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Hey im 15/f i just got braces a little over a month ago.. and before i got braces i was really outgoing and was always wanted to be the center of attention. But now that i have braces i've noticed that i dont want to be that anymore because of my braces.. i guess im self consious.. Is there anything i can tell myself or do to make me become less self consious and be myself again? Any advice would help! thanks (link)
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First of all you can tell yourself--HELLO, everyone has braces now-a-days. It's nothing out of the norm. At youyr age, it's so common. Don't let your braces keep you from being YOU. Have fun. Live you life. Be the life of the party. And just think, after you gert them off, you'll have an awesome smile! As long as you have self confidence and believe and yourself, others will see it too. That is the key. Don't let a few measly bracets and wires keep you from your potential. :)
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ok this is weird lol and i didnt want to ask EVERYONE and you seemed like a nice person to ask :) .. ok so like when im on my period, i wear the pads with wings, you know.. and in P.E. we share dressing rooms and my kinda friend (who i share with) saw the wings i guess because she looked really quit then looked away. i've NEVER seen anyone have wings, are wings just for home or little kids or something? why doesn't anyone wear those? and im 14/f.. should i be wearing tampons instead of pads? (link)
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Well your question is nothing to be embarassed about it. It's a good questioned. There's nothing wrong with using the wings. It actually helps keep your pad in place better, especially when you are doing more physical things, like P.E class. Your friend probably just looked at you that way because maybe she had never seen it before or didn't know you were on your period (maybe she's never hasd hers yet) Who knows? We're all girls so it's no biggie. As far at the tampon thing--that's your call. If you want to wear those, that's fine. You shouldn't use a tampon if you have not at least had your period 2 times. But after that you'd be fine. I would suggest using a slim fit or regular absorbancy first just to get use to it. If you have a heavy flow I would wear pad or pantiliner in addition for extra protection. But if you want, you can totally keep to the pads. :)
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I have little red bumps going across my chest. What are they??? (link)
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Well, what you described could be anything from a small rash, ants bites, or chest acne. Any are possible, and common. If it's ant bites it'll clear up on it's own, but you can put some over the counter cream on it to soothe the itching (if there is any). If it's a rash you probably want to see a dermatologist. Same with the ance. There are tons and tons of percription creams to treat it. It's hard to say which is best for your case, so seeing a doctor (if it doesn't clear up shortly) would be in your best interest. :)
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ok so all i want to know is do you HAVE to be 18 to drop out? I dont want anyone sayin that im making a mistake because i've heard it all before and i dont care its my life and i will live it how i want and if i am making a mistake thats fine i will have to live with it so dont tell me what a huge mistake i am making. (link)
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Well, the drop out age varies from state to state. Most states are 18. I think if I remember correctly I think the drop out age was extended from 16 to 18. If it hasn't completely, then it might be still at 16 or 17 with parent consent. Either way, you're right; ultimately the choice to do what you want is only yours. Just remember you can't go back to highschool if you won't complete it by age 21. But if you go ahead and do decided to drop out, you may want to think about getting a GED instead. That way you could still go back to high school if you want, or most colleges will even accept you. Same for military services. Best of luck. :)
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I live in Mississippi, and I want to go to college in Texas and play softball. So I was wondering, do they have try-outs for those they didn't recruit? Like if they didn't know I played softball and I wanted to try out, could I do it? Or would it be best for me to go to a community college around the college I want to go to and hopefully be recruited then?? (link)
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Yay for Texas! You def can go for try-outs even if you are not recruited. Also, a lot of colleges will take you as a walk-on at the very begining of the school year. So that is another option. Try looking up the school you are interested in (the althetics page) it will give all that kind of info--or email contacts. If you don't like those option you could try the whole community college thing, because sometimes being recruited has a few more perks. Either way, good luck. :)
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why do some girls have 1 breats bigger than the other? this is supposed to be a secret from one of my closetes friend but she wants to know ,Y? I think it b/c she was born like that but she wants to see what you think?
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Almost every female has two different sizes in breasts. Now when I say that--I mean a slight one. Not a complete cup size. A lot of times the breast that is smaller is the side that you are most dominant on. (Ie: the side you use to write with) This is because, you use those muscles more so the muscles are tighter so it lays higher thus making the breast appear to be smaller. It's not a big deal at all. Tell your friend that she is completely normal. But like I said it should really be a WHOLE cup size different. But she's fine. No worries. :)
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whats up with myspace lately, is there really another power outage today? (link)
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Yes there was. "Tom" has said that there will be some site problems but they are working to correct things as soon as possible. Just be patient. :)
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Ok my parents are divorced. Im 15 yrs old and I have been able to choose where I want to live since I was like 12. Well I have always lived with my mom and seen my dad on the weekends. Well since I have gotten older things changed I go to my dads when I wanna and I have moved to my grandma's. well with it being summer I go and stay at my dad's house to see him and my step family. Well the last yr or more they have been bugging me to move in. I dont have a good reason not to other then my mom saying I cant.She tells me I cant move out she hasent even came to terms I live with my grandma. she has told me over and over I can never move in with my dad. My question is how do I move in there with out things changing between me and my mom? (link)
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Well, this is often a common problem with childrn of divorce. No matter what you choose, someone is going to get offended and not be completely happen. It is a bad situation to be in, so you have to just do what's best for you. I think you really need to sit down and think about where you will benefit the most by living there. After you decided, I thin you should have a calm, mature talk with (your mom if that's who you aren't choosing to live with) and explain to her why you have made the choice that you did. Make sure to express that you aren't trying to hurt or betray anyone--or go against her. Just tell her (or your dad if it's him, or even your grandma) that you just want a change and have really thought about this. Then make sure to visit whoever your not living with as often as possible, and call to check on them. I know it will be tough, but you can do it, and eventually, they'll understand--or at least accept it. :)
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i completely loved algebra 1 and geometry (not calculas though). i heard that accounting is just all math..so would i be good at it if i was good at algebra? (link)
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Well I loved Algebra 1 also. But not Geometry. Account isn't anything like the other two really. It's more lile basic math (adding, subtracting) and filling out tons and tons of papers just like an accountant would. It thoghth to be more of a career oriented class--so keep that in mind. It's not hard. It's all about balancing everything and just understanding where the numbers are going. In Algebra, unlike Geometry it is very cut and dry like this is either the answer or not, so is Accounting. So, if that sounds at all interesting to you--then you'll like it. I am sure you'll do well in it if you choose to take it! :)
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i dont have many friends. i have one best friend and then my other best friend is my cousin. usually i just sit at home on the computer at night and i feel so geeky and like a loser because everyone is out partying and stuff i mean thats what your suppose to do when your 16 right?! so why arent i. my brother has a girlfriend (hes 18) and he always has people come over to our house to hang out and they probably always see me here and think wow she is a loser. i wish i could invite people over but there is nothing to do! i just dont know my brother only plays poker with them and stuff. plus i dont have like any guy friends! and my best friend has a ton and sometimes she wants me to hangout with them with her but then im always scared and make up an excuse because im shy and then i think it will be awkward. when i do go with her though its boring and i get mad because she always flirts with the guys even when she has a boyfriend and i feel left out and out of place. i just dont know what to do the summer if half way over and i want to live it up!! =) im leaving to go on vacation though next tuesday so then after that i want to have fun or even this weekend! im never invited to parties either is my friends really so thats not an option and its not an option to throw a party either. i use to be so busy when i was in 9th grade and now im a home-body! =( i never do anything anymore i just want to get out! even my parents are like go downstairs or something go out youve been in the house all day! i would but i never have anything to do. what do you guys think i could do to help this situation? ..i dont want to join a club or sport either its just not me! i just wish i had more close friend that i could go out with and have fun! i have other friends but they are always soo busy...
