should I tell him my real aqe or keep it aa secret forever? If i tell him my real aqe, he'll break up with me. If i confess i might just die because, without him dats all theres left to do.
Pleazse help!
I would just tell him your real age, I mean he might find out sooner or later, which will make him even madder because you kept it from him for so long. And besides, if you truly love eachother, it shouldn't matter right? It'd be better to have an honest relationship than a lying one and besides it'll get to you after awhile, and that just won't be good =/ So just be honest with him. Maybe he won't care. And if he does decide to you know maybe break up ( i hope he doesn't! =/ ) then ask him if you two can just be friends, I mean, it'd be better to be as close to him as possible then not be there at all, right? I hope I helped and I hope everything works out.
Love,
MELii
So i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.. i once broke up with him for two months and he cried.. ALOT.. then we got back together and now all he does is go out with his friends tell my i'm stupid, call me names, and forget about me. He tells me all the time how he doesn't care about me and that really hurts my feelings.. what should i do?
Wtf? Dump him! He sounds like a total asshole to me. Actually no, he IS a total asshole. You shouldn't treat people like that, I mean, especially your girlfriend. He sounds like he doesn't care about you at all, and so you shouldn't care about him. So, just dump him =/ I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
I've been with this guy for about 9 monthes now. we are not officially together because that is the way i want it. BUT we are exclusive and aren't supposed to be with other people.
I cheated on him friday night. This isn't the first time i did it, but i told him about the other times. After the last one, he told me if i cheated again then we'd be done.
Do you think i should tell him what i did? I really do like him a lot. I'm seeing him today and need advice asap.
thanks
I'm sorry I'm not trying to be really rude here or anything but.. if you really like him alot, then you wouldn't have cheated on him numerous times. Whenever you cheat on people, it kinda shows that you are not ready for a relationship because you might still want to be single. So I'd suggest telling him because he deserves to know, and also.. people find out. They always do. So just tell him.
Love,
MELii
ok yall i need some help.ok the thing is that i like this guy but he is in the 6th grade and im in the 8th.he is as tall as me not imature so--- sweet cute and possibly likes me to.i think he does cause he always flirts with me but no one else.i dont no if i should or not. i think he is 12 or 11 and im 13.which isnt that bad .but the thing is if we do become bf and gf i dont want ppl thinkin i was just desprate or any thing like that.cause im not i just dont have alot of self confidence with askin guys.so idk wat i should do.plz help i rate high.
I think you should totally go out with him. I mean it's great that you've found someone you like that likes you and you two are compatible and such. I mean you shouldn't NOT take the chance. You could be missing out on one of the greatest things in your life, and all because your worried about what people think? People at my school do it sometimes, and nobody cares at all. To me it doesn't come of as being desperate. It comes off to me as," they really like eachother he just so happens to be a year or two younger" because I mean, it's only one or two years. So totally go and ask him out =) I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Well I like my bff (im m/14 my bestfriend is also m/14) and well he's unfourtunealtley strait, well i want to be able to go out with him. But i odn't want ppl knowing i'm Bi, anyways I found a way to get him to like me... well my friend used to do wicca stuff(spells) and she's finding me a love spell. I've seen stuff like this work before(she's done it) so i want to do it on him but i don't know if i should because I don't want to force him into this but i want to have him love me... what should i do should i use it or not?
I rate high...unlesss youre ignorant
Well even if the spell COULD work, I wouldn't use it. You can't make someone love you. It wouldn't be right. You should have them love you for real. And like you said, you don't want to force him into it. And if he's straight, then he's straight. I'd suggest try looking for someone else or something and just continue being his best friend. =/ I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii