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NO FRIENDS...I FEEL STUPID! HELP!?..
i dont have many friends. i have one best friend and then my other best friend is my cousin. usually i just sit at home on the computer at night and i feel so geeky and like a loser because everyone is out partying and stuff i mean thats what your suppose to do when your 16 right?! so why arent i. my brother has a girlfriend (hes 18) and he always has people come over to our house to hang out and they probably always see me here and think wow she is a loser. i wish i could invite people over but there is nothing to do! i just dont know my brother only plays poker with them and stuff. plus i dont have like any guy friends! and my best friend has a ton and sometimes she wants me to hangout with them with her but then im always scared and make up an excuse because im shy and then i think it will be awkward. when i do go with her though its boring and i get mad because she always flirts with the guys even when she has a boyfriend and i feel left out and out of place. i just dont know what to do the summer if half way over and i want to live it up!! =) im leaving to go on vacation though next tuesday so then after that i want to have fun or even this weekend! im never invited to parties either is my friends really so thats not an option and its not an option to throw a party either. i use to be so busy when i was in 9th grade and now im a home-body! =( i never do anything anymore i just want to get out! even my parents are like go downstairs or something go out youve been in the house all day! i would but i never have anything to do. what do you guys think i could do to help this situation? ..i dont want to join a club or sport either its just not me! i just wish i had more close friend that i could go out with and have fun! i have other friends but they are always soo busy...
people say im so pretty but ive never had a boyfriend and im really not good with guys..i have no confidence around people i dont know!
well thanks.
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the only way to make a friend is to be a friend so when you go back to school or any oppurtunity to meet new people give it a go...when they are alone it is a good chance.just say hey you wanna hang out with me and tell them your name and say well its nice to meet you.
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dont worry about it chicky, at least you have your best friend. thats all you need right now. you should do something to try to be more outgoing join something new, and if you dont like people at school join something OUT of school, maybe with your cousin like a dancing class or something, and then you can have the confidence with your friend and it'll prompt you to be more talkative and you could meet some cool people there (or cute guys). try to be positive about it, and who gives a shit about what other people think? just be who you are and try not to be as shy, and maybe you'll meet some new people.
good luck sweetie.
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I'm sure a ton of people can relate to this. We all go through stages where we don't hang out much and stay cooped up! It's okay sometimes. I think the first thing you need to do is really get comfortable with yourself. Have confidence. When you have it and believe it, others will too. As far as getting to be not as shy around boys and people you don't know that well..force yourself! Try talking to some of them on IM first. (Since you are on the computer a good bit of the time). Also, go to Facebook and see if your highschool is registered and become a member. You can keep in touch with ALL people from your high school--grads and current students. Talk to them on here and see what's up. It's really casual so you can easily say "Hey we should hang out before summer is over!" Next time your friend includes you to go out with a group of friends--GO. And don't wine. Force yourself to get comfortable. Don't be fake, be yourself though. Ask questions. Get to know people. Tell a story--or a joke. And there are tons of things you can go do (other than party): bowl, movies, out to eat, play pool, shop, swim, etc. Just be outgoing and OPEN. You're going to be just fine. :)
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