people say im so pretty but ive never had a boyfriend and im really not good with guys..i have no confidence around people i dont know!
well thanks. (link)
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I'm sure a ton of people can relate to this. We all go through stages where we don't hang out much and stay cooped up! It's okay sometimes. I think the first thing you need to do is really get comfortable with yourself. Have confidence. When you have it and believe it, others will too. As far as getting to be not as shy around boys and people you don't know that well..force yourself! Try talking to some of them on IM first. (Since you are on the computer a good bit of the time). Also, go to Facebook and see if your highschool is registered and become a member. You can keep in touch with ALL people from your high school--grads and current students. Talk to them on here and see what's up. It's really casual so you can easily say "Hey we should hang out before summer is over!" Next time your friend includes you to go out with a group of friends--GO. And don't wine. Force yourself to get comfortable. Don't be fake, be yourself though. Ask questions. Get to know people. Tell a story--or a joke. And there are tons of things you can go do (other than party): bowl, movies, out to eat, play pool, shop, swim, etc. Just be outgoing and OPEN. You're going to be just fine. :)
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i want to cook a nice meal for my family so if you have any ideas on what i can cook that would be great i don't have to have the recipes i can look them up i just want to like cook a 3 course meal with and appetizer main course and dessert.
any advice would be great!!!!! (link)
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Wow there are tons and tons of things you could make. First you kind of need to decided a "theme ingridient" that way you can tie everything together well. For example, If you are going to make chicken you could: Have a fruit salad to start off with consisiting of you favorite fruits and maybe with a sweetened yogurt or sourcream based dipping dressing. (Add sugar to it). Then you could cook chicken breasts or strips with a honey/citrus barbeque marinade or something like that for flavor. For dessert..anything. Since it's so hot out, try something with ice cream..and maybe a fruit compote or something. To get some quick, easy recipes log on to FoodNetwork.com and click on the show 30 Minute Meals by Raechel Ray. All her ideas are quick, cheap, and very feasible. :)
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hey, well im 13/f and i recently just got a gift from my aunt. she bought me clothes from LIMITED TOO! EWW! well im not just going to ask her for the receipt so that i can get money back. so will the store let me return the items and get money back? also i just bought shorts from pacsun and decided that i dont like them anymore. i lost teh recipet. will i get money back? cait♥ (link)
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You could try taking them in and telling them it was a gift so you don't have a reciept. THE TAGS WOULD HAVE TO STILL BE ON. They probably won't give you cash back, but maybe a store credit? Same thing goes for the Pac Sun stuff (if tags are attached). If that doesn't work, sell the clothes on Ebay or take it to a Resale Shop. :)
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I'm 13 years old and I really want to have a BF. However, I know that most BF/GF relationships usually begin by being friends 1st. How can I become friends with boys? (link)
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Well you are the perfect age to do that. Junior high is all about meeting some new people, and starting to discover what you like, and who you like. You shouldn't be in any rush to date yet though. I mean...you can't drive at this age so basically your dates would consist of your parents picking you up and dropping you off. Since it's summer you have free roam to invite guys to hang out and stuff. Talk to them online first to get comfortable. Make comments like: We need to hang before summers over! You and some girls and some guys could go to the movies, bowling, out to eat, swim, put put. Anything. Just be yourself and have fun and the boys will come..they always do! :)
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My best friend of 9 years is trying to hook up with my ex-boyfriend, who is my best friend, WHO i had sex with. She acts like theres nothing wrong with it, but it bothers me. When i tell her, she just calls me drama and starts cussing me out. Do I have a reason to be upset? I feel awful! (link)
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Not hooking up with a SERIOUS ex of your best friends is like an unwritten code of life. You just don't do that. You have EVERY right to be angry with her and upset over the situation. After being friends with you for 9 years she should know better. The fact that she's acting like there is nothing wrong is crummy of her. I know you have already tried, but try talking to her again. Really express to her that it makes you feel uncomfortable and not just because you are a bit jealous but you feel BETRAYED by her. Also, talk to you ex/best friend. Tell him that you feel like he's violated a part of your friendship. Chances are, he's your ex for a reason ,right? Usually the best-friend-ex's thing doesn't last. She'll get burned by him. He'll talk to you all about it and get closer to you. You don't want this. You probably don't want to know anything about a relationship between them, rigt? So the best thing to do, is talk to them both and really tell them you aren't cool with it and feel disrespected. If they don't listen..well then their actions speak louder than words. You don't need stuff like that. :)
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I would like to say my family is like the families you see on TV, but i would only be lying. I have a sister who was born with something called HPminus. NOw before you go looking up on what the heck that word means ill just explain.My sister is missing half of one of her hormones making her so she cant speak,(no she can make sounds)and isn't supposed to walk but she learned.NOw the point of this question is that im very emotional to some things.I would really like to talk to someone who has a brother or a sister like mine.I'm sick of people always saying that they "understand" when they really have no clue.I'm tired of talking to people who just don't get why im so tired of the word retard and im so emotional spmetimes.All i want is someone whohas a sister or brother like mine please tell me why i am feeling this way! (link)
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Well, I wouldn't ever say I completely understand or what you're going through--because I don't but I do have condolences for you and your family. It's really disappointing the kind of world we live in. People are so fixated on images and looks and fitting in they'll do anything--or say anything to fit the mold. When people don't, they're branded as outcasts or rejects. That's so unfortunate. I am sure your sister has so much to offer people--whether she can speak or not. The way you feel, is not unnatural or uncommon. You have every right to. People can be cold and brutal. You just have to stand up for yourself and make a difference anyway that you can. As far as talking to someone that can relate, you could try finding a support group via online or in person. I am sure if you google some of it you will find something. Also, some churches and community areas offer groups. Or maybe, if your sister goes to physical therapy you can find another sibling that is in a similar situation. If you ever get the chance, read the short story "The Scarlet Ibis" I am sure it will make you cry, but it'll probably be something you can relate to. The little boy in the story has cerebal palsy (CP). Anyways, be the difference, by living your life for you and your family. Don't worry about coming down to the level of people that expect you to adapt for them. :)
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My friend is mad at me. We are both thirteen. And we are both girls. She has been calling me names. I keep telling her that she's acting like a five-year-old. And every time I email her she keeps saying I'm acting dumb and weird... and up until now she's stopped talking to me. What should I do? (link)
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It's common for girls to get in fights with each other. Pretty much every relationship you ever have with someone, you'll have a few fights here and there. The name calling is really childish. And even though you aren't calling her names, telling her she is actuling like a five year old is pretty much the same thing. I think (hard as it may be) just try to be the bigger person and write her like a final email or call--so to speak. Just tell her that you don't want to fight anymore, you value y'alls friendship, and you want to put this past you. She may not respond right away. Or if she does it could be just with something kind of rude or immature. That's okay. Wait it out. Give him time to come around. She will most likely. In your email or at the end of the call, just tell her that you understand if she's mad at you, but when she's ready to come around, you'll be there. :)
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Hi,
I'm with my boyfriend for close to 4 years now. We met when I was 15 years old and been dating more on and then off. We've had our fair share of problems; my parents didn't approove of him before 1 year ago (he was into drugs, blablabla.). Anywho, we've been on now for more than a year but have serious issues.
When he broke up with me at first, we both went with someone else. Thing is, when he asked me if I'd been with anyone else, I told him the truth. When I asked him tho, he denied it until 2 years AFTER, when I found out by someone else. That really hurt me and affected my trust issues with him.
Now, he's turn into this big possessive guy. Meaning, I can't even talk to guys when he's around or else he freaks out. He says I flirt with eveyrbody but I've always been social even when I was without him. I feel like I'm ignoring a ton of people whenever he's around because I don't want to get him mad. If I talk to a guy ( A FRIEND ), he gives me these dirty looks that make me feel very unconfortable. Once, I was talking to a 30year old man, we were kidding around and my boyfriend got really mad so I stopped talking to that man for the whole weekend. My boyfriend, although, receives phonecalls from one of his 'female friends' almost twice a week but I can't say anything about that. She's only his friend (I'm sure, too) but it bothers me also. Whatever he does, it's always less important than what I do. I talk to a guy and it's the end of the world but when he talks to a girl, I can't say anything or else we get into an argument.
We argue almost every week but I really love him - he's my first real love. He doesn't like when I go out with the girls into bars or that I dance at a club because he says I want some attention and I shouldn't want some since I'm with him. When I dance or go out, it's certainly not to cheat on him or to flirt and I need to reassure him every time. I can't chat on MSN because he get's paranoid that I might be two-timing him and that I might find someone else... (I still do it but without him knowing it.) Once, I wore a padded bra and he found out and wasn't happy about it. He just doesn't understand why I would want to wear it but I don't see anything wrong with it - I didn't even have a cleavage with that shirt. Also, he doesn't like me to wear low shirts or short shorts.. that I can understand.
He says he reacts that way about guys, clothes, whatever because he's scared of loosing me and he doesn't want me to go with anyone else. By the way he's acting... it isn't going well.
We've had some deep discussions about that and we always agree that we'd both change.... but that's what we do. We fight - we talk - we make up and then it starts over again.
I don't wanna end my relationship with him - I truly love him... but I need some advice.
I'm afraid his jealousy will tear us apart...
Tell me what I should do!!! (link)
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Wow, I am not sure you are going to like or agree with my solution/advice, but just hear me out--if you really want some help on this. First of all, I use to be in almost the EXACT type of relationship you are in now. I know 4 years is a long time and you love him--a first love is hard to part from and we tend to give them more chances because of the amazing feelings we think we may have. I think it's a good start that you are not naiive to your boyfriend's ways. With that said, aside from the arguing (which could basically be nothing more than running in circles with him) I don't really think you are being proactive to the relationship. I mean, yes you can tell him what hurts you and how you feel--and that's important. Communication is key. But, if you don't reprimand or sometimes give only a few options, nothing will change. It is hard for people to change--especially for others, unless THEY want to for THEMSELVES. With such a long relationship at this age it's SO easy to get in that vicious cycle of back and forth on again, off again. I know it's tough, but sometimes you have to learn to have a backbone (with him). You have to ask yourself, if you had a daughter, would you want/allow her to date a guy that treated her like that? I doubt it. Same goes for if you had a son--would you want/allow him to treat a girlfriend that way? NO. Another thing to consider, about the parent's opinion on him. Whether you like it or want to admit it--they're usually always right. It's kind of like that been there, done that. I know it probably seems like I am rambling on, but I truly believe you need to hear all of this in order to really grasp things. Deception can't be in a lasting relationship. He needs to resepct you and tell you the truth. If he's this possesive and controlling NOW what do you think he'll be like when y'all have been together even longer. He continues NOT to change, because you aren't putting your foot down the right way--so he's going to repeat because he knows he can take advantage of your "love" for him and get away with anything. That's not right. At all. Stand up for yourself. Love is suppose to lift you up, not drag you down. Stop making excuses for why the way things are. Make changes. Don't wait for them to happen. I think it would be in your best interest (since civilized talking doesn't work) to give him only ONE option at this time. Tell him you are leaving him--at least until he can make a complete change for the better. Express to him EVERY little thing that bothers you and hurts you and that you want to be different. Make it very clear. Once you have done that, distance yourself. No phone calls. No hanging out/hooking up. No IMS. No emails. Chances are, he'll try to get ahold of you. Stand your ground. You are stronger than you think. If you allow a sufficient time to really hae him come around and understand the effects of what he has done to you, then you can CONSIDER reconciling with him. You may feel differently after all this. In the mean time--live your life for you. Don't be hung up on this. Go out with the girls. Dance. Smile. Laugh. Be you. Be liberated from something you should NEVER be controlled by. If there is anything else you want to know/hear, don't hesitate to ask. :)
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I hate my eyebrows but im scared to shave them [w/ an eyebrow thingy] how can i make them look better without screwin them up using that thing?! (link)
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Don't shave them! If you don't have that much hair, pluck them yourself. Don't pluck too much! Or, go to a salon and get them waved or threaded. :)
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so theres this one guy that i really do like..and hes really liked me for a long time...hes totally different then any of my last boyfriends..hes a good guy,hes shy around girls (not me anymore), always makes smart choices,and my last boyfriends have been really out going, "ladies man" crazy, not always the smartest choices..but thats besides the point im so confused on what to do..i mean i know if i went out with him he would treat me right..and a lot better than my exs..but see i went out with him once and i broke up with him two days later...it was for a crappy reason..hes a little bit shorter than me and that bothers the heck out of me..im usually a confident girl but b/c hes shorter than me i feel like i want to run...and it makes my confidence level go way down! and it doesnt help that everyone one would always make comments about us being together...b/c i was his first g/f and hes like me for soooo long and were totally opposite! and i always just saw him as a friend...i feel soo shallow...i mean the whole first girlfriend thing really doesnt bother me its the height thing!! it bothers me soo much! but i keep thinking to myself im going to not take a chance with him b/c of his height...i mean i know if he was a few inches taller i would date him in a heart beat!! UGH! what should i do? (link)
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Wow, parts of what you described to me I can REALLY relate to. As far as this new being a lot better than your last boyfriend, I don't think you should pass up to oppurtunity to be with a great guy--especially because of small PREFERENCES--that's all they simply are. Sooo many times, and soooo many girls go for the real jerks because they think they can change, or they like the rush of a "bad boy". It's not until you get really burned..and I mean REALLY that something will finally click inside of you and you will see that you don't want those jerks anymore. Yes, it's hard sometimes to make the switch and it might not be as exciting, but it's very much worth it. I know that you know (especially in the back of your mind) that this is the better choices--to give this guy a chance. Love and relationships are suppose to lift you up, not bring you down. Be with someone who treats you how you would want your OWN daughter to be treated. As far as the shallow height thing goes..I don't think it's wrong of you to be picky and have preferences, but don't let that completely stop you from being with him. I recently went to a wedding where the pride was 6 foot and the groom was 5'6". Your case is only a few inches. As long as you are comfortable and secure everyone else will back down. At this age, people take..it's just something you have to look past. If you show you don't really care and that you are confident that all that matters. It's you that will be in a relationship with him, not them. So let people talk, and then they'll shut up. Ultimately, the choice of who to be with is yours only. But don't let his height be the SOLE reason--especially if he's a good guy. Good guys need a break! Also, don't mention it to him because you will hurt him. Just try taking things slow with this guy and really get to know him. Hang out a lot. I have a feeling you'll soon be able to look past the height and more at the heart. :)
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(I'm sorry if this isn't in the right category. I didn't really know what to put it in)
Ive had my period for a little more than a year now, and I got it on sunday, and have had it for about 4 days, and yesterday it stopped. But the thing is, I got it again this morning. Do you think maybe it just wasnt finished yesterday or something? I don't think it will be more than 2 days from now that it will stop, but I'm still kind of scared that something might be wrong. thanks a ton :] (link)
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That's completely common. A lot of times your flow will become so light midway through or stop and then return for a few days. Your period hasn't fully regulated yet--no for another 2 years or so. There's nothing wrong, but just wear a pantiliner or thin pad when you think it may have "stopped" and you won't have to worry. If it would make you feel better though, you can visit a gyno. :)
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